ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?

senang cakap yur gf nya hubby...
habis madu sepah dibuang.....kalau budak2 young punks cakap kan...hmmmm tau puaskan nafsu je da dapat yg baru yg lama dia ignore....sorry kalau ada yg tersinggung
 


San,

As what everyone here feels, its best to ask her to try and calm herself for the baby's sake.

Once she habis pantang ask her to proceed with the report to Mahkamah. From there they will advise her accordingly on the proper procedure if she really wants a separation.

Hopefully she and the baby will be fine till then, Insya Allah with all the doa from kind mummies here ~~
 
San, Agree with Shahlynn.
I understand her feeling cos deep in her heart she might still cannot accept what has happen and because of the anger she cannot put it down maybe she feel what has she done wrong that her HB done all these to her. No point of blooding over on what this man had done. No use and no point. In this point of time she should think more for the BB whom is going to come to this world. The rest wait till after confinement(If can) Take care of the BB and herself first. Put this man aside first. Don't think so much.
 
I notice that its always the case - when the married son has another woman the mother will try to hide the truth from her daughter-in-law even though she knows about it. *Sad but really true and I've seen it happen too*

So ladies, all of us here with caring and responsible husband, don't take things for granted and treasure him. We should be thankful for that alone
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Typical mothers (ahem kite pun mothers eh)
susah nak nampak kesalahan anak sendiri whn it comes to marital woes

My fren hb main kayu tiga with pompuan pinoy kat kelab, balik rumah 3-4 pagi mabok

my fren bawak her mil home to witness perangai anak dia dgn mate kepala sendiri

bile my fren report mahkamah and sedare mara got to know abt it

the MIL tukar story yg my fren bohong, dia cakap anak
dia balik lambat bec of extra work to support anak bini.
 
naqi,
young punks tak cakap gitu la! dorang cakap lagi tak sensor.. "dah main, tinggalkan!"
sorie eh... hehehhe


San,
mak ai! mak dia pun sama tak sedap!!
in the 1st place, yg sampai byk hutang tu saper? the wife or the hubby? and tolong langsaikan hutang saper?
thing is, he is NOT remorseful. period. can things get better if he comes back for the sake of coming back?
her kids are better off with her alone la, since he cant be bothered with them
 
betul betul betul....
juz ignore wateva da jantan is doing....

1 thing ingat Allah n ingat bayi yg dia tgh kandungkan....

The baby is the most inportant thing ...first priority.....the rest are all secondary...

Let the baby taste seeing the world happily n smoothly...

Bab baby ni ada sikit punya touching eh....ishhh

But I salute yur fren coz she can really pull thru this far....Kalau I ...i rasa I juz go to my mum n bro je...
 
<font color="ff6000">Thank u my lovelies. I got the picture more or less from here and will share with her later after working hours since we'll be having dinner together.

Yes, I would agree so. Her husband's not remorseful after helping him clear his debt. W/o my gf's help, he would be declared as bankrupt person by last Nov.

Shooting abt her being strong, yes she is. I wonder if I am the one in her place, I dun thnk so I can pull tru or either way, stranded like a not-so-normal-person...*sigh*

Iktibar utk semua -- i'm learning and take it as an example to move on. Never easy as ABC.</font>
 
Cik Zainab,

I agree lor. My MIL also like that. I remember that one of my BIL whom had divorce partially because of my MIL mouth. During the the proceed my MIL keep saying that the wife have boyfirend that why MY BIL want to divorce. But the wife told me that she saw my BIL with another girl. I ask her to told to my BIL without MY MIL involve lah. But she don't want. So end up divorce. Till now my MIL still talk bad abt that Ex DIL. Aiyoo, sometime I cannot stand. My MIL always talk bad abt her DIL and SIL..inculding me.
She even told my children that I have a boyfriend outside years back....luckily my husband understand me cos I awlays inform him who I go out with. Even a man who is my good firend only loh.
 
Mira,

Sometimes I just wonder some people are like that, always denying facts and talking bad about others especially their daughter-in-law. Luckily your hubby understands you.

Just give her the due respect and try to avoid conflicts so as to have a peaceful relationship.

San,

To someone in need even a little help will be greatly remembered, yang penting kita ikhlas membantu.
 
<font color="119911">san
apa pun i tink now ur fren focus on her delivery wld b gd enuff.. dah sihat nanti then go all out for her rites.. hope she tabah till e baby is born hope she wont b suffering from post natal depression</font>
 
mira,
dats the irony... we husband &amp; wife okay, understand each other, but outsiders kaypoh.
i'm not afraid of being caught going out with any male frens or colleagues, coz i always inform my hubby beforehand. and if i'm having lunch, i will SMS him to say i'm here, with so-so.

so far, alhamdulillah, i havent face anything like dat.
 
Mira

My MIL also same whn come to BIL case

Now me and hb not so stupid. She tells us any stories we take it with a pinch of salt.
Cannot believe 100%

Last time we believe her, we subahat in the fitnah
 
<font color="ff6000">Nshahi,
I hope so. We can only encourage her to be strong to face at this critacl stage. Insyllh, she'll be able to.</font>
 
San,

Biarkan ajer and let them tanggung dosa.

Nora,

True, the more we listen to her and belief in her stories the merrier she'll be. So just ignore her and let her feel that you are not interested to listen.
 
San,
u ask her...
- wat can she see herself doing without him
- if she get to have things go her way, wat does she want
- wat she expect to achieve at the end of the day?

teruk2 dia, susah2 dia, ada orang lain yg kat luar tu, lebih susah dari dia. so apa yg dia dapat, tak seberapa. if its really hard on her, Allah wouldnt have imposed on her. She would be lying on a bed of roses and enjoying life rite now. but Allah wants her to realise her strength.
Dont despair. Things happens for a reason, remind her
 
<font color="ff6000">Latest news...my gf just called me telling her MIL marah-marah dia said orang luar sengaja nk rosakkan rumah-tangga anak dia. Even said my gf nie pembohong!

What the #$@$!!!

Anak dia jadi orang ke-3 utk selesaikan hutang tai****. Kononnya nk tolong byrkan kwn dia $3000 tapi makan sndri $$$ tu. Now his mom kata, anak dia tk buat benda2 tu smua semata-mata kerana $$$ + tak bersalah dimana-mana pihak unless that person can send in evidence!</font>
 
kesihan hear this kinda case. have a fren going thru it too.actually she overseas alone with hubby&amp; baby - fly back home coz cannot take it already. no support there.May God give them the strength to deal with it insya allah
 
Cik Zainab,
Thanks for your advice. I always respect her. some time I don't want to chit with her often because I do not want to have bad impression of her. This is to maintance my respect to her. Recently, one of her son, now working for my husband, always fly to Jakarta for no reason. Sometime go for few weeks to a month. Last time, every twice a week go to Batam and stay for a few days. Alone OK. The wife cannot say anything. Every time he fly or go batam, his wife will keep calling my husband in order to know where is her husband because her husband will not pick up her call even pick up also scold her. I told my husband sure got something over there. I suspect a woman. Because he do not want to tell my husband the reason of going there said meet friend or said help my husband sell machine but every time come back ... Aiyoo spend ticket to go there meet friend... how to believe leh... if man want to hide...they can do lots of things....
 
San,

I think you mentioned that your friend hired a PI and have evidence - am I right? If so, ask her to keep it safely so she can produce to the court if asked to do so.
 
<font color="ff6000">Cik Nab,
That issue no prob. Atas evidence yg ada, MIL and her hub have no say anymore.
But this is another news that I'm sharing. It's like telling my gf to selesaikan $3000 yg dimaksudkan her hub telan $$$ kwnnya.

Her MIL still stick that her son is a good son.</font>
 
San,
I don't quite understand what you said. But MIL are like that. Always side own children lah.children-in-laws always wrong. i wonder when i go old will be like that or not...hehehe...
 
SAN,
tell ur fren, if her MIL calls back, ask her nicely, "Eh Makkkk.... mak apa khabar? lama tak dengar khabar berita mak... Mak jgn lupa makan ubat tau.. Okay, bye. assalammualaikum, Mak"

hehehhe
 
<font color="ff6000">Mira,
Her MIL shoot at my gf via hp saying she's a liar and the outsiders (her friends and her hub's campmates) purposely want her son to seperate with my gf. If really her son eat up the $3k, must have evidence and she'll pay back. Telling my gf that her son is a good man who won't eat over $$$.

But if things involved tai****, how to hav evidence?</font>
 
<font color="ff6000">Shahlynn,
Oits...kang lagi satu issue kluar.
Frankly my gf dah malas nk angkat tepon just to ans her MIL's tapi apa kan daya...</font>
 
<font color="119911">well perkara cam ni is not new have been hearing it mostly amg sedara yg dah putus.. selalunya e lelakinya mak akan salahkan e isteri as well..
well even i was a victim once.. MIL said bad things abt me bt i tink jodoh kita masih panjang? n tu lum masuk cita dari mulut neneknya.. which is MIL's mum..
bt we managed to selesaikan.. bt im cool abt it ah.. coz ive already prononced dat im not a gd cook, a gd cleaner, a gd "maid" to be waited upon.. if im no good might as well amik maid kawin lagi cantik.. bt apa pun org2 camni sentiasa kena berhati2
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San,

If only she can tell her MIL "you go and fly kite" but the thing is, we are always taught to respect the elders. Haha........

Mira,

Since we hate being treated like that we MUST tell ourselves that we must not treat our children-in-law the same way. Treat them just as we would our children Insya Allah the relation will be a good one.
 
Thanks, san. for the eng version.

Aiyoo. Once man do wrong things all reason come out. If he didn't do wrong things then why do't dare to face leh...Excuse...
But on the other hand, as a mother ourselves...I think we will belive what our children told us too....Hopefully the MIL will one day show the truth of his own son...God will show her.. I believe....
 
<font color="ff6000">Nora,
Terkejut jugak I dgr and my gf was fuming hot tau tadi. Last part, my gf kata apa tau..."Dah lah mommy. Apa-apa urusan dia, saya tak nak tahu &amp; ambil tahu. Saya akan kasi mana-mana pihak no. tepon mommy."
Trus MIL replied, "Tak boleh ckp gitu. Kalau masih sayangkan anak mommy, harus saling membantu."
Kalau I kena gitu, I'll shoot my MIL back for sure (and of course kalau my patience dah overshoot)...hehe!</font>
 
<font color="ff6000">Cik Nab,
Fly kite?
Hehehehe...

Mira,
No prob. That's the reasons behind all. Women mistakes can be seen widely even if it's small unlike men who's always undercover with mom's armpit...lol!

Nshahi,
Pelajaran membuat kita lebih matang... =)</font>
 
Eh.. danryan so senyop today..

busy ke?

I pomise i tak tanyer pasal hospital appt today k..

Mane Lina??? tak werk lagi ke?
 
<font color="ff0000">San/Mira

abt MIL &amp; BIL, i malas nak cakap...dats y no input

BIL salah camne ne pon although depan mata
MIL still can talk so nicely...
still can listen and accept his excuses...

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<font color="119911">san
yup true.. well kena pikir panjang gak ah for this cases kan.. bt like wat i said hope ur gf is tabah eh.. coz its no ez to b a single mum.. well i was readied back then bt parents disapprove so we r jus hoping it will turn out well till the end of our time insyallah.. &amp; kids r mainly e reasons.. altho of coz i tink most women nowadays can go independ insyallah..</font>
 
<font color="119911">dan
i tink kan b4 u kai dat sauna belt pi lah check on ur cyst dulu sis.. if clear kan best u wont worry or terpikir2 benda tu.. &amp; hub balik kira ttl devoted to him je hehe really hope ur cysts dah pecah k..</font>
 
<font color="000000">San
I can only say..u advise ur fren to cool until she deliver..u cant love to order..even that guy stays on in the marriage but his heart for another woman pon for what kan...</font>
 
If really her son eat up the $3k, must have evidence and she'll pay back.

san cakap ah dgn ur fren...selama nie anak mommy makan her $$$$$ so pay backlah kalau anak mommy sayangkan ur fren....kate sayang mesti saling membantu.....

the fact that her hub lari bawak ketiak mak dia ...tells all...a real man will stand up even kalau dia buat silap
 
Danryan

Tu dia... Cak!!!

SOnyap eh bukan senyop..hehheheh

Bagos i tak tenyer pasal hospital..
nshah tanyer kan... hahah tak boleh escape u..

Lina
ape story??
 
NAK BUKTI?....counter attack baliklah...ape bukti anak mommy kasi ur fren duit....

hihiihihi

walaupun syariah slow dok....ur fren the best can make a report....dah 24 hrs eh missing? gi buat police report....
 
<font color="119911">lina
ah betul... betul.. i setuju idea itu.. ah san suruh ur gf ckp.. proof to her all e payments she had made for him.. n if nak kasi mak dia kasi yg photocopy, yg ori simpan buat proof dimahkahmah..</font>
 

Lina

i mean u ape story? lambat masuk sini, tak keje ker..

Alih alih good morning.. si lynn dah nak pi lunch pun
 
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