VenusMummy
New Member
Hi All,
I am actually typing this with a heavy heart. This is not the first thread I have created about my marriage situation. I am just so damn tired of the vicious cycle but fear taking the step to file for the big D. I am just SO stuck and do not have any close friends whom I can confide in.
I am currently living separately (staying put at my parents' place as of now) with my son and my hub, due to various reasons I didn't continue living with my in-laws (well, I don't wish to go into details of all the in-laws episodes here). My son is under their care, since my parents can't accommodate him at their place (I VERY much wish I have a proper place for him to stay with me though!).
I guess things got worse from there. Not only did my son got even closer and stickier to my MIL, both my hub and I drifted apart tremendously. Daily quarrels, we both mention the D word way too often, till now I feel might as well just go for it then, since it is pointless to stay in a marriage where there's just too much resentment and feelings have died off gradually.
We have seen couple of counselors but to no avail. The quarrels keep occurring without fail. I have never seen such a petty, calculative and childish man in my life! To make things worse, we both have no common topics other than the child's matters. Neither do we have any couple time together (zero, I would say), as mil expects us to take care of our son on our respective off days (he works retail hours by the way and his off days are usually on weekdays). I really have no idea how to communicate with him without getting into disputes.
Maybe this marriage is really beyond salvation. I don't know why things have turned this way. I fear the unknown, fear things might turn out worse if I were to take the plunge and divorce. But on the other hand, I am just so sick of the vicious cycle and having to deal with his nonsense for the rest of my life.
I have no avenue to channel my feelings and frustrations to, but here. Sorry if I rant too much.
I am actually typing this with a heavy heart. This is not the first thread I have created about my marriage situation. I am just so damn tired of the vicious cycle but fear taking the step to file for the big D. I am just SO stuck and do not have any close friends whom I can confide in.
I am currently living separately (staying put at my parents' place as of now) with my son and my hub, due to various reasons I didn't continue living with my in-laws (well, I don't wish to go into details of all the in-laws episodes here). My son is under their care, since my parents can't accommodate him at their place (I VERY much wish I have a proper place for him to stay with me though!).
I guess things got worse from there. Not only did my son got even closer and stickier to my MIL, both my hub and I drifted apart tremendously. Daily quarrels, we both mention the D word way too often, till now I feel might as well just go for it then, since it is pointless to stay in a marriage where there's just too much resentment and feelings have died off gradually.
We have seen couple of counselors but to no avail. The quarrels keep occurring without fail. I have never seen such a petty, calculative and childish man in my life! To make things worse, we both have no common topics other than the child's matters. Neither do we have any couple time together (zero, I would say), as mil expects us to take care of our son on our respective off days (he works retail hours by the way and his off days are usually on weekdays). I really have no idea how to communicate with him without getting into disputes.
Maybe this marriage is really beyond salvation. I don't know why things have turned this way. I fear the unknown, fear things might turn out worse if I were to take the plunge and divorce. But on the other hand, I am just so sick of the vicious cycle and having to deal with his nonsense for the rest of my life.
I have no avenue to channel my feelings and frustrations to, but here. Sorry if I rant too much.