ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?
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smalldreams
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Wati babe, of course I have issues with coping.
Personally I think something's gotta give.
FOcus more on something, naturally you focus less on something else.
My main priority is Adam.
Sad to say, previously, hubby took a 2nd position.
But recently, I sorta "woke up my ideas" and
realised I need to give Hubby equal attention too.
So now, Adam & hubby are same in priorities.
Housework, too bad.
I do whatever I can.
I vacuum when I have time, mop when I have energy.
But cooking, I must make an effort to do that
on weekends so hubby gets to enjoy & appreciate a
decent family meal.
Work?! This takes a backseat. Family first.
Promotion? Erm, i guess that's gotta go too</font>
Wati babe, of course I have issues with coping.
Personally I think something's gotta give.
FOcus more on something, naturally you focus less on something else.
My main priority is Adam.
Sad to say, previously, hubby took a 2nd position.
But recently, I sorta "woke up my ideas" and
realised I need to give Hubby equal attention too.
So now, Adam & hubby are same in priorities.
Housework, too bad.
I do whatever I can.
I vacuum when I have time, mop when I have energy.
But cooking, I must make an effort to do that
on weekends so hubby gets to enjoy & appreciate a
decent family meal.
Work?! This takes a backseat. Family first.
Promotion? Erm, i guess that's gotta go too</font>
wati
Active Member
memang kesian...
I got a rude shock when dia kena sedated. I tak tahu what to expect tau. Dia kena inject, then doc suruh i dukung her and support her neck.. Then Maya was screaming kan.. then while i tgh pujuk2 dia, she was like staring at me.. trying to see me properly... then suddenly she stop moving.. tapi mata dia bukak and her body frozen. All within 1 minute after injection. The saddest moment was when i had to place her on the ops table and tutup kan mata dia.. then i loosen up her little hands and fingers and little feet and toes... aku nangis teruk seh.. Cos i was in shock to see her like tat. Dah mcm anak patung.
I got a rude shock when dia kena sedated. I tak tahu what to expect tau. Dia kena inject, then doc suruh i dukung her and support her neck.. Then Maya was screaming kan.. then while i tgh pujuk2 dia, she was like staring at me.. trying to see me properly... then suddenly she stop moving.. tapi mata dia bukak and her body frozen. All within 1 minute after injection. The saddest moment was when i had to place her on the ops table and tutup kan mata dia.. then i loosen up her little hands and fingers and little feet and toes... aku nangis teruk seh.. Cos i was in shock to see her like tat. Dah mcm anak patung.
wati
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Smalldreams.. i tot i was really a lousy person. Thanks for your input. Now i know it's normal. Kita tak bleh tamak, like want success in everything.. so must try to balance...
I pun sama.. Maya is my 1st priority. Hubby comes in 2nd. Recently hubby changed alot. But then i manage to "nip tis issue in the butt".. lucky for me. Rumah memang tonggang langgang, tapi trying hard to clear up my clutters. Rumah i byk clutters.. which cause me headaches.. Work, pun i dah relax.. just do my normal duties and go back at 5.30pm. Masak ? Aiyoh... belum tercapai.. Insyaallah.
I pun sama.. Maya is my 1st priority. Hubby comes in 2nd. Recently hubby changed alot. But then i manage to "nip tis issue in the butt".. lucky for me. Rumah memang tonggang langgang, tapi trying hard to clear up my clutters. Rumah i byk clutters.. which cause me headaches.. Work, pun i dah relax.. just do my normal duties and go back at 5.30pm. Masak ? Aiyoh... belum tercapai.. Insyaallah.
Cip
sebak seh bace cam gitu.. kalau aku pun mesti nangis
maya is strong girl
dun worry too much lah.. like peah said.. something gotta give
for me i focus on quality time with izzat
we will never get this chance again to see them growing and learning
no one's a superwoman
k nak pegi lunch..
sebak seh bace cam gitu.. kalau aku pun mesti nangis
maya is strong girl
dun worry too much lah.. like peah said.. something gotta give
for me i focus on quality time with izzat
we will never get this chance again to see them growing and learning
no one's a superwoman
k nak pegi lunch..
smalldreams
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Wati
Sedih I baca pasal maya. makes my heart break, apatah lagi you, ibu dia. I hope she gets well soon. Are you on child sick leave?
Tak apa, take your time and clean up aspects you think is most necessary. If you say your house banyak clutter, start with that. A clear space is the key to a clear mind too. Be cruel and throw out things you don't need. You'll be surprised that the new space helps, insya-Allah. Maybe the less dust could also help Maya's eyes.
Or if you do have clutter and sayang nak buang, get storage space. Keep them. That might help too.
I agree with Nora
Takde orang superwoman. We all have to find our own coping eventually. Superwoman kan single-mingle. Takde family nak kena jaga. Cuba kalau ada. Would she be able to rescue the world, at the same time jaga anak dia?</font>
Wati
Sedih I baca pasal maya. makes my heart break, apatah lagi you, ibu dia. I hope she gets well soon. Are you on child sick leave?
Tak apa, take your time and clean up aspects you think is most necessary. If you say your house banyak clutter, start with that. A clear space is the key to a clear mind too. Be cruel and throw out things you don't need. You'll be surprised that the new space helps, insya-Allah. Maybe the less dust could also help Maya's eyes.
Or if you do have clutter and sayang nak buang, get storage space. Keep them. That might help too.
I agree with Nora
Takde orang superwoman. We all have to find our own coping eventually. Superwoman kan single-mingle. Takde family nak kena jaga. Cuba kalau ada. Would she be able to rescue the world, at the same time jaga anak dia?</font>
<font color="0000ff">hihi
back from lunch.. tadi gi harbourfront, makan fish&chips.. semua out for lunch ke??
wati
kesiannya maya, hope she gets well soon!!
salams to Ju..
too bad, kejapnya ur stay here.. u shd have stay longer and get to noe us better..! peace!!!</font>
back from lunch.. tadi gi harbourfront, makan fish&chips.. semua out for lunch ke??
wati
kesiannya maya, hope she gets well soon!!
salams to Ju..
too bad, kejapnya ur stay here.. u shd have stay longer and get to noe us better..! peace!!!</font>
shash_2901
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hello fwens....
wati..im feelin u..dat is how i feel wen rizqi in icu,he cant breath in the normal air as other babies can...sebak beb..our child is half of us...we carry them in us for about 9 mths plus..so kalau dieronag sakit..kita pun rasa sakit..not easy to handle everything by ourself..
sebab tu syurga ditapak kaki ibu,kerna ibu yg byk berkoban....same goes to me..kadang2 siang buat mcm2 keja and layan anak..bila mlm i da penat..kadang2 tertdor bila hb alik werk...kesian dier kena ambek mkn and mkn sorang2..tapi i mesti feel bad n mintak maaf..he understand i penat...dier tak pernah marah ..every women has their own weakness..none of us is perfect in handling our marriage life..ok*hugs*
wati..im feelin u..dat is how i feel wen rizqi in icu,he cant breath in the normal air as other babies can...sebak beb..our child is half of us...we carry them in us for about 9 mths plus..so kalau dieronag sakit..kita pun rasa sakit..not easy to handle everything by ourself..
sebab tu syurga ditapak kaki ibu,kerna ibu yg byk berkoban....same goes to me..kadang2 siang buat mcm2 keja and layan anak..bila mlm i da penat..kadang2 tertdor bila hb alik werk...kesian dier kena ambek mkn and mkn sorang2..tapi i mesti feel bad n mintak maaf..he understand i penat...dier tak pernah marah ..every women has their own weakness..none of us is perfect in handling our marriage life..ok*hugs*
wati
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Notty, jgn marah.. aku terima sms mu dan aku menangis sebak.. hehehe... thanks for the thought. All sms received prove that i do have friends who care.
Alamak, since you said that.. I think aku dah mcm mak aku pulak.. dia pun mcm mak ko... hehehe.. beli barang mesti 2, takut 1 rosak, so ada stanby.. hehehe... OMG.. I am so like tat.. balik nak kena clear, clear, clear...
Ada a couple of baju that i cant fit, aku simpan lama tau.. takut nanti dgn diet2, lose weight, bleh pakai balik.. but then again, kita lupa.. by the time, baju tu pun dah out of fashion... hmm
Alamak, since you said that.. I think aku dah mcm mak aku pulak.. dia pun mcm mak ko... hehehe.. beli barang mesti 2, takut 1 rosak, so ada stanby.. hehehe... OMG.. I am so like tat.. balik nak kena clear, clear, clear...
Ada a couple of baju that i cant fit, aku simpan lama tau.. takut nanti dgn diet2, lose weight, bleh pakai balik.. but then again, kita lupa.. by the time, baju tu pun dah out of fashion... hmm
shash_2901
New Member
wati..tu la..sebelum kawin damn pampered by mum...my weakness is i tak tau masak..i masak pun yg simple2....skali lepas kawin everythin buat sendiri...ambek kau obat,...lol.
party frm 3-9 dear...
party frm 3-9 dear...
wati
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3 to 9pm ?
Shash, i actually got something after 2 pm. I datang and meet up with you earlier ok. I nak kasi hadiah for Rizqi. I punyer another appt pulak at Kew Walk. Daerah East side. Tapi kalau sempat time balik, i will come by.. ok. Jap eh, i check address, mana i letak.
Shash, i actually got something after 2 pm. I datang and meet up with you earlier ok. I nak kasi hadiah for Rizqi. I punyer another appt pulak at Kew Walk. Daerah East side. Tapi kalau sempat time balik, i will come by.. ok. Jap eh, i check address, mana i letak.
Back from lunch. Eat Nasi Bryani with hubby at Zam Zam....
Wati,
I think most mother will take our children as 1st priority. Hubby shoild understand that. But we still needto spend some time with them too. Housework...before I have a maid...i also do whatever I can. Mop the house twice a week...laudary everyday...ironing in weekend...marketing once a week...clean the walls,store once a year....haha.. like nora said, we are not superwoman.
Take care of Maya and yourself too...don't let yourself under too much stress. It wouldn't be good for you and Maya...
Wati,
I think most mother will take our children as 1st priority. Hubby shoild understand that. But we still needto spend some time with them too. Housework...before I have a maid...i also do whatever I can. Mop the house twice a week...laudary everyday...ironing in weekend...marketing once a week...clean the walls,store once a year....haha.. like nora said, we are not superwoman.
Take care of Maya and yourself too...don't let yourself under too much stress. It wouldn't be good for you and Maya...
"but then again, kita lupa.. by the time, baju tu pun dah out of fashion..."
<font color="000000">Wati
yup rite..so glad i gave away a few of my kebayas last wk..those were my favourites..plan to wear them back ltr after i lose some inches..
since my keponakan dah sound nak pinjam contoh my baju2..i kasi je sudah....tak yah buat2..to make way for my 4 baju raya next mth..xoxoxox</font>
<font color="000000">Wati
yup rite..so glad i gave away a few of my kebayas last wk..those were my favourites..plan to wear them back ltr after i lose some inches..
since my keponakan dah sound nak pinjam contoh my baju2..i kasi je sudah....tak yah buat2..to make way for my 4 baju raya next mth..xoxoxox</font>
momma_naqi
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juz back fm lunch
**hugss** wati...
for me Anaqi aku nya first priority.....
2nd hubby...
Pada aku the rest are secondary....
Dat's y bila Anaqi sakit....aku sedih sekali...
Pada aku biar aku tak makan...asal anak aku sempurna....
**hugss** wati...
for me Anaqi aku nya first priority.....
2nd hubby...
Pada aku the rest are secondary....
Dat's y bila Anaqi sakit....aku sedih sekali...
Pada aku biar aku tak makan...asal anak aku sempurna....
momma_naqi
Active Member
baju kekadang memang sayang nak buang.....kira those baju ibarat yur motivation for u to lose those inches....BUT then...macam susah nak happen...so baju2 aku yg lama2....Aku give away to FIL aku nya family @ Batam....
momma_naqi
Active Member
kwangx3....
wati
Active Member
Mas, betul tu... anak aku sakit, aku tak selera betul nak makan...
Pasal baju, hmm... aku rasa mlm nie balik dah tgk wardrobe and see what i dun need. Tapi baju hubby aku yg banyak tau.. my baju sikit jer.. Nanti dia, mlm nie aku amik baju mana dia tak perlu and then i will hide it for 1 mth. Kalau dia tak carik, then aku derma kat orang.. LOL*
Pasal baju, hmm... aku rasa mlm nie balik dah tgk wardrobe and see what i dun need. Tapi baju hubby aku yg banyak tau.. my baju sikit jer.. Nanti dia, mlm nie aku amik baju mana dia tak perlu and then i will hide it for 1 mth. Kalau dia tak carik, then aku derma kat orang.. LOL*
Wati,
hihiihhi good idea...cheer up k...
memang anak 1st priority tapi kadang2 ade moments yg u kena letakkan diri sendiri as 1st priority too...n hub n the cycle goes on
kalau kau penat..kau 'pause' sekejap...then kau continue.....
as a wife kite orang ade secret weapon tau...its the 6th sense and Zikir....kau penat macam mane pon..kau zikir inshAllah tak terasa penat sangat....
hihiihhi good idea...cheer up k...
memang anak 1st priority tapi kadang2 ade moments yg u kena letakkan diri sendiri as 1st priority too...n hub n the cycle goes on
kalau kau penat..kau 'pause' sekejap...then kau continue.....
as a wife kite orang ade secret weapon tau...its the 6th sense and Zikir....kau penat macam mane pon..kau zikir inshAllah tak terasa penat sangat....
mamaliz
Active Member
im backkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk
tadi kena mummified and toxified.....hehehehehe.... overall since i start this program dah pi 5-6 times...n proud to say i lose 3.6kg....!!! woohooooo~ but many many more kg to go....
moral support people pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
tadi kena mummified and toxified.....hehehehehe.... overall since i start this program dah pi 5-6 times...n proud to say i lose 3.6kg....!!! woohooooo~ but many many more kg to go....
moral support people pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
mamaliz
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for me i think i've been guilty of neglecting Sarah....seriously...i know but i tend to concentrate on hubby then hilmi...sarah i biarkan by telling myself she's big enuff to play by herself....so guiltyyyyyy....
but the past few wks i try my best to give her a hug or jus kiss her...then treat her to her fav things...she seems happier now....
dont know why i do dat....but watever it is im glad i know wat i did wrong...
so u see wati semua org buat salah...just dat it takes a brave person to admit his own guilt n rectify it~
but the past few wks i try my best to give her a hug or jus kiss her...then treat her to her fav things...she seems happier now....
dont know why i do dat....but watever it is im glad i know wat i did wrong...
so u see wati semua org buat salah...just dat it takes a brave person to admit his own guilt n rectify it~
eliza_hairi
New Member
nshah,
ketawa besar nampak!!
ketawa besar nampak!!
mamaliz
Active Member
nshah
supportive tu ada makna....for me i know my hubby...kalau dia push me to do sumthing tu is also because he wants us to improve our relationship better....
saper lah tau kan maybe dia ter-pandang kat lain body....*touch wood*
then terus nak i improve so dat he wont stray...
i pun take the hint n go for it at the same time i manjakan/sayang dia more n more...sayang suami oiiiii~~~~~~~~ kekekekeke
supportive tu ada makna....for me i know my hubby...kalau dia push me to do sumthing tu is also because he wants us to improve our relationship better....
saper lah tau kan maybe dia ter-pandang kat lain body....*touch wood*
then terus nak i improve so dat he wont stray...
i pun take the hint n go for it at the same time i manjakan/sayang dia more n more...sayang suami oiiiii~~~~~~~~ kekekekeke
eliza_hairi
New Member
mamaliz,
patutla ur hubby SAAAAAYAAAANG kat u...
turunkan la ilmu tu...
patutla ur hubby SAAAAAYAAAANG kat u...
turunkan la ilmu tu...
<font color="000000">Nshah
farni to u but not for me!
Insya-Allah anak aku gi sec sch next year..belom termasuk anak aku yg P3 & P2. Blanja sekolah tak kira ke? why should i think abt holiday now when there is so much $$ needed soon..thus, we put our holiday plan aside, not even to KL or Batam.
so tell me wats so funny abt it!?
takda duit buat hal takda duit ape!</font>
farni to u but not for me!
Insya-Allah anak aku gi sec sch next year..belom termasuk anak aku yg P3 & P2. Blanja sekolah tak kira ke? why should i think abt holiday now when there is so much $$ needed soon..thus, we put our holiday plan aside, not even to KL or Batam.
so tell me wats so funny abt it!?
takda duit buat hal takda duit ape!</font>
mamaliz
Active Member
*gulp* aku nak pi batam this weekend ni ok ke tak ehhhh.....notty bual camtu buat aku guilty plak.....
hubby ni pon slalu cakap..."duit dah spend banyak nanti camner nak bayar itu ini.." tapi dia jugak ajak aku pi batam....
i guess it all comes down to financial planning eh...see wat needed to be settled then settle...then apa apa yg lebih either put aside a bit for saving n also used a bit for pleasure...ok kan...?
hubby ni pon slalu cakap..."duit dah spend banyak nanti camner nak bayar itu ini.." tapi dia jugak ajak aku pi batam....
i guess it all comes down to financial planning eh...see wat needed to be settled then settle...then apa apa yg lebih either put aside a bit for saving n also used a bit for pleasure...ok kan...?
mamaliz
Active Member
mira...
dont say wardrobe....the kids toys turn into mountain in the kids room also i sayang to throw.....hahahahahah...
hubby tell me to clear n throw..i will say ...wait that one jus buy....wait this one still can play...wait this one very expensive...in the end the toys stays....how???? hehehe
dont say wardrobe....the kids toys turn into mountain in the kids room also i sayang to throw.....hahahahahah...
hubby tell me to clear n throw..i will say ...wait that one jus buy....wait this one still can play...wait this one very expensive...in the end the toys stays....how???? hehehe
<font color="0000ff">Quote **Insya-Allah anak aku gi sec sch next year..belom termasuk anak aku yg P3 & P2. Blanja sekolah tak kira ke? why should i think abt holiday now when there is so much $$ needed soon..thus, we put our holiday plan aside, not even to KL or Batam. **
betol betol betol... aku pun tgh save $$ for registration and skool fees.. maklum ler it not cheap nowdays.. but still it priority and our responsibility..
notty
kau punya lagi byk belanja, 3 kids.!! </font>
betol betol betol... aku pun tgh save $$ for registration and skool fees.. maklum ler it not cheap nowdays.. but still it priority and our responsibility..
notty
kau punya lagi byk belanja, 3 kids.!! </font>
<font color="119911">liz
gdlah if ur hub dah kasi u green lite to go & u also willing to do it for him & for ur own gd y not, jus go for it babe.. cuma skg kena jaga permakanan ah coz for me part tu selalu gagal babe.. susah skit..apa pun u can loose more punya..way to go liz
gal
aiks tulnya marah? ilek ah.. well mungkin not time for me yet now ah.. mayb soon kot.. so nampaknya from now dah kena start savgs ah mayb once kids go pri dont noe i can still go holiday or not ah.. thx for dat svg part though</font>
gdlah if ur hub dah kasi u green lite to go & u also willing to do it for him & for ur own gd y not, jus go for it babe.. cuma skg kena jaga permakanan ah coz for me part tu selalu gagal babe.. susah skit..apa pun u can loose more punya..way to go liz
gal
aiks tulnya marah? ilek ah.. well mungkin not time for me yet now ah.. mayb soon kot.. so nampaknya from now dah kena start savgs ah mayb once kids go pri dont noe i can still go holiday or not ah.. thx for dat svg part though</font>
<font color="000000">Liz
ni masing2 punya kocek..tak kan org beli rumah baru aku pon nak rumah baru...
alah limit2..kalau aku nak sgt holiday..aku korek lobang tutop lubang..balik aku buat cite sedih kat sini..pastu templak kat muka aku, LOL!
Ada duit, why not? Jgn ckp Msia ke Indonesia ke, mana2 boleh pegi..</font>
ni masing2 punya kocek..tak kan org beli rumah baru aku pon nak rumah baru...
alah limit2..kalau aku nak sgt holiday..aku korek lobang tutop lubang..balik aku buat cite sedih kat sini..pastu templak kat muka aku, LOL!
Ada duit, why not? Jgn ckp Msia ke Indonesia ke, mana2 boleh pegi..</font>
eliza_hairi
New Member
mcm best dgr org gi holiday / weekend getaway...
the last time i gi holiday was before i got pregnant with my 1st child.... waah! dah braper lama tu!
slalu gi jb jer...
the last time i gi holiday was before i got pregnant with my 1st child.... waah! dah braper lama tu!
slalu gi jb jer...