ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?

Morning ladies.
Lina, somehow this kinda articles really riled me up. Menggeramkan. Sometimes parents are too 'in love' to see the bad side of their partners sampaikan anak jadi macam gini. Which is more important? Cari kebahagian untuk diri sendiri atau memastikan anak-anak terdidik dan dijaga dengan baik?
Actually I just discussed with a friend about what Ive written above, few days ago. I have absolute respect for parents who stayed single after a divorce/ death and made sure their children grow up to be orang yang berguna.
 


Lina
Alamak..cerita sedih seh...
Padan lah tadi pagi kat warna ada something like this being discussed.

This family has other issues, it's not just abt the child abuse. The child is in a better place. Kalau tak, terus tersiksa kat dunia. Wallahualam.
 
<font color="0000ff">Lina
i felt soo sad tadi pagi bila baca paper pasal ni..!! and tis is not the first time cases like tis... mom's boyfren dera anak..!!

mcm betty cakap, it really make me wonder.. where is the mother bila anak2 ni kena dera..???</font>
 
Morning ladies...
Oh dear, such sad horrible news...
Seems like more and more of these kind of cases lately.
I tend to agree also, that for such families, think that the child is better off now.

I think of all those couples who are unable to have children of their own and will do anything to have a child.
And then there are those who can have them but don't treat them well.
Situations like this I wonder, why don't they just put up their kids for adoption...

On a side note, the other day, around 9pm, I heard the sound of baby crying outisde.
I looked out and at the multi-purpose hall, saw a teenager carrying a baby, who was not wearing anything except diapers.
Then a couple of her teenage friends, I assume, came over, with milk bottle and a stroller.
After giving the baby milk, she put the baby in the stroller.
Baby was quiet so I assume was sleeping.
Then they all proceeded to start smoking and play cards.
Felt a bit sad watching this scene...
 
athlete
tat's sad
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I have had encounters with similar profiles but
wouldn't be able to share them in such a public platform.

It's a sad social issue.
 
<font color="0000ff">athlete
dat kind of scene, really disturb me..

during Ramadan kemarin, bila both me and hb jln after iftar kat bazar.. boleh nampak byk these teenagers group carry or pushing stoller wit tots or babies..

and sad thing is, dorang gather lepak2 sambil hisap rokok, cakap maki2.. i feel for the kids. </font>
 
sedih nye..... tts y i try nt to fall in love again... i ragu2 other man will treat my doter like their own cz her own father sendiri tk... so I rather dedicate my time &amp; love for Shadiyah.. And I want her all for myself... HAHAHAHA! tk mau share! hehehe..
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Smalldreams,
Yup, I understand.

Just that, at that moment I looked at my sleeping boy and thought of the massive responsibilty that I have on my part to raise him well and to be the best he can be...
 
Yesterday i went to visit my neighbour who are conservative indian muslim family

he asked us, what is happening to the malays?

he's been seeing all these malay youngsters with tatoos and piercings?

we talked abt this for a while ..

i also asked them how is it that they maintained their culture and lifestlye?

why they are not influenced by the secular and mainstream?

they said its a way of life. they did not change form the methods that their father and mother taught them

they know the kids will be annoyed by their ways

but they rather the kids annoyed at them than be wayward


how to strike a balance??
 
Sri
You're very young. You still haven't experienced the joys, ups &amp; downs of marriage. If you meet a responsible man who's able to guide you &amp; provide for you &amp; Shadiyah, you might want to re-consider.

Just use the examples we see around us and aspire not to make the same mistakes. Nanti kalau you dah ada BF/partner, you mustn't trust him with Shadiyah alone selagi dia belum jadi your hubby or hasn't gained your trust. Only you as a mum boleh dipercayai. No offence yah, just my 2 cents
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Athlete
Sama lah. Sedangkan children with priviledged backgrounds, masih ada banyak lagi aspects parents nak kena juggle. Kasi makan, shelter is one thing. Teaching him the right values is another thing.
 
<font color="119911">abt tattoos &amp; piercing &amp; pakaian tak senonoh cam makin "beranakkan" amg our youngsters,

kkdg ku heran seh tgk camne dorang bleh lepas buat camtu? padahal kkdg theres parents with them seh.. n esp the elders pakai tudung for e mums.. dont e mum care? dont e dad care or kasi duit utk dorang buang tattoo tu? how do they discpline their kids? y did they resort to do all dat? cam menjijikan di mata kita tp setiap kali i saw them, il mengucap seh &amp; berdoa agar jauhkan anak2 dari ini smua?
r e parents keep gvg them face till spoilt them?

apa yg terjadi within my "bounds" mmg ada n byk.. even those anak luar nikah of tem pun n even e family can bcome so tunggang langgang seh.. ada ke e boy which is supp to be e cucu bt is being brought as anak instead n e mak of e boy call her kakak camne tu?</font>
 
smalldreams
tts wat my colleagues told me.. but it just me... nt ready yet to share our life wit a man... cz my life doesnt evolve me &amp; shadiyah jer.. hv to tink of Nur juga...

k, frankly... i takut if one day I happily married..den few yrs dwn the road my ex nk fight custody..for sure it will stress me up..I don want ltr HB will said smth like "ni la..kahwin ngan u byk prob!".... LOL! I know i shld tink positive but juz cant help it la...
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Well, for nw I'm very contented wit my life.... if dh jodoh tk ke mana...
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Sri
Betul, kalau dah jodoh insya-Allah you'll find the right person some day
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Tapi kenapa Nur jadi tanggungjawab you pulak? You already have Shadiyah under your wings. Isn't Nur yr sister's daughter?
 
lina
Apahal you nak date I ni? Bukannya I ni professor pandai mana pun :p

You interview budak2 yang tolak stroller at a young age lagi bagus. Be a good mentor to them. Sometimes what they need is just a positive role model...
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smalldreams...
i nak interview dorang...but takut dorang tak terima lak...

so i interview u lah.....*muke i pon tak pecah kena bedal*
 
<font color="0000ff">Lina
kau nak interview smalldream sorang je?? kau tak nak interview aku sekali??

**iye lah aku sedar siapa diri aku ni..** LOL</font>
 
How to strike a balace, note, this is just my POV:

I take in how my parents have have raised us.
We all went to what they called goverment-aided, catholic schools.
But pergi class ngaji, sembahyang jemaah frequently.
Parents were v strict abt school work.
Everynight, at 8 pm, its homework and revision on together, its mandatory.
If not, kena pukul dengan ruler.
And not just any flat ruler but the technical ruler, with 3D sides.
All the way until were in JC.
And we maintained a close family relationship, outings together, dinner together everyday, birthday celebrations etc...

I compare that to my Hb's family.
From young, they're not really a close family.
Basically from sec school onwards, kau buat hal kau, aku buat hal aku.
No monitoring of school work, no family outings and tak mesra as a family.

But thankfully, he and his brothers didn't really "stray".
But I can see how that kind of "non-family" environment can be harmful at this day and age.

Again, just my POV, don't mean to offend anyone...
 
lynn,
meh meh i nak interview u tapi hal lain...hihihihi

anak dara aku baru 10 years...but i feel that i got so much to tell her...but she is soooo young....
 
Tapi kan lina
kalau free, meet for lunch ah today :p
Unless you nak kena check mesen...hehehe...
we could meet in toa payoh or novena if you want
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""non-family" environment can be harmful at this day and age"

nie pon my POV....
non-family environment kids r at greater 'risk ' walaupon tak dinafikan...those close-knit family\strict agama pon r at risk too
 
smalldreams
I jaga nur when she still a NB... masa tu semua keje shift so left me &amp; her at hm... bonding very strg..dh mcm anak sendiri... I shld let go but nt the time yet... she still needs me... once my sis dh ada keje &amp; umah sendiri, I'll hand over the responsibility to her... soon i guess cz sis dh dpt surat frm HDB... hurhur...
 
<font color="119911">sri
dari dat dae act ku ni kepo nak tanya... u called Nur kakak2 is she kakak to shadiyah or setakat pangkat je eh? i also heran gak cam peah.. hehe</font>
 
Nshah
Oh..pangkat..since i preggie i dh latih dia panggil shadiyah adik... we live under one roof.. for 2yrs nur is the only 'child' in the family...confirm dia pampered kan.. kesian nanti if tiba2 ada satu lagi baby... jealous kang...and she attached to me...

so in order to make her understand the meaning of sharing...i train her to be a elder sister...a leader...hv to protect her lil sis.... give in mana yg patut...jgn lokek... etc2...
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smalldreams...

alamak today cannot...
i can meet for lunch at tao\payoh or novena...
we set another date eh....nanti i mail u....
 
athlete
entah lah tak tau nak lunch apa eh? Fast food pun macam sedap :p

yourself? briyani lagi ke?

Lina
Ouh, you sibuk angkat mesen ke hari ni? K insya-Allah
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smalldreams,
heh, its raining in loyang.
so looks like its gonna be either white sands or downtown east again...
dunno know what to have...

heh, anyone in the east nak lunch?
 
<font color="119911">athelte
alamak loyang raining?
hmm hope it wont prolong as im gg for lunch at ARNOLDs with mu, sis &amp; son ehhe a nice time to brg them out</font>
 
smalldreams
Nur going to 3yrs! cpt eh bdk2 ni membesar... :D Yup, shld be going to sch but sis lum make any plans.. i cant afford as sis still nt working.. so subsidy only $150 kan instead of $300? perit ahh... I enrol shadiyah in CC... insya'allah when she is 18mths under waiting list.... sigh..i ada bias sikit.. hehehe..feel unfair i noe..guilty as charged.. but my priority will always be Shadiyah... she needs me too..atleast nur ada mummy dia...
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tapi part lain i try to be fair eh... apa shadiyah ada, kakak dia pun ada...
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Sri
Yeah i agree with Nora, you're trying yr best for Shadiyah! Well done.

Anyway kalau you nak enrol Nur, she wouldn't qualify for the subsidy. Hopefully yr sis gets a job. A simple one would do so the fees wouldn't be so rabakzz.

Nora
You nak makan kat mana? :p
You selalu buy back ke lunch with coleagues?
 
Peah

i usually buy back bec its hard to get seats ah here

and i simply hate the tissue chopping technique

i go to cuppage plaza or tehbuilding next to it
these places got malay stall
 
<font color="119911">klah ladies
nak siap2 to go hehe tak da govt nak cabut siangs hehe

happy diwali, happy holiday, happy wkd </font>
 
selalu yg chop chop pakai tissue the women...

kalau i go out with my guy coligs....tak pernah dorang buat cam gitu....
 
hi sumer..!!

pasal chop chop tisu-
kenape eh bleh jadi habit?! i dun see those pat Orchard tau but once i step into RP or TPagar area its v norm. No offence la, cos i tak keje, isit necessary to chop w tisu? tak bleh ke kalo makan then jalan? knape nak lepak? if everyone just eat their meals, then jalan, i dun see the need for this tisu culture. Boleh jadi gaduh tau, esp btwn Singaporeans and foreigners. :p

Pasal masalah teenagers,
no komen lah cos like lina cakap, ade from close knit family or strong religious background pun bleh haywire... it all boils down to kids personality i suppose. so i believe everything sumer kene start and nurture from young.
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take my family, sumer perangai lain2 tapi sumer kluar dan dididik dari satu emak. mcmne nak explain tu? :p

Violence-
i tink kids nowadays are getting very violent. tak tau nk salahkan didikan dorang, tv or ... take for example eh, just few days ago, aku pass by tis teenage couple in school uniform, kene pukul and maki hamun by the teenage bf. lucky got one man masuk campur.. if not habis pompuan tu! and thats not the 1st time.. da 3,4 kali aku nmpk teenage gal being abused by the bf in public.
 
back form luch

punyer lah panas outside...


zu

i dun think they want to lepak
they wan to secure teh seat so that when they come back with their food dah ade seat

kat orchard pun ade lah...

dulu kat goldenshoe pple can be carrying their bowl or plate of food and just standing behind those seated to get that seat later

tu yg buat i malas nak lunch out
 
no lah nora.. i know.
tapi bleh suruh kawan dorang wait while they buy per. takkan sumer nak bli together then letak tisu...
so ugly la. mcm lina ckp, if the guys tak buat knape plak eh pompuan nk buat?
hehe... aku byk komen eh, skali nxt time kau nmpk aku buat mcm tu plak.
well, kalo in Rome, do wat the Romans do rite? :p

yah.. tadi pg hujan lebat.. now panas!
 
zu

yep yep ... betol kau cakap
if i go with a coliq we just tak turns to jage the seat

kalau sorang aku tapao la
 
i saw before also ...

but once i saw at mac d
these boys put their sch bags to chop

then this man with family act samseng
just took the seat
and put all the boys stuff on the floor

whn the boys came back
they told the family its their seat
the man started shouting at the boys
the boys back off and collectted their things
whicn the man had placed on the floor

the man's son had such a smug look on his face

see what example he's showing his kid
 


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