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my boy very notti leh. Sometimes he will test my patience lor. Like you say, skin very thick, not gentle kind like Jasmine's baby J. He is definitely not a cry baby. He can be a complain king lah, but doesn't cry much. Hit him one time, he will just look at you then quickly forgotten, so must hit 3 times then he knew he is naughty and I'm not playing with him. I guess different kid needs different ways to manage, so have to find the most effective way. That day i threw his bowl cos i totally lost patience. I had warned him 3 times not to put his hand into the bowl, he repeatedly tested my patience. So when he overturned the bowl I got fed up, picked up his bowl, brought him to the sink and dumped the bowl into the sink very loudly. But it works lor, after that he didnt try to mess up his porridge when I'm feeding him. Just need to raise my voice if he tries to be funny and he will stop his nonsense. Managing girl and boy also quite different. But I believe that we need to explain to them why they are punished. They may not understand now, but sooner or later, they will. Some say "spare the cane and spoil the child", but it all depends on the individual child, not the individual parent. If the kid can understand just by scolding, then no need to cane lah. If scolding doesn't work, I will try the cane method before it is too late. Btw, caning doesn't mean violence la. My mum used to cane us when we are little also. I got caning just because I lie down to read! That I think is not so right ahaha..