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Dear Joybundle, I’m glad to see that you have analyzed your situation and come to terms with your feelings. Exiting the relationship and starting anew is not easy given the great amount of shared history you have with him and your feelings which have developed over the years for him. However, it...

Atthexroad: I think there are traits you admire in him for you to continue this relationship. I know this matter bothers you. Why don’t you gently broach the topic with him or drop hints when opportunities arise? It is also good that he knows your expectations so that he can be a more pleasant...

Atthexroad: I think the rich are wary of others taking advantage of them and might want to test if the gal he hangs out with is genuine and to weed out gold-digger. Whether he is willing to spend on you also depends on the length of the relationship. If it is only a few months long, we cannot...

Dear Carbong, I can commiserate with you about your anguish post discovery. You must be feeling so broken-hearted and helpless and are suffering inside. I read that fetlife is a platform for people with fetishes and kinks to link up with one another. You mentioned that hotel bookings were made...

Kelgen: It is good that both of you have the same mentality and views when it comes to financial contribution to run the household. I learnt from several of you here that both chip in financially in equal amounts and take turns when it comes to paying bills. Natalie: Discussing how to pay...

Thanx for yr perspectives, KelGen & Purplerain. KelGen: I see that yours is a partnership in which both contribute equally. Does the income gap has any part to play in determining who pays what? Do both of you discuss the financial contribution prior to marriage? Purplerain: I dun expect to...

Tiggerpooh: lucky u, u got a doting hubby who certainly loves to to wanna pamper u. U r considerate too n certainly deserving of his love.

Thanx for yr replies, Mongkok and Tiggerpooh. Mongkok, I see your line of thot that a relationship is a partnership that entails both to contribute. Tiggerpooh, I do agree with u that the willingness of a guy spending on his partner shows the extent of love he has for her. As the adage goes...

Hi all, can I know how you and your significant other or partner handle finances? Do u think that it is unreasonable if I expect the guy to pick up the tab all the time such as paying for my vacation and my shopping expenses if he can well afford to do so compared to me? As a woman, I’ll feel...

Dear Lost Sorry to hear of yr distressing episode. IMO, a cheater remains one, for life. I'd rather let him go than to live on tenterhooks fearing tt he might cheat on me for years to come. Having said tt, filing for divorce takes a lot of courage n is a life-changing event. However, we r no...

https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved/up-next Sharing an insightful talk which may help u see the urgency in resolving your marital issues. Having an affair is symptomic of unresolved issues in marriages or relationships. It might not...

Pmiyakie, This must've caused u much unease. It can be an opportunity to iron matters out with him. Perhaps a heart-to-heart talk with him about his unhappiness or unfulfilment in this relationship. Then work towards addressing any unhappiness or unmatched expectations. Candidly, i feel that he...

Hi dungiveupself, I commiserate w yr traumas but I hope u hv learnt frm this experience. As long as yr partner stays married, she has no intention of exiting her marriage and u shouldn't spend effort n time pursuing a love tt isn't meant to be yours. All of us learnt our lessons, albeit the...

Disgusting n perverse!

Hi Huy, Like u, my husband also has intimacy and sexual issues. For years, I've tried to accommodate him and play to his preference. But I feel when my husband is not emotionally connected w me during the deed, I've alr lost him somewhat n he's merely using my as a tool. I understand how u...