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That's just the way human beings are I guess. 'Our way' is always the correct way - many people think like that. Hence whatever they have done previously would surely have to be the right way. Breastfeeding vs formula milk is a classic example of this for me. I understand that back in the 80s...

You would probably have to be more creative. Perhaps can consider moving either your own mom or your mom-in-law to your place for a few months to help both of you manage the kids? If they dont want to move over, they can even just come by at 6+pm, then go home at 10+pm? I understand your...

@Reeve lim A maid would be most helpful since you will be having 4 kids so childcare fees will definitely add up very quickly. However I strongly suggest that you have someone else at home all the time to monitor the maid and take care of the kids at the same time. On days when the childcare...

My wife delivered at both SGH for #1, KKH at #2. Waiting times are similar for both. We were paying private rates at both hospitals. We recommend KKH simply because it has the entire ecosystem in place for gynae and pd needs. Waiting time is quite a crapshoot especially since it depends on the...

'gentle reminder'?

Sometimes it is just good to cut your losses and move on. Swallow a bit of pride for the long term gain! Great job.

@loveholic - I will just like to say that your avatar does look like it depicts your current situation quite well.

There could be other costs involved as well especially if there's an early detection of issues with the baby which require extensive follow up in the future. I would agree if there are no real issues detected upfront, in which case the potential exposure would be just a few hundred dollars'...

We downgraded to subsidised B2* for delivery. To avoid any doubts best is to downgrade at the point of delivery rather than try to downgrade after baby is born. I would imagine that is a real headache.

@Happy Mummy Hopefully he has his own reasons for not wanting extend a helping hand more freely.

We were under Dr June Tan. Waiting time was a real test of patience since she is very popular so each visit saw us waiting at least 1.5hrs, often 2+hrs in the comfortable waiting area. I honestly do not have a good grasp of the total cost for regular consultations and scans, and the actual...

This is sadly amusing.. and yet something that is really quite common!

@Blessed in disgust It is good that we learn from our past experiences. Nice to know that you are doing better :)

@4sgmotherhood - speaking from personal experience which is really not bad, and based on what others have said, please try your best to not stay together with your in-laws or your own parents. It is best to have your own space to grow as a couple and as a family. Looking at all the...

Exactly. Even a healthy child born will present different challenges. Personally I always plan for the worst and treat the best or middle case scenarios as much welcome bonuses. I guess that's something you really would have to work out with your hubby and yourself on how ready you both are.

This was sending her back before or after her contract was up? Thanks for sharing.

I would agree to decide based on a worst case scenario cause you may not be ready even if it were to be a best case scenario for a DS baby, i.e. healthy DB baby.

Perhaps instead of walking away now, it would be good to think of 'how can we resolve this'. You would find yourselves being a lot more creative than just feeling like there is only a dead end. Hang on in there! Dont give up so easily..

I think it is not easy to have such a clear cut decision to make. Life doesnt work like that.. Perhaps your decision matrix should be whether to keep your baby if he/she is a DS baby regardless of health? It could well be that there are other issues to consider too that cant be detected now.

As a society I think we are better able to accept someone with DS. Personally the main question would be whether your hubby and you would be able to accept and care for such a baby. The amount of time, effort, blood, sweat and tears, plus the emotions (the highs and possibly the many lows). If...