Dear saggie,
Probably cos ur hubby sperm not optimum, so doc didn't suggest IUI and if you don't wish to wait longer due to age than IVF has higher success rate. For IUI, I think only 1-2k (i'm unsure, cos this is what I heard from my previous gynae 2 years ago). For IVF, is about 10k more or less depending on which hospital and if it is govt hospital or not. If govt hospital, you can use medisave (6k first try, 5k second try, 4k third try) and govt will also subsidise 3k for first, second and third tries.
For me, at NUH, the total costs came up to about 10k (and I didn't even do the embryo transfer process cos I didn't have any embryo to transfer). So after the 6k from medisave and 3k from govt, i still needed to pay 1-2k cash (also cos i had 1 more week of gonal f stimulation jabs).
As for my 2nd fresh cycle at KKIVF, though only 5k from medisave, and also 3k from govt, i didn't pay any extra cash despite going through the whole process inclusive of embryo transfer.
At both hospitals, I was under private patient and at both hospitals, my doctors are head of the department. So if u want cheaper, definitely KK.
Don't be too sad about not being able to conceive naturally. IUI or IVF is assisted reproduction using ours and hubby's eggs and sperms respectively. So the baby is still our genes, is still ours.
Dear psp,
I understand the pains. I was suggested by NUH to do surrogacy or adoption and I was seriously contemplating. But since there is govt subsidy for 3 tries, I decided to go for 2nd and 3rd try first, if fail try private too. If really still fail then consider surrogacy. End up I strike on my 2nd fresh when i switched from NUH to KK, am 8 weeks plus now.
I feel insecure still as I have adenomyosis and i miscarried 3 years ago. Am married 6 years with no contraceptives used. The heartaches are unbearable but I believe one day, we will all succeed, it is just a matter of time, patience, luck and belief.
You are not useless, think of it as the right time is not here yet. Share your joys and woes, fears and doubts here. We will support one another
Jiayou!!!