wendysu
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I am married with 3 kids, recently i met my ex and exchange numbers. He is married for 12 years but have NO children.
We met for lunch (of course without my husband knowledge as they both used to be rivals), and chat abit during. I do not know why but some how after that meeting, I will think of text him but i tried to dismiss the thoughts as I do not wish to have any misunderstanding or scandals later. But I just could not stop thinking about him.
My marriage life with my husband is fine except I was still holding unhappiness when he landed me into few hundred k of debts when his investment failed, at that time, I used my name to apply all kind of loans to support him. Now my kids and I have to suffer and slog like hell to repay monthly debts repayment for the rest of don't know how many years. Torturing of endless fighting over financial. those who been through will understand, having to keep up with a monthly repayment of $5.1K is no joke and both of us are not high earners. Things will be fine but whenever i think of how my life was ruin by my husband, i just cannot forgive him. But for the sake of my kids, there is nothing i can do? What if I divorce and he refused to repay the loan (our total loan up to $5K a month) which is to avoid me being sued bankruptcy, i can't pay the loan by my own and I have to support my kids and their education. Due to now he have to slog to earn money, he have to work 7 days a week, 12-14 hours a day, completely has no time and hardly has time for me and kids.
Anyway, I don't know why i am struggling within my thoughts. I feel like having a affair with my ex and he also given me the same kind of signal that he still like me but of course we didn't spell out.
I am at a loss and hope i will stop before it start to get worse.
Anybody with similar experience, can share with me how you overcome?
Thanks
We met for lunch (of course without my husband knowledge as they both used to be rivals), and chat abit during. I do not know why but some how after that meeting, I will think of text him but i tried to dismiss the thoughts as I do not wish to have any misunderstanding or scandals later. But I just could not stop thinking about him.
My marriage life with my husband is fine except I was still holding unhappiness when he landed me into few hundred k of debts when his investment failed, at that time, I used my name to apply all kind of loans to support him. Now my kids and I have to suffer and slog like hell to repay monthly debts repayment for the rest of don't know how many years. Torturing of endless fighting over financial. those who been through will understand, having to keep up with a monthly repayment of $5.1K is no joke and both of us are not high earners. Things will be fine but whenever i think of how my life was ruin by my husband, i just cannot forgive him. But for the sake of my kids, there is nothing i can do? What if I divorce and he refused to repay the loan (our total loan up to $5K a month) which is to avoid me being sued bankruptcy, i can't pay the loan by my own and I have to support my kids and their education. Due to now he have to slog to earn money, he have to work 7 days a week, 12-14 hours a day, completely has no time and hardly has time for me and kids.
Anyway, I don't know why i am struggling within my thoughts. I feel like having a affair with my ex and he also given me the same kind of signal that he still like me but of course we didn't spell out.
I am at a loss and hope i will stop before it start to get worse.
Anybody with similar experience, can share with me how you overcome?
Thanks
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