Seeking Confinement lady review
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Freelance Confinement Nanny 王涟桦 / 王连华 / Ong Lian Hoi (Hearsay she is nanny from hell)
Decided to step up to post reviews on different platforms despite the hassle because I do not allow any more babies to suffer under the hands of this nanny.
She swaddle babies really tightly till it leave marks on the body, zero support to the neck while swaddling, places babies to sleep on their stomach while being tightly swaddled. (Risk of SIDS)
She fed 90ml to 150ml of BM/FM to newborn LESS THAN A WEEK OLD, hands-free feeding method where bottles were supported by pillows only.
Babies were unable to refuse milk in this compromising position even when they had enough. (Risk of choking & overfeeding)
All these in hope that they will sleep as long as possible and not disrupt her leisure time.
She requested to buy many kinds of herbs/alcohol to cook for my confinement meals on the day she arrived.
I thought whatever an experienced nanny prepped for you will only do you good for confinement, not.
My babies were diagnosed with Breast Milk Jaundice due to the heavy usage of herbs/alcohol I consumed.
She uses 3 phones with non-stop voice messaging, while babies were asleep in the same room with her. (Even past midnight)
Offered her to use the living room instead because I do not want my babies’ sleep to be disrupted, she acknowledged but same thing happened again the next day and again and again.
She bathes them out of the tub, carried them on her hand while facing down and pouring cups of water on their backs.
Babies cried murder during EVERY BATH despite she claiming that this method is the most difficult to perform but of the best interest to the babies.
She demand that babies should be given pacifiers so that they will not cry and be cranky, and can sleep soundly at night. (she meant herself I guess)
She claimed that she had a bad headache, very tired and doesn’t want to die in my place. (Be informed that she have more than enough rest because my babies are always asleep? She need not do house chores except for prep and cook)
She complaint that nobody help her to take care of the twins. (joke)
She said she will leave if we don’t offer pacifiers to the babies.
No words can describe how rude she was to all of us even to me! (24/7 black face). During the entire period, I don’t even feel taken care of. And still have to endure her bad attitude.
We endured her poor attitude for the reason that she is here to take good care of my babies.
We endured her poor attitude because she boasted she have 20 years of excellent nanny experience, specializing in twins.
I let her go immediately, after 2 weeks.
As of today, I’ve stumbled upon the other 2 families who had engaged her after me, coincidentally both also did not complete the entire confinement cycle with her.
Be warned to all mummies all there.
Decided to step up to post reviews on different platforms despite the hassle because I do not allow any more babies to suffer under the hands of this nanny.
She swaddle babies really tightly till it leave marks on the body, zero support to the neck while swaddling, places babies to sleep on their stomach while being tightly swaddled. (Risk of SIDS)
She fed 90ml to 150ml of BM/FM to newborn LESS THAN A WEEK OLD, hands-free feeding method where bottles were supported by pillows only.
Babies were unable to refuse milk in this compromising position even when they had enough. (Risk of choking & overfeeding)
All these in hope that they will sleep as long as possible and not disrupt her leisure time.
She requested to buy many kinds of herbs/alcohol to cook for my confinement meals on the day she arrived.
I thought whatever an experienced nanny prepped for you will only do you good for confinement, not.
My babies were diagnosed with Breast Milk Jaundice due to the heavy usage of herbs/alcohol I consumed.
She uses 3 phones with non-stop voice messaging, while babies were asleep in the same room with her. (Even past midnight)
Offered her to use the living room instead because I do not want my babies’ sleep to be disrupted, she acknowledged but same thing happened again the next day and again and again.
She bathes them out of the tub, carried them on her hand while facing down and pouring cups of water on their backs.
Babies cried murder during EVERY BATH despite she claiming that this method is the most difficult to perform but of the best interest to the babies.
She demand that babies should be given pacifiers so that they will not cry and be cranky, and can sleep soundly at night. (she meant herself I guess)
She claimed that she had a bad headache, very tired and doesn’t want to die in my place. (Be informed that she have more than enough rest because my babies are always asleep? She need not do house chores except for prep and cook)
She complaint that nobody help her to take care of the twins. (joke)
She said she will leave if we don’t offer pacifiers to the babies.
No words can describe how rude she was to all of us even to me! (24/7 black face). During the entire period, I don’t even feel taken care of. And still have to endure her bad attitude.
We endured her poor attitude for the reason that she is here to take good care of my babies.
We endured her poor attitude because she boasted she have 20 years of excellent nanny experience, specializing in twins.
I let her go immediately, after 2 weeks.
As of today, I’ve stumbled upon the other 2 families who had engaged her after me, coincidentally both also did not complete the entire confinement cycle with her.
Be warned to all mummies all there.
Thanks for your update. I didn't managed to book her as i was waiting for some medical report and she got booked already by then. I got someone she referred and Im worried now if the person will be ok.
I think your comments will help a lot of ppl as i have tried alot of ways and platform to search for review on her and no results return.
I think your comments will help a lot of ppl as i have tried alot of ways and platform to search for review on her and no results return.
from my understanding, nanny Intro each other to get the $200-$300 comms from each other. So they don’t care if the other nanny is good or bad, they just hoping mummies will commit.
Spoken to one of the family who hired her, lian hoi was recommended by her initial nanny.
after 2 days with LH, she stopped her service and scolded that nanny for her poor recommendation.
so it’s your choice, if not interview that nanny properly first before you commit.
Spoken to one of the family who hired her, lian hoi was recommended by her initial nanny.
after 2 days with LH, she stopped her service and scolded that nanny for her poor recommendation.
so it’s your choice, if not interview that nanny properly first before you commit.
Agreed with you. I was one of them who engaged Ong Lian Hoi and we are so glad we didn’t keep her. This woman is terrible and a total disaster.
It is suspected that some nanny took up the job even though they are booked. Then they inform parents they are held up at current job and recommend their ‘friend’. But in fact they earn $2-300 kopi money for each referral.
Better not to get freelance CN nowadays
I also engaged her this year end of Jan 2022 and didn't do due diligence before engaging her. She was referred to us by someone and She is exactly what you have described.
In addition, she went to my neighbour's house on the pretext of viewing their house but went through their kitchen cupboards and took condiments without asking. When I ask her why she did that she told me she thought was my sister.
my in laws and patents came over to see their grandsons and she interrupted into their conversations which is so rude.I wanted to breastfeed my boy, she commented that i didnt have enough to feed him and told me she will just feed him formula milk. When i breastfeed my boy, she will keep opening my bedroom door and ask me if i am done cos she wants to feed my son! I return my boy to his room aans caught her bathing him the 2nd time. She said that he is dirty after I breastfeed him?! He was just a few days old and she treated him like a rag doll, flipping him on his tummy and give him an aggressive "massage".. my boy was crying so badly.
We sent her packing within 48 hours and gotten nannies from an agency but it wasn't any better. Nannies sent over are inexperienced n full of issue.
My boys are now coming 4 months and we are trying to engage nanny/baby sitter to take care of them instead of sending them to ifc. Through facebook SG Nanny, i got in touch with Lucy Ng who claimed that she is an agent. She linked us up to Nanny Chin Pei Feng (PF) a malaysian who purportedly took care of twins in SG till they are 1.5 year old and she went back to msia in Dec 2021.
Ms Lucy claimed that she is a partner of an agency named Bumble Bee. We interviewed PF with Lucy and PF seems confident stating that she handled twins herself with no additional help n tell us to leave my boys to her.
On Lucy Ng
- We asked Lucy for a contract with her agency since we are engaging her nanny PF. She avoid this topic totally.
- nearing the reporting day of PF at our place, we texted Lucy on PF's reporting time. she replied in a rude n unprofessional manner questioning us back as to why we are asking so much question now and why we didn't get in touch with PF. I clarified with her that all these details wasn't mentioned in detailed during the interview with her n PF and she is suppose to follow up. We don't even have PF's number.
On PF:
Her planned stay-in with us was on the 24th May but she came to our place a few days earlier so that my current CLs can walk her thru the daily routine of my boys. However when she came, she requested 2 days off per mth which Lucy didnt mention, she seems not confident and keep mentioning that she is scared as she has not handled babies for a while. She knows we have helper to support her, but she still say she is scared. Then she asked me questions like which babies is easier to take care. I am quite taken aback. Inconsistent stories: She told my CLs that she has not been working for 1 year and have not handled babies this age for a long time. She showed photos of the twins she took care to my CLs and my CLs told me that the twins are already quite big. Today she contacted me stating that she is unwell and mentioned that she wants to reconsider taking up the job. It was later in the day she replied declining the job. It seems like she is looking for an easy job?
All mommies should be warned.
blueberrycake08
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Ong Lian Hoi (aka Sharon) - Confinement Nanny from Hell
We were unlucky enough to be referred Ong Lian Hoi as our replacement nanny when our original nanny (Ong Lian Hoi's sister by the name of Charlene Ong) bailed on us at the very last minute. Due to the last minute change, we did not do our due diligence or we would have rejected this woman at all costs. She was very rough with my baby, super lazy (uses phone all day even when burping my baby and putting my baby to sleep), disobeys our instructions (likes to do her own method even though we had voiced out that what she was doing is clearly harmful to the baby) and very inexperienced (barely has any knowledge about confinement practices and YET likes to brag about her experience as a confinement nanny and namedrop her past experiences). My baby was hospitalised for 5 days in the 2nd week of her arrival due to a throat infection which we suspect on hindsight was due to her rough handling of my baby during feeding. To top it off, she was arguing with her friend who owed her money on the phone in the day and sharing her sob story with us (how much of a financial trouble she was in). She is extremely unprofessional and has zero ethics. Our only regret is not firing her earlier (we only fired her after 3 weeks when we realised how terrible this woman is).
1. Overfeeding - Similar to others' experience, she overfed my baby as well just so the baby will sleep longer at night and she can rest. Insisted on feeding my newborn 120ml even though it is clearly WAY TOO MUCH for a newborn to stomach and even after we specifically told her not to exceed 90ml. She repeatedly defied our instruction and would force-feed my baby when he is full or refuses to drink. As a result, my baby was always crying hysterically during feeds and would vomit the excess milk (vomit, not regurgitate). He also developed phlegm in the first week after coming home from the hospital but at that time we did not know better.
2. Knew the steriliser was not working but didn't tell us until we found out on our own 5 days later. As first-time parents, we trusted that she knew how to work the steriliser but only found out on day 5 that the steriliser has been faulty all this while. We were dumbfounded when we realised that our baby's bottles have not been sterilised all this while?!
3. Rough handling of baby. Besides the force-feeding, she likes to burp my baby in a very rough way and would hold him up without supporting his neck. Babies have weak neck muscles and need support when carried. Even after telling her off, she continued to handle him that way. Her bathing the baby was a heart dropping experience to watch as well. She likes to bathe the baby just before his feed time and as a result, my baby will cry murder during his bath time because he is hungry. When babies do that, they take in a lot of 'wind' and may even start associating bath time as a very unpleasant activity (my baby loves bath time when we bathe him at the right time). This is extremely unethical of her. Told her not to do that and again, full of excuses from her and she continued to bathe him just before his feed time daily.
4. Didn't follow the confinement soup schedule. We ordered a confinement soup package from Eu Yan Sang which came with a simple schedule of soups to cook each day for 28 days. This is important as the purpose of the soups for each week of confinement is different - week 1 is for cleansing, week 4 is for strengthening etc. Despite our instruction and common sense to just follow the given schedule to cook the soups, this woman actually swapped the order of the soup packages as she liked. After we found out and confronted her about it, she still played the defensive and said it was ok to swap the soups. Stupidity and incompetency can't be helped. Mummies, please do your confinement properly and steer clear of nannies like Ong Lian Hoi who knows nuts about confinement because postpartum recovery is extremely important.
5. Sub-par cooking and lack of knowledge about confinement. Cooking wise, she is very lazy as well and would just cook the same basic dishes over and over with no care about your nutrition or the specific purpose of that dish and how it affects your recovery. She adds ginger and sesame oil to every single dish that she makes, to the point that my body was overly 'heaty'. She also served cold rice at dinner (she cooks rice in the morning for lunch and dinner). There is no variation to what she cooks and she doesn't go the extra mile to cook nourishing confinement dishes unlike other nannies.
As first-time parents, we were extremely unlucky to have gotten her as our nanny and my baby suffered the costs of our negligence (for not doing due diligence checks on her before agreeing to her replacement). So mummies, please be warned and STEER CLEAR OF THIS WOMAN. No baby deserves to be ill-treated this way.
We were unlucky enough to be referred Ong Lian Hoi as our replacement nanny when our original nanny (Ong Lian Hoi's sister by the name of Charlene Ong) bailed on us at the very last minute. Due to the last minute change, we did not do our due diligence or we would have rejected this woman at all costs. She was very rough with my baby, super lazy (uses phone all day even when burping my baby and putting my baby to sleep), disobeys our instructions (likes to do her own method even though we had voiced out that what she was doing is clearly harmful to the baby) and very inexperienced (barely has any knowledge about confinement practices and YET likes to brag about her experience as a confinement nanny and namedrop her past experiences). My baby was hospitalised for 5 days in the 2nd week of her arrival due to a throat infection which we suspect on hindsight was due to her rough handling of my baby during feeding. To top it off, she was arguing with her friend who owed her money on the phone in the day and sharing her sob story with us (how much of a financial trouble she was in). She is extremely unprofessional and has zero ethics. Our only regret is not firing her earlier (we only fired her after 3 weeks when we realised how terrible this woman is).
1. Overfeeding - Similar to others' experience, she overfed my baby as well just so the baby will sleep longer at night and she can rest. Insisted on feeding my newborn 120ml even though it is clearly WAY TOO MUCH for a newborn to stomach and even after we specifically told her not to exceed 90ml. She repeatedly defied our instruction and would force-feed my baby when he is full or refuses to drink. As a result, my baby was always crying hysterically during feeds and would vomit the excess milk (vomit, not regurgitate). He also developed phlegm in the first week after coming home from the hospital but at that time we did not know better.
2. Knew the steriliser was not working but didn't tell us until we found out on our own 5 days later. As first-time parents, we trusted that she knew how to work the steriliser but only found out on day 5 that the steriliser has been faulty all this while. We were dumbfounded when we realised that our baby's bottles have not been sterilised all this while?!
3. Rough handling of baby. Besides the force-feeding, she likes to burp my baby in a very rough way and would hold him up without supporting his neck. Babies have weak neck muscles and need support when carried. Even after telling her off, she continued to handle him that way. Her bathing the baby was a heart dropping experience to watch as well. She likes to bathe the baby just before his feed time and as a result, my baby will cry murder during his bath time because he is hungry. When babies do that, they take in a lot of 'wind' and may even start associating bath time as a very unpleasant activity (my baby loves bath time when we bathe him at the right time). This is extremely unethical of her. Told her not to do that and again, full of excuses from her and she continued to bathe him just before his feed time daily.
4. Didn't follow the confinement soup schedule. We ordered a confinement soup package from Eu Yan Sang which came with a simple schedule of soups to cook each day for 28 days. This is important as the purpose of the soups for each week of confinement is different - week 1 is for cleansing, week 4 is for strengthening etc. Despite our instruction and common sense to just follow the given schedule to cook the soups, this woman actually swapped the order of the soup packages as she liked. After we found out and confronted her about it, she still played the defensive and said it was ok to swap the soups. Stupidity and incompetency can't be helped. Mummies, please do your confinement properly and steer clear of nannies like Ong Lian Hoi who knows nuts about confinement because postpartum recovery is extremely important.
5. Sub-par cooking and lack of knowledge about confinement. Cooking wise, she is very lazy as well and would just cook the same basic dishes over and over with no care about your nutrition or the specific purpose of that dish and how it affects your recovery. She adds ginger and sesame oil to every single dish that she makes, to the point that my body was overly 'heaty'. She also served cold rice at dinner (she cooks rice in the morning for lunch and dinner). There is no variation to what she cooks and she doesn't go the extra mile to cook nourishing confinement dishes unlike other nannies.
As first-time parents, we were extremely unlucky to have gotten her as our nanny and my baby suffered the costs of our negligence (for not doing due diligence checks on her before agreeing to her replacement). So mummies, please be warned and STEER CLEAR OF THIS WOMAN. No baby deserves to be ill-treated this way.
