dmissingpiece
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I married my first love. One who initially wanted to back out after he has proposed to me. I was left puzzled and lost till I realised he was cheating on me with his PRC colleague. He begged for forgiveness and said he may not be a good bf but promised to be a good husband. I choose to be together but felt my world fell apart, it was a long journey to recovery.
Fast forward when we had our first child, I realise he was chatting on a site. Not sure what kind of chat site it is but everyone’s profile shared their preferred sex position. He said he will not do it again.
I was faced with secondary infertility. Tried IUI and IVF, succeeded and had miscarriage and finally conceived naturally with my second child. When I was about to give birth, I realise my spouse was visiting the dirty massage parlor. He insisted it was just a normal massage which I had no evidence back then. I choose to let go but it was always on my mind.
Recently I found out he lied that he was working late. I had his location tracked on my hp which was not his workplace. I had a bad feeling. I tried to video calls with no answer till he finally answer and explained he was in a discussion call. Asked for proof for call record. Still trying to lie till I saw the WhatsApp msgs to a PRC lady making appointment for his massage. So I am right all along, he said he does not visit them often and he has his needs. I told him right from start of the marriage, if he ever cheat again. We will get a divorce and the children wiIl stay with me.
Again he said he will not visit the massage parlors anymore and he does not want a divorce. I feel he will never learn because no one knows his true color. Always the good husband and father image.
I feel lost again. What should I do? Perhaps it’s all wrong right from the beginning.
Fast forward when we had our first child, I realise he was chatting on a site. Not sure what kind of chat site it is but everyone’s profile shared their preferred sex position. He said he will not do it again.
I was faced with secondary infertility. Tried IUI and IVF, succeeded and had miscarriage and finally conceived naturally with my second child. When I was about to give birth, I realise my spouse was visiting the dirty massage parlor. He insisted it was just a normal massage which I had no evidence back then. I choose to let go but it was always on my mind.
Recently I found out he lied that he was working late. I had his location tracked on my hp which was not his workplace. I had a bad feeling. I tried to video calls with no answer till he finally answer and explained he was in a discussion call. Asked for proof for call record. Still trying to lie till I saw the WhatsApp msgs to a PRC lady making appointment for his massage. So I am right all along, he said he does not visit them often and he has his needs. I told him right from start of the marriage, if he ever cheat again. We will get a divorce and the children wiIl stay with me.
Again he said he will not visit the massage parlors anymore and he does not want a divorce. I feel he will never learn because no one knows his true color. Always the good husband and father image.
I feel lost again. What should I do? Perhaps it’s all wrong right from the beginning.