It's definitely painful. Even after 4 bfn, I find it's still v devastating. Everytime i cried very hard and grief with hubby.
Then life must go on -be kind to yourself - eat well, watch a movie, spend time with hubby just do something that makes you feel good. Sometimes so depressing, no appetite but still hv to eat well coz must keep body in best condition for next cycle.
For me, i will also think of next steps, what I will keep doing or what I should I do differently. I'm going to be prep for FET in Nov but already agreed with hubby if fail too, we will go for one more fresh cycle for one last try with my own eggs. If still cannot, we may move on to DE next le.
So for next FET, I'm going to mentally prep myself for fresh cycle in Jan and try not to get my hopes high. Even considering asking embryologist to update hubby about progress of the embryos. I don't want to know and just need to know got embryos or blasties to transfer and just go for it. Still discussing this with hubby.
I think it's healthy to address your emotions. Then pick up from there, understand the facts of your situation and focus on next options. My motivation is still the fear of living with regret if I have not tried all options within my means to carry a pregnancy with my own body.
Stay positive. It's tough but perseverance is very key in this journey. A lot of wonderful ladies here give support and have inspired me. So I hope you don't give up and find the strength to ride through this and get bfp soon. Let's jia you!