ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?
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smalldreams
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Shahlynn
u trick yr mommy! hehe... my mom would swing me for playing such a trick on her, haha! Anyway, I don't think i can pull of what you did. I did cut down my dad's allowance though last mth. I felt bad lah, but it was due to me not taking his cab to work anymore, so tak yah cover for diesel/time costs. He had been telling me to cut down his allowance but I just continued until last month. rasa paiseh jugak seh... but I guess the cut is also too insignificant...
u trick yr mommy! hehe... my mom would swing me for playing such a trick on her, haha! Anyway, I don't think i can pull of what you did. I did cut down my dad's allowance though last mth. I felt bad lah, but it was due to me not taking his cab to work anymore, so tak yah cover for diesel/time costs. He had been telling me to cut down his allowance but I just continued until last month. rasa paiseh jugak seh... but I guess the cut is also too insignificant...
DaeC,
my BIL's @ blk 107...
as for your husband being unemployed, hey! i've had my fair share of dat. tough, but banyak sabar. makan hati... dat was really my testing period. 5 years, beb, i sole breadwinner! but alhamdulillah... berkat sabar, we overcome all dat...
Insya Allah... things will turn out good for you.
I knew its worth it when he text me,
".... And i love u more than i ever thought i could and i cherish it all.." the storm is finally over, beb!
my BIL's @ blk 107...
as for your husband being unemployed, hey! i've had my fair share of dat. tough, but banyak sabar. makan hati... dat was really my testing period. 5 years, beb, i sole breadwinner! but alhamdulillah... berkat sabar, we overcome all dat...
Insya Allah... things will turn out good for you.
I knew its worth it when he text me,
".... And i love u more than i ever thought i could and i cherish it all.." the storm is finally over, beb!
<font color="ff6000">How much u give your dad mthly if u dun mind sharing...
I gave a min of $50 for duit kopi but he'll return to Harith to keep for his duit jajan or school needs. He mentioned, he's still working tho no longer in scdf. Being a cab driver pon alhmdllh to him cos there's some $$$ comes in too. Unless he's not working, I may want to give his $$ kopi...Entahlah, serba salah pun ada sebab selalu diberi balik.</font>
I gave a min of $50 for duit kopi but he'll return to Harith to keep for his duit jajan or school needs. He mentioned, he's still working tho no longer in scdf. Being a cab driver pon alhmdllh to him cos there's some $$$ comes in too. Unless he's not working, I may want to give his $$ kopi...Entahlah, serba salah pun ada sebab selalu diberi balik.</font>
<font color="000000">Shahlynn..
Hahahaa...best kan to see their face and reaction..gurau2 mcm ne will strenghten the relationship more...hehhee..
Kekadang i takot fikirkan..anak2 i lelaki..nnt dorang sayang i tak mcmane i sayang my parents...i see anak pompuan walaupon dah kawin masih ingat dan sayang2 mak.....</font>
Hahahaa...best kan to see their face and reaction..gurau2 mcm ne will strenghten the relationship more...hehhee..
Kekadang i takot fikirkan..anak2 i lelaki..nnt dorang sayang i tak mcmane i sayang my parents...i see anak pompuan walaupon dah kawin masih ingat dan sayang2 mak.....</font>
<font color="ff0000">Smalldreams
B4 i hired a helper, macam berat nak cakap wif my mom abt these...meaning if to take i have to deduct some of her allowance...
My mom agreed...alhamdulillah my mom know my situation..
As and when i still give her 'duit rokok' on top of her adjusted allowance
it took me a few months to confirm also...
But at least she now tak yah buat kerja umah so much...
only jaga marsyha in her room</font>
B4 i hired a helper, macam berat nak cakap wif my mom abt these...meaning if to take i have to deduct some of her allowance...
My mom agreed...alhamdulillah my mom know my situation..
As and when i still give her 'duit rokok' on top of her adjusted allowance
it took me a few months to confirm also...
But at least she now tak yah buat kerja umah so much...
only jaga marsyha in her room</font>
smalldreams, nottygal,shahlynn
hope our parents understand if we have to cut down helping down. actually I was supporting them since I graduated but decided I had to move on to next chapter with my family - I cant carry all already lah if I want to take care my kids. pass the 'baton' to my younger sister hehe.
may Allah help us as we help our parents.
May our parents be rewarded for their helping/bringing us up insyallah
hope our parents understand if we have to cut down helping down. actually I was supporting them since I graduated but decided I had to move on to next chapter with my family - I cant carry all already lah if I want to take care my kids. pass the 'baton' to my younger sister hehe.
may Allah help us as we help our parents.
May our parents be rewarded for their helping/bringing us up insyallah
DaeC,
Insya Allah...
whenever i look at outhers yg 'kekurangan akhlak', there & den i will say dalam hati, syukur. Thanks, Allah.. for giving me wonderful parents. and i always thank my parents for doing the right things!
like i always tell my mom, "it doesnt matter dat i dun get to be 'someone BIG' as long as i still jadi MANUSIA!"
Insya Allah...
whenever i look at outhers yg 'kekurangan akhlak', there & den i will say dalam hati, syukur. Thanks, Allah.. for giving me wonderful parents. and i always thank my parents for doing the right things!
like i always tell my mom, "it doesnt matter dat i dun get to be 'someone BIG' as long as i still jadi MANUSIA!"
shahlynn
I hope so. retrenchment is not new to us - I kena once, he kena before too. I pun pernah sole breadwinner for my family for some yrs.retrenchment happen then.1yr tak bayar rumah, later get job I pay back. but to happen at this time - when no hse & me not work & preggy - sighz. at least got hse something. impt for homebase of family
its gd that ur hubby appreciate u, ur effort! I dun think all do honestly!
insyallah all ok..
I hope so. retrenchment is not new to us - I kena once, he kena before too. I pun pernah sole breadwinner for my family for some yrs.retrenchment happen then.1yr tak bayar rumah, later get job I pay back. but to happen at this time - when no hse & me not work & preggy - sighz. at least got hse something. impt for homebase of family
its gd that ur hubby appreciate u, ur effort! I dun think all do honestly!
insyallah all ok..
smalldreams
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Nottygal
Kalau you dah bring up your sons well & also treat yr MIL well, insya-Allah God is fair... but I guess it's a valid worry for us, moms with sons... hehe
Kalau my hub, his mother is still #1. he likes to say "I only have 1 mother". In my heart, ah ye lah tu, so means u can have another wife if I die or go away. Tapi betul jugak. I let him carry out his responsibilities towards his mother (but his mother is still very much financially independent. in fact rumah yang i tinggal sekarang ni pon, courtesy of her...), as long as his responsibilities towards his own family dia dah buat.
Shahlynn
Ohhh gurau kasar punye type eh? hehe, well it's a family thing so guess should be OK!
San
Eh same lah our dads are cabbies
I give my dad more than $50 a month. Senang cakap, abt 30 % of my nett income goes to both my parents. I know my hub thinks that's a lot of my income that goes to my parents...but I feel obligated...coz they paid for my education and that wiped out quite bit of their savings...
Daec
Oh so now Nadiya's turn lah eh...hehhhe...tapi takpe dia anak yang solehah, cam u jugak...
Caya tak, my hub sampai skarang dah tua ni pon masih belom start kerja full time at all. he does part-time teaching and masih belajar lagi.... waduh...
Kalau you dah bring up your sons well & also treat yr MIL well, insya-Allah God is fair... but I guess it's a valid worry for us, moms with sons... hehe
Kalau my hub, his mother is still #1. he likes to say "I only have 1 mother". In my heart, ah ye lah tu, so means u can have another wife if I die or go away. Tapi betul jugak. I let him carry out his responsibilities towards his mother (but his mother is still very much financially independent. in fact rumah yang i tinggal sekarang ni pon, courtesy of her...), as long as his responsibilities towards his own family dia dah buat.
Shahlynn
Ohhh gurau kasar punye type eh? hehe, well it's a family thing so guess should be OK!
San
Eh same lah our dads are cabbies
Daec
Oh so now Nadiya's turn lah eh...hehhhe...tapi takpe dia anak yang solehah, cam u jugak...
Caya tak, my hub sampai skarang dah tua ni pon masih belom start kerja full time at all. he does part-time teaching and masih belajar lagi.... waduh...
smalldreams
insyallah
tt was my parents plan too, they told me few times before I got married, time to focus my family biar her turn. I still had to help some till recent tho. anyways she pun favourite hehe 
not surprised abt ur hubby. my hubby pun get full time job punya susah..lama i bersabar dia full time job stable, tak sampai-sampai..
anyways I believe laki ni nak kena challenge, baru dia tambah kuat. with us giving emotional support of coz
insyallah
not surprised abt ur hubby. my hubby pun get full time job punya susah..lama i bersabar dia full time job stable, tak sampai-sampai..
anyways I believe laki ni nak kena challenge, baru dia tambah kuat. with us giving emotional support of coz
smalldreams
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Kak zainab
u ada anak lelaki tak? So bila start half day ni? today no half day?
u ada anak lelaki tak? So bila start half day ni? today no half day?
my mom slalu pesan me adek bradik... jgn stop ur husbands from carrying out their duties as sons...
jgn marah2, jgn ungkit if they give their moms money... its their responsibilities till they die...
DaeC,
my hubby pun blom stable. tak kisahla... so long he noes his responsibility...
jgn marah2, jgn ungkit if they give their moms money... its their responsibilities till they die...
DaeC,
my hubby pun blom stable. tak kisahla... so long he noes his responsibility...
smalldreams
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Nottygal
serious ke ada orang cakap gitu...hehe..tapi i rasa baik jangan sakitkan hati both at all....
Abu Hurairah r.a. said : A man came to Rasulullah s.a.w. and said : "O Rasulullah, who of mankind is most entitled to the best of my companionship ?". Rasulullah said : "Your mother". He said :"Then who ?". Rasulullah said : "Your mother". He said :"Then who ?". Rasulullah said : "Your mother". He said :"Then who ?". Rasulullah said : "Your father". ( Bukhari, Muslim )
takde wife pon...haha!
serious ke ada orang cakap gitu...hehe..tapi i rasa baik jangan sakitkan hati both at all....
Abu Hurairah r.a. said : A man came to Rasulullah s.a.w. and said : "O Rasulullah, who of mankind is most entitled to the best of my companionship ?". Rasulullah said : "Your mother". He said :"Then who ?". Rasulullah said : "Your mother". He said :"Then who ?". Rasulullah said : "Your mother". He said :"Then who ?". Rasulullah said : "Your father". ( Bukhari, Muslim )
takde wife pon...haha!
mamaliz
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pasal mak ni kan susah sikit for me....cos my mum only have eyes for my brother....even my kakak pon sakit hati at times pasal my mum tak tutup her favouritsim...uncles n aunties banyak nasihatkan tapi no change lehhh...
my hubby dont tink much abt his mum....since she also doesnt seem to know how to acknowledge him....go her hse like go umah sedara jauh...
all i hope for my kids is dat they treat their parents with due respect....tak expect them to take care of us cos we dont want to be a burden later when old..insyallah...
ps: dats y hubby do so many savings...utk kahwin anak, utk duit sakit, utk hari tua kita.....
my hubby dont tink much abt his mum....since she also doesnt seem to know how to acknowledge him....go her hse like go umah sedara jauh...
all i hope for my kids is dat they treat their parents with due respect....tak expect them to take care of us cos we dont want to be a burden later when old..insyallah...
ps: dats y hubby do so many savings...utk kahwin anak, utk duit sakit, utk hari tua kita.....
erhh I think I not gd DIL. I rather tak nak cakap banyak dengan MIL. takut gaduh. coz I find I not so agree with all her words then I get irritated coz feel she want me agree/follow. she not close to her daugher at all, closer to son. daughter tak cakap sangat with her, always out. son yg dengar more, selalu cari dorang. so I feel kadang macam replacement daughter ?! I rather diam2 sudah.
shahlynn
true! if I kerja, habisla I pay most hehe.
dia focus lain. well intend to wrk again anyways but when kids r bigger insy allah
shahlynn
true! if I kerja, habisla I pay most hehe.
dia focus lain. well intend to wrk again anyways but when kids r bigger insy allah
hadith pasal wife :
'The most perfect believer in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behaviour; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives.'
memang I read somehere DIL shld treat inlaws well as part of ther responisibilty to hubby. hmm I think asal I tak gaduh dah bagus tho. I find difficult to ngam coz we v opposite
'The most perfect believer in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behaviour; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives.'
memang I read somehere DIL shld treat inlaws well as part of ther responisibilty to hubby. hmm I think asal I tak gaduh dah bagus tho. I find difficult to ngam coz we v opposite
gurls,
i wanna ask u...
if say u dengar 'stories' abt someone... sumone who's not even a close frren.. say, someone like u & me..
would u just believe the rumour, would u ask, or wld u take it with a pinch of salt and keep an open mind abt it?
or would u be quick to judge & take sides?
i wanna ask u...
if say u dengar 'stories' abt someone... sumone who's not even a close frren.. say, someone like u & me..
would u just believe the rumour, would u ask, or wld u take it with a pinch of salt and keep an open mind abt it?
or would u be quick to judge & take sides?
Anyone knows what happen to Lina's son?
Shahlynn
I'd keep an open mind. There's always two sides of a story.
However, i'd be more cautious.
Btw. i also believe in "Jauh jauh wangi, Dah dekat .. bushuk"
Me and MIL langsung tak same channel.
But i tak lah gaduh dgn dia ke ape.. cume u wont see me berbual mesra la dgn her..
Shahlynn
I'd keep an open mind. There's always two sides of a story.
However, i'd be more cautious.
Btw. i also believe in "Jauh jauh wangi, Dah dekat .. bushuk"
Me and MIL langsung tak same channel.
But i tak lah gaduh dgn dia ke ape.. cume u wont see me berbual mesra la dgn her..
smalldreams
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Shahlynn
sama lah. I'll also need to hear both sides of the story. Tapi kalau i dah tau through experience, sure lebih berhati-hati. tapi kalau takde kene mengene dgn i, buat bodoh sudah...
dah lunch semua?
I had a simple lunch of reduced rice, sayur lemak (fattening ni..) & ayam goreng (LAGI fattening..)
sama lah. I'll also need to hear both sides of the story. Tapi kalau i dah tau through experience, sure lebih berhati-hati. tapi kalau takde kene mengene dgn i, buat bodoh sudah...
dah lunch semua?
I had a simple lunch of reduced rice, sayur lemak (fattening ni..) & ayam goreng (LAGI fattening..)
Me dah habis makan nasi briyani..Alhamdullillah..
Tapi i must say tak sedap, tak pedas and tak rase the rempah.
So first time ku try and last time ku buy la nie.
You all suke makan nasi briyani from which shop?
My hb suke makan from Islamic (beach road) and blue diamond (tekka). Tapi i find it so so ajer...
I like the one at the old pasar geylang serai
Dulu my dad yg beli, now pasar tu dah pindah i tak tau which stall..
Tapi i must say tak sedap, tak pedas and tak rase the rempah.
So first time ku try and last time ku buy la nie.
You all suke makan nasi briyani from which shop?
My hb suke makan from Islamic (beach road) and blue diamond (tekka). Tapi i find it so so ajer...
I like the one at the old pasar geylang serai
Dulu my dad yg beli, now pasar tu dah pindah i tak tau which stall..