ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?
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Lynn,
sabar jer la... Tak semestinya problem solved overnite kan..
But wen u play ur cards well, u receive nothing but admiration & sympathy from ur husband.
With my husband, I neva say my MIL blah-blah-blah, macam sial, blah-blah-blah... But i will say, "apa seh, ur mum... tapi takperla... kesian orang tua tu. i dun blame her la."
betulkan tone, buat muka kesian jer....
sabar jer la... Tak semestinya problem solved overnite kan..
But wen u play ur cards well, u receive nothing but admiration & sympathy from ur husband.
With my husband, I neva say my MIL blah-blah-blah, macam sial, blah-blah-blah... But i will say, "apa seh, ur mum... tapi takperla... kesian orang tua tu. i dun blame her la."
betulkan tone, buat muka kesian jer....
wati
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Thank you my dear frens. Tu lah. Kadang2 bila dah mcm bertekak dgn my hubby, then i do feel guilty tau. Sebab muka dia turn pathetic.. like caught in between ISTERI and MAK. So i will apologise dgn dia lah.. He feel better.
Ok ok.. tukar topic lah.. bingit ckp pasal in-laws aku nie.. Astargfirullahhalazim...!!!!
Phew.. feel better.
Ok ok.. tukar topic lah.. bingit ckp pasal in-laws aku nie.. Astargfirullahhalazim...!!!!
Phew.. feel better.
momma_naqi
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mil...hmm i haf no comment but for sure I
practising this saying as in
1 )aku tak kacau kau, kau jgn kacau aku
2 )buat baik berpada..kalau bleh buat jahat skali pun tak nak
3 ) jauh2 bau wangi dekat2 bau taik...
3 ) last but not least anak I biar I yang didik...my way /my style..yes u may have experience but let me taste my way of bringing my child..
practising this saying as in
1 )aku tak kacau kau, kau jgn kacau aku
2 )buat baik berpada..kalau bleh buat jahat skali pun tak nak
3 ) jauh2 bau wangi dekat2 bau taik...
3 ) last but not least anak I biar I yang didik...my way /my style..yes u may have experience but let me taste my way of bringing my child..
Naqi,
i agree with ur point 3.
cara i didik anak, and hers is totally the opposite. my husband prefer cara mak dia, and of course, i nak cara my mom..
but pelan2, senyum kambing, i psycho husband.. and i lay out my facts & reasons. and prove to him, dat mine is as good.
now dah okayla.. at least my mil now says, "cara korang lain pun, anak sempurna jugak kan.."
my reply to her, "told ya!" hehheheh
my husband pun, "kita amik the best of both sides, and buat cara kita"... case closed!
i agree with ur point 3.
cara i didik anak, and hers is totally the opposite. my husband prefer cara mak dia, and of course, i nak cara my mom..
but pelan2, senyum kambing, i psycho husband.. and i lay out my facts & reasons. and prove to him, dat mine is as good.
now dah okayla.. at least my mil now says, "cara korang lain pun, anak sempurna jugak kan.."
my reply to her, "told ya!" hehheheh
my husband pun, "kita amik the best of both sides, and buat cara kita"... case closed!
momma_naqi
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wati,
yup so no kecik2 hati in time to come....and in order to prolong the relation ship...
so i guess my mil da tahu perangai I..
yup so no kecik2 hati in time to come....and in order to prolong the relation ship...
so i guess my mil da tahu perangai I..
momma_naqi
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shahlynn,
yup....semua parents nak the best for their kids rite??..
yup....semua parents nak the best for their kids rite??..
nottygal
i get a part time maid to come in on weekends just to wash toilets and iron.. kalau tak dah laki aku tak boleh pegi keje bec baju dah habis blom gosok.. now dah 3 weeks withour maid tau
day to day my mom do mane yg patut then i balik masuk baju dlm washing machine and sidai je
tapi takde maid kite kelam kabut la..
Just the other day my mom cakap she thot my boy main dgn teh 2 cousins.. she tengah kemas mainan dlm bilik
then hear my boy calling her.. suara dia jauh sekali my mon cakap
my mom carik him, rupe ye dia sorang sorang dah pegi kitchen, push chair and climb up to kitchen cabinet...
dah tak boleh turun baru panggil nenek dia
ahh..... kering darah i bile my mom cakap gitu
u imagine kalau he just jump...
i get a part time maid to come in on weekends just to wash toilets and iron.. kalau tak dah laki aku tak boleh pegi keje bec baju dah habis blom gosok.. now dah 3 weeks withour maid tau
day to day my mom do mane yg patut then i balik masuk baju dlm washing machine and sidai je
tapi takde maid kite kelam kabut la..
Just the other day my mom cakap she thot my boy main dgn teh 2 cousins.. she tengah kemas mainan dlm bilik
then hear my boy calling her.. suara dia jauh sekali my mon cakap
my mom carik him, rupe ye dia sorang sorang dah pegi kitchen, push chair and climb up to kitchen cabinet...
dah tak boleh turun baru panggil nenek dia
ahh..... kering darah i bile my mom cakap gitu
u imagine kalau he just jump...
<font color="ff6000">As a silent reader for now cos I need to complete my facilities spreadsheet by today and a lil' bz.
Need opinion.
- What if MIL/SIL loves to talk behind you (about your own house)as DIL when you have a share in that house which you contribute CPF with your husband on monthly basis?
- "Cocok" your own son to settle into something indirectly but it's actually by "forcing".
- Asking for more $$$ weekly and WE have to pity their party for the state they are in BUT (flash back in 2006) when her own son/brother was out of job close to 6 months and as a wife, I work like mad and OT till 9.30pm at CGH to earn extra income. Senang cakap, kita susah semua hilang -- dorang susah, kita kena tahu. And we have to sacrifice not seeing our son for 5 days (taken care by my own parents for FOC) due to us, saving cost in some ways.
- Calling her son stating she's missing her grandsons but when we came over, cium peluk upon reaching only. Afterhand, they're playing by themselves and chit chat with her son this and that. So, is she missing her son or grandsons?
Till now, my hub tgh kumpul lemak I...kwang3X!
Comments?</font>
Need opinion.
- What if MIL/SIL loves to talk behind you (about your own house)as DIL when you have a share in that house which you contribute CPF with your husband on monthly basis?
- "Cocok" your own son to settle into something indirectly but it's actually by "forcing".
- Asking for more $$$ weekly and WE have to pity their party for the state they are in BUT (flash back in 2006) when her own son/brother was out of job close to 6 months and as a wife, I work like mad and OT till 9.30pm at CGH to earn extra income. Senang cakap, kita susah semua hilang -- dorang susah, kita kena tahu. And we have to sacrifice not seeing our son for 5 days (taken care by my own parents for FOC) due to us, saving cost in some ways.
- Calling her son stating she's missing her grandsons but when we came over, cium peluk upon reaching only. Afterhand, they're playing by themselves and chit chat with her son this and that. So, is she missing her son or grandsons?
Till now, my hub tgh kumpul lemak I...kwang3X!
Comments?</font>
<font color="000000">Nora Aw
Alamak! nasib baik your mum dgr...ish! Danger!
I could understand your plight now, coz i oso was without one earlier this year for about a month. So stressful, balik je jadi Cinderella!
Mane nak fetch kat bwh, hari2 pulak I mop/vacuum/lap furniture, cuci toilet 2x per week, cuci baju/gosok lat lat lah..prepare dinner!
Yg agent pon, i pekik kat dia like no body business, manager dia pon aku cuci!
i sd the day after maid arrived and check up complete make sure they deliver her to my place..!</font>
Alamak! nasib baik your mum dgr...ish! Danger!
I could understand your plight now, coz i oso was without one earlier this year for about a month. So stressful, balik je jadi Cinderella!
Mane nak fetch kat bwh, hari2 pulak I mop/vacuum/lap furniture, cuci toilet 2x per week, cuci baju/gosok lat lat lah..prepare dinner!
Yg agent pon, i pekik kat dia like no body business, manager dia pon aku cuci!
i sd the day after maid arrived and check up complete make sure they deliver her to my place..!</font>
<font color="ff6000">nora aw,
Dah lumrah gaknya.
Dulu tkde kereta, keep hogging husband to by one. Wen we bought one to facilitate our own family of 4, MIL/SIL ngecet kenapa tak nk upgrade to 7-8 seater so that ALL can fit in. I was wondering even till now...doesnt they know the terms IF you have a bigger car = more cost incurred?
Utk dorang senang lah...kita?
Bukan nak sombong. Dulu kita nk pinjam kreta mpv, MIL will like say NO most of e time and IF we need to, paling jauh is only Causeway Point.
Like now, nak pinjam our car...semua last minute. Kita pun ada hal sendiri. There's once hub cancelled our day due to them going KL and I was sooooo fed up that i didnt speak a word for the whole day till I get to talk to my FIL.
Kesiannya, he duno anything. He thought all's been plan very well without any hiccups.
Bila hub dpt his contract back, MIL/SIL keep calling lah -- suruh belanja seafood etc...See the diff?
Apalagi, I masuk campur. I told him to "payback" 6 mths of FOC atas jagaan anak to my mum and my maintenance fee too. lucky thing he agreed.
Itu takpe tau. "Paksa" husband to take a maid since I gave birth to my 1st and now, knowing she wanted us to take over her current maid, she blindly said to the maid...IF we agreed to take her, EVERY WEEKEND IS A MUST for the maid to be at her place to help out. My goodness!
Terbantut terus sis!</font>
Dah lumrah gaknya.
Dulu tkde kereta, keep hogging husband to by one. Wen we bought one to facilitate our own family of 4, MIL/SIL ngecet kenapa tak nk upgrade to 7-8 seater so that ALL can fit in. I was wondering even till now...doesnt they know the terms IF you have a bigger car = more cost incurred?
Utk dorang senang lah...kita?
Bukan nak sombong. Dulu kita nk pinjam kreta mpv, MIL will like say NO most of e time and IF we need to, paling jauh is only Causeway Point.
Like now, nak pinjam our car...semua last minute. Kita pun ada hal sendiri. There's once hub cancelled our day due to them going KL and I was sooooo fed up that i didnt speak a word for the whole day till I get to talk to my FIL.
Kesiannya, he duno anything. He thought all's been plan very well without any hiccups.
Bila hub dpt his contract back, MIL/SIL keep calling lah -- suruh belanja seafood etc...See the diff?
Apalagi, I masuk campur. I told him to "payback" 6 mths of FOC atas jagaan anak to my mum and my maintenance fee too. lucky thing he agreed.
Itu takpe tau. "Paksa" husband to take a maid since I gave birth to my 1st and now, knowing she wanted us to take over her current maid, she blindly said to the maid...IF we agreed to take her, EVERY WEEKEND IS A MUST for the maid to be at her place to help out. My goodness!
Terbantut terus sis!</font>
nottygal
in singapore i no problem. its my own contact
ni indo ni yg buat pasal, kalau tak keran passport mati, i dun need them bec my singapore agent can bring her in
her passport mati tu yg she kena find agent there
kalau tak kite direct hire aje
so kat sane dorang pun play bastard la bec they know kalau tak kerana passport kite dah direct hire je.
in singapore i no problem. its my own contact
ni indo ni yg buat pasal, kalau tak keran passport mati, i dun need them bec my singapore agent can bring her in
her passport mati tu yg she kena find agent there
kalau tak kite direct hire aje
so kat sane dorang pun play bastard la bec they know kalau tak kerana passport kite dah direct hire je.
momma_naqi
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hah nora.....I agree wif u...
bila time ada banyak duit, ramaiiii skali sedara u....Sama ngan my mom....bila my arwah father pass away..fuiyooooo ramainya sedara dia datang nak loan...bila tak kasi....huh dicaci/dimaki/dfitnah...tak kuasa...so I tell my mum..mak buat bodoh....so u c rite their true colors...
bila time ada banyak duit, ramaiiii skali sedara u....Sama ngan my mom....bila my arwah father pass away..fuiyooooo ramainya sedara dia datang nak loan...bila tak kasi....huh dicaci/dimaki/dfitnah...tak kuasa...so I tell my mum..mak buat bodoh....so u c rite their true colors...
momma_naqi
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huh hari ini buat flt bookings merata tempat...sampai naik serak nak bebual ngan airline rep..
<font color="ff6000">nora aw,
Story u imbasan I lah...kiakiakiak!
My SIL will say - "aku kan single mother of 1. kau bila nk transfer $$? Anak-anak aku kelaparan kalau tak beli makanan..." Boleh gitu?
Kalau minta pertolongan sekali sekala oklah..nie setiap minggu!!!!
Kasi $50 for e whole week. $2.00 nasi lemak hv to be shared within the 2 siblings and bought only 1 packet. Balance? Confirm beli rokok!!! </font>
Story u imbasan I lah...kiakiakiak!
My SIL will say - "aku kan single mother of 1. kau bila nk transfer $$? Anak-anak aku kelaparan kalau tak beli makanan..." Boleh gitu?
Kalau minta pertolongan sekali sekala oklah..nie setiap minggu!!!!
Kasi $50 for e whole week. $2.00 nasi lemak hv to be shared within the 2 siblings and bought only 1 packet. Balance? Confirm beli rokok!!! </font>
momma_naqi
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yes nora..itu sebabnya I slalu scold my mum...my mum slalu kesiankan orang then I cakap kat dia kalau mak ashik kesian kat orang siapa nak kesian kat mak...the money dat arwah bapak tinggalkan is for mak nya sakit pening then kalau semua mak kasi orang mak macam mana...ah'ah bawa kereta handal2....tapi huh
momma_naqi
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then orang2 ni nak pinjam macam2 janji dioang cakap ok nanti cukup bulan ku bayar...tapi sampai da berbulan2 batang idung pun tak nampak...n the best part is kalau kita minta duit balik dia marah kita
momma_naqi
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shahlynn,
then sell the car=more savings=tak yah minta2 orang=tak yah bergaya...hehehe
then sell the car=more savings=tak yah minta2 orang=tak yah bergaya...hehehe
naqi
betol betol...
my side lagi best dah pingjam lesap
hari raye tak datang then boleh suruh org cakap kan that they malu nak datang bec ade hutang $$$
mcm mcm seh.. then bile jumpe kat luar (eg jemputan) wah... punye lah bergaya...
Yg cakap anak dia nak skola overseas tu, pegi tak lame dah balik dah anak dia.. tak tau skola habis ke tak
ok gg out to buy lacoste tshirt for my sister... next week ade kawan dia nak go over, so aku kena collate barang barang yg dia kirim
betol betol...
my side lagi best dah pingjam lesap
hari raye tak datang then boleh suruh org cakap kan that they malu nak datang bec ade hutang $$$
mcm mcm seh.. then bile jumpe kat luar (eg jemputan) wah... punye lah bergaya...
Yg cakap anak dia nak skola overseas tu, pegi tak lame dah balik dah anak dia.. tak tau skola habis ke tak
ok gg out to buy lacoste tshirt for my sister... next week ade kawan dia nak go over, so aku kena collate barang barang yg dia kirim
momma_naqi
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nora...hah ikan bilis jgn lupa kirim kat yur sis
momma_naqi
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shahlynn,
yup betul....agree...ni kan biar mati accident jgn mati action...
yup betul....agree...ni kan biar mati accident jgn mati action...
<font color="aa00aa">oooh...part hutang2 sedara ni paling aku anti.
my abg sedara dulu nak kawin sampai duit hantaran pun tak cukup...pinjam my dad's money and mine.
bila my turn nak kawin...minta him bayar sikit balik pun tak boleh.
till now anak dah 2...dah tukar kereta twice pun he still hutang me 6k tau!</font>
my abg sedara dulu nak kawin sampai duit hantaran pun tak cukup...pinjam my dad's money and mine.
bila my turn nak kawin...minta him bayar sikit balik pun tak boleh.
till now anak dah 2...dah tukar kereta twice pun he still hutang me 6k tau!</font>
momma_naqi
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cik nab....
Proton Perdana & BMW X5??
Proton Perdana & BMW X5??
momma_naqi
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go holiday to Seoul korea, gold Coast semua??....huh Kita kat sini nak pegi fikir 3 4 kali...
momma_naqi
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tinggal condo eh
HOT TOPIC CLOSE TO MY HEART....
Haiz.sometimes i wonder we struggle to meet end meets, save duit.. while ppl have Both leg n Both hands to work, asking us for money...I think as adults walaupun i tak cukup mcm mana pun, i usaha carik sendiri n make do with apa yg ada..kenapa org bole senang2 minta pinjam duit..its quite difficult to reject especially if our our own family members..Haiz..
Haiz.sometimes i wonder we struggle to meet end meets, save duit.. while ppl have Both leg n Both hands to work, asking us for money...I think as adults walaupun i tak cukup mcm mana pun, i usaha carik sendiri n make do with apa yg ada..kenapa org bole senang2 minta pinjam duit..its quite difficult to reject especially if our our own family members..Haiz..