Hi Angel
I think you are just down with a bad flu & cough. I am sure GP can help you. Sometimes when we are down, we tend to think that something is really wrong with us. Also, I read that you went to Hokaiddo, you might have caught a flu bug there. Many of my colleagues who went there caught it too cos they say v cold.
Yes, I have a few colleagues who would come forward and try to advise me that its a natural process of the body to reject the foetus, so dun think too much. But I will always explain, at least thats the least I can do for my son.
I think that anoynomous person that posted in your blog is horrible. I really suggest you ignore, cos firstly this stupid person is not anyone close to you and 2ndly, sometimes they just write without going thru their brains. Being in the same situation as you, we know we will try our best to keep the baby in the womb despite the bedrests, injections & etc, even if premature, we hope for the best.
Frankly, I seem to have similar condition as you. In my first pregnancy, I got into contractions v early like 18 weeks... mild ones and by 19 weeks, my cervix dilated 8 cm for singleton. My take is that sometimes you dun know why this happen, but cos my cevix opened, they say its incompetent cervix (IC). But real IC has no contractions. However, I believe there are ways to help this. For me, besides the cerclage at 14 weeks, I think less activity, rest does help. Also, if experience contractions for > 1 hour, quickly go to hospital for drips. It can help to stop. When i was on bedrest in the hospital for 1 mth last year, there are a few ladies who are also on drips on prevent contractions. Apparently, they come in on Monday every week and be on drips and go home on friday and check in on Monday again. For one of the ladies, it was becos she has young kids at home and she would like to spend weekend with them. When I saw her, I think she was 34-35 weeks and has been doing so since week 20 plus. I also met a lady who has 2 cerclages by week 26 and was on full bedrest. All of them are just like us, determined to push thru all. Again, am sharing these with you that we are not the only ones.
Its understandable why Dr Loh will give such diagnosis as you have 2 histories. As a doctor, he saw you thru the sufferings & prob want to let things be easier on you. WHy dont you see Dr Foong or email him to ask for his opinion? If he is optimistic that he can help you, there is really no harm trying one more time.
As for adoption, I was lucky to be able to call a few fren's relatives who are able same age as us, went thru difficulties, multiple miscarriages & etc and finally decide to adopt. They are as happy and enjoying motherhood every single day just like any woman. For me, I am v open to adoption (natually love children) but the logical move is to try my best before moving to that.
For me, I am still with Dr Foong. I trust him and feel that he never give up on his patients yet I dun feel he is just trying to make money from us. For me, I have PCOS and a normal hubby (eg sperm count & etc all ok). I conceived thru clomid once (b4 I saw Dr Foong) but ended ectopic and I lost my left tube partially (making natural pregancy more difficult). Subsequently, I conceived again via IUI with Dr Foong and but lost it at 23 weeks due to IC. This round I have completed my IVF. The reason I chose to do this is becos I wanted to freeze my eggs when I am still young and having IC, I know even cerclage may not help for some cases, so my miscarriage rate is higher, so I wanted to have a few good embryos so that I can try a few more FETs if I still fail (as FET is still higher success rate than IUI).
I think I shared this with you before. I had an ex colleague who has PCOS and difficulty conceiving. Later like me, she found out she got IC too. She tried v hard, just like any of us. She lost 4 pregnancies, 3 of which all at 20-21 weeks and twins even with cerclage. For her, her waterbag just burst mysteriously at week 20-22 and followed by infection, followed by emergency delivery & etc. She still didnt lost hope, and she eventually delivered her boy on her 5th pregnancy. Her boy is now 5 yrs old and he is such a darling. She was in her mid 30s by then. And miraculously, she conceived again naturally recently (she is almost 40). Unfortunately, she lost at at 8-9 weeks due to no heartbeat. But at least she could conceive naturally but cos of her age, of course the egg quality not as good & etc. But who knows, she may conceive again soon!
I also dunno what lies ahead for me, I only know that if i dun try, I wont know. I brace myself for all the negative things that may happen, but also told myself to push on. I pray to my own religion and hope that I can be blessed everyday if I am pregbant thru the 9 mths.
Again, sorry for the long post, just wanted to share. Have a good rest today.
I am also thinking about going but the tot of drinking the bitter stuff is enough to make me want to puke. 
