icebaby, this 4th one is also an accident! Hahaha... I think most of us who has so many kids have the youngest one out of accidents...
I am quite bent on hving some kind of contraception after this one. I cannot imagine taking a plane with 4 of them back to Singapore for holiday now. We used to travel back from Taipei as a family of 5 (we were posted there for the past 2 years) and we were already like a circus. I don't know I am going to take 5.5 hrs of plane with them. Will figure that out when the time comes! Haha...
Jas, I only tried for my #3 when I quit my job. Initially I had my 3rd pregnancy out of accident but then it was an empty sac, so I had to do d&c and waited 1 year before trying again. That made me even more sure I wanted this 3rd child. So, I quit my job and tried coz I think it was due to stress. My 3rd child is actually my 4th pregnancy. I guess it is only when u lose one that you really treasure having one. I didn't think so about finances at that point anymore. I just figured that I will cope. For the 1st 2 years (before childcare, that is...), I reckon I won't spend much apart from hospital bills, which is quite affordable in Sgp. U can basically rely on all the hands me downs in terms of clothes. I fully breastfed my #2 & #3 for close to 2 years, so I didn't spend on milk powder either. Well, I haven't thot about the costs of sending them to school and the future but I believe things will somehow work out, just like now. I don't know how I will cope with 4 kids alone, esp when my husband is hardly around and I am overseas but I trust that when God gives me this child, He will provide as well.
najmom, I m like you.... in pain sitting or lying down, that explains why I am online replying msgs at 2 am in the morning! Hahaha.... we are in the same boat... what to do? After multiple kids, our bodies are so worn out already... also we still have to take care of our younger ones.
I know how it feels to be pregnant with a sick older child and it is very tiring... Do rest well in the day if you can. Can daddy stay home tomorrow? Sometimes, it can be so hard to ask the men to step in and help, right? My hubby is always so busy... so I won't ask him unless it is neccessary and somehow, he always thinks I can cope also. Sigh... so I won't even bother to open my mouth anymore. I will just grit my teeth n do what I need to do to stay sane. Hahaha....