ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?

Morning all..

Athlete, i'm in the same boat as you. Tapi nie sumer namanya 'sacrifices'. Seriously, you can't have the best of both world kan ?

I used to have tonnes of friends before marriage. Keluar pergi makan, lepak, chit chat over the phone about everything. Tapi bila dah bergelar ibu, i realised that my priorities changed. Now i'm living for my hubby, baby and family. Kerja sebab nak carik rezeki, bukan career. I find that life is more fulfilling like this. At the end of your riwayat, i'm sure you tak nak menyesal yg you tak priorities those impt people in your life kan ?

Sometime, i do miss my friends. Whenever i meet up with them. They always say i've changed a lot. More melowed down. I used to be the clown in any event. Dorang ckp, that i'm losing my sense of humour lah, dah tak mcm Wati dulu.. blah blah.. and yes. These people are single. So dun be sad.

Just fikir yg you want to live a fulfilling live. I tak pernah menyesal about my sacrifices on my social life. Cos now, i jumpa this forum and i met so many mummies to share...
 


athlete,
cheer up lah. bila dah jadi mother memang macam gitu. i can empathize with what you're feeling. : )

it's only natural, sekarang kita dah jadi mommy, we have different priorities and outlook, especially kalau baru jer jadi mommy.

yes, memang you're still the same person with the same interests, likes and dislikes, tapi you've changed unconsciously, and your friends who are single will notice it the most, sebab the change is very obvious to them.

try keep your life balanced, have a mixed group of friends, some single, some married no kids, some married got kids...at least you can put on different hats for different groups of people.
 
Lynzi / Tania / Dan / Nshah / San / Athlete / Omnichups...

What are your plans for this weekend ? Mari kita share2..
 
wati, chups...

maybe i'm still new at this, but in terms of priorities as a mother, yes of cos its my baby's needs 1st.
but if his needs are perfectly met and it does give me some 'me' time, i feel like i should have that time for myself.
just that now, i don't really have anyone to spend that time with anymore.

the thing is i've never really been a v social type, even before baby.
i stick to 1 or 2 groups of friends and just meet up once in a while.
 
athlete,
that's a good start! when i have free time, which is verrrrrrry rare, by the way, i either spend it with my kekanda or 1 or 2 very close girlfriends.

with kekanda - it's date night. tengok movie lah or do the activities yang tak bleh buat kalau the boy is around. (and this includes "extra curricular activities" anywhere at home...heheh)

with my girlfriend - jalan gie shopping, duduk kat coffeebean to talk rubbish for hours, or gie salon. but mostly to talk and catch up.

and sometimes, i prefer to be by myself. just stay at home with a good book in bed with a bar of cadbury fruit and nuts.
 
<font color="119911">wati
wkd ni nampaknya no plans ah.. cuma kena pelan2 kemas baju utk alik kampung nanti.. lagipun my hub &amp; kids sick ah so most prob will jus MIL off besok to airport for her flight to KL then alik umah ah.. then cam biasa ah, kemas, cuci, gosok hehe</font>
 
wati,
this weekend kan last weekend before hari raya. apa lagi..kemas rumah lah! baaaaanyak yang nak kena buat. my tasklist are:

1. lipat baju yang bergunung
2. basuh baju yang berbukit
3. vacuum / mop lantai
4. basuh langsir yang tak tukar since last raya

dan banyak lagi ah....*help!!!!*
 
<font color="ff6000">athlete,
Don't feel sad. We're all here for you. =)

Wati,
Break-fast at in-laws place and afterhand, last kopek to find our sons needs before our new helper arrive.</font>
 
chups,
me too, but instead of cadbury fruit n nuts, mine wld be either time out or twix, and not forgetting a good cup of coffee!

wati,
sat- going to my new place, tunggu delivery of our new appliances.
sun- no plans, but Maybe, pegi buka rumah in laws. itu pun kalau my hb 'sound'.
 
<font color="119911">san
so which one u pilih? hehe bila dia mai?

athlete
not only u feel camtu, i tink most of us do lah babe, lagi for me kan since dah matair dgn my hub dulu, i lost contact dgn all my buddies tau.. nak2 e guys coz i mmg rapat dgn dorang smua coz dlm class tak byk pompuan bt byk guys so we r very close.. dorang helped me alot bt tulah dorang tgk me changed since dah matair so they stayed away &amp; i feel sedih w/o them seh bt slowly i try to let it go &amp; find newer frens </font>
 
Athele,

Don't feel sad we 're all friends here...
Cheer up...k bebe...

Wati,
Mlm ni
kemas rumah...
gosok baju sekolah &amp; raya..
Bsk..gi pasar ,
keluarkan tempat kuih &amp; gelas utk di basuh..
Lap tingkap rumah dll..
Sunday
Resting time ..he he....

Btw anyone keen to buy Mickey &amp; Minnie slippers
For boy &amp; gerls...
 
malam ni buat kek lapis...
besok werk ...after werk....baking lagi..
then malam nak kemas my room...

the rest of the rooms bibik da kemas....
SUN....last2 touch UP...

Dapur next Sat baru nak kemas...lepas masak raya....kalau kemas sekarang nanti takut berminyak...Carpet/cushion/cadar semua next Sat baru pasang..
 
<font color="aa00aa">athlete,
new mums always feel that way esp if most of the frens are single.
they wont quite undertstand that we are still the same even though we have family and kids now.
but soon enough, when they start having their own they will realise that they had the wrong perception.
my own bestie drifted away from me cos i got married and had a kid.
but now that she is married and giving birth anytime soon then she realised her mistake but i tak amik hati ah.

wati,
weekend plans eh?

sat:
sahur cuci baju n curtains
collect new curtains and go market
then send faiq for his phonics class
afternoon till evening, do my hair kat salon..hehe
sat iftar at my parents place.

sunday:
morning cuci baju faiq and cadar
evening send faiq for kindermusik
iftar at chai chee seafood with hubby's frens and their families</font>
 
Wow... Busy seh semua !

Ok.. seem like everyone will be bz for Raya. Aku pun tak keep track of the calendar... Haiz. Padahal this week ada hati pulak aku nak gie jalan2 dgn hubby and Maya.. Padahal rumah mcm tongkang pecah.

Seriously, i didn't realised about this week being the last weekend. Arrgghh !!! (Now im panicking)

So here are my list...almost similar to all...

1)Lipat baju / Gosok baju / Basuh baju / Buang baju yg dah not in used / Prepare baju raya and accessories.. gulp !

2) Tempat kuih dah kosong kan, cuma nak kena basuh and keringkan.

3) Clear store for tempat kuih and air botol / syrup.

4) Cuci tembok rumah and dapur.

5) Organize, organize and organize !!

6) Prepare speech mintak maaf to everybody.
 
Wow Lynzi... kau punyer rambut dari petang hingga ker maghrib seh.. Mesti nak buat beehive eh ?...

(Nie tak bleh jadi ah..aku pun nak gie repair rambut and kepala otak ku yg berdengung)
 
Aik, senyap jer.. sumer dah balik rumah ker ?
(Mana tahu korang just realised that there are just too MANY things to be done)
 
<font color="ff6000">Wati,
My parents kata...weekdays kita akan bergotong royong kemas rumah bit by bit cos wknds smua bz nk beli brng etc...

Hopefully, our new helper will be able to help us in some ways. Mesti syahdu kan beraya di famili baru.</font>
 
nshah, tania, lynzi,
thank you!
glad to know that others have gone thru and felt the same also
makes me feel somewhat 'normal', heh.

so fun dengar semua nak prepare rumah for raya...
actually come to think of it, previous years, at my own place, i didn't really do much prep also, cos was just me and hb, so rumah pun takde orang datang!
 
<font color="000000">Hello All!!!

Reporting from Tampines today...nak finish up my baking..doing macaroons and aiskrim biscuits..

tadi aft baking the first batch of macaroons, i pi testing 1..dah telan baru teringat aku posa!! Ya Allah...hehehe..sesungguhnye ku tak teringat!! but still continue with my puasa..

Lynzi,
transfer pon boleh, byr cash pon boleh..no hal..

Chups,
I stay Tampines..u can pm me if you need more info ok..
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Mas,

Betul, betul, betul... hehehe..

Dah mcm excited gitu eh... Lagi 8 hari kan kita berpuasa... Hmm... so fast !!!

Sigh* aku mcm confirm lepak seh..

So much things to do and so little time.
 
Noon semua!

Wah Notty
Envy nye I you kat rumah buat kuih! Tahun ni langsung I tak buat kuih. Tak terlarat!

Rezeki you lah dapat makan macaroons...heehhe...

Wati
Me too...time flies eh. 8 more days aje.
Actually I think this raya came too fast.
Haiz.... And sometimes I do dislike hari raya, keluar masok keluar masok rumah, penat badan!
 
Hi Notty,
Thanks for the chair and I love, love, love your kuih!!!
Btw, I dah planning, insya'allah, for my boy's 1st b'day / house-warming party, i nak order yr eclairs and milomisu....
 
Nottygal... sesungguhnya kau sengaja eh... notty tau dia... wish it was me.. LOL*

(suka cari chance nak TER makan jer)
 
<font color="000000">Wati

Malam:
Pi rumah Lina Bidadari, then off to JB..

Saturday:
Collect baju pat Joo Chiat Complex
Collect baju at Tpy Lor 2
Collect baju at Tpy Lor 8

Sunday:
Mengemas..nak bongkar dan buang ape2 yg patut!

Smalldreams,
reski ehh..lol</font>
 
<font color="aa00aa">wati,
i nak rebond, do treatment and cut my hair.
tu yg lama tu.
aniwei can only do after faiq's class so by the time i reach sembawang balik dah 12 plus..at least 4 hours tau kat salon tu..
nampak sah i will doze off..hehehe

my part time cleaner i suruh datang twice next week to betul2 bersihkan my house lagi.
so next week one of the days i will take half day leave.</font>
 
Wow.. betul punyer bergaya lah Cik Salmah kita...Nottygal lah tu... Sampai bersepah tempat nak gie amik baju...mesti baju kilat2 nie tau...

Reminds me, mlm nak kena try baju 2 tahun lalu. Kalau ketat, mampus aku..
 
<font color="aa00aa">notty,
malam ni nak pi rumah lina eh?
asal tak bilang siang2?
boleh tumpang kek i tak?
hehehe..tak tau malu betul aku ni eh..hehehe</font>
 
<font color="000000">Wati
mlm jgn lupa try tau!LOL!

Lynzi,
aku boleh hantar kat umah Lina tapi kau nak kena tanya Puan Lina dulu if she ok tak coz i hantar Mira's order to her oso...takot jam lak fridge dia or u compromise that ur orders will be collected by today lah fm her place...</font>
 
athlete and Mdm Wati,
Should not use the word 'sacrifices'.Should use the word 'commitment'. Sacrifices means you are unwillingly to do so...(with you own family after marriage). this is your commitment to your marraige life, you are committing on what you had chose. Isn't it?
 
<font color="119911">bestnya dgn bunyi ujan.. unfortunately ill b sitting here for e rest of e day bored seh..
tak bleh rest haiz..</font>
 
<font color="aa00aa">notty,
ah ah eh..aku punya sorang je dah 12 rolls..hehe
around what time will u reach rumah lina?
see whether i can make it around the same time and mit u kat bawah her blk..hehe

gerls,
i remembered some of u here ada pakai base from DMU yg buat muka not oily and makeup tahan lama..
apa nama benda tu eh?
i'm looking for one.</font>
 
<font color="119911">lynzi
im usin DMU's stick foundation, it holds my oil well &amp; thus wen ku malas ill jus wear that w/o any powder hehe..
her e/s base pun bagus</font>
 
<font color="aa00aa">nshah,
i'm not looking for the stick foundation.
maybe will try that after i have finished mine.
now i cuma nak look for makeup base je..saper eh yg pakai that time?</font>
 
<font color="119911">lynzi
DMU mana ada make up base babe?
u mean yg revlon nya make up base eh? i tink dats e girls yg pi geylang dat dae, naqi &amp; lynn ada buy
if u referring to DMU's product cuma e stick je ah</font>
 
<font color="aa00aa">smalldreams,
make up base is to use before using foundation.
stick foundation is just like any other foundation, just that it gives the most coverage among the other types of foundation.
if u want something natural-looking, use liquid foundation..ni least coverage.</font>
 
<font color="aa00aa">wati,
thanks dear.
i tanya lynn..she said she is using maybelline angel fit.

smalldreams,
no prob dear.
just sharing what i know je..hehe</font>
 
<font color="119911">lynzi
so tul kan lynn kan yg use e make up base? bukan from DMU ah dear hehe
mayb i shld get 1 too ah since lynn &amp; naqi ckp gd</font>
 
Hola.. back from Solat.

Mira, yes. i agree.. commitment and sacrifices works hand in hand... sacrifice as in sometime you got something planned with your galpals, but then last min, family needs you.. so you sacrifice and made a decision.
 


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