hi matsu,
Initially I told my maid no tv but later I invited her to sit beside me and watch. She knows that tv shall not disturb her daily tasks and performance. Her daily tasks include sweep n mop the floor, wash all clothing, cleaned toys, meals for my son and wash the toilets.
Some mummies might think I spoiled her but is up to individual, I paid everything from head to toe for her n she get to choose her items (shampoo, cleanser, foods n etc, but only for the first 2yrs sub she paid on her own), she owned a hp (bought it herself) get to use my hse phone (local absorbed oversea from her own pocket) she can wake up anytime (maybe bcos I am a SAHM so no need to wake up early), nap in the afternoon, despite no off for first 2 yrs, given her off day las yr on her birthday and even let her watch my DVDs! Most of the time will bring her along with me when I go out so tht she dun feel so bored.
She knows tht we treat her like a family member, she is very appreciative, auto n most importantly she adore my son very much. When she make mistake or a bit lax I will talk to her sternly (I can b very fierce with her depend on her mistake). I have warned her b4 when she joined my family if she under perform anytime I will never hesitate to send her back to agent. She is my third maid, I used to change maid once a mth n she knows. So far she has done a very gd job, I can leave her alone with my son when I go holiday with my husb n renewing her contract in sept. But never know when will a person change (worry tht once she gets her off day n mixing with wrong friends) can only cross my fingers but nobody is indispensable.