Hi everyone, I'm considering to stay home to work and care for my infant, anyone has experience with this?
Currently, I'm expecting my first child and wondering how I should plan my life after childbirth.
I'm working as a designer in IT industry, earning a good salary and have good prospects and I'm passionate about my work. I'm also making almost twice the amount of pay compared to my husband. My husband didn't have any ambition, working a stable job, but a role with no prospect. Still, they have a small salary increment every year. We concluded that I couldn't stop working because his salary won't be able to support the family nor just my salary.
The problem is we've no one to care for our baby expect me unless we hire a helper. After hearing lots of horror stories about getting a domestic helper to take care of the kid, I want to avoid this. Maybe we can hire a part-time weekly cleaner.
Both our mums are single working mum, and we were under the care of others while growing up. For me, I understand the effects of lack of attention from my parents and seeing the other caretaker as a parent: I don't want to repeat the mistake of my parent. I want to be there for my baby's first 3 years of life because there is a Chinese saying, 3岁定80. That means how you build the foundation of the kid for the first 3 years of their experience, will last them till they are 80 years old.
I'd appreciate hearing from anyone.
Currently, I'm expecting my first child and wondering how I should plan my life after childbirth.
I'm working as a designer in IT industry, earning a good salary and have good prospects and I'm passionate about my work. I'm also making almost twice the amount of pay compared to my husband. My husband didn't have any ambition, working a stable job, but a role with no prospect. Still, they have a small salary increment every year. We concluded that I couldn't stop working because his salary won't be able to support the family nor just my salary.
The problem is we've no one to care for our baby expect me unless we hire a helper. After hearing lots of horror stories about getting a domestic helper to take care of the kid, I want to avoid this. Maybe we can hire a part-time weekly cleaner.
Both our mums are single working mum, and we were under the care of others while growing up. For me, I understand the effects of lack of attention from my parents and seeing the other caretaker as a parent: I don't want to repeat the mistake of my parent. I want to be there for my baby's first 3 years of life because there is a Chinese saying, 3岁定80. That means how you build the foundation of the kid for the first 3 years of their experience, will last them till they are 80 years old.
I'd appreciate hearing from anyone.
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