ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?
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gute morgen!
anyone here today?
yesterday afternoon had vvv bad cramps.
sampai my hb cakap my face very pucat.
this morning, didn't have a good start.
sometimes i feel like i can't be a good mother AND a good wife at the same time.
something always gotta give.
SIgh...
Anyway, hope everyone's day will be much better than mine.
anyone here today?
yesterday afternoon had vvv bad cramps.
sampai my hb cakap my face very pucat.
this morning, didn't have a good start.
sometimes i feel like i can't be a good mother AND a good wife at the same time.
something always gotta give.
SIgh...
Anyway, hope everyone's day will be much better than mine.
morning... i'm here too but on biscuit mode - kejap ada, kejap takde.. studying for exams lah..
athlete, you have cramps every month ke?
did you go for a chk up or paps just to be sure all is clear?
bukan nak takutkan u ke apa la, just that my close gf had that and she always say its normal.. for many years she said its normal.. then after 5 years she had this extreme cramps and admitted herself to hosp A&E.
found out that she had 2 huge cyst and she was preg 8 wks.
cut the story short, she underwent a delicate surgery to remove the cysts (13cm!) and baby was not affected. She gave birth last month to a cute baby girl.
sorry eh i just had to share this story everytime i hear frens having bad cramps.
cos it happened to a close fren and it was a period of uncertainty for her.
athlete, you have cramps every month ke?
did you go for a chk up or paps just to be sure all is clear?
bukan nak takutkan u ke apa la, just that my close gf had that and she always say its normal.. for many years she said its normal.. then after 5 years she had this extreme cramps and admitted herself to hosp A&E.
found out that she had 2 huge cyst and she was preg 8 wks.
cut the story short, she underwent a delicate surgery to remove the cysts (13cm!) and baby was not affected. She gave birth last month to a cute baby girl.
sorry eh i just had to share this story everytime i hear frens having bad cramps.
cos it happened to a close fren and it was a period of uncertainty for her.
smalldreams
Active Member
Hiya ladies...
athlete
What to do..something's gotta give.
I feel a bit down too...maybe coz my HB isn't feeling too chirpy himself too.
athlete
What to do..something's gotta give.
I feel a bit down too...maybe coz my HB isn't feeling too chirpy himself too.
"sometimes i feel like i can't be a good mother AND a good wife at the same time.
something always gotta give.
SIgh...
"
sigh...same2... u cant be every1 at 1 time but u need to be some1 for every1 n cont the cycle...priortize? easy to say but kadang2 aku feel down jugak..
i need my 'me' time badly...
gd morning every1.....
something always gotta give.
SIgh...
"
sigh...same2... u cant be every1 at 1 time but u need to be some1 for every1 n cont the cycle...priortize? easy to say but kadang2 aku feel down jugak..
i need my 'me' time badly...
gd morning every1.....
smalldreams
Active Member
Good morning Cik Lina!
Nora
Apa khabar beb? Masih bingit dgn that malay organisation lagi?
Nora
Apa khabar beb? Masih bingit dgn that malay organisation lagi?
morning morning!
how's everyone?
Lina,
thanks, i feel better today.
the past few days, tgh pms, so emo bertambah sikit.
Not to mention, 1st few days without bibik to help out.
My mom stress = I stress
In the end, she gave in and got a another helper jugak.
Coming end of this month.
Hopefully, takde kerenah.
SD,
nora is literally a busy body these few weeks.
how are you also?
Still feeling down?
how's everyone?
Lina,
thanks, i feel better today.
the past few days, tgh pms, so emo bertambah sikit.
Not to mention, 1st few days without bibik to help out.
My mom stress = I stress
In the end, she gave in and got a another helper jugak.
Coming end of this month.
Hopefully, takde kerenah.
SD,
nora is literally a busy body these few weeks.
how are you also?
Still feeling down?
smalldreams
Active Member
athlete
I'm not down anymore lah. Life's too short to be down. Hahahaha! I just felt a bit low coz my HB is worried abt a lot of things, and somehow you can feel your other half's anxiety.
I'm going to the east later to meet a teacher...haiz... nak lunch apa eh...
Anyone went to the Robinson's Expo sale? I saw ada Little Tikes on sale...I wonder what they have. Tempted to get a ride on for the kids. The current one that Adam has, makes loud sounds when the wheels are rolling on the floor...
I'm not down anymore lah. Life's too short to be down. Hahahaha! I just felt a bit low coz my HB is worried abt a lot of things, and somehow you can feel your other half's anxiety.
I'm going to the east later to meet a teacher...haiz... nak lunch apa eh...
Anyone went to the Robinson's Expo sale? I saw ada Little Tikes on sale...I wonder what they have. Tempted to get a ride on for the kids. The current one that Adam has, makes loud sounds when the wheels are rolling on the floor...
hey gerls
perot lapar
but at the same time having gastric pain
arrghh.. stresss ni
i sooo pehdupp with that orgn bec sifat kemelayuan tu tak hilang
tetap malas
tetap takde initiative
nak kasi dorang barang cam kite begging them to take our things
tapi kalau buat konsert/hihg tea glamer wah no.1
terlaung laung mintak org derma
this kind of attitude really sucks la
name jer professional
get real
perot lapar
but at the same time having gastric pain
arrghh.. stresss ni
i sooo pehdupp with that orgn bec sifat kemelayuan tu tak hilang
tetap malas
tetap takde initiative
nak kasi dorang barang cam kite begging them to take our things
tapi kalau buat konsert/hihg tea glamer wah no.1
terlaung laung mintak org derma
this kind of attitude really sucks la
name jer professional
get real
Less than two weeks after the Downtown East murder of 19-year-old Darren Ng, another seven youths were slashed by parang-wielding men at Bukit Panjang on Monday night.
The victims, aged between 14 to 20, were assaulted in two separate incidents.
First, a 20-year-old assistant technician was slashed in the back and legs at around 10pm at Block 418 Fajar Road.
Later on, a group of 20 youths were surrounded and attacked near a street soccer court at Block 505 Jelapang Road — about 500 metres from the first incident.
The Straits Times reported that the attackers, believed to be a group of eight men, first asked their victims if they were from the gang “Pak Hai Tong”. When the victims denied the association, they were brutally hacked.
The gang also shouted “Sah Lak Kau” (Hokkien for “369″), the name of the gang linked to the Downtown East murder, before fleeing the scene.
The brutal attack left 20-year-old Jayasiva Shangar Guru hospitalised while the other six victims received outpatient treatment for their injuries.
Mr Jayasiva, who was walking home and was only 600m from his block, said from his hospital bed, “They asked me in Malay whether I was from the Pak Hai Tong gang… I said no.”
His response apparently did not matter as the men proceeded to verbally abuse him before pinning him to the ground and slashing him with their 16-inch long parangs.
“They pulled up my left leg and three guys started slashing me… I tried to struggle but was too shocked and helpless, I couldn’t open my mouth to shout for help,” he said.
The attack left Mr Jayasiva’s main artery and five tendons in his left limb damaged, and he is not expected to walk for the next six months. The assailants also stabbed him in the back before fleeing after a friend of his, who was jogging past, screamed for help.
Less than five minutes after that, the same group confronted a young group of about 20 youths at a street soccer court at Jelapang Road.
The group, which included a young boy who was only eight, had just finished playing soccer and were resting when they were suddenly set upon.
One of the group, who called himself Aaron told The New Paper, “None of us recognised them but they attacked us while we were sitting at the fitness corner during a break.”
The Sec 5 student added,”This group of six boys ran towards us with knives that were wrapped in aluminium foil in their hands. We thought they were fooling around, but then they said ‘Pak Hai Tong ah?’ and began hitting us before we could react.”
Another of the victims, Lucas Tan, 17, a Republic Polytechnic student, was slashed on his neck and needed seven stitches.
He said, “About seven of them were holding parangs and they whacked us. We tried to run but everything happened very fast.”
The victims have denied their involvement in any gangs.
Residents in the neighbourhood say the place is a common hangout for rowdy youth in their late teens who sleep overnight in the nearby playground.
“At times, they would hurl Hokkien vulgarities at each other in the wee hours of the morning,” said Ms Stella Koh, who has lived in Block 418 for six years.
The police are conducting investigations in to the attack.
Ng Boon Gay, director of the Criminal Investigation Department, said in a statement that such violent acts will not be tolerated by the police.
“We are determine to hunt down the perpetrators and see to it that they are dealt with to the fullest extent of the law, regardless of their age,” he added.
The victims, aged between 14 to 20, were assaulted in two separate incidents.
First, a 20-year-old assistant technician was slashed in the back and legs at around 10pm at Block 418 Fajar Road.
Later on, a group of 20 youths were surrounded and attacked near a street soccer court at Block 505 Jelapang Road — about 500 metres from the first incident.
The Straits Times reported that the attackers, believed to be a group of eight men, first asked their victims if they were from the gang “Pak Hai Tong”. When the victims denied the association, they were brutally hacked.
The gang also shouted “Sah Lak Kau” (Hokkien for “369″), the name of the gang linked to the Downtown East murder, before fleeing the scene.
The brutal attack left 20-year-old Jayasiva Shangar Guru hospitalised while the other six victims received outpatient treatment for their injuries.
Mr Jayasiva, who was walking home and was only 600m from his block, said from his hospital bed, “They asked me in Malay whether I was from the Pak Hai Tong gang… I said no.”
His response apparently did not matter as the men proceeded to verbally abuse him before pinning him to the ground and slashing him with their 16-inch long parangs.
“They pulled up my left leg and three guys started slashing me… I tried to struggle but was too shocked and helpless, I couldn’t open my mouth to shout for help,” he said.
The attack left Mr Jayasiva’s main artery and five tendons in his left limb damaged, and he is not expected to walk for the next six months. The assailants also stabbed him in the back before fleeing after a friend of his, who was jogging past, screamed for help.
Less than five minutes after that, the same group confronted a young group of about 20 youths at a street soccer court at Jelapang Road.
The group, which included a young boy who was only eight, had just finished playing soccer and were resting when they were suddenly set upon.
One of the group, who called himself Aaron told The New Paper, “None of us recognised them but they attacked us while we were sitting at the fitness corner during a break.”
The Sec 5 student added,”This group of six boys ran towards us with knives that were wrapped in aluminium foil in their hands. We thought they were fooling around, but then they said ‘Pak Hai Tong ah?’ and began hitting us before we could react.”
Another of the victims, Lucas Tan, 17, a Republic Polytechnic student, was slashed on his neck and needed seven stitches.
He said, “About seven of them were holding parangs and they whacked us. We tried to run but everything happened very fast.”
The victims have denied their involvement in any gangs.
Residents in the neighbourhood say the place is a common hangout for rowdy youth in their late teens who sleep overnight in the nearby playground.
“At times, they would hurl Hokkien vulgarities at each other in the wee hours of the morning,” said Ms Stella Koh, who has lived in Block 418 for six years.
The police are conducting investigations in to the attack.
Ng Boon Gay, director of the Criminal Investigation Department, said in a statement that such violent acts will not be tolerated by the police.
“We are determine to hunt down the perpetrators and see to it that they are dealt with to the fullest extent of the law, regardless of their age,” he added.
oh, i know.
heh, my cousin works there.
but let's just say we're not even "friends".
you know, not that i'm promoting or anything.
just to share
a friend actively volunteers at this buddhist charity org.
the hq also at paris.
the last time, i passed on bags n bags of shoes and clothes to him.
i can ask him for you if you want.
heh, my cousin works there.
but let's just say we're not even "friends".
you know, not that i'm promoting or anything.
just to share
a friend actively volunteers at this buddhist charity org.
the hq also at paris.
the last time, i passed on bags n bags of shoes and clothes to him.
i can ask him for you if you want.
smalldreams
Active Member
hmmm masih topic sama ke niari?
smalldreams
Active Member
Oh i nak tanya... anyone sending their 3 YO for enrichment classes, or phonics classes etc?
My son is in a 100% malay/muslim playschool, jadi am wondering, perlu tak masokkan dia kat sekolah phonics ke during weekends jadi dia boleh mingle with people other than malay children.
My son is in a 100% malay/muslim playschool, jadi am wondering, perlu tak masokkan dia kat sekolah phonics ke during weekends jadi dia boleh mingle with people other than malay children.
morning morning peah and athlete
my sis did send her kids to enrichment classes pre Pri 1
just to see if they can adapt to the mix environment
as usual kids can surprise u
they just carry on as normal la altho dorang pun been in iman from pg to k2
athlete
this non-talking issue
dun overthink it
u stress ur self jer
get him in sch
once dia dah mix .. dia will start to communicate
my sis did send her kids to enrichment classes pre Pri 1
just to see if they can adapt to the mix environment
as usual kids can surprise u
they just carry on as normal la altho dorang pun been in iman from pg to k2
athlete
this non-talking issue
dun overthink it
u stress ur self jer
get him in sch
once dia dah mix .. dia will start to communicate
ahhh... nikmat minum kopi...
abt kids, i think i read somewhere that they usually can't tell the diff between races etc.
its the parents who instill it in them.
so i think by nature, they're quite easily adaptable.
nora,
sigh, you know lah, once i open the pandora box i.e google and type "21 months not talking".
boleh jadi gila.
information overload.
abt kids, i think i read somewhere that they usually can't tell the diff between races etc.
its the parents who instill it in them.
so i think by nature, they're quite easily adaptable.
nora,
sigh, you know lah, once i open the pandora box i.e google and type "21 months not talking".
boleh jadi gila.
information overload.
wati
Active Member
Morning ladies...
Rindu kat korang ah.. I've been dealing with some mental stress.. rupa-rupanya im having prenatal depression.. Hahaha..Will be seeking professional help soon.
Anyway, Nora.. yg pasal persatuan tu, you tak complain ker ? Gie tulis kat forum BH lah.. just ask questions...
Athlete, dun stress pasal anak you belum pandai ckp... individual punyer progress lah dear.. nanti you stress for no reason..
SD, Maya has been attending Tumbletots since she is 8mth old. So now she attend preschool at masjid on Tues & Thurs, then Sunday i hantar dia to Tumbletots. She will learn phonics, table worksheets, art & craft, music and gym session. Quite good cos she mix well with her peers and she now can speak in short sentences alrdy. She will remembers letter, the sounds and words. Sekarang kalau tanyer dia, 'V' stands for ? She will say Volcano / Violin / Van / Vase...then she will put her fingers on her lower lips cos the teacher teach them to feel the vibration when they say the letter V.
Tapi now Maya is alone. So i masih boleh mampu. But not sure anak 2nd will get what she gets.
You can also try Zoophonics. I pun pernah hantar Maya during the school holidays. It was for 1 week. And it was fun too. Ada music, phonics, art&craft...for 1 week i paid $120. Ok kan?
Rindu kat korang ah.. I've been dealing with some mental stress.. rupa-rupanya im having prenatal depression.. Hahaha..Will be seeking professional help soon.
Anyway, Nora.. yg pasal persatuan tu, you tak complain ker ? Gie tulis kat forum BH lah.. just ask questions...
Athlete, dun stress pasal anak you belum pandai ckp... individual punyer progress lah dear.. nanti you stress for no reason..
SD, Maya has been attending Tumbletots since she is 8mth old. So now she attend preschool at masjid on Tues & Thurs, then Sunday i hantar dia to Tumbletots. She will learn phonics, table worksheets, art & craft, music and gym session. Quite good cos she mix well with her peers and she now can speak in short sentences alrdy. She will remembers letter, the sounds and words. Sekarang kalau tanyer dia, 'V' stands for ? She will say Volcano / Violin / Van / Vase...then she will put her fingers on her lower lips cos the teacher teach them to feel the vibration when they say the letter V.
Tapi now Maya is alone. So i masih boleh mampu. But not sure anak 2nd will get what she gets.
You can also try Zoophonics. I pun pernah hantar Maya during the school holidays. It was for 1 week. And it was fun too. Ada music, phonics, art&craft...for 1 week i paid $120. Ok kan?
smalldreams
Active Member
Athlete
Oh no.... you must be overwhelmed... but please try to calm yrself down. Think over and over again it's quite seen that boys may not be as fast as girls in many areas including language development.
Wait till he hits 24 mths, he'll start rattling off, really, just like that. But if by about 2 1/2 yrs or 3, still not talking much, you might want to start finding out more. Once he starts school he might also pick up things (sometimes you may not like, heh).
Athlete, Lina, Nora
from what I read during psych days, budak2 will learn to be conscious about race sometime when they are 4 yrs old. Tapi of course it's up to parents to further reinforce it.
Bonda
Aiseh man, how you know you kena prenatal dep? Is it thru google again? Do take care & banyak istighfar ok?
Thanks for sharing about the enrichment classes. Maya is so clever. I don't think Adam would know that. I tak pernah hantar dia to any enrichment classes except for once kat GUG, and I didn't like it much. Coz all the teacher did was talk loudly & in exagerrated pronounciations.
Zoophonics kat mana eh?
Sounds OK. $120 for a whole week of Mon - Friday activities? If yes, OK lah tu. If only once a week $120, it's totally mahal (to me).
I pon can't afford it for now. Still must pay off some $$ I owe the kids due to our house move. Insya-Allah by next yr bila dah stable sikit, I'll spend some time looking for some fun classes for Adam.
Oh no.... you must be overwhelmed... but please try to calm yrself down. Think over and over again it's quite seen that boys may not be as fast as girls in many areas including language development.
Wait till he hits 24 mths, he'll start rattling off, really, just like that. But if by about 2 1/2 yrs or 3, still not talking much, you might want to start finding out more. Once he starts school he might also pick up things (sometimes you may not like, heh).
Athlete, Lina, Nora
from what I read during psych days, budak2 will learn to be conscious about race sometime when they are 4 yrs old. Tapi of course it's up to parents to further reinforce it.
Bonda
Aiseh man, how you know you kena prenatal dep? Is it thru google again? Do take care & banyak istighfar ok?
Thanks for sharing about the enrichment classes. Maya is so clever. I don't think Adam would know that. I tak pernah hantar dia to any enrichment classes except for once kat GUG, and I didn't like it much. Coz all the teacher did was talk loudly & in exagerrated pronounciations.
Zoophonics kat mana eh?
Sounds OK. $120 for a whole week of Mon - Friday activities? If yes, OK lah tu. If only once a week $120, it's totally mahal (to me).
I pon can't afford it for now. Still must pay off some $$ I owe the kids due to our house move. Insya-Allah by next yr bila dah stable sikit, I'll spend some time looking for some fun classes for Adam.
wati
Active Member
Athlete, boys lambat sikit... Maya classmates yg boys pun byk yg diam jer.. yg bnyak mulut and actively singing and laughing are the girls.. Boys pemalu sikit.
SD, $120 for the whole week.. Mon to Fri. Zoophonics ada site..
www.zoophonics.com.sg
Call them and asked them to fax a copy of their programme list & price.
I kena prenatal blues cos of the everyday headache and frequent crying and emotionally stressed level. My gynae yg spot me. He look at me and he said i look so drained. Then he referred me to a the Woman Emotional Health Services (NUH).. to study my case.
SD, different kids diff development. I tgk Maya very the drama queen.. so in terms of her social behaviour, i got no worries. I cuma now worry abt her weight... LOL. Her BMI level is above average. And now pipi dia dah makin memboyot.. aiyoh...
SD, $120 for the whole week.. Mon to Fri. Zoophonics ada site..
www.zoophonics.com.sg
Call them and asked them to fax a copy of their programme list & price.
I kena prenatal blues cos of the everyday headache and frequent crying and emotionally stressed level. My gynae yg spot me. He look at me and he said i look so drained. Then he referred me to a the Woman Emotional Health Services (NUH).. to study my case.
SD, different kids diff development. I tgk Maya very the drama queen.. so in terms of her social behaviour, i got no worries. I cuma now worry abt her weight... LOL. Her BMI level is above average. And now pipi dia dah makin memboyot.. aiyoh...
wati
Active Member
Si Maya nie suka main princess2.. nasib baik dia tak suruh aku jadi dayang.. dia kasi aku 1 more crown and call me Queen.. hahaha... rantai yg dia pakai tu dia buat kat Tumbletots.. dia bangga oi pakai rantai tu..
Korang tengok lah pipi dia.. kan makin tembam.. lama2 dagu tak nampak nanti.. haiz..
Cos nie kan masalah dgn HB punyer in-laws which triggers it.. so certain things aku nk mengadu, i cant mengadu to him ...so it is so bad that tiap hari aku balik kerja, tgk muka dia jer..i become upset and angry cos terkenangkan his family.. haiz..kesian HB ku..
Anyway, i nk tanyer.... HB punyer top responsibility is who ?
His parents or his wife/kids?
Korang tengok lah pipi dia.. kan makin tembam.. lama2 dagu tak nampak nanti.. haiz..
Cos nie kan masalah dgn HB punyer in-laws which triggers it.. so certain things aku nk mengadu, i cant mengadu to him ...so it is so bad that tiap hari aku balik kerja, tgk muka dia jer..i become upset and angry cos terkenangkan his family.. haiz..kesian HB ku..
Anyway, i nk tanyer.... HB punyer top responsibility is who ?
His parents or his wife/kids?
athlete..ig i AMK punyer...
HB punyer top responsibility is who ?
keluarga dialah ie the wife n his kids...
mak dia kan ade laki dia...
je must know how to priortize...
kalau dia asyik fokus pat mak dia ajer then abaikan tanggung jawap sebagai suami\bapak..pon dah kire berdosa jugak...sebab isteri n anak pon amanah....
HB punyer top responsibility is who ?
keluarga dialah ie the wife n his kids...
mak dia kan ade laki dia...
je must know how to priortize...
kalau dia asyik fokus pat mak dia ajer then abaikan tanggung jawap sebagai suami\bapak..pon dah kire berdosa jugak...sebab isteri n anak pon amanah....
wati
Active Member
Tu lah... just 2 days ago, i dah fikir masak2 to discuss openly abt the issue that was bugging me. I try to talk diplomatically to my HB.
Aku bilang dia yg from now onwards, i need to save money for me, the kids and the future.. so i told him that maybe i can't help his family anymore...then he was quite taken aback lah. So aku start tanyer :
"Who is your top priority in your life?"
Parents or wife/Kids ? He said same responsibility.
Aku terus ckp "No!"
Aku cakap, your top responsibility is anak/bini.. not parents.. then i told him.. his parents both are working. And his mom still got his dad. Even adik lelaki dia pun tu tanggungjawab his dad and not his.
So he said, "Kalau i tak tolong dorang, sapa nak tolong?"
Aku ckp lah... kalau kita ada kemampuan, boleh lah tolong... but kalau anak/bini tak cukup pakai and makan..and yet you still help them.. tu kira dah berdosa besar sebab you abaikan tanggungjawab you as a husband. Dia diam jer..
aku tgk dia pun aku kesian..cos i know he wants to be a good son.
Then aku ckp lagi.. even if your dad dah takder... you mom is not your responsibility alone... the responsibility must be shared by 3 adik beradik lelaki... (Correct tak frens ?)
Tapi aku tgk HB aku nie mcm weak.. so i told him. Both parents working, we contribute every month and yet they always got no money even to go to the doctor or top-up EZ link. Tu kira lifestyle and they way they handle finance tak betul.. so must somehow teach them a lesson. And i told him, kalau his life with me and Maya is a burden, baik dia single..so his $$$ can go to his parents.
Mana aku tak stress...
Aku bilang dia yg from now onwards, i need to save money for me, the kids and the future.. so i told him that maybe i can't help his family anymore...then he was quite taken aback lah. So aku start tanyer :
"Who is your top priority in your life?"
Parents or wife/Kids ? He said same responsibility.
Aku terus ckp "No!"
Aku cakap, your top responsibility is anak/bini.. not parents.. then i told him.. his parents both are working. And his mom still got his dad. Even adik lelaki dia pun tu tanggungjawab his dad and not his.
So he said, "Kalau i tak tolong dorang, sapa nak tolong?"
Aku ckp lah... kalau kita ada kemampuan, boleh lah tolong... but kalau anak/bini tak cukup pakai and makan..and yet you still help them.. tu kira dah berdosa besar sebab you abaikan tanggungjawab you as a husband. Dia diam jer..
aku tgk dia pun aku kesian..cos i know he wants to be a good son.
Then aku ckp lagi.. even if your dad dah takder... you mom is not your responsibility alone... the responsibility must be shared by 3 adik beradik lelaki... (Correct tak frens ?)
Tapi aku tgk HB aku nie mcm weak.. so i told him. Both parents working, we contribute every month and yet they always got no money even to go to the doctor or top-up EZ link. Tu kira lifestyle and they way they handle finance tak betul.. so must somehow teach them a lesson. And i told him, kalau his life with me and Maya is a burden, baik dia single..so his $$$ can go to his parents.
Mana aku tak stress...