Hehe, this is interesting but very real. I used to live with a monster MIL and now, not going to with my current MIL (i must clarify i dont dislike her ah ... she is nice lah).
Well, when i was staying with my ex MIL last time, i too, could not have my own toilet. When bathe, must bring towel and clothes and pads all in since cannot simply come out in a towel. So troublesome. And when she call her mahjong kakis or friends over, i also dont like to use the toilet cos they will stare at me as i walk in and out of toilet. Dunno stare at what? So rude. Maybe ex MIL always speak ill of me so when they see me, its like 'oh, so this is the one ah?' *in a bad sense*. I also cannot go bra-less which i am already so used to. End up i stay in my room most of the time. And for my lingerie, i cant wear sexy ones, you know when you want to BD during ovulation to make babies, then you cant wear sexy ones, so frustrating rite? Cant wear cos wash already hang where? My normal lingerie, i hang at the 'tek go' in the kitchen and the bars are just above the dining table so sometimes my bras and undies will be above whoever sit at that corner of table. Ex MIL will say to me, cannot hang above men's head, will be 'suay' one. So pang tang rite?! Drive me nuts!
I have no advise except, if possible dont stay together or delay stay together as much as possible. And the dryer is a good idea!
With my current ILs, while staying over sometimes, they will still come in our room after we left for work to make up the bed. Although its nice of them, i still feel abit invaded but i dont kick up a fuss cos already so much better than my ex MIL. Sometimes hubby and me will joke: Oh, *maid* did her duty. If she didnt, we will say: Oh, *maid* not free, gotta go buy TOTO, hahahaha ...
Feel abit invaded cos sometimes, we may leave things lying around accidentally then not so nice if they found it mah. Like my BBT thermometer (my ILs must be wondering if i am having fever all the time?) or my OPK (scarli they thot i pregnant??!) and sometimes my undies (i dont care, i am wearing the sexy ones liao so if they see and if they paiseh then so be it). With my current ILs, when i wash lingerie at their place, i hang in my own room. Cos their kitchen very dirty leh. Then my MIL will come in the room and see those lace and ribbons. I dont care anymore. IF she sees, she should feel paiseh bah, especially if she has to touch them. Then maybe she wont come in anymore, hehehe ... so remain like that lor, no need to tell her off and strain relations. Anyway i think she should understand lah, we trying to make babies now mah so sexy lingerie is just part of the toolkit.