ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?
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danryan
i prefer to tapau eat at office by myself.
makan kat foodcourt nie nanti baju ade bau la lepas tu
i dont like
nottygal
aiseh, kalau first outing dgn hb sekali,
oooiii lagi tak tau ape nak buat eh..
Tapi personally, kalau me lah, bile dah found out
teh girl is ex-girl of hb, i tak rase i will fren fren with her la..
macam nshah cakap nanti terpikir pikir
but that's just me
nshah
tu childcare, Iman takde ke??
i prefer to tapau eat at office by myself.
makan kat foodcourt nie nanti baju ade bau la lepas tu
i dont like
nottygal
aiseh, kalau first outing dgn hb sekali,
oooiii lagi tak tau ape nak buat eh..
Tapi personally, kalau me lah, bile dah found out
teh girl is ex-girl of hb, i tak rase i will fren fren with her la..
macam nshah cakap nanti terpikir pikir
but that's just me
nshah
tu childcare, Iman takde ke??
nottygal, cana hang dpt tu address eh?
ku cari tak jumpa2 siol.. anyway ada webbie tak?
me nak tgk e price berapa smua..
nora..
hehe itu iman cam mahal ah.. tp entah tgk ah cana.. nak kena compar & c how.. since now govt kasi $300 subsidy kan for childcare.. my collg smua ckp cheap..
ku cari tak jumpa2 siol.. anyway ada webbie tak?
me nak tgk e price berapa smua..
nora..
hehe itu iman cam mahal ah.. tp entah tgk ah cana.. nak kena compar & c how.. since now govt kasi $300 subsidy kan for childcare.. my collg smua ckp cheap..
nottygal,
To my point...of course I'll be a lil' shocked (dalam hati) but have to maintain ourself after knowing the truth. I've been in tat position too.
Terpulang pada masing-masing sis.
Kalau hati dia bersih nk berkawan dgn kita bukan kerana nk rapat dgn suami kita, I terima. Hanya kawan biasa tapi tak serapat mana. Kalau boleh, jauh-jauh lah. Lagi best kalau tak kenal!
There's always a line in every friendship esp whe comes to "ex".
Like mine, upon noeing she's hub's ex -- mula-mula hati dia bersih tapi at last, she's trying to avoid me cos she got "hold" of my husband considering her "bestfriends" which I dun belief her terms at that very own time. Hub mentioned, she let out her feelings to him, how she missed the times they hv spent together, slipped in the bathroom, miscarriage and even worst -- telling my husband what she did on her bed with her own hub! That's it...over my line and limits already!
To my point...of course I'll be a lil' shocked (dalam hati) but have to maintain ourself after knowing the truth. I've been in tat position too.
Terpulang pada masing-masing sis.
Kalau hati dia bersih nk berkawan dgn kita bukan kerana nk rapat dgn suami kita, I terima. Hanya kawan biasa tapi tak serapat mana. Kalau boleh, jauh-jauh lah. Lagi best kalau tak kenal!
There's always a line in every friendship esp whe comes to "ex".
Like mine, upon noeing she's hub's ex -- mula-mula hati dia bersih tapi at last, she's trying to avoid me cos she got "hold" of my husband considering her "bestfriends" which I dun belief her terms at that very own time. Hub mentioned, she let out her feelings to him, how she missed the times they hv spent together, slipped in the bathroom, miscarriage and even worst -- telling my husband what she did on her bed with her own hub! That's it...over my line and limits already!
hmm ok i dah call.. kok yg answer cam KEL? indian?
hmm entah eh.. ku tgh pikiring nak masukkan my son ke tak? since nx yr ada price increase lagi.. tp tu ah masalahnya skg plak ku dah enrolled kan my son at PCF jus belakang blok my mum..
mayb this childcare alternative will b arranged in 2010 insyallah.. coz by then i hoping sgt ill bringing my doter back here to SG..
hmm entah eh.. ku tgh pikiring nak masukkan my son ke tak? since nx yr ada price increase lagi.. tp tu ah masalahnya skg plak ku dah enrolled kan my son at PCF jus belakang blok my mum..
mayb this childcare alternative will b arranged in 2010 insyallah.. coz by then i hoping sgt ill bringing my doter back here to SG..
san,
wanita suppose to understand another woman's feeling...but some kan really memang nak mintak kena debik....kadang2 they hv troubles...then dorang nak create troubles lak pat rumah tangga orang lain....
hmmmmmmm at least u all ex-gerlfren....but me i got to deal with EX-WIFE.....but thank God now dah aman....
wanita suppose to understand another woman's feeling...but some kan really memang nak mintak kena debik....kadang2 they hv troubles...then dorang nak create troubles lak pat rumah tangga orang lain....
hmmmmmmm at least u all ex-gerlfren....but me i got to deal with EX-WIFE.....but thank God now dah aman....
wati
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Nottygal... I nie jenis cemburu. So i will definitely keep the friendship simple. Kalau your hubby tak tahu pasal you kenal his ex, then keep it low.. just simple friendship btwn the 2 of you.
I've been married for almost 3 yrs now... Tapi last week, bila i go to my MIL place, she told my hubby.. "Eh, matair kau yg dulu tu nak kahwin lagi tau...3rd time..." I mean.. Hallo! How can she say like that depan i ... and that was 15 yrs ago, bila my hubby masih budak bujang dlm Sec sch. My hubby pun roll his eyes.. mcm lah kita kisah kan... the reason why my MIL dijemput is bcos dorang nie distance relative.. And this girl is 3rd time getting married. Duh!
kenapa lah most MIL always cekik darah...? takder masalah kasi masalah kat anak & menantu dia...sigh*
I've been married for almost 3 yrs now... Tapi last week, bila i go to my MIL place, she told my hubby.. "Eh, matair kau yg dulu tu nak kahwin lagi tau...3rd time..." I mean.. Hallo! How can she say like that depan i ... and that was 15 yrs ago, bila my hubby masih budak bujang dlm Sec sch. My hubby pun roll his eyes.. mcm lah kita kisah kan... the reason why my MIL dijemput is bcos dorang nie distance relative.. And this girl is 3rd time getting married. Duh!
kenapa lah most MIL always cekik darah...? takder masalah kasi masalah kat anak & menantu dia...sigh*
nora_aw / lina,
Inilah alam rumahtangga kan?
Padahal pompuan tu dah 28 tahun tau compared to me yg 24. Otak letak kat mana pon tak tahu lah.
I baru gak aman aft my 2nd birth. Teramat makan hati seh!
At the same time, tengah "act cool" with satu nenek cyber. Mulut pon boleh tahan tu...Sometimes I dun undstnd...Stating my husband tk mampu nk bawa anak dia gi holslah...tak mampu beli labels goods, my husband is a playboy etc...
Her doter got married to a steward, had a luxury life but why must critic my husband to all my close contacts? She is the one who chose the steward cos she luvs to travel...*sigh*
Inilah alam rumahtangga kan?
Padahal pompuan tu dah 28 tahun tau compared to me yg 24. Otak letak kat mana pon tak tahu lah.
I baru gak aman aft my 2nd birth. Teramat makan hati seh!
At the same time, tengah "act cool" with satu nenek cyber. Mulut pon boleh tahan tu...Sometimes I dun undstnd...Stating my husband tk mampu nk bawa anak dia gi holslah...tak mampu beli labels goods, my husband is a playboy etc...
Her doter got married to a steward, had a luxury life but why must critic my husband to all my close contacts? She is the one who chose the steward cos she luvs to travel...*sigh*
<font color="0000ff">nottygal
klu i, i buat bodoh je.. cos dat history pe.. and will not try to imagine or fikirkan yg bukan2. the more u tink abt it, makin tak tentu fikiran u pulak..
pasal nak continue to be fren or not tu- if u ask me, i will continue. unless both of them r in bad term or u dapat rasakan yg dia ada pasang niat nak dekat dgn hb kita balik ke, den of coz i will let go the frenship. </font>
klu i, i buat bodoh je.. cos dat history pe.. and will not try to imagine or fikirkan yg bukan2. the more u tink abt it, makin tak tentu fikiran u pulak..
pasal nak continue to be fren or not tu- if u ask me, i will continue. unless both of them r in bad term or u dapat rasakan yg dia ada pasang niat nak dekat dgn hb kita balik ke, den of coz i will let go the frenship. </font>
san,
they might hv the materials...to me duit boleh cariklah...but some p-ple tak der kebahagian....bila nampak orang lain bahagia.....mulalah MODE DENGKI meluap2....sampai sanggup nak hancurkan rumah tangga orang lain.....
nora, khwin doctor pun so what kan hihihihiih
they might hv the materials...to me duit boleh cariklah...but some p-ple tak der kebahagian....bila nampak orang lain bahagia.....mulalah MODE DENGKI meluap2....sampai sanggup nak hancurkan rumah tangga orang lain.....
nora, khwin doctor pun so what kan hihihihiih
lina,
In her multiply -- so lovey dovey u noe.
The mother tak habis-habis banggakan family anak prmpn dia yg no.2 tu. Padahal dia pon ada kakak yg dah berumah-tangga.
Ada hati bilang orng lain nk anggap I seperti "anak angkat...chett!
Weeks ago, both mother nad doter removed me completely from their contacts...kan dengki tu!
Sndri add, sndri blocked!
In her multiply -- so lovey dovey u noe.
The mother tak habis-habis banggakan family anak prmpn dia yg no.2 tu. Padahal dia pon ada kakak yg dah berumah-tangga.
Ada hati bilang orng lain nk anggap I seperti "anak angkat...chett!
Weeks ago, both mother nad doter removed me completely from their contacts...kan dengki tu!
Sndri add, sndri blocked!
WHAT!!!
No never heard abt that!!!!
Jauh kan la... taknak pikir macam nie semue
But that doesnt mean kite jadi bodoh lak
Mate mesti bukak, telinga mesti pasang
Handphone mesti check... dan berbagai bagai le...
I got a fren who even check the mileage on her hb's car... betul ye detail seh.
No never heard abt that!!!!
Jauh kan la... taknak pikir macam nie semue
But that doesnt mean kite jadi bodoh lak
Mate mesti bukak, telinga mesti pasang
Handphone mesti check... dan berbagai bagai le...
I got a fren who even check the mileage on her hb's car... betul ye detail seh.
nora_aw,
*slaps forehead*
Bank details, passport etc check tak?
lina,
Same here...bingit seh bila my close contacts cut and paste her entries + forwarding emails to me.
My hub mentioned -- dorang jealous bab hub tak pernah keluarkan se-sen utk presen etc pon kat anak dia kecuali ajak tgk wayang/mkn luar...
*slaps forehead*
Bank details, passport etc check tak?
lina,
Same here...bingit seh bila my close contacts cut and paste her entries + forwarding emails to me.
My hub mentioned -- dorang jealous bab hub tak pernah keluarkan se-sen utk presen etc pon kat anak dia kecuali ajak tgk wayang/mkn luar...
keep alarm ON battery pun weak....hihihi...in a marriage nak kena ade trust....dun despair some hub memang dari umat2 baik....kalau yg terkehel...some berjaya kembali ke pangkal jln....
from what i hv learned......love nie mesti dicultivate.....tak boleh let it stagnant....i made a mistake by letting it to be stagnant but im glad that me n hub dapat sort the things out....
from what i hv learned......love nie mesti dicultivate.....tak boleh let it stagnant....i made a mistake by letting it to be stagnant but im glad that me n hub dapat sort the things out....
wati
Active Member
hmm... just recently ada satu pakcik kat kerja i ckp, "Kucing kalau kasi ikan, mesti makan aper.. Mana ada kucing tak makan ikan. Kalau tak makan, mesti dia amik bau..." (He is describing MEN in general)
Aaargghh!! I benci tau.. he said this bcos he ever done wrong with the wife.. he said, kalau kita (men) keluar rumah, banyak godaan.. and si isteri will always have a "GUT" feeling.. and he said, most of the time his wife is feeling the truth. Tuhan yg maha esa, kasi kita ader this special feeling... so that we can stop it.. not ignore it.
So, makin kita tanyer, makin dorang takut yg tembelang dorang pecah.
Sigh* pening seh.. Pakcik nie pun i tgk decent jer.. sekali pernah kelentong bini dia lah
Aaargghh!! I benci tau.. he said this bcos he ever done wrong with the wife.. he said, kalau kita (men) keluar rumah, banyak godaan.. and si isteri will always have a "GUT" feeling.. and he said, most of the time his wife is feeling the truth. Tuhan yg maha esa, kasi kita ader this special feeling... so that we can stop it.. not ignore it.
So, makin kita tanyer, makin dorang takut yg tembelang dorang pecah.
Sigh* pening seh.. Pakcik nie pun i tgk decent jer.. sekali pernah kelentong bini dia lah
Mdm Wati,
I teramat sokong about our 6th sense...jgn cakap sekali, dah berkali I terasa perihal sebegini tho alhmdllh, at tis point of time my husband blom "kelentong" ke mana-mana. Jauhkanlah...
lina,
It's ok. Mmng sakit hati bila dpaat tahu hal sebenar. Yelah, baru balik umarh etc...
Nak buat jahat indirectly...dipersilakan...
HIGH END PEOPLE!!!
I teramat sokong about our 6th sense...jgn cakap sekali, dah berkali I terasa perihal sebegini tho alhmdllh, at tis point of time my husband blom "kelentong" ke mana-mana. Jauhkanlah...
lina,
It's ok. Mmng sakit hati bila dpaat tahu hal sebenar. Yelah, baru balik umarh etc...
Nak buat jahat indirectly...dipersilakan...
HIGH END PEOPLE!!!
Yo sistas!!! tHANK you so much for your feedback..nice way to keep our thread moving today..hehehe..besok i post another question ehh..
<font color="ff0000">The key to maintaining a happy marriage is simply this - never let a day go by that you don't let your beloved know how much you appreciate them and care for them.</font>
<font color="ff0000">The key to maintaining a happy marriage is simply this - never let a day go by that you don't let your beloved know how much you appreciate them and care for them.</font>
JTS,
Often when we are in a relationship for any length of time, we tend to take for granted our significant other and forget what it was that attracted us to them in the first place. This can be a very dangerous situation, especially when you become distracted by other temptations and illusions that are out there to woo you astray.
The phrase "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence" may suggest a better life beyond your own, but remember, you still have to mow the lawn and weed the garden to keep it looking lovely & fresh once you get there.
So, what are some things that you can do immediately to begin strengthening the bond with your betrothed?
1. Recognize what your partner does well, and comment on those strengths.
No one wants to be put down or belittled all the time, and unfortunately many marriages turn into nagging competitions where we focus on the negative aspects of the person or relationship that frustrates us. Identify the positives and play those up instead. For every single negative point, come up with four positive points to counter balance it.
2. Do something nice and unexpected for your spouse.
Definitely do nice things for your husband or wife on special occasions (birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, etc.) but in addition, try to do something memorable on a regular, otherwise uneventful, day that will brighten their outlook and make them feel appreciated.
3. Spend time together.
Common sense, but after several years together you may find your paths taking different directions. Make a conscious effort to plan "we time", not just "me time". Even if you don't share common interests, show your support by attending an event or being actively involved in your partners hobbies by asking questions and/or going along for the ride.
4. Review photos from happy times.
Maybe your wedding day was the most memorable, or that time you went camping and forgot the tent? Whatever the situation, find the happy pictures and relive the fun & excitement! Why not put together a coffee table scrapbook that you can enjoy with your spouse whenever you like or share with your friends and house guests? It'd be a great daily reminder of precious time enjoyed together.
5. Take pride in your relationship.
When you speak to others, try to say only positive things about your husband or wife. Don't commiserate about your spouse's shortcomings, but rather, be a champion touting their outstanding qualities. Soon you'll be amazed at how fortunate you feel about your great relationship, especially when you become the envy of all your co-workers, family and friends. Strive to make your marriage the very best it can be, each and every day!
Often when we are in a relationship for any length of time, we tend to take for granted our significant other and forget what it was that attracted us to them in the first place. This can be a very dangerous situation, especially when you become distracted by other temptations and illusions that are out there to woo you astray.
The phrase "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence" may suggest a better life beyond your own, but remember, you still have to mow the lawn and weed the garden to keep it looking lovely & fresh once you get there.
So, what are some things that you can do immediately to begin strengthening the bond with your betrothed?
1. Recognize what your partner does well, and comment on those strengths.
No one wants to be put down or belittled all the time, and unfortunately many marriages turn into nagging competitions where we focus on the negative aspects of the person or relationship that frustrates us. Identify the positives and play those up instead. For every single negative point, come up with four positive points to counter balance it.
2. Do something nice and unexpected for your spouse.
Definitely do nice things for your husband or wife on special occasions (birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, etc.) but in addition, try to do something memorable on a regular, otherwise uneventful, day that will brighten their outlook and make them feel appreciated.
3. Spend time together.
Common sense, but after several years together you may find your paths taking different directions. Make a conscious effort to plan "we time", not just "me time". Even if you don't share common interests, show your support by attending an event or being actively involved in your partners hobbies by asking questions and/or going along for the ride.
4. Review photos from happy times.
Maybe your wedding day was the most memorable, or that time you went camping and forgot the tent? Whatever the situation, find the happy pictures and relive the fun & excitement! Why not put together a coffee table scrapbook that you can enjoy with your spouse whenever you like or share with your friends and house guests? It'd be a great daily reminder of precious time enjoyed together.
5. Take pride in your relationship.
When you speak to others, try to say only positive things about your husband or wife. Don't commiserate about your spouse's shortcomings, but rather, be a champion touting their outstanding qualities. Soon you'll be amazed at how fortunate you feel about your great relationship, especially when you become the envy of all your co-workers, family and friends. Strive to make your marriage the very best it can be, each and every day!