ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?
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<font color="119911">pasal ttg tak da duit utk anak ni kan. w'alam.. for dat lady i tak tau ah leh percaya ke tidak bt i tink mayb i can vouch for her truth.. coz terus terang ckp even though me & hub kerja cam nak rak.. mmg cukup bulan dpt gaji tp kan.. for me ill settle apa smua yg i termampu.. from bills to brg anak2 n usually 28 gaji, on e 1st of the nx mth je i dah pokai meaning tgl duit makan & kerja je no more exta wat so ever.. u all caya ke tak? i dont earn much bt e bills or things i hv to pay & sponsor is alot than the rest of u here i tink..
n lina u ingat tak last wk i ada mentioned abt my lunch was destroyed by a phone call? its from BIL.. n hes telling me wat to do to my kids.. esp my girl, he asked me to take her back.. & ckp yg dia takkan learn anything by staying home & he said my girl nya perangai is very buruk.. tak cam anak2 dia.. mmg i akui.. i told him mmglah.. shes too pampered already & ez for him to say watever he wants esp paksa me hantar my girl to school coz he tinks i can jolly afford it while i know my expenses how.. while for him antar 3 anak to madrasah tp tak leh byr sendiri terkencit nak byr dah tu yg e last still hantar ke andalus... bukan tak bleh.. aku tak pernah iri hati dgn kejayaan dorang tp kenapa mereka harus irihati dgn me? salah ke MIL & FIL willing to jaga my doter.. w/o even asking duit from us pun.. malah they helped me on the diapers & susu... sbb i tau mmg i tak mampu sbb tu i serik nak beranak & takut nak amik my doter balik coz my financial lum CUKUP.. tp org pandang serong to me im very sad tau.. kecik hati i.. org ingat i cam ni, itu.. & dah tu smlm e whole family came to my house & konon nak minta my PILs sponsor their kids.. dah tu wen aku kepo tanya apa ni pasal SPONSOR.. terus eh tak kena gaya & left imm..
tuhan aje yg tahu camne aku selalu dikata, dimarah, dicela oleh my ILS tau.. baik from my SIL her bro my BIL pun sama..
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n lina u ingat tak last wk i ada mentioned abt my lunch was destroyed by a phone call? its from BIL.. n hes telling me wat to do to my kids.. esp my girl, he asked me to take her back.. & ckp yg dia takkan learn anything by staying home & he said my girl nya perangai is very buruk.. tak cam anak2 dia.. mmg i akui.. i told him mmglah.. shes too pampered already & ez for him to say watever he wants esp paksa me hantar my girl to school coz he tinks i can jolly afford it while i know my expenses how.. while for him antar 3 anak to madrasah tp tak leh byr sendiri terkencit nak byr dah tu yg e last still hantar ke andalus... bukan tak bleh.. aku tak pernah iri hati dgn kejayaan dorang tp kenapa mereka harus irihati dgn me? salah ke MIL & FIL willing to jaga my doter.. w/o even asking duit from us pun.. malah they helped me on the diapers & susu... sbb i tau mmg i tak mampu sbb tu i serik nak beranak & takut nak amik my doter balik coz my financial lum CUKUP.. tp org pandang serong to me im very sad tau.. kecik hati i.. org ingat i cam ni, itu.. & dah tu smlm e whole family came to my house & konon nak minta my PILs sponsor their kids.. dah tu wen aku kepo tanya apa ni pasal SPONSOR.. terus eh tak kena gaya & left imm..
tuhan aje yg tahu camne aku selalu dikata, dimarah, dicela oleh my ILS tau.. baik from my SIL her bro my BIL pun sama..
<font color="119911">smalldreams
a'ah ku tak serik2 jual brg pat sini coz i cant sell at ebay.. dont know y.. n also i need the duit skit & need to clear my house sbb tulah..
anyway abt my agony atas tu ignorelah if sesapa malas.. ku mmg selalu ada cita sedih..
also hub doesnt noe abt all this personal calls made to me.. i diam & kept to myself sbb tak nak kan dorang adik beradik gaduh..
bt i did told MIL smlm abt e call made to me</font>
a'ah ku tak serik2 jual brg pat sini coz i cant sell at ebay.. dont know y.. n also i need the duit skit & need to clear my house sbb tulah..
anyway abt my agony atas tu ignorelah if sesapa malas.. ku mmg selalu ada cita sedih..
also hub doesnt noe abt all this personal calls made to me.. i diam & kept to myself sbb tak nak kan dorang adik beradik gaduh..
bt i did told MIL smlm abt e call made to me</font>
nottygal...but now kite strong kan..apart from strong makan....
*hugz hugz semua*
nshahi...we might feel tersepit but we have choices cuma kena choose wisely k...if u think ape yg buat adelah terbaik buat u n family ...teruskan....chop off the negative energy that can bring us down...
*hugz hugz semua*
nshahi...we might feel tersepit but we have choices cuma kena choose wisely k...if u think ape yg buat adelah terbaik buat u n family ...teruskan....chop off the negative energy that can bring us down...
momma_naqi
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yup think of the positve things....
heck care wiz wat ppl gotta say....Anyway diorang pun bukannya tolong u kan.....juz dun give a damn...me kalau orang nak cakap apa2 dat wanna bring my family down I juz ignore...or kalau mood I tengah tak baik I will juz tell them off....Simple 1 thing for sure....I tak ganggu kluarga orang so i expect vice versa...DO NOT TOUCH MY FAMILY
heck care wiz wat ppl gotta say....Anyway diorang pun bukannya tolong u kan.....juz dun give a damn...me kalau orang nak cakap apa2 dat wanna bring my family down I juz ignore...or kalau mood I tengah tak baik I will juz tell them off....Simple 1 thing for sure....I tak ganggu kluarga orang so i expect vice versa...DO NOT TOUCH MY FAMILY
momma_naqi
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me perut tgh cramp so tak ada mood nak makan
<font color="ff6000">Thank you all for the wishes. Am tooo happy though I lost my voice for the past 4 days.
Wati,
I felt for her...Wonder how e kids are...
Nshahi,
My 2 cents thoughts -- to avoid all these, it might be better to take your gal back though ur in laws are willing to support her w/o asking a cent fr u guys. Bila seseorang dpt tahu pasal "sponsor", of course ada yang iri hati...but I hope, you guys can work well hand in hand.</font>
Wati,
I felt for her...Wonder how e kids are...
Nshahi,
My 2 cents thoughts -- to avoid all these, it might be better to take your gal back though ur in laws are willing to support her w/o asking a cent fr u guys. Bila seseorang dpt tahu pasal "sponsor", of course ada yang iri hati...but I hope, you guys can work well hand in hand.</font>
Nottygal..miss u too..bile nak dtg makan Tom Yam steamboat ?..winks
Happy nye i at least ada org juga miss i yg tak seberapa ni..appreciate it..
and yes Both u n Lina n the others who had gone through hard times will emerge stronger n wiser in Life..Cheers for all the ladiez...
and yes Both u n Lina n the others who had gone through hard times will emerge stronger n wiser in Life..Cheers for all the ladiez...
<font color="119911">lina
tulah.. sampai smlm i tak tahan & terus terang to MIL coz he told me not to tell his bro, my hub & his mum.. bt wen he came to my house & minta sponsor terus aku dah naik loktang seh... & tak sabar nak story kan to MIL.. finally wen i did, i broke down & cry.. asked MIL kenapa abg buat sha camni? is it becoz mum tlg belikan keperluan adik & he tinks yg sepatutnya tidak coz he wants dat xtra for my doter to jatuh to him instead, meaning he wants dat sum of money let say RM$200 instead to my doter, pi to his family & kids?? camtu ke? konon cam my anak tak da hak utk dpt bantuan from his parents.. dahlah si bini pemalas tak nak kerja, berlagak lebih.. laki kerja pun tak tentu asik kena buang je .. i tink coz of this iri hati that was implant in them yg dorang selalu tidak dimurahkan rezeki malah disempitkan rezeki dorang???
apa pun tgk jelah e stress im gg thru.. if tak hub kasi aku problem, his family, if not them my family.. leh gila seh..</font>
tulah.. sampai smlm i tak tahan & terus terang to MIL coz he told me not to tell his bro, my hub & his mum.. bt wen he came to my house & minta sponsor terus aku dah naik loktang seh... & tak sabar nak story kan to MIL.. finally wen i did, i broke down & cry.. asked MIL kenapa abg buat sha camni? is it becoz mum tlg belikan keperluan adik & he tinks yg sepatutnya tidak coz he wants dat xtra for my doter to jatuh to him instead, meaning he wants dat sum of money let say RM$200 instead to my doter, pi to his family & kids?? camtu ke? konon cam my anak tak da hak utk dpt bantuan from his parents.. dahlah si bini pemalas tak nak kerja, berlagak lebih.. laki kerja pun tak tentu asik kena buang je .. i tink coz of this iri hati that was implant in them yg dorang selalu tidak dimurahkan rezeki malah disempitkan rezeki dorang???
apa pun tgk jelah e stress im gg thru.. if tak hub kasi aku problem, his family, if not them my family.. leh gila seh..</font>
Nshah,
As what most of them have written above, just do what you think is right for your family.
Apart from that, ingat lah bahawa sabar itu separuh dari iman and I hope you will be able to overcome the obstacles.
In the meantime jangan putus asa memohon kekuatan dari yang Maha Berkuasa
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As what most of them have written above, just do what you think is right for your family.
Apart from that, ingat lah bahawa sabar itu separuh dari iman and I hope you will be able to overcome the obstacles.
In the meantime jangan putus asa memohon kekuatan dari yang Maha Berkuasa
momma_naqi
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nottygal....
bila nak bake itu cheesecake lagi??
bila nak bake itu cheesecake lagi??
<font color="119911">san
like i told u before bukan i tak nak amik my gal lah dear.. bt i jus cant.. unless if i QUIT my job or i bring her ard wit me..
my mum tak leh jaga both.. maid i cant afford, also if amik maid i need to leave them at home already bt no adult supervision.. & hub dont agree or simply tak caya..
childcare pun i cant afford.. or senang ckp.. if she go childcare yg terdekat melayunya org is in wdlands or if PAP pun wdlands & if she take school bus & balik i might not b there for the 15mins of period as i selalu sampai umah by 7.45pm while she might reached earlier..
so u tell me how? any other choices u all can provide me tak? i really need to know or to find out other choices ah.. bleh tak tlg.. eh sis.. yg ada sugg..pls help me out..</font>
like i told u before bukan i tak nak amik my gal lah dear.. bt i jus cant.. unless if i QUIT my job or i bring her ard wit me..
my mum tak leh jaga both.. maid i cant afford, also if amik maid i need to leave them at home already bt no adult supervision.. & hub dont agree or simply tak caya..
childcare pun i cant afford.. or senang ckp.. if she go childcare yg terdekat melayunya org is in wdlands or if PAP pun wdlands & if she take school bus & balik i might not b there for the 15mins of period as i selalu sampai umah by 7.45pm while she might reached earlier..
so u tell me how? any other choices u all can provide me tak? i really need to know or to find out other choices ah.. bleh tak tlg.. eh sis.. yg ada sugg..pls help me out..</font>
smalldreams
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nshah
yr gal is in KL eh? I know it's easier said than done, tapi i rasa insya-Allah ada berkat / rezki drp anak. even if you take your gal back, you'll find it more fulfilling & somehow insya-Allah cukup makan/expenses. Somehow we all have to survive. And importantly, the bonding between you & your anak will be there esp during this formative years.
yr gal is in KL eh? I know it's easier said than done, tapi i rasa insya-Allah ada berkat / rezki drp anak. even if you take your gal back, you'll find it more fulfilling & somehow insya-Allah cukup makan/expenses. Somehow we all have to survive. And importantly, the bonding between you & your anak will be there esp during this formative years.
Nshah,
First of all, forgive me if what I am saying hurts your feeling ok. Its just what I feel, you may choose to ignore me if you feel like it.
Is it because of your big house and your car that your expenses are so high? Since your family is not big, would it be better for you to downgrade to a smaller unit? And also, do you need a 7-seater car for a family of 3? Can you do with a small car instead?
Hopefully with the downgrading you will be able to put aside some savings (which can be quite substantial) for the children's education. Furthermore when the children go to school you will need quite a sum for their expenses.
Will the other mummies agree with me? No heart feelings eh, just my 2-cents worth.
First of all, forgive me if what I am saying hurts your feeling ok. Its just what I feel, you may choose to ignore me if you feel like it.
Is it because of your big house and your car that your expenses are so high? Since your family is not big, would it be better for you to downgrade to a smaller unit? And also, do you need a 7-seater car for a family of 3? Can you do with a small car instead?
Hopefully with the downgrading you will be able to put aside some savings (which can be quite substantial) for the children's education. Furthermore when the children go to school you will need quite a sum for their expenses.
Will the other mummies agree with me? No heart feelings eh, just my 2-cents worth.
<font color="119911">smalldreams
a'ah my girl is always a week here & a week there.. mana ada ibu yg tak syg anak? u tell me.. i suffered alot wen we had or i had to part with her since sehs 2mths+ leh dat time.. hari2 i nanis, pat opis nanis, malam nanis, bila tetek engorged je nanis.. sedih tau.. it was a painful period.. bt her appearance do change my IL's lifestyle.. as in hidup dorang tak sunyi, MIL tak keseorangan wen FIL work 12hrs.. mmg i berdoa sgt agar ada jalan kuar.. so sbb tu ah dgn duit sewa yg akan i dpt munkin 3mths? i hope to put aside utk duit budak2..</font>
a'ah my girl is always a week here & a week there.. mana ada ibu yg tak syg anak? u tell me.. i suffered alot wen we had or i had to part with her since sehs 2mths+ leh dat time.. hari2 i nanis, pat opis nanis, malam nanis, bila tetek engorged je nanis.. sedih tau.. it was a painful period.. bt her appearance do change my IL's lifestyle.. as in hidup dorang tak sunyi, MIL tak keseorangan wen FIL work 12hrs.. mmg i berdoa sgt agar ada jalan kuar.. so sbb tu ah dgn duit sewa yg akan i dpt munkin 3mths? i hope to put aside utk duit budak2..</font>
nshahi,
1st question wld be u nak ur anak in KL or with u?...
kalau u nak in SG...ambik paper n pen...list down all the things u n hub need to pay.....
chop off mane yg tak perlu.....
my point is if ur answer to the 1st question is Yes u nak ur anak pat sinie...u need to find ways to do that n since ur financial is the big block ...then u need to tackle that 1st...
1st question wld be u nak ur anak in KL or with u?...
kalau u nak in SG...ambik paper n pen...list down all the things u n hub need to pay.....
chop off mane yg tak perlu.....
my point is if ur answer to the 1st question is Yes u nak ur anak pat sinie...u need to find ways to do that n since ur financial is the big block ...then u need to tackle that 1st...
smalldreams
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Kak Zainab
I believe whatever we do, with niat that it's for the best for our loved ones, insya-Allah will be blessed. I agree with you, but berat mata memandang, berat lagi bahu memikul. Hope nshah finds a solution soon!
Wati
Ah tengok tu kak zainab dah jawab, kah kah kah! Kelakar lah you ni... hhahaha!
I believe whatever we do, with niat that it's for the best for our loved ones, insya-Allah will be blessed. I agree with you, but berat mata memandang, berat lagi bahu memikul. Hope nshah finds a solution soon!
Wati
Ah tengok tu kak zainab dah jawab, kah kah kah! Kelakar lah you ni... hhahaha!
<font color="aa00aa">to those mummies here...
i reali salute u gerls who have gone thru such difficulty in life and emerge even stronger.
as for me, alhamdulillah i tak pernah merasa kesusahan.
i hope even if i do, i will also be able to be as strong as u gerls.</font>
i reali salute u gerls who have gone thru such difficulty in life and emerge even stronger.
as for me, alhamdulillah i tak pernah merasa kesusahan.
i hope even if i do, i will also be able to be as strong as u gerls.</font>
<font color="119911">cik nab
dont worry i tak kan marah.. heres wat im gonna to answer to u cik.. or for your ladies info lah..</font>
Is it because of your big house and your car that your expenses are so high?
<font color="119911">house mmg besar & hehe skg mmg dah nyesal ah.. tp wat to do we cant change if nak downgrade kena bank loan, which we know kita tak akan byr skg je HDB kkdg ada sangkut.. bt ni smua tru CPF so still ok.. no cash involved ah..
for car.. ah car mmg i dah ckp dgn hub suruh tukar.. tp dia ckp lum break even? entahlah.. tp our car kkdg mmg kita sewakan..</font>
Since your family is not big, would it be better for you to downgrade to a smaller unit? And also, do you need a 7-seater car for a family of 3? Can you do with a small car instead?
<font color="119911">above is my answer</font>
Hopefully with the downgrading you will be able to put aside some savings (which can be quite substantial) for the children's education. Furthermore when the children go to school you will need quite a sum for their expenses.
<font color="119911">yup i know dat.. tp like i said for house mmg dah tak bleh berganjak.. even act i tght nak beli new flat from govt i kena pay levy.. act mmg dah byk i cut down.. our expenses tak teruk dulu.. yg i byk kuar now is for bills ah mainly.. cam nak potong je plak line kai hi card je.. dats another alternative lah..</font>
dont worry i tak kan marah.. heres wat im gonna to answer to u cik.. or for your ladies info lah..</font>
Is it because of your big house and your car that your expenses are so high?
<font color="119911">house mmg besar & hehe skg mmg dah nyesal ah.. tp wat to do we cant change if nak downgrade kena bank loan, which we know kita tak akan byr skg je HDB kkdg ada sangkut.. bt ni smua tru CPF so still ok.. no cash involved ah..
for car.. ah car mmg i dah ckp dgn hub suruh tukar.. tp dia ckp lum break even? entahlah.. tp our car kkdg mmg kita sewakan..</font>
Since your family is not big, would it be better for you to downgrade to a smaller unit? And also, do you need a 7-seater car for a family of 3? Can you do with a small car instead?
<font color="119911">above is my answer</font>
Hopefully with the downgrading you will be able to put aside some savings (which can be quite substantial) for the children's education. Furthermore when the children go to school you will need quite a sum for their expenses.
<font color="119911">yup i know dat.. tp like i said for house mmg dah tak bleh berganjak.. even act i tght nak beli new flat from govt i kena pay levy.. act mmg dah byk i cut down.. our expenses tak teruk dulu.. yg i byk kuar now is for bills ah mainly.. cam nak potong je plak line kai hi card je.. dats another alternative lah..</font>
mamaliz
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alooo......im back from my nap.....penat dari smalam...
citer pasal kesusahan, hmmm.....went tru it and very proud to say me n hubby never menyusahkan orang at all....we go tru it in silence....in fact can say that most of our sweetest memories is when we're in difficulties ....
-hub n me always took walks to forget our troubles...
-hub n me share nasi bungkus together
-hub sacrificed by letting me have the rice n dishes while he ate just maggie cos i was preggy
-buying sarah's baby stuff for her arrival, can only afford $2 the 1st mth n $10 subsequently each mth
-hub brought home his fre meals from werk to give me instead of eating it himself
-no tv or anything so we spent most of our time talking n walking
we are proud to this day that we tak ask anyone for help at all...but i do pity sarah cos she got only the cheapest things/milk thats y now we let her have finer things moderately....alhamdulillah we can afford it now.
citer pasal kesusahan, hmmm.....went tru it and very proud to say me n hubby never menyusahkan orang at all....we go tru it in silence....in fact can say that most of our sweetest memories is when we're in difficulties ....
-hub n me always took walks to forget our troubles...
-hub n me share nasi bungkus together
-hub sacrificed by letting me have the rice n dishes while he ate just maggie cos i was preggy
-buying sarah's baby stuff for her arrival, can only afford $2 the 1st mth n $10 subsequently each mth
-hub brought home his fre meals from werk to give me instead of eating it himself
-no tv or anything so we spent most of our time talking n walking
we are proud to this day that we tak ask anyone for help at all...but i do pity sarah cos she got only the cheapest things/milk thats y now we let her have finer things moderately....alhamdulillah we can afford it now.
<font color="119911">lina
yup u dah tau pun my answer..
anyway thx ladies for reading or wasting ur time baca my cita kain dalam i eh for today.. i realy berharap i can solve or get solutions fast as im really planning or hv to reg my girl for nursery by July i noe its late bt its btr late than never..
dats y i always feel im a bad, failure mum</font>
yup u dah tau pun my answer..
anyway thx ladies for reading or wasting ur time baca my cita kain dalam i eh for today.. i realy berharap i can solve or get solutions fast as im really planning or hv to reg my girl for nursery by July i noe its late bt its btr late than never..
dats y i always feel im a bad, failure mum</font>
<font color="ff6000">Nshahi,
What Cik Nab said is right. I do agree with her. Mayb u can look on downgrading your flat or car. If can do both, it'll be good too.
Lina/Nottygal,
Ishk...malunya!
Thank gals once again. I'm still learning tho.
Parking masih lom pass cos it's diff with and w/o poles. Tkpe2, practise makes perfect..*winks*</font>
What Cik Nab said is right. I do agree with her. Mayb u can look on downgrading your flat or car. If can do both, it'll be good too.
Lina/Nottygal,
Ishk...malunya!
Thank gals once again. I'm still learning tho.
Parking masih lom pass cos it's diff with and w/o poles. Tkpe2, practise makes perfect..*winks*</font>
<font color="119911">mamaliz & lina
u both went a much diff time than me & if u guys can do it, insyallah i can too kan? so im collecting the courage from u peeps.. act mmg kalau bleh tak nak minta parents tlg.. tp like i said for my doter dah byk ditlg by my ILs & mmg i malu.. bt ill try my best to do the best for them both insyallah</font>
u both went a much diff time than me & if u guys can do it, insyallah i can too kan? so im collecting the courage from u peeps.. act mmg kalau bleh tak nak minta parents tlg.. tp like i said for my doter dah byk ditlg by my ILs & mmg i malu.. bt ill try my best to do the best for them both insyallah</font>
smalldreams
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mamaliz
u memang superwoman...hehe well, you're strong in your own ways. Salute those women who survived hardship on their own & emerged well in the end.
Nshah
I think the car is the first to go. Rugi pon rugi lah, tapi in the long run, you don't have to fork out so much. The extra cash , no matter how little, goes a long way in providing for yr gal. As painful as it may seem, and I'm sorry for saying this, I think the bond you share with your girl at this age is very important.
Kalau you nak sewakan the car, that's rather risky too right, in case anything happens? but good lah, at least you have thought through these things.
u memang superwoman...hehe well, you're strong in your own ways. Salute those women who survived hardship on their own & emerged well in the end.
Nshah
I think the car is the first to go. Rugi pon rugi lah, tapi in the long run, you don't have to fork out so much. The extra cash , no matter how little, goes a long way in providing for yr gal. As painful as it may seem, and I'm sorry for saying this, I think the bond you share with your girl at this age is very important.
Kalau you nak sewakan the car, that's rather risky too right, in case anything happens? but good lah, at least you have thought through these things.
mamaliz
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smalldreams...
takder lahh bukan superwoman..actually anyone can do it just need tawakal....reda dgn apa yg ada...for me especially always think about the future...biar susah dulu senang kemudian...
ada parts of life masa tu i almost break down..but truthfully my hub was first cos he feels guilty looking at me n unborn sarah dat time...he thinks he should do better...so we as wives needs to be a pillar of strength too...i puji my hubby, told him dat not many peeps wud do wat he did...tahan lapar jadi bini bole kenyang...kerja OT all the time to get the extras...even tho 1 time he had wisdom tooth and having high fever he tahan for 1 mth....werk n skool...until he managed to put aside a bit for poly dentist...
going tru that times is 1 reason why when i look at hubby now i still feel love for him n suka usap rambut or muka dia....the wrinkles n fatigue on his face is his labour of love for me n family...
takder lahh bukan superwoman..actually anyone can do it just need tawakal....reda dgn apa yg ada...for me especially always think about the future...biar susah dulu senang kemudian...
ada parts of life masa tu i almost break down..but truthfully my hub was first cos he feels guilty looking at me n unborn sarah dat time...he thinks he should do better...so we as wives needs to be a pillar of strength too...i puji my hubby, told him dat not many peeps wud do wat he did...tahan lapar jadi bini bole kenyang...kerja OT all the time to get the extras...even tho 1 time he had wisdom tooth and having high fever he tahan for 1 mth....werk n skool...until he managed to put aside a bit for poly dentist...
going tru that times is 1 reason why when i look at hubby now i still feel love for him n suka usap rambut or muka dia....the wrinkles n fatigue on his face is his labour of love for me n family...
<font color="119911">smalldreams
e problem was act from my old car nya finance coz of that stupid car it drag us down to this car i tink wont make e diff.. even by gtg the 5 seater car of 1.6L e mthly will still hang to that same amt of $911 or if dpt kurang pun w'alam i tak tau berapa bank leh loan.. bt ill try to persuade him again..
plus also now hub taking PT diploma so kita tul2 nya striving hardship for now.. mana last yr je our car kena broke into & our laptop was stolen & all his school books ilang.. kena start balik beli new laptop & books dah use up the savings.. last yr was really our crucial yr.. so we hope this yr hub dpt at least naik pangkat ke.. dah work 10yrs still camtu je yg cina je dpt naik.. melayu either kena buang or kena stay stagnant..</font>
e problem was act from my old car nya finance coz of that stupid car it drag us down to this car i tink wont make e diff.. even by gtg the 5 seater car of 1.6L e mthly will still hang to that same amt of $911 or if dpt kurang pun w'alam i tak tau berapa bank leh loan.. bt ill try to persuade him again..
plus also now hub taking PT diploma so kita tul2 nya striving hardship for now.. mana last yr je our car kena broke into & our laptop was stolen & all his school books ilang.. kena start balik beli new laptop & books dah use up the savings.. last yr was really our crucial yr.. so we hope this yr hub dpt at least naik pangkat ke.. dah work 10yrs still camtu je yg cina je dpt naik.. melayu either kena buang or kena stay stagnant..</font>
Mamaliz..Your story so touching..tersentak i jap..I guess when we marry young there are more obstacles that we have to face n will go through
n well u did n u enjoying ur fruits of labour right?..Congrats..
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Bersakit-sakit dahulu, bersenang-senang kemudian
Wow... so long story..
Nshah
i agree with smalldreams, its important for u to be with ur gal and also ur boy.. now ur boy pun with u weekend jer kan.
Gini la, kalau i..
- hv u ever considered renting out ur whole house
(maybe if me i wld do that)
- rent a smaller house in tampines, near workplace and ur parents
- take maid, daytime put maid and both kids and ur parents place
- if no maid, at least ur parents can take care, send/fetch while u r at work
- daily u can take ur kids back with u
You have to take ur gal back anyways bec she will be school-going age already
I know ur in laws stay with u whn they are in SG
but u kena explain la u terpaksa buat cam nie
Tutup mate gerl, berkorban nie.. ini mase u..
My mom scarificed a lot to bring us up
Altho my dad work bagus but he not generous to family but very generous to frens..
My mom takde barang kemas takde baju baru, jemputan semue tak pegi
org ingat my mom sombong tak pegi but actully she malu nak pegi
But to her kids education is the ultimate thing so biar dia tak de but kite adik beradik mesti ade tuition results mesti bagus
tak dapat masuk sekolah of choice, try other means
my youngest sis, went to ite, poly then uni..
susah payah my mom tanggong dia, tapi berjaya jugak dia
nanis i type nie.. so sad
Nshah
i agree with smalldreams, its important for u to be with ur gal and also ur boy.. now ur boy pun with u weekend jer kan.
Gini la, kalau i..
- hv u ever considered renting out ur whole house
(maybe if me i wld do that)
- rent a smaller house in tampines, near workplace and ur parents
- take maid, daytime put maid and both kids and ur parents place
- if no maid, at least ur parents can take care, send/fetch while u r at work
- daily u can take ur kids back with u
You have to take ur gal back anyways bec she will be school-going age already
I know ur in laws stay with u whn they are in SG
but u kena explain la u terpaksa buat cam nie
Tutup mate gerl, berkorban nie.. ini mase u..
My mom scarificed a lot to bring us up
Altho my dad work bagus but he not generous to family but very generous to frens..
My mom takde barang kemas takde baju baru, jemputan semue tak pegi
org ingat my mom sombong tak pegi but actully she malu nak pegi
But to her kids education is the ultimate thing so biar dia tak de but kite adik beradik mesti ade tuition results mesti bagus
tak dapat masuk sekolah of choice, try other means
my youngest sis, went to ite, poly then uni..
susah payah my mom tanggong dia, tapi berjaya jugak dia
nanis i type nie.. so sad
mamaliz
Active Member
lina...
yes yes...its true....me n hub kalau teringat time dulu kita selalu terdiam n feel sayu gitu...its a wonder at times how we managed to go tru it all!!
hub earns 400 jer that time...so we buy frozen chic wings for a wk groceries...n cheapest beras..imagine makan ayam ajerr for 1 wk...3pcs per day i potong potong...masak kicap/lemak/merah/asam pedas...
tapi it all taste delicious pasal lapar n makan sama sama...
yes yes...its true....me n hub kalau teringat time dulu kita selalu terdiam n feel sayu gitu...its a wonder at times how we managed to go tru it all!!
hub earns 400 jer that time...so we buy frozen chic wings for a wk groceries...n cheapest beras..imagine makan ayam ajerr for 1 wk...3pcs per day i potong potong...masak kicap/lemak/merah/asam pedas...
tapi it all taste delicious pasal lapar n makan sama sama...
mamaliz
Active Member
nora aw...
oh yes...ur advise remind me of a cousin...they also have 5rm flat n big car...
then they rent whole place up n downgrade to smaller car...
they tumpang umah pil while their finances balance itself.....alhamdulillah i dgr they tinking of selling off the flat n downgrading...might lose abit of money but for long term kan...its worth it and headache lesser also...
oh yes...ur advise remind me of a cousin...they also have 5rm flat n big car...
then they rent whole place up n downgrade to smaller car...
they tumpang umah pil while their finances balance itself.....alhamdulillah i dgr they tinking of selling off the flat n downgrading...might lose abit of money but for long term kan...its worth it and headache lesser also...
momma_naqi
Active Member
goodness.....
hugsszzz all the ladies in the house today...
didn't know dat u all went thru lotsa hardship...
nangis seh I baca u al nya entries....
well but 1 thing for sure....every hardship dat we went thru, make us a better/stronger person
hugsszzz all the ladies in the house today...
didn't know dat u all went thru lotsa hardship...
nangis seh I baca u al nya entries....
well but 1 thing for sure....every hardship dat we went thru, make us a better/stronger person
mamaliz
Active Member
norra rossi...
marry young banyak cobaan...lagi lagi wen peeps blabs abt u or blabs at you as tho u make their life harder by ur very existence...
ini semua belambak and banyak kali cos ripples in my marriage but we always pull tru wen we remind one another if this is wat peeps hope for us....to break apart n proof them right....
love n trust much needed those times...
marry young banyak cobaan...lagi lagi wen peeps blabs abt u or blabs at you as tho u make their life harder by ur very existence...
ini semua belambak and banyak kali cos ripples in my marriage but we always pull tru wen we remind one another if this is wat peeps hope for us....to break apart n proof them right....
love n trust much needed those times...
<font color="119911">NAw
yes i did consider to rent out my whole house.. act masih dlm perbincangan lagi.. as its not ez for my hub to stay with my parents lah.. tp watever it is demi anak we still hv to do it sooner or later.. insyallah we act aim tg lepaskan my hubnya poly.. coz at this moment he need space & time for his revision so insyallah by anther 3yrs we hope to rent out the whole house..</font>
yes i did consider to rent out my whole house.. act masih dlm perbincangan lagi.. as its not ez for my hub to stay with my parents lah.. tp watever it is demi anak we still hv to do it sooner or later.. insyallah we act aim tg lepaskan my hubnya poly.. coz at this moment he need space & time for his revision so insyallah by anther 3yrs we hope to rent out the whole house..</font>