ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?

nora aw,
You pergi supermarket mana yang out of stock? Kalau you pergi Giant yang kat Tampines (dekat ikea), itu confirm mesti ada rempah adabi. Kat situ, dia orang selalu stock up rempah nasi goreng adabi / brahim etc.

lynzi,
cakap pasal jagaan ni kan, walaupun i dalam hari, mak i pantang kasi i keluar. Tapi dah 2 kali i kasi excuse nak balik rumah tengok-tengok rumah sekejap. Pantang dia tak boleh keluar malam. Tapi kan i kesian tengok bapa i. Anak i kat rumah tok dia, punya super nakal. Tak boleh duduk diam. Ada aje barang yang dia kena pegang. Tak boleh dengar kata tu. Tapi kalau kat rumah i lain....
Hari ini lagi Vesak day. Anak i tak de sekolah. Nasib baik mak i kerja. boleh curi-curi keluar. I bilang bapa i yang i keluar sekejap pergi order kek untuk hari anak i buat cukur rambut nanti. Sebenarnya, i nak kasi bapa i peace sikit kat rumah. Kesian lah... tengok anak i yang tak boleh diam ni. Tapi kan, boleh rasa lah, dlm hari ni tak boleh keluar lama-lama. Mesti ada rasa badan tak sedap, breasts dah cepat engorge etc.

Slings: I ada MIM sling. Pakai sekejap aje pasal tak pandai nak ikat. I lebih suka pakai baby carrier.
 


ic
then u go out ni ur dad jage baby ke? atau u bawak sekali? i time dlm hari tak kuasa nak keluar, takde baju nak pakai la.. then time tu kalau keluar pun pegi maid agency aje, sugguh tak spirit.

supermarket yg i went to:
ntuc white sands
sheng siong loyang point
shop and save pasir ris
giant at parkway(the last time i got it from there)

yesterday pegi ikea, pegi jugak giant kat sane, takde la bende tu, betul betul punye OOS. The boxes pun dah packed and taped, nanti later nak bawak to post office. Dah buat ni dah senang, kalau tak always on my mind to pack things and the list keeps on growing!!

betty.bad
thanks for infor on teh disnaey rest, da lama tak pegi ikea kat situ. i will bring my niece and nephew there la.. ni semue novelty aje.

lynzi
u got a good deal on the jumperoo... memang pening kepala nak simpan barang barang ni... i punye exersaucer pun i kasi my brother pakai, kalau tak menyemak bende tu...
 
sabrina,
welcome!!

gathering at zu's house...
gerls, i'm so sorry i cannot make it.
i masih demam on and off.
i tak naklah go there and infect all the kids.
nanti kesian korang nak jaga...hehe.
 
nora aw
bapa i lah i jaga baby sekejap. tak bagus lah bawa baby keluar bila masih dalam hari. i dah keluar 2 kali balik rumah i sekejap untuk ambil barang-barang dokumen atau barang baby. Ini lah yang leceh kalau tinggal rumah mak.
hari ini, i keluar sekejap order kek untuk baby i. dlm keluar tu, sempat jugak shopping sikit beli baju nursing. kalau balik kerja, ada jugak baju nursing untuk pakai. order online dari MIM, sampai sekarang tak de berita dari MIM. Nasib baik belum bayar. Haix...
Balik aje, bapa i complain yang anak i buat semak kat bilik mandi dia. Haix.... Kita mungkin tak sedar bila dia buat semak. Mak bapa i tak sanggup nak layan dan jaga boy i ni. Yang hairan, dia kat rumah mak bapa i aje nakal dia satu macam! Tapi kat rumah sendiri, disiplin sikit. Mungkin salah mak bapa i juga. bila dari kecil, dah manjakan sangat dia.
Peninglah kepala mak bapa i selalu complain pasal anak i ni. Rasa serba salah pun ada, rasa kesian mak bapa i pun ada... walaupun i kasi extra duit untuk mak bapa i dlm confinement ni, tapi i boleh nampak dia orang penat. Mak i hari ini sampai tak nak tukar shift dia untuk ambil off. Dia sanggup pergi kerja pasal dia kata anak i terlampau nakal kat rumah dia.
bila i tengah type ni, laki i pun tengah pukul anak i dgn tali pinggang. Rasa hati i sekarang pun tak senang. kadang-kadang, i macam nak cut short confinement i dan balik aje kat rumah. tapi mak i tak kasi. Macam mana tak post-natal depression??!?!?!?
 
ic,
last time who used to take care of your boy tu?
i think if u can, go hm n continue your confinement at hm.

Your boy tu, during the day, ask your hubby to send back to the cc or babysitter's place n fetch time petang je.
so at least u will have some rest.
but of cos if u dah back to your own house u have to make sure that u reali follow thru the confinement.
 
ic

yr 1st child brapa tahun eh? Mine just turned 1, and dia tak leh dok diam even for 3 seconds! Time baru bangun tido pon dah start nak capai2 benda.

Now that he's quite good at walking already, he prefers to explore. Kalau gi shopping mall pon, he'll ask to be removed from stroller. Just now he walked around quite a bit at takashimaya... orang lalu semua dia nak pegang. I wonder if I was a bad parent, sebab I let him run around rather than confine him to the stroller
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ic

u must take care k? can imagine yr stress. Would it help if you gave yr boy some duties to do? Pukul pakai tali pinggang? Any improvements after that?
 
lynzi/naqia,
my boy ni dah 3 tahun. Dia pergi cc satu hari. Kerana jumaat lepas, cc tutup pasal ada staff training dan isnin pulak vesak day, jadi 4 hari dia ada kat rumah mak i.
dia cuma kat rumah mak i tak boleh diam. tapi rumah i disiplin sikit.
I betul-betul admire ibu-ibu yang ada 3 atau 4 empat. Macam mana dia orang cope? Hai..i baru anak 2 dah rasa betulnye stress. Mana nanti balik kerja, jaga anak, masak, kemas rumah.. kadang-kadang rasa macam boleh breakdown gitu.
Ini pun nanti nak buat anak i punya cukur rambut, macam-macam kena settle. Banyak barang i kena settle sebelum balik.
 
lynzi
i understand ur predicament! My farah pun sama mcm ur boy but she's only 18 mths. Di a bukan ckp nakal but v v active!
I think kan ur boy is jealous of the baby lah so he's doing all these to get attention esp from ur parents since they manja him so he wud feel left out.
My mil kata kalau farah hit the baby (which she did few times) jgn marah but tell her nicely. Then get her to kiss the baby or sayang the baby many times.
Kalau i jadi u, i tk buat sukur rambut cos that's not a must kan. Tapi pasal my mil yg nak buatkan so everything she uruskan. We just go there and bring baby.
Ur hb pukul Adam pakai tali pinggang? Bila my hb pukul tapak tangan farah aje my heart dah cringe! Usually i wud see her in the eye and explain to her. Since ur boy dah blh faham, better to explain to him. Reserve the tali pinggang for serious offences lah kalau blh. If nt, dia will immune to it and will hv no effect on them - my opinion jelah, from my experience with teenages in sch.

nora aw
sibuk packing for ur sis eh?

zu
hw was the gathering? Mesti riuh!
 
btw yesterday i went shopping spree again and spent more than $500! I bought the Ergo carrier for $189 seh..but i can't carry shakil in it yet cos he's too small but tried with farah and she likes it on the back..
I also bought my dad 3 baju for his bday. Another splurge was on Clarins body shaping cream to reduce my cellulite!! and firming my tummy..ingat nk try 1 tube ($75) but then promo for 2 is $117 so apa lagi? belilah...hmmm bnyk angkut smlm. I gi dgn hb and shakil je..so at least ada peace and quiet to shop...
 
ic
Kesian i dengar ur boy kena pukul dgn tali pinggang.

hope today u less stressed la pasal ur boy da pegi cc. Jgn worry sangat.

Kalau ur parents feel stressed with ur boy around maybe bile u dah sihat sikit like 3 weeks after delivery u balik ur house sudah... I am that type of person kalau bukan rumah sendiri, i tak comfortable sangat. even if its my parents home. eversince i move out, i never sleep over at my parents.. so maybe u are not well rested too sebab tu adds on to ur stress.

pasal confinement tu, kalau kat rumah only u and baby i think Insya'Allah bole cope pasal time confinement pun kite makan all very bland food kan, nothing really special. Cume like lynzi say ur hb kena fetch ur boy from cc.

sekarang pun leceh kan u pegi balik ur house. You must rationalise with your mum for the sebab sebab u nak balik rumah sendiri.

Pasal kids and grandparents, my boy pulak bile i marah dia, he will show some remorse la, like he will hug me. But if nenek dia marah dia, he terus angkat kaki jalan. See, so young they already know who they can take adavantage of.

naqia
my boy kalau pegi shopping centre pun nak get out of his stroller, esp bile dia nampak escalator. Most of the time hb la kena walk with him and dukung him..



Dun Sweat the Small Stuff.
 
sharena
ya lah, pack for my sis, apa lagi rempah rempah semue include la. Two boxes of abt 19kg each. Dah angkat pegi post office sekali they say now to qatar no more by sea must go by air, mahal tu. so i call my sis, dia nak go head ke tak? she say no choice, kalau tak dia balik handcarry lagi mahal.. so total slightly below 40kg kena bayar $661 but at least it will reach her within 14 days. Dapat la dia makan dia punye want want cracker and dried mangoes...
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such trivial things pun my sis crave for it

i think what u say abt attention seeking tu betul la.. pasal ic's boy now tengok banyak org concentrate kat adik dia

This morning nak pegi keje liat seh...
 
Smat pagi mommies, I nak mintak buah pikiran you all lah...

Smlm I ngan hubb dok discuss abt the second one. My 1st dd juz turned 1yr last mth. You all think its too early to hav a second kid? Im 30 already tis yr.

Secondly, kite tinggal jauh dr both parents; in-laws in the west, my mum south, kite north east. Problem is sapa nak jaga both kids? Right now, my 1st is being taken care by a babysitter, tapi dia tu active sgt! If we have a second, I dont think the kakak can jaga both.

Fr mommies experience, will an active kid simmer down when she turns 2yrs?

Mommies in the same boat as me, FTWM, staying far away fr parents, I nak taulah what is your arrangement for the kids?

Is it save to leave a 2yr old with a maid and put the younger baby with the babysitter?

Thanks mommies for your help =)
 
naqia/lynzi
abt mums, maybe its also becoz time bila they jaga us as babies dah cukup stress/penat. dun want to repeat it. I think hidup ni ada season. bila 'season' tua, priorities/energies/fikiran dah lain. depend person to person. ada orang dah tua nak relax atau do the things dulu tak dapat or try something new. to me, even my mum nak jaga - dia dah tua. energy not like before. disiplin factor pun lain. waktu jaga her own kids, more disipine. with cucu- more manja heheh. best own parents jaga sendiri. yeah la not easy in today's times.

ic
kesihannya kena pukul dengan tali pinggang. If u tegur, ur hubby tak dengar. maybe cari surah/hadith that say cant do that to e kid and tell him. as far as i know - can only beat lightly aje
 
ic, I know it's stressful tapi jangan fikirkan sangat, especially now that you're not even over your confinement. Make sure you really rest well.

If you're more comfortable staying at your own house, why not just finish your confinement over there, like Lynzi suggested. I did both my confinements at my own house too. During the 2nd one, my husband sent and fetch my elder one to and from the babysitter's. There's no one to look after me as well as my mother's working and my MIL lives in Johor. My mother cuma jaga I for a week.

For my 2nd boy pun I forgo the cukur rambut. I cuma ask my late grandpa to buat doa selamat because I've learnt from my previous experience. Mana sakit, nak prepare for everything, nak layan tetamu, then at last penat sendiri after everything's over.

Yang penting, you are well rested and you need all that energy when you're over the maternity leave. At first, you'll find it difficult to cope but as time goes by, you will manage.

Lin,
I found out I was pregnant with my 2nd one when my 1st was 11 months old. Both of them are just 18 months apart. I guess it's never too early to have a no 2 if you're ready.

Have you discussed with the babysitter whether she's willing to take care of both? That was what I did. I asked my aunt whether it was ok for her.

And from experience, an active 1 yo won't simmer down when he/she turns two. In fact, that's when the terrible two period starts.

Just my POV.
 
Lin
Many pple will tell u that in this case, Tepuk Dada Tanye Selera.. but at least u tengah consider the logistics, bagus tu.

Tengok Sharena, Farah is 18 mo and da dapat adik. Kudos to Sharena and Farain.

My sis ye kids only 12 mths apart, punye la kelam kabut dia time tu, but we are lucky bec my mom has always been SAHM and love kids.To me having kids esp more than one you will require family support.

From past experiance with maids, I will not leave kids alone with maids. My mom is around to oversee the maid.

betty.bad cakap tu betul, u tanye the baby sitter dulu, kalau dia sanggup bagus kan.

I am 37 this year and my boy will turn two at end of July. Kalau ingat balik time pregnant and give birth and recovery, memang tak nak go thru lagi. I am vey happy with my boy and thought that its enough.

But recently I went to a realtive's funeral. And that couple only have one daughter. Although she is already in her 30s, at that time I can really see she was feeling lost, kesian sekali tengok dia. She has her own kids and family but i guess dia dah takde org yg has seen her grown thru the years. For me, my sibling are very close to each other so i pikir, kalau i takde sibling, tak ke sedih (I am not a good writer la, so tak bole express exectly ape i really feel... i hope u guys get whr I am gg). Nak uruskan jenazah pun kena bergantung pada cousins cousins.

So pasal sayang my boy and dun want him to be lonely when me and hb are gone, kalau ade rezeki I will try again at the end of the year.

I've heard of the terrible two too.. so i guess it will not get better huh.
 
Bpsimplylne
i had my first one when i was 29..time tu ok...then the 2nd@31 one pun ok..masih manageble...i mean during pregancy..now at 33 for 3rd one...it is so tiring ..i guess it's the age from my opinion....cos i see younger girls walking aroung pregnancy mcm relaks gitu...a little regret kawin 2 late...tapi aper nak buat jodo lambat..for my case my ILaws suppose to stay with me..but there r not at my place all the time as the rather spend their time @ my SIL place cck ..n my place @teck y....doesn't means we stay in the same house or nearby..they can look after our children..cos ever since my 2nd one, i'd learnt my lessons not2 depend on others ..always b prepare 4 worst case scenarios...so with the 3rd one coming, i'm sending my 2nd one to the childcare with my 1st one..it's tiring but worth it...my PILs wanted to look after the 3rd one once we told them tat i'm expecting but juz didn't trust them..as once bitten twice shy...the reason i said so it was when i was having my 2nd one for confinement...my MIL left me alone witn my 2 kiddos...to my SIL house for like forever..moreover my SIL has a maid n she not werking tat time..n she juz took her mom away without even discussing..it relli hurts...another case was my dotter got hmfd..n my MIL rather take care of my SIL sons tat r 13 n above....so me n hubby were pretty upset with regards 2 all tis happening....solly 4 the lengthy stori..

u must wonder y i didn't employ a maid..not tat i dun 1..but hubby is relli against tis..as he didn't trust Maids @ all...my suggestion is 2 plan wisely...

zu
amacam riuh smalam...sori tat bole make it...my body aching n still feeling vely tired...harap jer rumah dekat tapi tak leh hadir...

sharena
i also suker tat ergo...i feel better wearing it compare hip carrier..the price worth it cos bole pakai sampai 7 yrs ols depen on weight...but tat time i beli abt us$110 n it comes with a diaper bag...now harga dia dah naik melambong...u beli wich design???
 
ryatie
so now you expecting no 3...dah brapa bulan, bila due eh...same2 wif me lah....now no 3...penat giler...tak macam the #1 & 2....somemore umur dah up lagi hehehhe...jln slow aje....selalu kena potong dgn younger mum yg preggy...me dapat jodoh lambat jugak hahahaha...married at 29, dapat 1st one @33 then 2nd @35 now the 3rd one coming soon...

lin
dulu i tak yakin wif CC so mum offered herself and resigned to jaga the no1 and now for my both sons...my mum yg jaga since now dah nak tambah lagi 1...i now hired a maid dah almost 1mth+....terpaksa...mum dah tak kuat....i not so worried coz my mum stays wif me since i married....yg no 2 too active selalu bully the bro...mum terpekik2 cam tarzan....MIL stays jauh sgt kat Pahang...she ever offere nak jaga my 3rd one but i told her toooooo far away...tak leh samemore i dapat bb gerl lagi hehehe...different ppl have different ways...so u have too plan baik2 lor...
 
heheh
mak i pulak kite panggil Transformers. Bec she is caring for my son and also my niece and nephew.. who are 6 and 7.. so bila nenek marah aje terus jadi Transformers!!! Tu pun budak budak tu tak tau takut...

ryatie
lame tak nampak kat sini. Congratulations on Expecting the 3rd child...
 
Hi smua, thanks for you opinions. Kudos to you all, mcm mana lah u all cope ni.

ic,
kesian I dgr. Take things easy k, jgn sampai breakdown. I pun agree dgn Lynzi n Bettybad. Kalau u dah rasa sihat sikit, balik rumah pun ok jugak, lebih selesa. I pun dulu stayed at my moms plc 7 days jer untok urut, lepas tu I handle my confinement sendiri pat umah. apa nak buat, my mum keje... ada yg lain tu kata nak jaga I tapi ...haiz...ingat2 balik masa I confinement, buat my blood boil aje.
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tak sama mak sendiri...

Bettybad,
My babysitter siang2 dah "sound" kata dia "kalau dah ada adik ambik maid pun bagus, senang sikit" I think dia tak sanggup nak jaga another Nurul. Tapi tak pe, I try asking. Oh, and I almost forgot abt the Terrible Twos!!

ryatie22,
eh, kite mcm sama gitu eh? my 1st pun at 29. second ni ngah planning 31 ke 32. My hubb ckp stop at 2. Tapi insyaAllah, kalau ada rezeki, I nak 3. Kalau my 2nd is at 32, when its my 3rd, mesti mcm you penat eh...hmmm...

Oh, masa my 1st confinement pun I dah learnt a lesson. I pikirkan org tu ikhlas nak tolong. Tapi sampai kul 3ptg pun I tak makan, alasannya dia tak tau pegi kedai-padahal kedai kat bawah blk jer! Bila my hubb balik I pun mengadulah, I lapar. Dah tu dia create story kononnya I halau dia, sebar kat smua sedara. Dah tu, I yang postnatal depression, dia yg merajuk, tak nak masak, cuci baju. Kesian org serumah sana, kena mkn luar 1 bulan! Sampai skarang I masik marah. Kata org to forgive is easy, to forget is another thing. --- sorry dah lama simpan, nah kau smua kluar.
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Ok dears, nak kena pegi meeting ni....boring!
 
ladies,

Thanks for the warm welcome!!
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bpsimplynel,

My elder gal just turned 2. My younger gal turning 7 mths. Both are at their most active stage right now (bole pengsan mak dier!!). My mum helping me to take care of them when i'm at work. My mum not staying with me. So i have to bring the kids over and, together with me, stay at my mum's place during weekdays.

Weekends or during holidays, i will bring them back home and take care of them alone. As for my husband, he's working in shifts, so he will bring the kids home and take care of them by himself on days that he is not working. All these is so that my mum can have free time for her masjid / social activities.

Mcm confusing kan....


I won't deny it's very tiring, but it's manageable. The most important thing is to get/force the husband to help (jgn nak goyang kaki and main PSP jerrr...)

Also, don't underestimate your elder child's ability eventhough he/she is very young. You will be surprised that eventhough your elder child is a toddler still and experiencing terrible 2's, but can count on his (or her?) to help around like taking things for you or watch out for the baby.

Mula2 i too was really stressed out taking care of my 2 kids. Sampai nangis2!! But now i sort of got the hang of it... Quoting from a friend of mine, 'you just have to deal with it'.

mak oi! panjang lebar aku type....
 
Sharena,

How was ur first trip out with the children? Btw, got ur msg. It's ok. I decided to forgo buying fenugreek. Tot of stopping BF since only Darling yg minum. Meimei bottle feed and occasionaly aje I BF her. Hope u can cope with urs. Darling still throwing tantrum esp when she sees me carrying Meimei or feeding her. One time she crying non stop in the wee hours, my hubby took her and place her in the corner although we explain to her several times that her turn will come aft I put Meimei to sleep. Sometimes I ade rasa regret that I have this second one so soon. I know I ahouldn't hv said that but it's really hectic esp when both are crying at the same time. Still am!

Sally,

Happy Anni to u! Altho for me it's already 4 yrs, we tak celebrate pun. Both me n hubby not that mushy but sometimes kiter pompuan longing fr that special treatment. haiz... Me not even a wedding....hahaha...cos during that time my real father passed away. (fyi, I'm leaving with my foster family since birth) So no wedding photo lah. But maybe if got rezeki, we do 1 with our 2 daughters as flower girls.
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Welcome to all new frens! Hello hello!
 
haha sabrina,
biasakanlah type panjang2 tu eh.
kiter down here pun will type so much when we want to rant n rave...hahaha.

ryatie,
congrats on expecting the 3rd.

lin,
i have not think on when to plan for the 2nd one.
but nowadays when faiq buat perangai and i think i cannot cope with him, i always will try to think of sasha and tell myself...if she can cope with 4 then why can't i cope with only 1 rite?

btw lin,
your story about that someone tu samalah macam story my mil punya mil and my fren's mil.
betul macam cerita noormadiah.
the guys balik then act nice.
if not kesian the lady in confinement kena masak not onli for herself but the younger adik2 ipar.
in stitches pun kena get water for the baby's bath, throw away the bath water, wash the baby's clothes, that is on top of changing diaper and feeding.
kesian..
 
Lynzi,
Get a maid and help with ur daily chores then maybe u boleh consider lah planning a second one wink..wink..
Who knows, can start the candle burning for both u and hubby ;>
 
hi mummies...

eh dat day nya gathering tak ada apa apa gambar ke to upload sini...share lah sikit..hehehe...kempunan daku tak dapat join~

pasal babysitter ni kan...i pon actually tengah discuss with my hubby for our plans later..bukan nak 3rd ke apa...tapi takut nanti bila i start work, scared my mil cant cope with my 2 kids on top of her own son yg just 1 yr older than my girl...so, now we're thinking that there's a chance kena amik maid if we have no choice....im not into the idea pasal i dont trust maid lahh..but hubby so adamant on it if we got no choice...still thinking rite now...haiz...nak keje susah, tak keje pun susah...

Sabrina...
welcome yah~!!!

wat u said abt the elder child helping out is so true...my 6yo girl has been such a good help to me ever since my 2nd one born...now she even know how to change his diapers tau! She also asked me to teach her how to make his milk so she can help me wen im too tired....hehehe...im soo lucky to have her!!!
 
ryatie22/bpsimplynel,

think geng sama.me marry at 29, first at 30-31.yes I just only have one kid too. terfikir cam mana/bila have the other one or two kids insyallah in future. reading ur worries cam my own juga.

I am thinking to have one next year when my girl turning two insya Allah. tengok rezki cam mana juga and the situation. I dun want to stress myself again like last time. serik. I thk eitherway will be tough. tapi if delay nanti agaknya lebih susah becoz of age ?

bpsimplynel
think if own mum cannot help, baik ambil maid sekejap. I doubt boleh trust e hubby or others on this kinda thing. entah cam mana nanti.. to deal with one, dah susah seh


Danryan
wah #3! planning v gd ah.all the best
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Bpsimplylne

I don't think it's too early for you to have another kid. I had my 1st one at 28, then my 2nd one at 30 & my 3rd one at 33. And the last pregnancy was the worst due to age. So much more penat, macam tak larat nak bangun esp. during the 1st 3 mths. So, better to have kids when you're still young. I also had less problem with jealousy between my 1st & 2nd kids, cos the 1st kid still young when the 2nd was born; belum faham sangat. My 2nd kid was & is still very jealous of the 3rd one, cos the age gap is 3 years and she already understands what's going on.

Pasal babysitter, my son was looked after by both my mum and my in-laws on alternate days, cos both sides gaduh nak jaga the 1st grandson! Then when I had my daughter, we hired a maid to help with the housework and everyday I would send the 2 kids and the maid to my mum's or in-laws. It was a bad arrangement, cos the kids could not really settle down and I asyik kelam-kabut driving them to and fro. After 6 mths, my mum told me to just try leaving the kids at home with my maid. She said that my kids "besar dalam perjalanan saje and tak tentu hara, asyik pulang balik". And from the 6 mths, we could tell that our maid is very caring and trustworthy, so we made the decision to leave them with our maid. Tapi we still bought CCTV cameras and installed them all over the house, just in case. So, ever since then, I leave all 3 kids with my maid. It's not so bad, cos I work from 11 a.m. to 6.30 p.m., but I drive back home for lunch between 1 & 2 p.m. I'm also at home during the school holidays. I think it's unfair to say that all maids can't be trustedlah. It really depends on your luck.
 
noraaw,
eh.. dont scare me.. im the only child.. haa..
i do feel lonely sometimes as a child, luckily there's grandma to talk to, til now. kalau tak org, i think i will be talking to myself bila boring. haa ..i do want to have another kalau ade rezeki

pasal babysitter,
ni baru 1 pon dah pening2 lalat.
mom work shift. if she work, MIL jaga.
then recently ade perselisihan paham from SIL,(staying together with her mom)
say my 5mth dd make her 2 yrs nangis,etc(her dd jealous). = /
ended up, hantar sedara to jaga when mom work.
now SIL dah minta maaf, but i still serik.
next week alternate jiran n mom jaga.
 
nora

my boy lom kenal escalator..kalau dah kenal..habis lah. I felt like a bad parent letting him roam around. My colleague said he's exploring, but you know lah, orang keliling tengok this little tot walking and shrieking, and probably think as parents i tak leh control the baby

Ryatie
congrats on expecting yr 3rd child
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Hope you have an easy delivery.

Daec
memang the best parents jaga baby sendiri. tapi u noe lah unless hubster earns big bucks, dual income is still necessary. Plus i can't imagine not having my own spending power. Kalau babysitter i think kena hantar bila baby masih very young. once dah kenal orang, kesian..sure cry bila hantar gi baby sitter.

Maids?!
I thinnk only reliable if ada orang supervise the maids - eg MIL ke, mother ke, etc. Kalau leave babies alone with maids that should be the last option. That's what i feel...

Re:Coach
Any coach spree going around? heheh..
 
sharena

does the clarins cellulite cream work?
If it does, I nak try jugak seh. My tummy so flabby...haiz... macam sama jer before and after pregnancy.. but of course discipline to slather it is another challenge
 
naqia
CP is org coach spree. u in her mailing list? i think she only email those in her list.

misha
ur working hrs is good eh. mind sharing what post is that?
 
daec
ya lah...now dah menjangkau 38 expecting the 3rd one....penat betul tak kuat stamina cepat penat u....anyway alhamdullilah going to due soon....Maternity Leave on next Monday onward leh rest kat rumah wif my 2 kiddos...stop at 3 will have ligation after this labour.

so far after took maid....terurus jugak lah kat umah tu sikit kalau tak tak habis2 lagi2 now dah sarat sgt...maid depends on luck ada yg gd ok lah kalau tak cekik darah hahahaha...
 
misha's mummy
bagus ah ur mum observed what was better for the kids and advised u let them stay home.

naqia
yeah lah memang susah. dunno how some family dun earn big bucks can still manage single income. guess tengok juga financial commitment cam mana.

Danryan
alhamdulilah u retired soon from childbirth ;)
I tengah fikir #2 how, when. my hubby insist dun wan maid. for me, first one I had complications so premature baby. takut nak proceed with #2, takut nak delay juga.
 
thanks all..realli hope i have a pleasant n smooth delivery...insya'allah

Maid:
actually memang nak ambil maid tapi my hub die2 tak nak...da convince mcm nak giler...still cannot make it..lucky he helps me a lot..
now my MIL stay with SIL who has a maid..tapi kalau ur MIL & SIL mcm mine pengsan cos' they they overtrust their maid...my hub ever saw her with her boyfren during lunch time...so my hub inform her sis but once the maid saw hub,,,she manage to cal my SIL first..n she's actually ok with it....then recently my hub saw her maid nearby my place naik motor dgn her boyfren...n the maid dare to smile 2 my hub...i guess she dun bother as she kno she had win the heart of my SIL & PIL..so sick...
anyway ..ya true not all maids r like tat..it's juz how lucky ur....

babysitter:
the rate is sometimes higher than the price of a childcare...so i'm not in this..

sharena
so i u going to send FArra to IYAD..if yes, hope 2 c u there soon....

with regards to being pregnant @30s..yup reali tiring...asyik mcm nak tido jer...so so penat...

misha
ya la misha best nyer ur werking hours..hope i could du tat
 
ryatie
my gynea wif dr aziz yg at kembangan plaza and giving birth later at East Shore...now wk37...might due anytime fr now coz my previous 2 pregnancy i gave birth at wk 37+ but hopefully next Tuesday onward coz he will be going to Shanghai this Fri to next Monday...
 
hey!!

mamaliz, no pixs lar.. we busy chatting sampai lupa nak ambik gmbr. lol!! aryanti, org da nak balik ru teringat nak ambik pics. anyway, they stayed smp kul 8pm. i tink pas tu sumer penat, even the mak budak, trus KO!!

kesian nor, had to leave early cos amirul penat. sampai tertido budak tu. gaknye dia blum nap befor coming.
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my house tunggang terbalik mcm tongkang pecah. si adam kalo ada org habis satu kotak toys dia overturned!! anywaay, thanks to those who came.
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nora aw
I'm a teacher in PM session, so my working hours tak teruk sangat. Cuma kerja masih banyaklah. Every night lepas kids tidur, I'm still marking or preparing lesson.

daec
Ya, I really wonder how some of the SAHMs here cope with single income. What's the secret? Their husbands must be earning big bucks, cos they can still go shopping and buy barang mahal-mahal like prams, etc. But you're rightlah, depends on financial commitment masing-masing.

danryan
You must really be so excited to see your daughter soon! Cepatnya you start maternity leave, bila you due? Next week ke?
 
misha
actually i due on 8june....but i just take an early ML....dah penat sgt....lagi pon if to follow last 2 pregnancy....both i bersalin on wk37+
 
danryan
wa best nak due.....

misha
u so lucky...hope my job mcm tu....jealous sey...
pasal single income...i think is abt money management n cooperation with spouse...if both thrifty ok..tapi kalau both sukeer shopping....forget it seh....
 
sabrina,
ye jugak eh, growing up, I had 4 younger siblings, I remembered helping my mum out alot. I hope I can count on my dd too. My hubb nt too bad lah, he helps out with chores. The trick with him is to let him play his games first, then bila dia dah happy, baru suruh buat keje..hehehe..
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lynzi,
yelah, when i met sasha, i was in awe, how she manages 4 kids and still manage to look good...i ni pre and post pregnancy mcm sama gitu, I think I need a makeover...
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Tulah, in the modern times mcm ni masik ada org mcm tu. Nasib dia elder than me. Mengalah lah apa nak buat, in the end I yg mintak maaf...

daec,
after reading all the opinions, I rasa better early than late, at least I will still have energy, to handle the new baby, the first one and also the hubb. My hubb kept pestering me to ambik maid tapi since not advisable to put my kids with maid, I think maybe I will stick to CC and babysitter for the time being...until the 3rd??

misha,
best nya your work arrangement. How I wish dlm lab pun ada flexi work hrs like teaching. byk jugak eh t-cher kat forum ni...btw, mana u beli cctv eh? manalah tau i may need it in the future.

tapi betul jugak, my cousin had a wonderful maid. She jaga dr first kid born to the 4th kid in primary sch. Dia bole jahit langsir, ajar mengaji...rajin lah org nya. I hope I am lucky enuff to get that kind of maid, InsyaAllah.

naqia,
I also cannot imagine not having my own spending power. In these times, kalau nak selesa hidup, I think dual income is almost necessary.

Danryam, ryatie22 and other expecting mommies..Congrats and InsyaAllah all will go smoothly.
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daec

thanks for sharing the pics! Any blog to share?
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Noni
Yups, i'm in her mailing list! But i think her exhange rate quite high at 1.42, esp given she is already charging service fees. ANyway I've placed an order for small items for me & my cousin...hehehe..did you get anything?

Simplylyn
I'm also beginning to think of 2nd one. But I do wonder if I can cope. My boy ni active betul - always on the look out for something to kacau / explore. I wonder if i can cope with him during my pregnancy... intend to take NPL if I have a 2nd one...jadi insya-Allah timing nak kena baik ehhe

ic
how are things with ya?
 
yup misha yr working hrs are great!

for now i'm working from home on some days, tapi susah jugak sebab i have tons of work to clear, at the same time i kena layankan my son . I can only do my work effectively bila dia dah bobok...
 
Hi Yasminy08,

sorry I tak reply to your post pasal craft. Hehehe...at least jadi jugak satu kasut. I beli pattern Mc Calls bila tengah 1st trimester, konon nak jahit overalls tok my dd, tapi sampai skarang tak terjahit...my dd dah 1 yr old pun! Lol!

paiseh ah you nak blajar jahit dr I. I jahit suka2 jer, takde proper training pun. Ada pikir nak pegi proper sewing classes tapi ngan monster Nurul ni ...haiz..manalah bole?
 
as for me pulak....i prefer FTWM dari SAHM....dah biasa lah....from after school dah start work....kalau MC ke on leave pon i can do work fr home....
 


naqia,
betul tu...my hubb believes in timing...smua dia plan dulu. mcm my dd pun dia plan just nice bila kita dah dpt umah dan after bonus mth...hehehe

My dd pun active, abih tu girl pulak. Mcm my hubb kot, tak leh dok diam. Baru 1yr plus dah panjat my coffee table lah, sofa lah. tapi at least dia tau turun properly sendiri, tak main terjun jer...

btw how old is ur son?
 
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