gooseberry
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I'm been married with my husband and we have been together coming to twenty years and we have two children. Events such as an illicit friendship which I'm keeping and my discoveries about his fetish and his porn viewing, highlight that I'm emotionally devoid and crave attention and affection. Fellow mummies, is it normal for me feeling this way? I've for past year, told husband how I felt and told him the affection I have wanted from him. He told me to stop deluding myself snd that I cannot get passion and romance from long-term marriages. I have experienced it with my 'friend' though we aren't committed to each other. I m aggrieved that I can't work w my husband to at least try to get back some sparks bc my husband is unwilling to try. I've come up w reasons of all sorts to explain his behaviour - work stress, in-laws iasue, demands of managing a family w children, his fetish, porn addiction (possibly?)....... Is my husband normal to show such behaviour?
Having tried so hard for past year without much returns, I've become disillusioned, felt rejected n cold. So my behaviour isn't helping the situation. I've, several times, told him we need to see a counsellor or therapist. He merely dismisses my request and say that I'm going through mid-life crisis.
Am I really going through one? I'm 36 and he is 44. Sigh... I even, many times, want to exit my marriage to pursue my own happiness and feel some self-worth and get back my self-identity. Am I too selfish to think like that? Does such action mean that I don't consider for my children's happiness at all?
Perplexed, dejected and despondent
Having tried so hard for past year without much returns, I've become disillusioned, felt rejected n cold. So my behaviour isn't helping the situation. I've, several times, told him we need to see a counsellor or therapist. He merely dismisses my request and say that I'm going through mid-life crisis.
Am I really going through one? I'm 36 and he is 44. Sigh... I even, many times, want to exit my marriage to pursue my own happiness and feel some self-worth and get back my self-identity. Am I too selfish to think like that? Does such action mean that I don't consider for my children's happiness at all?
Perplexed, dejected and despondent