strongmummy82
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Hi Jenbabe. How much u getting from ur ex? Izit hefty as he needs to pay by installment?
i have a friend who is paying his ex 4K plus per month.. and they don't have kids...Hi Jenbabe. How much u getting from ur ex? Izit hefty as he needs to pay by installment?
TS, Stay very strong. If he's willing to give you money prior to divorce already, it makes life alot easier. There are husbands who think wives should NOT take any money from them, even with custody of children.
Fyi, most of the time, I would say 99%, the children below a certain age will be granted custody to mother. Unless mother unable to care for children, i.e. mentally unstable, druggie, jailed, bankrupt, etc etc.
It's unusual and unlikely a father will be granted custody for such young children.
Later years he may request but that is another story.
Consult a lawyer first. Prepare abt $100-$200 for consultation only (about 1hr more or less) and know your rights. Prep your questions to ask the lawyer. Don't go there and sob and waste money.
Hi pixie, not sure about the custody part but that was told to me by a friend.
She is very sure care and control will be given to the mother.
Perhaps you are right abt custody. I should say "care and control" instead of "custody"
Seems like 2 different matters.
I think nowadays joint custody very common. But I believe care and control still belongs to the mother. It makes sense to have the mother by the children side, than the father.
Unless proven the mother cannot take care of the children, or perhaps the mother relinquish her rights.
I think the lawyer offers free consultation if you proceed with the divorce.
If just consultation without proceeding, the money will not be refunded. I checked with my lawyer too.
You seem to be very independent as you did not require any alimony from your ex husb. This is easy and good for both parties. Straightforward. My husb would like that too. I wish I had the same status!
But if the mummy is financially limited and is granted care and control of the children and she needs money, then i think the husband may contest abt the amount. After all when it involves money and not all fathers are generous, things can turn abit ugly.
That's where the receipts come in.
.....for my case, renovation, furniture, maintenance & utilities of the house is all paid by me. my ex-hub only paid 20% of the hdb. so to me buying over his 20% is not difficult and frankly speaking, there isn't much to calculate who pays what more..haha...
plus i also quite prideful. since i want to cut ties with my ex-hub, i do not want anything from him (though we are still in talking terms). i do not want single cent from him and seriously i also do not need his money coz he also not rich.. no point arguing how much money he can give for alimony when he is poor as churchmouse. unless my ex is millionaire, then i feel that there is something to fight for.. but just for 1K or less per month, is not worth my time and i do not want just because of 1K or less, even after divorce, i'm still "tie" to him... for me,. i just do not want to have anything to do with him...
personally i feel that woman's charter is quite unfair because i don't understand why men must give women's alimony after divorce. to me women is as capable as men so they definitely able to work for themselves. but having said that, i strongly feel that man can don't pay for alimony but he must pay for maintenance of his kid...
we dont have joint bank acct.. savings, jewelry and funds all under my name since i'm the one buying.. so no need to split with him...What about matrimonial assets? How did you all split? Sorry to ask so many questions. Because I have more assets such as savings, jewelry and funds. I am rather concerned.
we dont have joint bank acct.. savings, jewelry and funds all under my name since i'm the one buying.. so no need to split with him...
hdb he paying 20%, i paying 80%.. as per hdb rules, i can buy over his shares but need pay accrued interest.. so i transfer 20% + 2.5% from my cpf to his cpf because he using cpf to pay...
and that's about it... not much matrimonial assets coz we are poor folks...hahaha...
anything which is joint acct must be under matrimonial assets but hor you can exclude savings (if is not joint account), funds and jewelry for matrimonial assets...According to my lawyer, my husb has rights to some percentage of my assets even if acquired before marriage. and my jewelry given to me during marriage would likely be part of the matrimonial asset, including my savings, my son's savings (in my name), my property.
I asked her why.
She said, "You cannot prove that he did not contribute (cash or effort to maintain). This is a very grey area."
I was like wah lao eh.
Now I know why my dad shifted his properties to my uncle's name prior to his divorce proceedings.
I'm glad yours was amicable , somehow. I hope mine will be too.
i'm not sure.... but if you are not contributing any money for the condo, why you want to take some shares in the condo?What if the condo that I m staying now registered only my husband's name? An I entitled to some shares of the property? I did not contribute monetary but only through staying and taking care of kids.
courts will most likely order your hub to provide child maintenance for kids, and you can argue that you need alimony from him to sustain your lifestyle... logically i not sure why you will be entitled to some share of the condo when you didnt make any payment....Cause we have been married for 12 years. I don't earn much and I need cash to take care of my 2 kids. Am I not entitled to some shares of it?
What if the condo that I m staying now registered only my husband's name? An I entitled to some shares of the property? I did not contribute monetary but only through staying and taking care of kids.
then if ur hub say he gt upkeep your assets mean he can fight for ur assets?I think wife is entitled to the property if she upkeeps it e.g. cleaning, washing, maintenance. It is effort put into maintaining the unit , she is entitled to some shares.
Can fight for it.Sorry, correct me if im wrong. If the property doesn't have the wife's name, the wife did not pay for it, then it will be difficult for u to fight for any share of it esp it's a condo, unlike hdb whereby it have to be sold and divide between the two parties according to the percentage of contribution.
Can fight for it.
http://www.singaporedivorcelawyer.com.sg/what-are-matrimonial-assets/
As long as wife proves she Contributed in maintaining the asset. Even if non financial.
But contest here n there, in the end also must see how gd your lawyer is and how the judge decides. Very subjective one
HI Ladies i am nw facing same mattrers as u al and worst part of my age 50 tis year of having divorceI'm in the same situation as u...
I wanna divorce And no $ for lawyer...
Me and gladjo meeting up to discuss. Let us know if you like to join. We can support each other
Hi did any of the mummies introduce u with gd n not costly lawyer if so pls share with meHi mummies
Anyone got cheap lawyer for divorce to introduce me please
@pixie ng Thanks for the advice. I had previously thought of omitting his name from birth cert but was advised against it after seeking legal advice.
Reason given to me that if i omit his name, the child will be deemed illegitimate and there might be legal repercussion when we divorced - cannot claim maintenance / responsibility on the baby from him. Not eligible for baby bonus also, which might not be a big amount, but will be very useful since i am the only one supporting the kids now. Ica claimed there is this Registration of birth Act where baby is required to follow father's last name. so just cracking my head now to make him sign the birth cert. Might have to negotiate with him and exchange some benefits Furthermore, even thou it seems bleak that he will pay any maintenance, i will fight for it for my children who are also his responsibility as well. i just don't want him to walk away freely and have any chance to remarry here again and start a new life without any liabilities.