ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?
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<font color="ff6000">Nshahi,
If both parties agreed on the rental charges, oklah but hardly people charges duit rental between in laws. Biasanya, they will just give the house owner plus minus kasi duit SP Bills and groceries. You'll never know mulut orng. Suka mengata sana cni.
Just my 2 cents thoughts.</font>
If both parties agreed on the rental charges, oklah but hardly people charges duit rental between in laws. Biasanya, they will just give the house owner plus minus kasi duit SP Bills and groceries. You'll never know mulut orng. Suka mengata sana cni.
Just my 2 cents thoughts.</font>
ClassyShimmers
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Lina
I think yes u shld voice out...org org ni semua sometimes must state the line clearly baru dorang sadar kalau tak mcm takde benda gitu call husbang org kan..
I think yes u shld voice out...org org ni semua sometimes must state the line clearly baru dorang sadar kalau tak mcm takde benda gitu call husbang org kan..
ClassyShimmers
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Nshahi
For me, altho tak pernah la Inlaws ke SIL ke stay with me..tapi if they do, they must also bear in mind..takkan nak dok free jer kan..
At least if not for rental..tolong with the household bills etc..
I mean they sendirik mesti mau ingat what..Courtesy is the best policy..
For me, altho tak pernah la Inlaws ke SIL ke stay with me..tapi if they do, they must also bear in mind..takkan nak dok free jer kan..
At least if not for rental..tolong with the household bills etc..
I mean they sendirik mesti mau ingat what..Courtesy is the best policy..
<font color="ff6000">Lina,
When my SIL voice out nak duduk with us aft her divorce kan, she dunwan to contribute anythg noeing she's on high end side and also alasannya, janda! So, I cut my line clear. She cnt stay with us cos yg susah, kita anak beranak.
Shimmers,
Betul tu!!!
Have to use brains too cos SG is no longer cheap hor. Rated as the 12th expensive country.</font>
When my SIL voice out nak duduk with us aft her divorce kan, she dunwan to contribute anythg noeing she's on high end side and also alasannya, janda! So, I cut my line clear. She cnt stay with us cos yg susah, kita anak beranak.
Shimmers,
Betul tu!!!
Have to use brains too cos SG is no longer cheap hor. Rated as the 12th expensive country.</font>
ClassyShimmers
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Mdm Wati
my new year resolution is to run back!!
I miss running..so mari kita ingat kan sesama..hari ni dah jln?? hari ni dah lari??
HEHEHE
It helps to remind kan kan kan??
my new year resolution is to run back!!
I miss running..so mari kita ingat kan sesama..hari ni dah jln?? hari ni dah lari??
HEHEHE
It helps to remind kan kan kan??
<font color="ff6000">Lina,
MIL kata I lembik!!!
Sebab both pregnancies I took 1 mth unpaid leave tho I told her, selembik I pon...I dun opt for epidural etc...kwang3x!
But, i can feel sumtimes MIL/SIL not happy with me esp. Like I nie suami, husband isteri...Padahal they duno e real facts. Just bcos I always have my say in everythg unlike hub who's quiet most of e time.</font>
MIL kata I lembik!!!
Sebab both pregnancies I took 1 mth unpaid leave tho I told her, selembik I pon...I dun opt for epidural etc...kwang3x!
But, i can feel sumtimes MIL/SIL not happy with me esp. Like I nie suami, husband isteri...Padahal they duno e real facts. Just bcos I always have my say in everythg unlike hub who's quiet most of e time.</font>
<font color="ff6000">Few days ago kat Batam...smses flown mcm air tau. SIL sms/tepon sampai we reached SG. Bukan itu ajer, pergi jemputan dari kul 11am - 5.30pm pon masih ada mass smses fr her!
Asking for some $$$. Hairan tau...gaji $1.8k before cpf. Sorang punya makan TAPI tak pernah cukup. Tiap2 bulan mintak $$. Kalau tak MIL...SIL yg mintak...tak lama lagi u all tak kenal sapa Hana-san bab dah botak...lolx!</font>
Asking for some $$$. Hairan tau...gaji $1.8k before cpf. Sorang punya makan TAPI tak pernah cukup. Tiap2 bulan mintak $$. Kalau tak MIL...SIL yg mintak...tak lama lagi u all tak kenal sapa Hana-san bab dah botak...lolx!</font>
San
ur SIL tak malu mintak duit???
my hb pulak very vocal with his family.. sampai mak dia cakap he melawan her
tapi i think she pun agakye ingat i yg cucuk my hb.. sesungguh ye tidak..
nshah
haik.. belum tinggal situ dah bargain bargain
Better set all the terms first, tak semue org ada kepala otak to be courteous or considerate
pakai nampak this is the type yg nanti tunda tunda nak bayar
then kau nak mintak dia bayar... kau tak sedap
akhir ye dia dok preee....
ur SIL tak malu mintak duit???
my hb pulak very vocal with his family.. sampai mak dia cakap he melawan her
tapi i think she pun agakye ingat i yg cucuk my hb.. sesungguh ye tidak..
nshah
haik.. belum tinggal situ dah bargain bargain
Better set all the terms first, tak semue org ada kepala otak to be courteous or considerate
pakai nampak this is the type yg nanti tunda tunda nak bayar
then kau nak mintak dia bayar... kau tak sedap
akhir ye dia dok preee....
ClassyShimmers
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Wati
I lari to firm up la..walaupun badan mcm ni tapi fats mengelebeh tau! lagipun I love running..i was an outdoor person till I got married and was trying for anak..
I lari to firm up la..walaupun badan mcm ni tapi fats mengelebeh tau! lagipun I love running..i was an outdoor person till I got married and was trying for anak..
ClassyShimmers
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YIHIII!!
Postman just sent my lingerie that I ordered!
Postman just sent my lingerie that I ordered!
<font color="ff6000">Mdm Wati,
Duno. Bila tny...siaplah merepek meraban dia.
Sms berjela-jela. Stating dah 3 hari tak mkn. My hubby tak baik lah. Kalau tk trnsfr last Sun, dia akan pengsan etc...haiz!
Lina,
We did e same too tau pastu dpt labelling fr her yg kita nie tak baik bila ask for $$$. Apa ke tidak? Kita smua dah serik pinjamkan $$$ tapi tk prnh dpt balik.
Nora Aw,
Yes. Semenjak dah cerai. Crite pnjng. Tapi dipendekkan, once she's a f/t hsewife with maid and car + 2 kids. Her ex-hub drws $1.6k b4 cpf. Whenever shortage of $$$, her ex-hub will seek help fr his parents. Name the amout, they will gv for sure. Even her last fw yrs staying at Jurong, 40k of reno was paid by her ex-hub's prnts. See the pic? Umah bt.pnjng, the reno hasil jualan jurong hse. So now, no longer with kiddos and ex-hub...kita yg jadi mangsa...Still, I dun undtsnd WHY is she always shortage!!!</font>
Duno. Bila tny...siaplah merepek meraban dia.
Sms berjela-jela. Stating dah 3 hari tak mkn. My hubby tak baik lah. Kalau tk trnsfr last Sun, dia akan pengsan etc...haiz!
Lina,
We did e same too tau pastu dpt labelling fr her yg kita nie tak baik bila ask for $$$. Apa ke tidak? Kita smua dah serik pinjamkan $$$ tapi tk prnh dpt balik.
Nora Aw,
Yes. Semenjak dah cerai. Crite pnjng. Tapi dipendekkan, once she's a f/t hsewife with maid and car + 2 kids. Her ex-hub drws $1.6k b4 cpf. Whenever shortage of $$$, her ex-hub will seek help fr his parents. Name the amout, they will gv for sure. Even her last fw yrs staying at Jurong, 40k of reno was paid by her ex-hub's prnts. See the pic? Umah bt.pnjng, the reno hasil jualan jurong hse. So now, no longer with kiddos and ex-hub...kita yg jadi mangsa...Still, I dun undtsnd WHY is she always shortage!!!</font>
Ladies,
We must learn from others' experience - kalau ada orang nak pinjam duit just firmly say no, I need it for my own expenses. Don't make it a habit then they will continue pressing you, if once you don't give then I think they will not ask anymore.
My hubby's siblings are like that - bila nak pinjam bukan main manis lagi, tapi lepas tu macam kacang lupakan kulit - sampai jadi musuh terus
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We must learn from others' experience - kalau ada orang nak pinjam duit just firmly say no, I need it for my own expenses. Don't make it a habit then they will continue pressing you, if once you don't give then I think they will not ask anymore.
My hubby's siblings are like that - bila nak pinjam bukan main manis lagi, tapi lepas tu macam kacang lupakan kulit - sampai jadi musuh terus
wati
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Cik Zainab, betul tu.. I think better be firm than sorry. I pun gitu dulu, my fren pinjam duit $80. Took me 1 year to have it back. That's why i dah serik. Dgn in-laws jgn ckp lah. They always borrow, but hubby is kind enough to ask it back from them when we are in need of money. Tu pun susah jugak nak mintak.
ClassyShimmers
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Frm my point of view kan
lebih baik jgn pinjamkan dari nanti jadi musuh musuhan bila part nak minta balik..
Sure jadi BIG issue..
Dulu bila nak pinjam..macam2 ckp..nanti bila nak minta balik..mcm kita yg berhutang dgn dia!
lebih baik jgn pinjamkan dari nanti jadi musuh musuhan bila part nak minta balik..
Sure jadi BIG issue..
Dulu bila nak pinjam..macam2 ckp..nanti bila nak minta balik..mcm kita yg berhutang dgn dia!
Shers...betul betul betulll...
yg ade tu ingat mentang2 laki bini work meaning sentiasa loaded...then nak pinjam...itu jam jugak suruh transfer....now sorry ah...even buat sob stories pasal anak2 pun i terpaksa keraskan hati...cuma i cakap to my hub kalau betul anak2 dia tarak susu...then juz buy the susu n not give $$
yg ade tu ingat mentang2 laki bini work meaning sentiasa loaded...then nak pinjam...itu jam jugak suruh transfer....now sorry ah...even buat sob stories pasal anak2 pun i terpaksa keraskan hati...cuma i cakap to my hub kalau betul anak2 dia tarak susu...then juz buy the susu n not give $$
<font color="ff6000">Lina/Cik Nab,
My scenario lain ckit. When we replied "NO", SIL bargain. Fr $100 to $50. Still we said, $50 can top up our car petrol cos we hardly drive in to JB nwdys due to our bz schedules. Then, she got e cheek to sms again, takkan $50 tak bole spare? Bukan aku mintak $500 per. Tak kasi $50...$30 pon boleh...Aku tak mkn 3 hari nie. Tggl $2 jer. I tol hub, since she's on diet pills every mth, biar dia diet trus dari susahkan orng.
She's like pointing her own u see. $500 used to ask from us!
$1k hv yt to return to my PILs. $500 fr BIL. Us? Cmne tu?
Asik mintak jer..lau pakai bank loan, dah kena charge interest sey!</font>
My scenario lain ckit. When we replied "NO", SIL bargain. Fr $100 to $50. Still we said, $50 can top up our car petrol cos we hardly drive in to JB nwdys due to our bz schedules. Then, she got e cheek to sms again, takkan $50 tak bole spare? Bukan aku mintak $500 per. Tak kasi $50...$30 pon boleh...Aku tak mkn 3 hari nie. Tggl $2 jer. I tol hub, since she's on diet pills every mth, biar dia diet trus dari susahkan orng.
She's like pointing her own u see. $500 used to ask from us!
$1k hv yt to return to my PILs. $500 fr BIL. Us? Cmne tu?
Asik mintak jer..lau pakai bank loan, dah kena charge interest sey!</font>