Chronos vs Kairos: Make Your Time Count, Mums!

“My kids take up so much of my time that I feel like I don’t have energy left to do what I want. How do I manage my time better?”…

Bullying at School? Teach Your Child Three Lessons on Assertiveness

“He punched my right eye,” my youngest whispered, when I asked how his day went. He wasn’t visibly hurt, but suffice to say, I was shocked. It was the second…

Tweak Routines for Positive Parenting + Homework Done without a Fight!

“I need to sit with my boys daily, otherwise they won’t do their homework. Is there a way to get them to complete their work independently without me?” A common…

Is My Kid Really ‘Old Enough’ to Take Public Transport in Primary One?

“Wow, your daughter takes the public bus home all by herself? But she’s only in Primary One!” exclaims one mum. On the inside, she doubts if her own six-year-old is…

Identity Hack to Enjoy Goal Setting in the New Year

As usual, talk of goal setting and resolutions abound as we approach the end of the year. “Girls, why don’t people stick to their New Year goals and resolutions?” I…

Adolescent Angst: Is It Rebellion or Depression?

“Ling, I’m so sorry. I didn’t know you were depressed.” My baby girl, now 17, tried to blink back her tears as I continued, “But you’re not alone. I was…

Unlocking Happiness for Me & My Child During the Exam Period

In the midst of the dreaded exam period, we often plunge into the world of textbooks, tuition, and mock tests. More practice equates to better preparation, right? That may be…

“I’m a Young Mum, Smart and Savvy, but I Fell for a Scam!”

This can’t be happening! I stared in disbelief for a second. Then panicking, I frantically tapped on my phone to try to uninstall the new app, but to no avail….

Dare to Feel: When My Daughter Has a 15-cm Tumour

Bel is an easy-going, athletic 13-year-old who avoids conflicts with a smile. Of my five children, she would be the one to question why I was so curt with a…

Ways to (Not) Keep Your Kids Entertained during the School Holidays

“Junia,” many mums want to know, “how do you keep your five kids entertained during the school holidays?” My secret? I don’t. Instead, I delegate the responsibility of keeping each…

Learn about the 5 Love Languages and Gift Mum an Experiential Mother’s Day

Dr Gary Chapman’s concept of ‘The 5 Love Languages’ provides a wonderful framework to top up our emotional bank accounts. Which of the five is your primary way of receiving?…

“Mum, Why Is That Kid So Weird?” – A Teaching Opportunity

“Mum, that boy’s making so much noise — should we tell his parents?” asked my girl. He was grunting and the echoes vibrating off the water surface rudely interrupted the…

Why You Shouldn’t Treat All Your Children Equally – A Common Parenting Mistake

“But why not? Aren’t we supposed to love all our children equally and not show favouritism?” asked a fellow mum. Because equality and equity achieve completely different goals, I reply….

5 Steps to Transform Morning Madness into Delightful Mornings

A fellow mum asked how I prepare my five kids to transit into their next phases without being a helicopter mum. “I teach them to pilot their own helicopters!” I…

Smart Mums Prioritise Past Year Retrospections over New Year Resolutions

Everyone asks, “Junia, what are your new year resolutions?” Well, before I begin thinking about next year, I like to look back on the year that’s ending. In fact, I…

Revenge Travel: 5 Steps to Creating Independent Little Travellers

“Even my kids want to jump on the revenge travel bandwagon,” one mum remarks. “How do I explain to them that it’s more expensive to travel now compared to pre-Covid…

“How Can I Be a Happy Mother When I’m Always Tired?”

Some time back, someone asked me, “Junia, are you happy?” I kept quiet because it would not look good to admit that I wasn’t. Yet my heart said NO. It…

How to Create Empowering Habits That Don’t Hold You Back

“Mum, it’s been over a month since we no longer need to wear masks in public. Yet I still see more people with their masks on than off. Why?!?” my…

My Kid Asks: Why Does the Repeal of 377A Upset So Many People?

When our Prime Minister announced during this year’s National Day Rally that Section 377A of the Penal Code is to be repealed, the buzz that followed was inevitable. Naturally, even…

“Junia, Where Do You Find Space for All 5 Kids’ Things at Home?!”

Mothers I meet often ask how we maintain our house with five growing children and all their belongings. They complain that their homes feel cluttered with just two or three…

Saboteurs or Sages – Whose voices are you listening to?

“Junia, I give up,” a fellow mum lamented. “My daughter’s attitude is so bad and we argue all the time. I don’t know what to do anymore. She shouted at…

“Is It Really Okay to Let My Child Fail Spelling?”

A parent asked me this question during the last session of a four-week programme on motivational strategies. The discussion was on creating intrinsic drive instead of repeating the arduous weekly…

“Working Mum or Stay-home Mum: Which Should I Choose?”

“Of course you should be a working mum! Do you know how expensive it is to bring up a child in Singapore? Staying home would be a waste of your…

“Will You Let Your Child 5-11 Years Get the Pfizer Vaccine?”

“No way!” declared my husband. “Do you know Pfizer is not even a vaccine by medical and legal definition? They do not prevent you from getting the infection. They’re experimental…

Normal or Express – PSLE Streaming Conflicts between My Boy and His Dad

“Given his PSLE results, my son has the choice of either the Normal or Express stream. He wants to go the N(A) route, but my husband wants him to choose…

“My In-laws Want Me to Raise My Child Their Outdated Way!”

“My mother-in-law keeps saying my milk is not enough and insists on giving my baby formula. I’m frustrated because my husband doesn’t seem to back me up, and I’m too…

“It’s HBL Season Again and My Kids Won’t Stop Fighting!”

“Junia,” one mum turns to me in exasperation, “my two kids seem to be fighting more during this HBL season. What can I do?” I winked at her knowingly, and…

“How Do You Motivate Your Child? It’s PSLE Next Year and Mine Doesn’t Seem to Care!”

Parents worry. Trying to motivate your child to study and excel in exams has long become part and parcel of daily life. Understandably so. A country with no natural resources…

“I Caught My 10-year-old Watching Porn – What Do I Do?”

Intimate topics such as sex, porn, and masturbation are NOT something most Asian parents broach because we are uncomfortable about bringing them up. The impact of not having these conversations…

“I’m a Lousy SAHM and I Feel Like a Failure” – Is This Your Inner Mum Voice?

“Junia, I’m such a lousy mother. I feel like a failure. My son doesn’t listen to me, and my husband says it’s my fault. I really don’t know what to…

“Mum, Are We Rich?” – How Would You Respond?

“Mum, are we rich?” she asked. “How much do we have? Because my friend said she just found out her father has two million dollars!” How would you respond to…

“Will You Accept and Love Your Gay Child?”

“Can you accept it if one of our daughters is a lesbian?” I asked. “OMG! That would mean we failed as parents!” my husband bellowed. Our eldest was only seven…

“COVID-19 Sent My Family’s Screen Time Sky High. Why Aren’t Your Kids Addicted?”

When a fellow mum asked me this, I had to chuckle. It’s not that my kids wouldn’t be stuck to their screens too… if I just let them. It simply…

“How Can I Raise Successful Kids during a Pandemic?”

The COVID-19 pandemic has impacted everyone, leaving marks on all our lives. I’ve had my fair share. My husband’s income got reduced by half. The kids were confined indoors during…

“My Daughter Wants Me to Be More Like You!”

During a group chat session, a fellow mummy (whose daughter is classmates with one of mine) said to me: “Babe, my daughter wants me to be more like you. ‘Isabel’s…

“My Kid Failed Maths, and My Husband is Mad at Me. So What?”

Does this sound familiar to you? It actually happened to me recently, and with the primary school year-end exams looming, I decided to share. “Did you know Jean failed her…

“My Child Wants to Commit Suicide. What Can I Do?”

A few weeks ago, a mum asked me: “Junia, my Primary Six-year-old son says he wants to commit suicide. What can I do?” I teared up. COVID-19 has isolated us…