DamagedMan
New Member
Hi, I know I don't belong here, but this is the closest to a support group for cheating spouses.
I'm 27 this year, barely married for 6 months and my wife is filling a separation against me.
Not to keep scores, but in our 3 years of relationship, to my knowledge, my wife attempted to cheat 4 times, twice successfully.
I will just talk about the attempt 4, the 1st and hopefully last adultery.
2018 is a challenging year for me.
At the beginning of 2018, my gf and I were planning a Korea trip. our first trip as a couple for 2 years alone.
We were staying in a rented room when the tenant requested us to move out due to an unexpected pregnancy and needed the room. So my gf, being a foreigner and never had a permanent place to stay, said she didn't want to rent outside anymore and i decided to purchase a HDB.
Because we both finally just started to be financially stable, i could not afford to hold a wedding and buy the apartment at the same time, i took out a company loan to furnish everything.
Months before the wedding on mid of 2018, we were 1/4 into the loan and i felt desperate. This was my life mistake. I resulted to gambling to help fund the wedding and renovation of the house. Biggest mistake of my life. lost 5/8 of the loan and had to pay off the wedding literally on the spot.
I continued my bad ways, constantly hiding my activities from her, lying to her. She gave me an ultimatum just before the marriage that she will leave if i didnt change. so after the wedding, i started to join a support group for gambling. didn't work, continued to gamble, she continued to find out and towards the nov 2018, we dont talk anymore. she is not interested in my financial debts, and I'm desperately trying to find a solution to continue to provide for her, while paying debts, and resort to gambling.
Of course, I celebrated Christmas and new years alone.
Stopped gambling since new years day, and one fine day my wife suddenly says she feels threatened by me and said she want to move out. I was super confused. we argued. that same fine day, she packed everything and left.
3 days later i found out that she slept with attempt 4 the night before that fine day, and she is the one now filling for separation.
I'm now living alone in my house, feeling all sorts of emotion.
I know I definitely contributed to factors of why she has attempt 4. But still..attempt 4 still exist.
Really wished that there is an actual physical support group that I could attend.
Just wanted to share my story. Thank you for reading.
I'm 27 this year, barely married for 6 months and my wife is filling a separation against me.
Not to keep scores, but in our 3 years of relationship, to my knowledge, my wife attempted to cheat 4 times, twice successfully.
I will just talk about the attempt 4, the 1st and hopefully last adultery.
2018 is a challenging year for me.
At the beginning of 2018, my gf and I were planning a Korea trip. our first trip as a couple for 2 years alone.
We were staying in a rented room when the tenant requested us to move out due to an unexpected pregnancy and needed the room. So my gf, being a foreigner and never had a permanent place to stay, said she didn't want to rent outside anymore and i decided to purchase a HDB.
Because we both finally just started to be financially stable, i could not afford to hold a wedding and buy the apartment at the same time, i took out a company loan to furnish everything.
Months before the wedding on mid of 2018, we were 1/4 into the loan and i felt desperate. This was my life mistake. I resulted to gambling to help fund the wedding and renovation of the house. Biggest mistake of my life. lost 5/8 of the loan and had to pay off the wedding literally on the spot.
I continued my bad ways, constantly hiding my activities from her, lying to her. She gave me an ultimatum just before the marriage that she will leave if i didnt change. so after the wedding, i started to join a support group for gambling. didn't work, continued to gamble, she continued to find out and towards the nov 2018, we dont talk anymore. she is not interested in my financial debts, and I'm desperately trying to find a solution to continue to provide for her, while paying debts, and resort to gambling.
Of course, I celebrated Christmas and new years alone.
Stopped gambling since new years day, and one fine day my wife suddenly says she feels threatened by me and said she want to move out. I was super confused. we argued. that same fine day, she packed everything and left.
3 days later i found out that she slept with attempt 4 the night before that fine day, and she is the one now filling for separation.
I'm now living alone in my house, feeling all sorts of emotion.
I know I definitely contributed to factors of why she has attempt 4. But still..attempt 4 still exist.
Really wished that there is an actual physical support group that I could attend.
Just wanted to share my story. Thank you for reading.