ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?

halo mummies..
im now waiting as eagerly as sri is for my due date.
so wat do i do when my water breaks? ada org kata, need to rush down immediately, pasal takut infection. then some pple tak yah kelam kabut sangat.. just observe d contractions, then after some time baru pegi hospital.
so how?? which school of thought shld i listen to?
 


the reason i sold my bt panjang hse is bcoz i send back my maid after being wif us for nearly 4yrs. then since my ils were moving to woodlands side, we wanted to follow suit. actually i TAK NAK...i wanted to stay put at bp coz my kakak lives at bp.

tapi kerana dengar kata suami...i turutkan je...and now the problem come...

we tot kalau near org tua, when we need help somehow rather we can asked them for help..but sad to say, none of il family members are willing to help now.

every sat, i wld need their help..but for 2 occasions, when i n my kids were at their hse, they keluar early in the morn, noeing dat i need to go werk..no coice, 1 of the day i brought my 3 kids to werk, and the other 1, i took 1/2day leave
 
now...im thinking of how shuld i managemy time wif my kids.
got few options..
1. to quit my job but sure i will face wif financial probs.
2. to quit my fulltime job and look for part time job..but is it easy to find part time admin werk??
3. continue my full time werk and employ a maid...but i somehow dah serik ah amik maid..

im reli lost ah...so need a few opinions from mummies here..
thanks..
 
hi SITI,

how about looking for a babysitter who can help you take care of your chrn on saturdays only?

anyway, now that you and your hubby know that your ILs cannot help you, move back to BP lor. actually, when you moved to woodlands, did you make arrangements for them to take care of your children? these kind of things cannot be assumed. some grandparents love taking care of their grandchildren but some are most unwilling.
 
missy, u pun ngah waiting to unload eh.. hehehe.. I kdg2 nervous.. yelah..takut sorang2 kat umah abih water bag burst.. mak aii.. siapa nk tlg.... terpaksa call ambulance..kekeke..
 
dat was the BIGGEST mistake..my hubby tu ASSUMED dat his family wld help him. and now i keep telling him dat if i noe dis to happen, wld not have sold our hse..
sian ah....but at least from here i noe hati budi drg...very sad..

anyway, thanks naddy..at least there is one more option for me..dat is babysitter...any lobang??
 
hi sri,
mesti anxious gitu eh...i still remember when my boy nk keluar, i sempat watch movie wif my 2 gerls...dlm cinema tu, ader contraction...tapi member maintain je...duduk tkleh diam..hehehe..
 
SITI: whahahahahahaha... sempat seh.. if i, tk brani nk jln2... i rather rest at hm.. cz i heard labour ni needs alot of energy to push.. Ni pun 16 Aug terpaksa keluar meet gfs for bdae but ok la..dekat jer..AMK Hub.. if jauh jgn harap i nk pegi.. hehehe....

A'ah la..i anxious sgt.... keep counting dwn the days.. left wit 36 days...
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some says u muz be active so as to haf smooth delivery...exercise the muscle..
i miss my pregie days....but dread the moment reach labor ward.asik kena selup je...
imagine, i sampai dah anak 4, doctor keep reminding me to open up...dun be shy..asik nk kepit je..
 
siti
I so feel for u. hubby pun kalau boleh nak move in his parents and minta dorang tolong kita. dia pun assume his parens will help tapi I tak confident pasal cara dorang ni last minute boleh tukar plan.
he somtime unhappy coz I tak berapa percaya..

true wat Naddy say. add on, sometime even if grandparents say wan help. whether they boleh - is another story.be it too busy or tak pandai layan kids.

yup babysister for saturday sounds gd! maybe tanya-tanya ada neigbour yg boleh babysit.

all the best.
 
Hi Siti,

Yup, you boleh buat simple ad on small papers. Ckp yg you need baby sitter on Sat for 3 kids (name their age), tak payah jauh2 carik, just a few blocks within yours.. then put that you prefer malay aunties. Leave your hp number on it. Insyallah, sure ada yg call.. then you bleh go to their house and interview makcik2..

I know some makcik yg anak2 dorang dah besar quite lonely during weekends. Sama mcm my mum. My sisters sumer dah besar, asyik nak keluar dgn kawan jer.. so she abit lonely. Nasib i 'park' my daughter there.. ada juga teman dia bermain.

Ataupun, on Friday nite your kids can sleep over your sis place at Bp. At least Sat you pergi kerja tak kelam kabut. Saper lagi nak tolong kalau tak adik-beradik sendiri.. hehe
 
I think a babysitter is a good idea. I think you have to start asking around. My children are with a babysitter, my uncle's wife actually.

I'm working part time so she only looks after them from midday to evening. Usually pick them up before eight.
She has been looking after them since they were 6 mths onwards. My mum siang siang dah surrender, penat. Kalau tinggalkan sekejap like 1-2 hrs baru dia ok. Kalau you dapat carik keje yg 5 days work week, it'ld be more ideal kan.

Missy, welcome.
Usually when waterbag burst, you have to go straight to the hospital. Severe contractions might set in, plus the chance of getting infection. Nurse will also monitor your amniotic fluid level. Very important. Best not to wait.

And Sri, yup, kalau dah dekat to EDD, best to move about. It sure works for me. Both my deliveries are fast.
 
daec, i tink its good to live on our own ah..tinggal dgn in laws leh jadi conflict. tapi not all il yg jahat..like my sis, she alr divorce wif her hubby..but now she still living wif her mil who is taking care of her doter...lucky her...
hi wati, dats wat im doing rite now..i sleep at sis placeo on fri nite n i go werk from there on sat. tu ah..ngah cari jugak keje yg 5days week..lum ader rezki..

betty: i saw ur hse...very nice...too bad, got to wait for my hubby 3 mths payslip...if not leh grab eh...
 
betty.bad, bkn i nk dukung.. dia tk nk mummy dia.. tu yg payah... sbb mummy dia slalu usik2 pok2 dia.. n my sis ni tdo mati.. org suruh dia mandikan anak, dia buat dek jer.. leh tdo seh.. tk kan kita nk biarkan si kecik tu ngan pampers full wit urine & sometimes najis.. ishhh.. busuk seh.. melekit.. rimas i...

34wks plus consider dh sarat eh.. patutlah i penat semcm... pinggang sakit teramat sgt...
 
Sri, im also at my 34 wks, kadang2 tak sabar nak beranak.. rasa macam dah penat sngt being pregnant!! But will surely miss him in my tummy once kalau dah deliver nanti
 
Hellloooo semua

Yg baru2 I tak ingat I dah welcome you all ke belum..Anyway, welcome again!

Sekarang tgk yg hangat is Srinye posting..
Sri wish u all the best k..Dont think of anytg yg tak perlu difikirkan..bila sampai masakan, Im sure you'll knw how to react.Your gut feeling will somehow tell you that BB's coming!!

Mdm Wati
U tinggal mane?

Yg lain mana?
Si lynzi, Zu and Styliciously
Dah puas korang ukur jln kat orchard? Borong apa? Baby fair bagus?
 
hehehe..thks Shimmers!

Missy, yalor..i pun tk sabar..tadi bilang ibu hoping i deliver my bb on 18 Aug tt is on my bdae.. skali ibu ckp, bila dh 18 aug kau try teran la... leh gitu.. i ckp i hoping jer ape.. hahaha.. dh buang tebiat my mum ni suruh i teran.. skali teran najis yg keluar bkn bb... hee...

Bila u due? I'm on 12 sept.. Mademoiselle on 11 sept tk silap i..
 
Sri, Im due Sept 19, baby boy. U doa lah bnyk2 ur baby kluar on ur bday. Some Aug 08 mummies deliver few weeks b4 their due date.. Hehehhe.. Manalah tau.... ;p
 
hehehe... tu la.... bi hoping jer..if termakbul lagi happie... gt my bdae present!.. keke..

I nye pusat dh tk leh nampak.. wat abt urs?
 
Sher,
Lynzi bayar niat pergi shopping lah dgn Zu sebab brape hari tu kan stress - Faiq sakit.

Sri,
Jgn teran teran tau. Pergi toilet tu berhati hati. Skali mana tahu, baby yg terkluar. Eh ade case gini terjadi tau. Then on the other hand, banyak banyak exercise and walk about at home. Dah siap smua barang barang to hospital?

Lynzi,
Aku dah pergi dah the Yu Guo tu. Baby Mel terus knocked out aft the massage session. Aku dah tak tido for the past 2 days sebab dia cranky and furthermore kena high fever malam semalam. Lega hati sikit.

BTW - a 3yo boy dies of suspected HFMD.
http://www.asiaone.com/Health/News/Story/A1Story20080807-81215.html
 
babylee: hehehe.. i tk kan teran la.. dh siap..siang2 i dh siapkan.. hehehe.. juz in case ajer... kiasu..1st time mum.. dunno wat can i expect, so its better to get ready asap..
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sorry i side track sikit..

nk tumpang tanya.. u all tau an indian coffee shop beside tekka market? situ ada jual thosai masala.. agak2 dlm kul brapa kedai tu buka?
 
hihi gerls,
makin ramai newbies here.
welcome welcome!!

taka fair not much things.
only bought the necessary.
zu tak jadi ikut cos she gotta attend to some other matters...so onli me and hetty plus faiq and ayuni.
i think we shopped more at paragon...hehe..

babylee,
glad to hear babymel is responding well to the treatment.
must go for 3 straight days kan?
yah heard about the hfmd boy from the news...so scary...he got it from education centre in woodlands rite?

sri,
the coffee shop u meant is it the blue diamond?
if blue diamond i think pagi around 8 or 9 dah open.
time i was preggy everytime go checkup at kk mesti singgah blue diamond...
mamak sampai geleng kepala see the way o order food and eat...
briyani dam, thosai, murtabak, mango lassi and teh tarik all at one go...ehehehe...shiok habis!!!
 
siti,
oh dear...
i can empathise with your predicament.
its so hard when u get such unreasonable and inconsiderate in laws..
ni dah same boat as daec.

how old are your kids?
if just for 1 day then can look into getting babysitter.
if more than a day then can try the option of sending to half day care.
 
ladies...
HELPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP..
lately faiq has been so cranky and clingy with me.
i'm at a lost cos there is nothing i can do when he's awake.
even if he needs milk, i cannot walk away to make the milk cos he will be crying his lungs out.
nak biarkan he cry kejap while i make macam kesian i scared he cry too much will result in fits...maklumlah anak lelaki...
sigh...
even to prepare water for his bath pun susah.
any mummies here know of how i can improve the situation tak?
getting more stressed up as the days go by.
 
lynzi: i tk tau nama dia.. but its beside atm machine... I mengidam nk mkn thosai masala la.. hehehe... tot of eating dere b4 my appt which is at 9.10am.. if 8am dh buka, u tink thosai dh siap ke belum? after checkup nk jln sana mcm malas lak.. haiz....dh nk 9mths mengidam lak...
 
selamat malam ibu ibu...

ooohhhh...topic pasal in laws jaga anak ni memang sensitive...i also have the same experience lahh...beginning of the year my mil ada tanya me n hubby if kita nak pindah woodlands, then let her jaga the kids so she can have some spare cash...she dat time baru kena retrenched together with the hubby...i actually not sooo keen on the idea cos i tak suka the way she discipline kids...(example is her son with her hubby ni lahh...sooo the rascal..takleh angkat) but my hubby ok wif it cos he wants me to start working again and she is the only one we can trust to jaga the kids...but bila kita skarang dah plan jual umah n all....haiz....i suruh my hubby make confirmation she willing to jaga tak and her ans was "Not every day kan? 2-3 times a week ok lahhh....." kalau ku tau...takkan ku plan nak pindah sana...but apakan daya....ikut kan suami...
 
alamak lynzi..ni dh mcm my niece dulu2...
sama mcm ur son.. haiz.... igt no idea hw to improve the situation but tis is wat i do last time..

i masa buatkan dia susu, i hold her skali jadi tk de la dia nangis... and oso talk2 to her..
But need practice sbb Nur tu dia heavy.. tk larat seh...muz hold tightly...

part nk mandikan dia..ada kelakar sikit..i put the rocker outside toiet door.. so she can see i'm near her.. talk to her as well.. kdg2 works.. muz cpt siapkan air.. all muz be fast & steady..nt easy..but as time goes by, u'll used to it...

Oh ya, b4 dia bangun tu, siapkan brg2 utk buat susu... jadi senang sikit..tk de la kelam kabut bila dia bangun nk minta susu..cz nur ni, bangun jer nk susu...
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somehw, i rasa bersyukur cz no in-laws..hehehe..

share wit u all my sis nye case.. bila dia preggie, she asked her MIL nk jaga tk her daughter after she deliver.. MIL said No sbb nk continue keje cz she oso hv a younger son in pri sch to support... so my mum volunteer to jaga..

But bila my sis nk due...dia nye baik..masak kan lauk ketam la... after she nk discharge, pagi2 dia dh visit my sis nk bring sis back to her hse.. Ibu i pun bingit la.. masa preggie tk nk jaga my sis..itu la..ini la..byk2 alasan dia beri.. but after tgk cucu.. dia lak rebut cucu tapi tk jaga my sis..suruh my sis buat keje umah la, masak kan utk suami la, even hv to send him to the door.. merapek kan... sdg kan my sis my c-section.. tarak otak siak...

fuh!! fikir balik darah up babe!!
 
shimmers, aku tak join lynzi lar...

lynzi, sorie tadi tak sempat nak join korang.. aku kluar rmh da lambat.. plus rain and all sumer tergendala kejap. but i went to the Babyfair.. nothing much jer nak bli. same like the previous one, tink dats like 3mths ago only..
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aku spend on Adam lagi!!!!!! im trying v hard but this time daddy yg gave in. spend on Lego!

bety.bad, dekat la still ard the same kampung.

sri leo, kalo sempat panggil ambulans takpe.. jgn tak sempat trus 'terbranak' pat rmh. lol!! lagi kecoh. like my sister. she made my mum cuak kejap.. cos only left the two of them pat rmh, baby nak kluar ape nak buat! lol!! tink she followed my mak nye genes ler. cos kite sumer dilahirkan pat rmh! :p except my youngest adik.
 
lynzi..

if u takut/susah nak tinggalkan baby u to make milk he will also catch the vibes and feel more insecure....(thats wat i think lah) masa my hilmi masih infant kan..i would tell him "mama buat susu k..jap ajer" then just go ahead even tho he cried...wen i get back i will pacify him by showing him the milk and he will calm down...kalau selalu buat gitu they will understand that to get the milk he will have to wait...and mama will always come back as she had promised...actually kita yg kena keraskan hati...mummies memang senang cair bila dgr baby nangis...for bathing time or other times wen u just need to get sumthing u can try do the same thing or give him sumthing to occupy himself even for a moment...babies at this age will of cos cry a lot...takut kena tinggal but in the end they will ween themselves if we help them along by helping ourselves too...
 
Zu: hahhahahahaha.. tk blh angkat baca ur story... isshy..i tk nk branak kat umah... org2 kat umah ni no exp at all! hee...
 
Sri, blue diamong kat belakang the market, bukan sebelah ATM tu. Tapi like Lynzi said, situ sedapppp! I love the teh tarik there. Masala thosai dia pun sedap. But unfortunately, for both pregnancies, I can't eat anything Indian. Confirm muntah belahak. Bau kari pun takboleh, up to full term. Teruk eh. Jadi bila time tak pregnant ni lah I bedal.

Pasal the HFMD case, menyeramkan ah. I thought the case of Raiyan was bad enough. Btw, there will be a benefit gig for little Raiyan on the 17th and 24th Aug at Music Garage. All proceeds will go to his family. Tix at $10. Mana tau your husbands/ partners fans of underground music.

Pasal MIL, memang oh so sensitive. I've heard of worse cases yg mana MIL does nothing but sow discord between husband and wife.
 
*siti*
I agree better not stay with IL. kadang ni hubby tak faham. if must stay with any parents - prefer girl side.stay with girl side, stay with guy side - lain ah pasal girl no matter wat kena masuk dapur or buat home chores. kena tegur lebih than guys. ada juga time I kena marah sebab I tak rapat with his folks. nak jadi isteri baik sometime kena diam. tapi kadang dorang ni tak logical or reasonable seh. tak fikir all segi. kita kena cakap juga..I pun kadang try diam on certain issue. tapi I diam in the end, i tak boleh live with it u know. kena cakap juga

hope u manage solve this issue job insya Allah



*lynzi*
hmm.. nak kata pasal gigi. its not time yet kan ?

can try put the milk/water in the room. milk and water - ukurkan beforehand everytime u r free. like me, if at nite - the exact water and milk powder amt dah standby. tinggal pop in the milk into the water and shake aje

water - if I can manage, I carry bathtub one hand and baby in one hand. else I just run in and out toilet while water filling hehe. There is a mirror facing the toilet and crib so she can see me when I filling the water. no choice ah if cry. kena buat cepat-cepat aje


*mamaliz*
wah like dat ah..gd point, must say exactly time and days.. sik baik, u tak payah pindah.


*sri*
kesihannya ur sis. c-section somemore. macam mana pun, kena mak sendiri juga jaga. I think if I cant get my mum, i rather get maid
 
siti
hmm fikir2,if hubby assume IL can help means hubby at fault pasal tak cakap with them clearly in advance. at least u can use this for future if u got similar argument. I manage speak up pasal ada past case dorang sik tukar plan so cannot minta sangat tolong dorang, hubby tak le jawab. :p
 
lynzi - i agree with mamaliz. when i was a SAHM last year, there was a period when my daughter was like superglue. i pergi dapur to prepare her porridge, dia melalak macam kene physically abused. i just buat bodoh. dia meraung2 kat the gate that i put at the kitchen entrance. kita betul2 kene cekalkan hati and ignore them when they are being ridiculous.

pasal hfmd - most of the hfmd clusters happen in kindergartens/childcare which are fully airconditioned. so, i'm taking a precaution by putting my girl in a childcare yang takde aircon.

anyway, what do you all think, ah? is it better to die from it or survive but be paralysed forever?
 
Hi Shermin,

I tinggal Blk 657A Jurong West St 65. You pun tinggal dekat ker..?

Hi sumer... pasal IL memang panas selalu. Nasib i tak tinggal dgn IL. Sekarang pergi sanan once a week pun mesti ada jer aku kena. Sigh* My hubby plak kes malas nak defend i.. so i kena ubatkan hati sendiri.. hmmm. bila share dgn hubby, he just said buat bodoh.. jgn amik hati..
Tapi kita orang pompuan susah plak nak take it lightly kan..

If you all have msn, add me ok.. [email protected]
 
morn smuer...
hiya.pasal il nyer criter ni sampai bsk pagi pun tkleh abis. i ni dari kahwin sampai skrg tk pernah bual dgn fil coz he is 1 kind.
fyi, im now putting my 3 kids (5yrs,4yrs & 2yrs) in childcare. cuma i got prob every thurs( i need to cover my fren till 9pm) and sat lak, childcare abis kul 1pm but i abis werk kul 3pm.

pasal hfmd, seram dibuat nyer...few mths back my son down wif it but not so major...then now dia aru recover from fever. abt raiyan tu, i manage to donate $ to his family tru a multiplier.

naddy, whether to live wif it or simply die...susah sikit to jawab..tapi if die,of coz we will lose our loved one but at least we wont see him suffer...

the baby fair tkde yg bagus ke?
 
hi gerls,
i tried to tinggalkan him to prepare his bath just now.
he cried and crawled out trying to follow me.
i pun did not see him.
tiba2 i heard him wailed extra loud.
rupanya while crawling he tot he wana rest for a while so he turned his body to lie down so apa lagi...his head hit the floor.
melalak kejap budak tu.
nasib he looks ok.
arghhhh...i should reali go buy his play yard soon.
that way if he falls pun he will still be on his playmat.

zu,
kau check adam's school...where u intend to send him?

wati,
mak oi dear...
u put your addy here for the whole world to see.
shermin tu orang east lah...
if u scroll up or the previous archive u can see our excel file that states where the mummy lives and her kinds names plus birth dates.
go get lynn to update for u.

gerls,
think sally should have given birth by now rite?
wonder how is she and baby.
 
lynzi

so apa you borong kat baby fair semalam?

With regard to anak melekat, my 15 mth old pon sama lah. Tak leh out of sight! I just let him cry, or worse come to worse, angkut aje lah while I'm doing my work.

zu

wah adam dah tau main lego eh? Right now i kasi my adam main Uno stacko aje...we stack & he destroys them!

Betty.Bad
Thanks for yr suggestion! We went to ExplorerKid yesterday. Quite fun! Cuma I aje penat semalam, naik turun all the maze / slides kat sana. Gi weekday bagus ah, tak crowded
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betty.bad, I tk suka mkn mknan India, but sejak2 preggie ni suka lak.. tink my bb suka la sbb daddy dia ada indian blood in him.. if i tk preggie, jgn harap i nk mkn.. hehehe..my dear bb tk suka my fav food..

daec, mmg kesian..but glad its all over..MIL dia tu suka sow discord between HB & wife...byk nah complain dia but all nt true....nk bawa anak keluar pun dia tk kasi, said muz ask his son permission 1st..tk kan semua muz ask seh....

wati, i add u liao..
 
smalldreams, I suggest ajer padahal belum pernah pegi. Heard about it from my sis. Glad you had fun with your Adam.

Naddy, to die or be paralysed, very complex question. No one wants to lose their children to this dreaded disease. Minta-minta dijauhkan. But to lose your child just like that, padahal budak tu sebelumnya sihat wal'afiat, it must be really really devastating. Luckily so far, my son's school has no HFMD cases.

Lynzi, yeah Sally has given birth. I saw her pics on her blog. She placed the link somewhere here before.

Sri, yeah time mengandung, selera semua tukar. For my 1st son, I asyik nak makan western. There was once I pegi lunch kat Swensens one week straight. Terkopak duit.
 
srileo, yah.. i tak buat lawak ler.. it really happens. she only complain sakit perut.. lol!! funny! dat was her 2nd birth lagi.

lynzi, aku intend to send him to childcare lah.. ade chinese malay.. senang sikit.. fees dia equivalent dgn mandarin class yg dia pegi skrg. :p so i tink its more worth it la. actually i also dunno.. lol!! see how it goes la, tapi aku ni KS, i already put my name on the wait list!

naqia, dia dulu main megablocks tapi dia kate terlalu besar.. asyik tunggang terbalik jer bende tu.. so he asked his daddy to get Lego for him la ytd. cos so happens we pass by that Lego shop at Taka.
 
betty.bad, tu la my mum pun terkejut bila i minta thosai sbb dulu i pernah mkn but hate the taste...

Zu, i really cant imagine myself giving birth at hm.. don want tt to happen..lagi2 tis is my 1st pregnancy..
 
Lynzi,
Sally dah gave birth dah. Very selamat. I sms her last month. She's overwhelmed. But I didn't ask if it was a girl or a boy. Silly me!

As for Faiq, I think he's insecure without you lah. Last time Darling oso the same. She's my handbag. Pergi mana pun nak ikut. Even when I need to poo she will be there sitting in front. As long as she sees me right in front of her eyes. She's quiet.

Daec,
As for inlaws. No comment lah. Cos we hardly talk anyway. Nothing to talk about. If pergi their house, no choice lah but to watch channel 8. Cuma hi hi je and smile smile. Already 4 years pun sama je everytime. I will just make myself comfortable je kat sana and play with the kids.
 

My in-law pulak tak stay kat spore....luckily far away at Pahang...but will pindah at JB once our house siap next yr...so i no need to travel jauh2....my FIL is a msian but not my MIL...so bila raya ke or any of the holidays my MIL will come to my hse n visit her family here. So my kids all tak so manja with my in-law n my hubby nye 3 siblings which are msian too.
 
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