Bluenapkin
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... and my wife is expecting her third child. first 2 from her previous marriage.
suffice to say - she's more experience than me in pregnancy and infant care while I kept having the feeling of not being able to catch up with her on the preparation. Now in her 3rd trimester, with the hormones acting up, we have dispute and cold war almost every other week. Very disturbing.
I honestly do not want us to be in this state... deep down within me, I want her to enjoy the pregnancy and prepare herself to be a proud mum of our baby. I am not afraid of hardship, I am not complaining if she asked me to go out and search for a chocolate donut at 12am... but I always find myself at lost, sitting at one corner blaming myself for not doing something or done something utterly wrong.... and that's after she told me off
Some of her complains? such as me not being excited enough of the arrival of our baby, me not being proactive enough in getting things done, me not being caring enough of her feelings...
I am not writing to this forum seeking encouragement or pitifulness. But if any of you can impart some tips on how a first time dad should get prep up starting from 3rd trimester - I will be very grateful. Say....Is there a checklist for first time Singaporean dad for a Singaporean wife?
Quick question - she just asked me.. "do you know what you should do on the day I am in labor?"... I am really clueless.. I though this will be pretty standard right and just follow the instruction of the nurses? no?
anyway.. you get my point.. pretty stress here. help!
suffice to say - she's more experience than me in pregnancy and infant care while I kept having the feeling of not being able to catch up with her on the preparation. Now in her 3rd trimester, with the hormones acting up, we have dispute and cold war almost every other week. Very disturbing.
I honestly do not want us to be in this state... deep down within me, I want her to enjoy the pregnancy and prepare herself to be a proud mum of our baby. I am not afraid of hardship, I am not complaining if she asked me to go out and search for a chocolate donut at 12am... but I always find myself at lost, sitting at one corner blaming myself for not doing something or done something utterly wrong.... and that's after she told me off
Some of her complains? such as me not being excited enough of the arrival of our baby, me not being proactive enough in getting things done, me not being caring enough of her feelings...
I am not writing to this forum seeking encouragement or pitifulness. But if any of you can impart some tips on how a first time dad should get prep up starting from 3rd trimester - I will be very grateful. Say....Is there a checklist for first time Singaporean dad for a Singaporean wife?
Quick question - she just asked me.. "do you know what you should do on the day I am in labor?"... I am really clueless.. I though this will be pretty standard right and just follow the instruction of the nurses? no?
anyway.. you get my point.. pretty stress here. help!