IronMaiden80
Member
Hi all...
Just had another episode with the mil this morning regarding my 7.5 months old DS. I don't know if I am being too overprotective over him or is my mil really incapable of taking care of him... My mil initially refused to help take care of my son so we registered him for infant care and paid the deposit and fees only to have her change her mind. We give her about $1,300 monthly as allowance to match her previous salary and we are paying for DS's expenses from milk powder to groceries.
When he turned 7 months old, I asked my mil to introduce porridge as he has tried all the usual vegetable and fruit puree. I gave her money to buy threadfin fish but she said it is too expensive. In the end, it was my dad who brought me to the market to get and he taught me how to make the porridge for DS. (My mother passed away when I was very young thus my relationship with my dad is very good) I gave the fish to my mil and asked her to cook without adding any seasoning but she said she used to add salt or soya sauce in her childrens' porridge last time and they all grew up fine. I still insisted but I know she added as I tried the porridge she made for DS. I specifically told her not to skip any milk feeding as his priority should still be milk and not solids but she did the exact opposite. All these I found out over the CNY period as I was at home during the day... I am very hurt but I still spoke to her nicely this morning to ask her to space out the time so he still gets to drink his milk as usual and she just blurted out - aiya just feed him milk only la. What kind of an attitude is this? I felt so bad for my DS I broke down on the way to work this morning... All along I know she has been very complacent with my son, be it his hygiene or feeding... I wouldn't create such a big fuss if my son was of normal weight but pd said he is below average during the last checkup thus I wanted him to continue with his usual intake and not skip any feeding... I only have weekday nights and weekends with him but she takes care of him the most, why can't she make an effort and do her best?
Just had another episode with the mil this morning regarding my 7.5 months old DS. I don't know if I am being too overprotective over him or is my mil really incapable of taking care of him... My mil initially refused to help take care of my son so we registered him for infant care and paid the deposit and fees only to have her change her mind. We give her about $1,300 monthly as allowance to match her previous salary and we are paying for DS's expenses from milk powder to groceries.
When he turned 7 months old, I asked my mil to introduce porridge as he has tried all the usual vegetable and fruit puree. I gave her money to buy threadfin fish but she said it is too expensive. In the end, it was my dad who brought me to the market to get and he taught me how to make the porridge for DS. (My mother passed away when I was very young thus my relationship with my dad is very good) I gave the fish to my mil and asked her to cook without adding any seasoning but she said she used to add salt or soya sauce in her childrens' porridge last time and they all grew up fine. I still insisted but I know she added as I tried the porridge she made for DS. I specifically told her not to skip any milk feeding as his priority should still be milk and not solids but she did the exact opposite. All these I found out over the CNY period as I was at home during the day... I am very hurt but I still spoke to her nicely this morning to ask her to space out the time so he still gets to drink his milk as usual and she just blurted out - aiya just feed him milk only la. What kind of an attitude is this? I felt so bad for my DS I broke down on the way to work this morning... All along I know she has been very complacent with my son, be it his hygiene or feeding... I wouldn't create such a big fuss if my son was of normal weight but pd said he is below average during the last checkup thus I wanted him to continue with his usual intake and not skip any feeding... I only have weekday nights and weekends with him but she takes care of him the most, why can't she make an effort and do her best?