ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?
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Gathering:-
Dress code: Maternity outfit (Compulsory)
Date: 29th May 09, Fri
Time: 6pm onwards (Dinner Buffet?)
Venue: Sakura, Orchard Building
1. Shahlynn
2. Mamaliz
3. Nora Aw
4. Momma_naqi
5. Notty
6. Lina
7. Tania4
8. Danryan
9. Bettybad
10.Wati
11.Hanasan
12.zu
13. Madem
Oit! Serious ah maternity outfit?
Gathering:-
Dress code: Maternity outfit (Compulsory)
Date: 29th May 09, Fri
Time: 6pm onwards (Dinner Buffet?)
Venue: Sakura, Orchard Building
1. Shahlynn
2. Mamaliz
3. Nora Aw
4. Momma_naqi
5. Notty
6. Lina
7. Tania4
8. Danryan
9. Bettybad
10.Wati
11.Hanasan
12.zu
13. Madem
Oit! Serious ah maternity outfit?
momma_naqi
Active Member
JTS
Why your child has temper tantrums
A temper tantrum is the emotional equivalent of a summer storm — sudden and sometimes fierce. One minute you and your child are in a restaurant enjoying your dinner, the next minute he's whimpering, whining, and then screaming at the top of his lungs because his straw is bent. Children between the ages of 1 and 3 are especially prone to such episodes.
Though you may worry that you're raising a tyrant, take heart — at this age, it's unlikely that your child is throwing a fit to be manipulative. More likely, he's having a meltdown in response to frustration. Claire B. Kopp, professor of applied developmental psychology at California's Claremont Graduate University, attributes much of the problem to uneven language skills. "Toddlers are beginning to understand a lot more of the words they hear, yet their ability to produce language is so limited," she says. When your child can't express how he feels or what he wants, frustration mounts.
How to handle a tantrum
Don't lose your cool. A tantrum is not a pretty sight. In addition to kicking, screaming, or pounding the floor, your toddler's repertoire may include throwing things, hitting, and even holding his breath to the point of turning blue. When your child is swept up in a tantrum, he's unlikely to listen to reason, though he will respond — negatively — to your yelling or threatening. "I found the more I shouted at Brandon to stop, the wilder he would get," says one mother of a 2-year-old. What worked instead, she discovered, was to just sit down and be with him while he raged.
Staying with your child during a tantrum is a good idea. Stomping out of the room — alluring as that may be — can make him feel abandoned. The storm of emotion he's going through can be frightening to him, and he'll appreciate knowing you're nearby. Some experts recommend picking up your child and holding him if it's feasible (i.e., he's not flailing too much), saying he'll find your embrace comforting. But others say it's better to ignore the tantrum until your child calms down, rather than rewarding negative behavior. Through trial and error, you'll learn which approach is right for your child.
Remember that you're the adult. No matter how long the tantrum continues, don't give in to unreasonable demands or negotiate with your screaming toddler. It's especially tempting in public to cave in as a way of ending the episode. Try not to worry about what others think — anyone who's a parent has been there before. By conceding, you'll only be teaching your child that throwing a fit is a good way to get what he wants, and setting the stage for future behavior problems. Besides, your child is already frightened by being out of control. The last thing he needs is to feel that you're not in control either.
If your child's outburst escalates to the point where he's hitting people or pets, throwing things, or screaming nonstop, pick him up and carry him to a safe place, such as his bedroom. Tell him why he's there ("because you hit Aunt Sally"), and let him know that you'll stay with him until his negative behavior stops. If you're in a public place — a common breeding ground for tantrums — be prepared to leave with your child until he calms down.
"When my daughter was 2, she had an absolute fit at a restaurant because the plain spaghetti she ordered arrived with chopped parsley on it," recalls one mother. "Although I realized why she was upset, I wasn't about to let her disrupt everyone's dinner. I took her outside until she calmed down."
Talk it over afterward. When the storm subsides, hold your child close and talk about what happened. Acknowledge his frustration, and help him put his feelings into words, saying something like, "You were very angry because your food wasn't the way you wanted it." Let him see that once he expresses himself in words, he'll get better results. Say with a smile, "I'm sorry I didn't understand you. Now that you're not screaming, I can find out what you want."
Try to head off tantrum-inducing situations. Pay attention to what situations push your child's buttons and plan accordingly. If he falls apart when he's hungry, carry snacks with you. If he has trouble making a transition from one activity to the next, give him a gentle heads-up before a change. Alerting him to the fact that you're about to leave the playground or sit down to dinner ("We're going to eat when you and Daddy are done with your story") gives him a chance to adjust instead of react.
Your toddler is grappling with independence, so offer him choices whenever possible. No one likes being told what to do all the time. Saying, "Would you like corn or carrots?" rather than "Eat your corn!" will give him a sense of control. Monitor how often you're saying "no." If you find you're rattling it off routinely, you're probably putting unnecessary stress on both of you. Try to ease up and choose your battles. Would it really wreck your schedule to spend an extra five minutes at the playground? And does anybody really care if your tike wears mismatched mittens?
Watch for signs of overstress. Although daily tantrums are a perfectly normal part of the mid-toddler years, you do need to keep an eye out for possible problems. Has there been upheaval in the family? An extremely busy or harried period? Tension between Mom and Dad? All of these can provoke tantrums. If after the age of 30 months your child is still having major tantrums every day, talk to your doctor. If your child is younger than 30 months and has three or four tantrums a day and isn't cooperating with any routines, such as getting dressed or picking up toys, you also may want to seek help. Your doctor can make sure your child has no serious physical or psychological problems and suggest ways to deal with the outbursts. Also, talk to your doctor if your child has frightening breath-holding spells when he gets upset. There's some evidence that this behavior is linked to an iron deficiency
Why your child has temper tantrums
A temper tantrum is the emotional equivalent of a summer storm — sudden and sometimes fierce. One minute you and your child are in a restaurant enjoying your dinner, the next minute he's whimpering, whining, and then screaming at the top of his lungs because his straw is bent. Children between the ages of 1 and 3 are especially prone to such episodes.
Though you may worry that you're raising a tyrant, take heart — at this age, it's unlikely that your child is throwing a fit to be manipulative. More likely, he's having a meltdown in response to frustration. Claire B. Kopp, professor of applied developmental psychology at California's Claremont Graduate University, attributes much of the problem to uneven language skills. "Toddlers are beginning to understand a lot more of the words they hear, yet their ability to produce language is so limited," she says. When your child can't express how he feels or what he wants, frustration mounts.
How to handle a tantrum
Don't lose your cool. A tantrum is not a pretty sight. In addition to kicking, screaming, or pounding the floor, your toddler's repertoire may include throwing things, hitting, and even holding his breath to the point of turning blue. When your child is swept up in a tantrum, he's unlikely to listen to reason, though he will respond — negatively — to your yelling or threatening. "I found the more I shouted at Brandon to stop, the wilder he would get," says one mother of a 2-year-old. What worked instead, she discovered, was to just sit down and be with him while he raged.
Staying with your child during a tantrum is a good idea. Stomping out of the room — alluring as that may be — can make him feel abandoned. The storm of emotion he's going through can be frightening to him, and he'll appreciate knowing you're nearby. Some experts recommend picking up your child and holding him if it's feasible (i.e., he's not flailing too much), saying he'll find your embrace comforting. But others say it's better to ignore the tantrum until your child calms down, rather than rewarding negative behavior. Through trial and error, you'll learn which approach is right for your child.
Remember that you're the adult. No matter how long the tantrum continues, don't give in to unreasonable demands or negotiate with your screaming toddler. It's especially tempting in public to cave in as a way of ending the episode. Try not to worry about what others think — anyone who's a parent has been there before. By conceding, you'll only be teaching your child that throwing a fit is a good way to get what he wants, and setting the stage for future behavior problems. Besides, your child is already frightened by being out of control. The last thing he needs is to feel that you're not in control either.
If your child's outburst escalates to the point where he's hitting people or pets, throwing things, or screaming nonstop, pick him up and carry him to a safe place, such as his bedroom. Tell him why he's there ("because you hit Aunt Sally"), and let him know that you'll stay with him until his negative behavior stops. If you're in a public place — a common breeding ground for tantrums — be prepared to leave with your child until he calms down.
"When my daughter was 2, she had an absolute fit at a restaurant because the plain spaghetti she ordered arrived with chopped parsley on it," recalls one mother. "Although I realized why she was upset, I wasn't about to let her disrupt everyone's dinner. I took her outside until she calmed down."
Talk it over afterward. When the storm subsides, hold your child close and talk about what happened. Acknowledge his frustration, and help him put his feelings into words, saying something like, "You were very angry because your food wasn't the way you wanted it." Let him see that once he expresses himself in words, he'll get better results. Say with a smile, "I'm sorry I didn't understand you. Now that you're not screaming, I can find out what you want."
Try to head off tantrum-inducing situations. Pay attention to what situations push your child's buttons and plan accordingly. If he falls apart when he's hungry, carry snacks with you. If he has trouble making a transition from one activity to the next, give him a gentle heads-up before a change. Alerting him to the fact that you're about to leave the playground or sit down to dinner ("We're going to eat when you and Daddy are done with your story") gives him a chance to adjust instead of react.
Your toddler is grappling with independence, so offer him choices whenever possible. No one likes being told what to do all the time. Saying, "Would you like corn or carrots?" rather than "Eat your corn!" will give him a sense of control. Monitor how often you're saying "no." If you find you're rattling it off routinely, you're probably putting unnecessary stress on both of you. Try to ease up and choose your battles. Would it really wreck your schedule to spend an extra five minutes at the playground? And does anybody really care if your tike wears mismatched mittens?
Watch for signs of overstress. Although daily tantrums are a perfectly normal part of the mid-toddler years, you do need to keep an eye out for possible problems. Has there been upheaval in the family? An extremely busy or harried period? Tension between Mom and Dad? All of these can provoke tantrums. If after the age of 30 months your child is still having major tantrums every day, talk to your doctor. If your child is younger than 30 months and has three or four tantrums a day and isn't cooperating with any routines, such as getting dressed or picking up toys, you also may want to seek help. Your doctor can make sure your child has no serious physical or psychological problems and suggest ways to deal with the outbursts. Also, talk to your doctor if your child has frightening breath-holding spells when he gets upset. There's some evidence that this behavior is linked to an iron deficiency
<font color="0000ff">Shahlynn
serious lah.. ingat main2 ke...
part "Dress code: Maternity outfit (Compulsory)" tu must put big2 font..!!
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Gathering:-
<font size="+2">Dress code: Maternity outfit (Compulsory) </font>
Date: 29th May 09, Fri
Time: 6pm onwards (Dinner Buffet?)
Venue: Sakura, Orchard Building
1. Shahlynn
2. Mamaliz
3. Nora Aw
4. Momma_naqi
5. Notty
6. Lina
7. Tania4
8. Danryan
9. Bettybad
10.Wati
11.Hanasan
12.zu
13. Madem
</font>
serious lah.. ingat main2 ke...
part "Dress code: Maternity outfit (Compulsory)" tu must put big2 font..!!
- Updated -
Gathering:-
<font size="+2">Dress code: Maternity outfit (Compulsory) </font>
Date: 29th May 09, Fri
Time: 6pm onwards (Dinner Buffet?)
Venue: Sakura, Orchard Building
1. Shahlynn
2. Mamaliz
3. Nora Aw
4. Momma_naqi
5. Notty
6. Lina
7. Tania4
8. Danryan
9. Bettybad
10.Wati
11.Hanasan
12.zu
13. Madem
</font>
smalldreams
Active Member
hello mommiesss...
do you all believe in Your Baby Can Read DVDs? Do you think it works? Comments?
do you all believe in Your Baby Can Read DVDs? Do you think it works? Comments?
wati
Active Member
Smalldreams... i have that. And it works on Maya. After 1 time, she understand some words. Tapi mcm abit fast tau. They way it potray mcm abit like photographic memory and copycat mode lah.. So they will repeat the words in different colours and backgrounds, action and picture..
smalldreams
Active Member
Lynn
biar betik seh kene pakai maternity clothes? Coincidentally I just found my maternity clothes stash 2 days ago, when my brother was clearing our room for his own use.
biar betik seh kene pakai maternity clothes? Coincidentally I just found my maternity clothes stash 2 days ago, when my brother was clearing our room for his own use.
smalldreams
Active Member
Wati
That's cool. U start Maya when she was how old? Entah eh, I rasa mcm tak mo subject my kids to that, but many pple say it works wonders. I do wonder though, if the kids will get bored of learning since baby dah kena ajar baca...hehe... but then again it'll give them a headstart too...
so Maya dah master all the DVDs?
That's cool. U start Maya when she was how old? Entah eh, I rasa mcm tak mo subject my kids to that, but many pple say it works wonders. I do wonder though, if the kids will get bored of learning since baby dah kena ajar baca...hehe... but then again it'll give them a headstart too...
so Maya dah master all the DVDs?
<font color="119911">NAw
hehe ingat gak awak ye.. jadi-jadian ah hehe.. i tink still need improvement ah i ikut style mas.. cuma dlm nya kosong hehe coz end up i goreng telur ceplok then itu lauk kicap jadi cam kuah.. ok lah btr than nothing.. goes with sambal belacan, papadam & sm hotdogs hehe simple dinner</font>
hehe ingat gak awak ye.. jadi-jadian ah hehe.. i tink still need improvement ah i ikut style mas.. cuma dlm nya kosong hehe coz end up i goreng telur ceplok then itu lauk kicap jadi cam kuah.. ok lah btr than nothing.. goes with sambal belacan, papadam & sm hotdogs hehe simple dinner</font>
<font color="0000ff">Heloo Lina...
kita pun windu2 kat u... takde maternity wear? pinjam je nora a or shahlynn punya.. hehe
shahlynn
sempat korang merayap kejap ehh
for me kluar keje 4.45/5pm.. hb tunggu kat eunos 5.30.. by 5.45pm sampai rumah.. and kita punya dinner mesti kat rumah.. tak boleh makan luar.. sob sob!!</font>
kita pun windu2 kat u... takde maternity wear? pinjam je nora a or shahlynn punya.. hehe
shahlynn
sempat korang merayap kejap ehh
for me kluar keje 4.45/5pm.. hb tunggu kat eunos 5.30.. by 5.45pm sampai rumah.. and kita punya dinner mesti kat rumah.. tak boleh makan luar.. sob sob!!</font>
Good day, mummies.
Shahlynn,
You went to Lot 1 yesterday eh. I was there too. I went to the popular bookshop to collect a stoy books for my son. And want to buy a thermometer for my daughter. I sent to 4-5 shops and all sold out. I went to kiddy palace. they have a few but cost S$20++. I feel too ex and didn't buy.
Shahlynn,
You went to Lot 1 yesterday eh. I was there too. I went to the popular bookshop to collect a stoy books for my son. And want to buy a thermometer for my daughter. I sent to 4-5 shops and all sold out. I went to kiddy palace. they have a few but cost S$20++. I feel too ex and didn't buy.
wati
Active Member
Smalldreams.. for Maya it works. Tapi i feel mcm kesian pun ada tau. Cos once i bukak the DVD mcm Maya kena hypnotise tau.. Mata dia glued to the tv sampai habis.. then bila you ask her like... "Arms Up" "Arms Down" sumer dia tahu... A lot of things lah that she manage to catch. But so far, ok lah.. i dun ON the Dvd everyday lah... Practice weekends jer.. so far so good.
momma_naqi
Active Member
shahlynn,
jelingan kau yg tajam ke or yg tumpul
jelingan kau yg tajam ke or yg tumpul
*toink* Lynn
Mas,
jelingan tajam berbaur benci!!!!!
Mira,
i was there @ 6. Hubby said he wanted to buy his pen @ Popular. But actually carik chance to meet me earlier...
Lynn,
yest mom cooked my faveret, but not his.
Sup tahu kering + fishball, cencaru bakar & sambal kicap & sambal belimbing.
so i just teman him makan nasi ayam..
Mas,
jelingan tajam berbaur benci!!!!!
Mira,
i was there @ 6. Hubby said he wanted to buy his pen @ Popular. But actually carik chance to meet me earlier...
Lynn,
yest mom cooked my faveret, but not his.
Sup tahu kering + fishball, cencaru bakar & sambal kicap & sambal belimbing.
so i just teman him makan nasi ayam..
momma_naqi
Active Member
**Mas,
jelingan tajam berbaur benci!!!!! ***
kau kecik seh hati aku....yelah aku sedar siapa diri aku ni...da lah tu nak kena ada exclamation marks!!!!!! banyak2 !!!!!!!!
jelingan tajam berbaur benci!!!!! ***
kau kecik seh hati aku....yelah aku sedar siapa diri aku ni...da lah tu nak kena ada exclamation marks!!!!!! banyak2 !!!!!!!!
momma_naqi
Active Member
macam nak melelh air mata aku...
notty,
thanks eh ..akan aku letak inai...
nora,
kata jeling tajam...so sampai lah ke changi
notty,
thanks eh ..akan aku letak inai...
nora,
kata jeling tajam...so sampai lah ke changi