@bb_love The worst comment I heard from a friend (good friend's hubby) was "Why the need to do IVF? Just go on a holiday, relax and you'll conceive a baby. It's so easy!" He said that coz that was exactly what happened to him and wife. It took all the willpower I had not to throw hot tea in his face, lol!
The most frequent comment I have heard is that a couple can definitely have a baby with IVF as the success rate is 100%, so why should anyone worry about infertility?! Maybe coz the media tends to glorify the wonderful technology behind IVF but it's not interested in talking about the BFNs which are in fact much more than the BFPs. Then when I gently tell them the truth, I can see the look of enlightenment dawn on their faces.
The wife & MIL of this same man told my hubby & mum I should go to her hometown of Beijing to do IVF coz there's a doctor there that has 100% success with his/her IVF patients. Sounds very sketchy, right?
For Christians who struggle with infertility like I did, many don't realise the worst thing to say is "Have faith in God and He will gift you a baby. If you still don't have one, it's because you don't have enough faith or you're not praying hard enough". The bible never promised that God will bless us with children if we have strong faith or pray 24/7, and only one childless Christian couple confirmed this fact with me. Saying such half-true things brings false hope and lots of unnecessary guilt and despair when the hope is not fulfilled. Yet I have had so many well-meaning Christians say that to my face that I need to have more faith and to pray more! It only led me to depression.
Sorry for the mini rant there, haha! Good thing is that we're definitely not alone in our struggles and we can all support each other!