ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?
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wati
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Nora / Isabella... looking good hor..?! Aiyoh.. i try not to rest much cos, bila pagi nak bangun menyeksa tau.. pinggang and peha so the sakit. Then once im up, i try not to rest too much. Kira kalau dah baring, i can't get up anymore. Kat kerja pun sama. I tk bleh duduk lama or berdiri lama sgt.. my tailbone is very the painful. I am seriously thinking of taking early maternity.. haiz..
Isabella... ok. Nanti you tunggu saat2 you dah 33 weeks ok. I think at that point of time, memang u akan rasa tak sabar nk beranak oi.. just want to get it done and over with seh.. hahah
Athlete, you are so cute. Mental block on baking/cooking..? LOL. Tapi good lah. You semangat nk belajar memasak eh.. bagus tau.. very the positive.
Isabella... ok. Nanti you tunggu saat2 you dah 33 weeks ok. I think at that point of time, memang u akan rasa tak sabar nk beranak oi.. just want to get it done and over with seh.. hahah
Athlete, you are so cute. Mental block on baking/cooking..? LOL. Tapi good lah. You semangat nk belajar memasak eh.. bagus tau.. very the positive.
smalldreams
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Morning semua
Wati
Kiyutnye Maya! Am sure she had so much fun painting. Kids love painting!
Kenapa you nak send maid for counselling?
Dia ada depression ke?
Athlete
Morning! Just wondering, would observing yr mom when she's cooking help? Or just ask her, and try it out on yr own.
Datin
Apa nak buat dorang kan dr kampong. Satu macam lah, susah nak cakap.
Wati
Kiyutnye Maya! Am sure she had so much fun painting. Kids love painting!
Kenapa you nak send maid for counselling?
Dia ada depression ke?
Athlete
Morning! Just wondering, would observing yr mom when she's cooking help? Or just ask her, and try it out on yr own.
Datin
Apa nak buat dorang kan dr kampong. Satu macam lah, susah nak cakap.
smalldreams
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Athlete
I can understand where you're coming from.
I once told my mom that too and she said, it's quite normal for moms & daughters to be liddat, lol. My SIL & her mom, lagiiii... at first I was quite appalled to see how my SIL talks back openly to her mom but I guess it ends as that, no hard feelings afterwards
Perhaps if you ask yr mom how to cook this & that, r/ship will improve? He he he (nervous laughter).
I wonder how my r/ship with my lil girl will be in future.
I can understand where you're coming from.
I once told my mom that too and she said, it's quite normal for moms & daughters to be liddat, lol. My SIL & her mom, lagiiii... at first I was quite appalled to see how my SIL talks back openly to her mom but I guess it ends as that, no hard feelings afterwards
Perhaps if you ask yr mom how to cook this & that, r/ship will improve? He he he (nervous laughter). I wonder how my r/ship with my lil girl will be in future.
wati
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SD/Nora,
The maid so far dah mcm slack sikit in her work and attitude.
Makanan : She tak makan daging lembu or kambing. Now plak totally tak makan ayam. So i got to buy fish and prawn for her. And i normally buy the white HL milk. I told her she can drink also. Then she said, she only drink strawberri flavour.
Workwise : She die die refuse to wear spec. She said it's inconvenient for her. Mcm leceh. Tapi becos dia tak nak pakai specs, she can't see well and her job are only so so. Suruh dia bersihkan toilet, there are parts yg dia tak buat. Cos dia tak nampak. Suruh dia lap tingkap, the are some dusty parts yg dia tak nampak, so dia tak buat lah kan. Then my house got 4 cats. I told her to always clean the house due to the fur. Apa dia nampak, dia buat..Apa dia tak nampak dia tak buat lah. Then b4 i choose her, kan aku ada interview dia.
I tell her i got 4 cats, can she handle.. she said.."In Indon, saya jaga 20 kucing. Kasi makan, clear the shit...etc" Tapi kat sini, dia mcm tak nak jaga kucing. The cat pee, she will just use tissue and clean. Padahal dah ajar dia to wash with dettol, then spray the cat spray yg i buy to prevent the cat from peeing again. Dia tak buat tu semua. She just wipe. So the cat, keep constantly pee at the same place. Then kain untuk alas kaki..i specifically told her, kalau rumah takder orang, jgn put it on the floor, cos the cat will pee. Dia letak jugak. And when the cat dah pee, she still use it as alas kaki. Aku rasa hidung dia dah rosak ! Cos recently she pass me a rug for my room, it reeks with cat pee. I was like Duh !! Then dia mcm terkejut..she said tak bau pun. HAiz... boleh sakit jantung.
Maya : I can see that she tak pandai jaga budak. Padahl dia dh kahwin. Have 2 daughter. One is 9 and the other is 1.5 yrs old. She ever tell me off by saying "Maya nie LAIN !" I was like F seh. Dia tak pandai play with Maya, or pujuk Maya. Mulut berat betul nak berbual dgn anak aku. Sebelum i got heavy in the tummy, i still bathe my kid so does my mum. So now, perut aku dah besar, i asked her to bathe Maya. Everytime she bathe Maya, Maya sure nangis or scream. Maya kan dah pandai ckp, she always say "Hot Water ! Hot Water !" So i will always tell the maid "Air jgn panas sangat !! She will say, "Tak panas lah".. what the hell kan.. kalau tak panas, anak aku tak menjerit. Cos i got no problem bathing Maya. So in the end, I always end up saying "Sudahlah Tini. Nanti saya mandikan Maya" Same as my mum. Suruh Tini pakaikan Maya baju, Maya will scream and cry. Then Tini will say "Bu, Maya tak nak pakai baju". Tapi bila kita pakaikan baju, she is fine. I think the way she handle Maya. Dah mcm tak kuasa.
My Storeroom : She clean a few times then now dah tak buat. Cos her excuse to my mum was "Saya sudah kemas dulu, tapi setiap kali Ma'am keluar ada saja yg dibeli. Mana mau simpan semua itu? Jadi saya tak kemas.. terlalu banyak barang".. and everytime, ada orang kasi aku barang 2nd hand or i bring home stuff.. her face senget you know.. it's like "Haiz, ada jer bawak balik barang baru..mana nak simpan nie semua !" (Kind of attitude and face.
So i called the agent bcos, im feeling abit stress. Im going to give birth soon and i know she can't take care of my kids. That i can live with lah. But kalau tak nak jaga budak, then she have to excel in her housewerk. Nie tidak. Die2 tk nak pakai specs. So house pun end up aku yg bersihkan mana yg aku nampak...
Every Sat / Sun, she have time to nap and sleep early. And she can cook whatever is in the fridge.
The agent told me from my story, she find that the maid is taking advantage.
The maid so far dah mcm slack sikit in her work and attitude.
Makanan : She tak makan daging lembu or kambing. Now plak totally tak makan ayam. So i got to buy fish and prawn for her. And i normally buy the white HL milk. I told her she can drink also. Then she said, she only drink strawberri flavour.
Workwise : She die die refuse to wear spec. She said it's inconvenient for her. Mcm leceh. Tapi becos dia tak nak pakai specs, she can't see well and her job are only so so. Suruh dia bersihkan toilet, there are parts yg dia tak buat. Cos dia tak nampak. Suruh dia lap tingkap, the are some dusty parts yg dia tak nampak, so dia tak buat lah kan. Then my house got 4 cats. I told her to always clean the house due to the fur. Apa dia nampak, dia buat..Apa dia tak nampak dia tak buat lah. Then b4 i choose her, kan aku ada interview dia.
I tell her i got 4 cats, can she handle.. she said.."In Indon, saya jaga 20 kucing. Kasi makan, clear the shit...etc" Tapi kat sini, dia mcm tak nak jaga kucing. The cat pee, she will just use tissue and clean. Padahal dah ajar dia to wash with dettol, then spray the cat spray yg i buy to prevent the cat from peeing again. Dia tak buat tu semua. She just wipe. So the cat, keep constantly pee at the same place. Then kain untuk alas kaki..i specifically told her, kalau rumah takder orang, jgn put it on the floor, cos the cat will pee. Dia letak jugak. And when the cat dah pee, she still use it as alas kaki. Aku rasa hidung dia dah rosak ! Cos recently she pass me a rug for my room, it reeks with cat pee. I was like Duh !! Then dia mcm terkejut..she said tak bau pun. HAiz... boleh sakit jantung.
Maya : I can see that she tak pandai jaga budak. Padahl dia dh kahwin. Have 2 daughter. One is 9 and the other is 1.5 yrs old. She ever tell me off by saying "Maya nie LAIN !" I was like F seh. Dia tak pandai play with Maya, or pujuk Maya. Mulut berat betul nak berbual dgn anak aku. Sebelum i got heavy in the tummy, i still bathe my kid so does my mum. So now, perut aku dah besar, i asked her to bathe Maya. Everytime she bathe Maya, Maya sure nangis or scream. Maya kan dah pandai ckp, she always say "Hot Water ! Hot Water !" So i will always tell the maid "Air jgn panas sangat !! She will say, "Tak panas lah".. what the hell kan.. kalau tak panas, anak aku tak menjerit. Cos i got no problem bathing Maya. So in the end, I always end up saying "Sudahlah Tini. Nanti saya mandikan Maya" Same as my mum. Suruh Tini pakaikan Maya baju, Maya will scream and cry. Then Tini will say "Bu, Maya tak nak pakai baju". Tapi bila kita pakaikan baju, she is fine. I think the way she handle Maya. Dah mcm tak kuasa.
My Storeroom : She clean a few times then now dah tak buat. Cos her excuse to my mum was "Saya sudah kemas dulu, tapi setiap kali Ma'am keluar ada saja yg dibeli. Mana mau simpan semua itu? Jadi saya tak kemas.. terlalu banyak barang".. and everytime, ada orang kasi aku barang 2nd hand or i bring home stuff.. her face senget you know.. it's like "Haiz, ada jer bawak balik barang baru..mana nak simpan nie semua !" (Kind of attitude and face.
So i called the agent bcos, im feeling abit stress. Im going to give birth soon and i know she can't take care of my kids. That i can live with lah. But kalau tak nak jaga budak, then she have to excel in her housewerk. Nie tidak. Die2 tk nak pakai specs. So house pun end up aku yg bersihkan mana yg aku nampak...
Every Sat / Sun, she have time to nap and sleep early. And she can cook whatever is in the fridge.
The agent told me from my story, she find that the maid is taking advantage.
wati
Active Member
Hi Lina... Bye Lina... haiz.
The thing is that... si maid nie.. husband dia. My dad dah employ him to werk at Jawa Barat. We are like helping them to get better life, cos b4 this the hubby werk as orang yg jual goreng-gorengan...so bapak aku kesian so kasi dia kerja tetap lah. Then she can call her husband once a week. And bila bapak aku pergi sana, she will like write letter and pass stuff to the husband, which i think is ok.. so that she wont miss him. Tapi i really think she is taking advantage of us now. Tapi this maid is under my name, but my dad pun ada share. So she think dia ada immunity with my dad.
The thing is that... si maid nie.. husband dia. My dad dah employ him to werk at Jawa Barat. We are like helping them to get better life, cos b4 this the hubby werk as orang yg jual goreng-gorengan...so bapak aku kesian so kasi dia kerja tetap lah. Then she can call her husband once a week. And bila bapak aku pergi sana, she will like write letter and pass stuff to the husband, which i think is ok.. so that she wont miss him. Tapi i really think she is taking advantage of us now. Tapi this maid is under my name, but my dad pun ada share. So she think dia ada immunity with my dad.
isabella_akj
New Member
morning everyone..
bonda
looking great babe! haha oh and how come u need to send ur maid for counselling? now i'm getting a bit worried heehee cos my husband and i decided to get a maid for when i give birth pasal i dont know any other choice also la haha.. hopefully your maid works herself out ya.. so many maid horror stories flying left, right and center these days..
athlete
oh yeah mummy issues.... i totally understand man... i've got tonnes of those hahaha..
bonda
looking great babe! haha oh and how come u need to send ur maid for counselling? now i'm getting a bit worried heehee cos my husband and i decided to get a maid for when i give birth pasal i dont know any other choice also la haha.. hopefully your maid works herself out ya.. so many maid horror stories flying left, right and center these days..
athlete
oh yeah mummy issues.... i totally understand man... i've got tonnes of those hahaha..
smalldreams
Active Member
Morning Isabella
How's things? Dah decide apa nak buat if yr MIL tak jadi datang?
Bonda
Gosh, I rasa you're better off without a maid, really. How about a part-time maid who comes around when needed? Makan hati seh dpt maid macam gini.
But I salute your thoughts - because it's really pahala to help these maids to give them a better life in future.
How's things? Dah decide apa nak buat if yr MIL tak jadi datang?
Bonda
Gosh, I rasa you're better off without a maid, really. How about a part-time maid who comes around when needed? Makan hati seh dpt maid macam gini.
But I salute your thoughts - because it's really pahala to help these maids to give them a better life in future.
sigh, these maids, supposed to help us kan.
but instead kasi problem pulak.
nora, i agree, pasal the makanan part.
unless its a medical issue,eg allergy ke, should have no excuse.
but then eh, i baca ada jugak cerita, maids yg kerja dgn bangsa lain.
dorang tak kasi makan or something, then sampai the maids "curi" makan pulak...
haizz macam2...
but instead kasi problem pulak.
nora, i agree, pasal the makanan part.
unless its a medical issue,eg allergy ke, should have no excuse.
but then eh, i baca ada jugak cerita, maids yg kerja dgn bangsa lain.
dorang tak kasi makan or something, then sampai the maids "curi" makan pulak...
haizz macam2...
wati
Active Member
Yes. Tadi the agent dgr my story pun she was like.. "Pasal makan lainkali buat bodoh" They have to eat what we cook. Kalau menu ayam, then too bad, it's up to her to eat or eat maggie"
Then she said, the maid is now having good life at my house. Ada bilik sendiri, can have nap time, can sleep early. So bcos she is too comfortable, dia dah naik lemak.
Then she said, the maid is now having good life at my house. Ada bilik sendiri, can have nap time, can sleep early. So bcos she is too comfortable, dia dah naik lemak.
wati
Active Member
Lina, tu aku tahu. Aku pun dunno why i even said to HB aku smlm, kalau dia tk nak jaga baby, it's ok. I can take care of the baby myself, but kerja nak kena perfect lah.
Abt changing of the maid, i will follow Nora style. Get the maid there and leave her. The next day, baru hantar barang2 dia to the agent.
Abt changing of the maid, i will follow Nora style. Get the maid there and leave her. The next day, baru hantar barang2 dia to the agent.
isabella_akj
New Member
wa bonda... looks like a real case of maid taking advantage of boss sey... kesian u... but like i've said before.. u've got loads of patience.. if i were you dah lama aku hantar balik.. (i self proclaim hot tempered heehee).. u employ the maid in the first place to clean up the house, take care of the cats and the children. if housework takleh buat, kucing tak tahu jaga, anak tak tahu layan, menjawab nombor satu.. forget it i say. bilang dia nak susu strawberry kena balik indon dulu.
smalldreams
hello hello! i'm doing better.. cos it seems like the morning sickness is declining (fingers crossed!) and i've got my energy back for me to do housework and cook and carry on teaching tuition... tapi i still decided on getting a maid.. maybe as soon as my parents move out.. in april we'll get the maid so i'll have ample time to train her and to get used to her before the baby arrives.. thats why i need alot of tips and tricks on how to handle maid heehee.. and then my tuition load seems to be increasing, alot of parents still want to hire me even though i'm pregnant and everything.. i dont understand.. other tutors so jialat meh? so in april my students will start coming over to my place for tuition and so i can focus on tuition while the maid does the housework la.. hopefully things work out as planned
smalldreams
hello hello! i'm doing better.. cos it seems like the morning sickness is declining (fingers crossed!) and i've got my energy back for me to do housework and cook and carry on teaching tuition... tapi i still decided on getting a maid.. maybe as soon as my parents move out.. in april we'll get the maid so i'll have ample time to train her and to get used to her before the baby arrives.. thats why i need alot of tips and tricks on how to handle maid heehee.. and then my tuition load seems to be increasing, alot of parents still want to hire me even though i'm pregnant and everything.. i dont understand.. other tutors so jialat meh? so in april my students will start coming over to my place for tuition and so i can focus on tuition while the maid does the housework la.. hopefully things work out as planned
wati
Active Member
Yes. Im praying that everything work out for me ah. Cos if i really need to change maid, obviously i need to inform her husband over at the other side. Then if husband dia boleh terima, ok lah kan. Then kalau tak bleh terima, habis dia sabo my dad bisnes.. how.. haiz.. takper, i will tetap berdoa.
smalldreams
Active Member
These maid stories scare me
I really can't imagine having a helper...only if kes darurat I guess. First, I don't think I can live with an additional person at home. Privacy wise, habis. I think my #1kid will kena dera with the helper with his notty behaviour
Singapore is one of the countries with highest no of households with maids. This is the cost of economic growth. Mummies go out to work to earn $ and then maids bring our kids up & drive us mad sebab tak ikot simple instructions. What a pity, no offence to anyone ya...just some personal thoughts...
I really can't imagine having a helper...only if kes darurat I guess. First, I don't think I can live with an additional person at home. Privacy wise, habis. I think my #1kid will kena dera with the helper with his notty behaviour
Singapore is one of the countries with highest no of households with maids. This is the cost of economic growth. Mummies go out to work to earn $ and then maids bring our kids up & drive us mad sebab tak ikot simple instructions. What a pity, no offence to anyone ya...just some personal thoughts...
"This is the cost of economic growth. Mummies go out to work to earn $ and then maids bring our kids up & drive us mad sebab tak ikot simple instructions. What a pity, no offence to anyone ya...just some personal thoughts..."
how can that be offensive
its so true per
hope to get my soto ayam fix today
*crossing finger makcik forgetful dont serve me today*
how can that be offensive
its so true per
hope to get my soto ayam fix today
*crossing finger makcik forgetful dont serve me today*
wati
Active Member
SD, i am against having a maid. Nie maid was my dad's idea. Cuma maid tompang my house and under my name cos it will be cheaper cos i have a kid. My mum pun dah bersuara, she said..when her contract finish, we will not take anymore maid. My mum misses her privacy at home. Aku lagi miss my privacy at home. I miss doing housewerk jugak tau. LOL.
But my mum nie have more stories i think. Cos my mum does ironing, washing and cleaning of the cat's litter at her house even when it is the maid's job. Sebab dah ckp banyak kali she nvr do, so my mum end up buat sendiri. Kadang2 tgk my mum pun penat jugak. Padahal having a maid is suppose to help lighten her burden.
But my mum nie have more stories i think. Cos my mum does ironing, washing and cleaning of the cat's litter at her house even when it is the maid's job. Sebab dah ckp banyak kali she nvr do, so my mum end up buat sendiri. Kadang2 tgk my mum pun penat jugak. Padahal having a maid is suppose to help lighten her burden.
wati
Active Member
"This is the cost of economic growth. Mummies go out to work to earn $ and then maids bring our kids up & drive us mad sebab tak ikot simple instructions. What a pity, no offence to anyone ya...just some personal thoughts..."
yes..nothing offensive at all.. very true mah..
Im having nasi putih + ayam kicap for lunch. Hving them in abt 4 mins time. Enjoy yourselves ladies..
yes..nothing offensive at all.. very true mah..
Im having nasi putih + ayam kicap for lunch. Hving them in abt 4 mins time. Enjoy yourselves ladies..
isabella_akj
New Member
ya smalldreams, nothing offensive at all heehee.. cannot deny reality you see.. hee i always said i'd never get a maid.. but then end up noone can help me when i give birth.. so too bad.. i take care of baby.. maid take care of household chores.. but we are taking the maid for 6 months la.. i already spoke to the maid agency..
bonda,
having a maid is supposed to lighten up the burden.. your maid terbalik heehee.. okla i doakan everything gets better for you in time for the baby's arrival..
bonda,
having a maid is supposed to lighten up the burden.. your maid terbalik heehee.. okla i doakan everything gets better for you in time for the baby's arrival..
ClassyShimmers
Active Member
Wahhhh!!! Maid issues!! Few months ago I was very very stress with this 'chapter'...
My advise don't keep them if they are beginning to slack coz u'll end up scolding her more and when u started to scold her more, she'll start thinking everyday how to go against u silently..and can really drive u nuts!!
Wati
Dorang kalau kerja dag terlalu senang and when they get all tr benefits like nap, tidur siang segala, they want more!! Start la Tak leh makan Ni la itulah semua alasan..
My advise don't keep them if they are beginning to slack coz u'll end up scolding her more and when u started to scold her more, she'll start thinking everyday how to go against u silently..and can really drive u nuts!!
Wati
Dorang kalau kerja dag terlalu senang and when they get all tr benefits like nap, tidur siang segala, they want more!! Start la Tak leh makan Ni la itulah semua alasan..
wakey, wakey...
(in case everyone's sleepy after lunch!)
btw, you all read abt the major accident yesterday?
i feel a bit bad for b*tching abt the jam.
cos so happened, my hb who was on the roads, actually noticed the motorcyclist.
he said that the guy was going v fast and was like in a hurry.
next time he saw the bike, it was lying on the ground at tha accident scene!
so tragic!
(in case everyone's sleepy after lunch!)
btw, you all read abt the major accident yesterday?
i feel a bit bad for b*tching abt the jam.
cos so happened, my hb who was on the roads, actually noticed the motorcyclist.
he said that the guy was going v fast and was like in a hurry.
next time he saw the bike, it was lying on the ground at tha accident scene!
so tragic!
smalldreams
Active Member
Athlete
omigosh, yr hubby saw him in his last moments.
Wati you can go to asiaone.com.sg to read about it. It's really very unfortunate
omigosh, yr hubby saw him in his last moments.
Wati you can go to asiaone.com.sg to read about it. It's really very unfortunate
smalldreams
Active Member
Athlete
Try Growing Fun. Kat Parkway parade ada. kat Utd Sq ada. Adam used to love those!
The ToysRUs ones are too complicated lah.
I pon take time to do them, lol.
If you want I also have a discount card for Growing Fun. We could meet for lunch there if you want, hehehe...
Try Growing Fun. Kat Parkway parade ada. kat Utd Sq ada. Adam used to love those!
The ToysRUs ones are too complicated lah.
I pon take time to do them, lol.
If you want I also have a discount card for Growing Fun. We could meet for lunch there if you want, hehehe...
smalldreams
Active Member
athlete
Or anytime you can just swing by and I can pass you the membership card. U can return it the next time we meet, no problem. Then you can shop in peace.
This week is also verrry tight with me. Even next week too. Too many reports to clear.
Or anytime you can just swing by and I can pass you the membership card. U can return it the next time we meet, no problem. Then you can shop in peace.
This week is also verrry tight with me. Even next week too. Too many reports to clear.