Dear Ladies,
Am trying to compose myself and post a list of things that I tried/did or happened and I hope that it can help. I am really thankful to ladies who graduated before us for sharing all the tips, advices and guidance and I think everything counts.
First of all, I have been trying since Feb so it is about 10months now and I have long cycles. I used to have 30+ days cycles but when I started focusing on ttc-ing, it got worse. sometimes I end up with 40+ days cycle. There was one cycle where it was anovulatory too, I took my BBT and I did not ovulate at all. As you can see, I have since come a long way. This cycle that I strike, I actually ovulated on CD 24. It wasn't even the perfect 14th day. Thus I urged everyone not to give up... No matter how late, as long as we ovulate, there is a hope.
I started taking conceive well since end March and have since taken for about 6-7 boxes and it did not work for me.
I remember those days where I diligently pop my pills but nothing happened.
Every AF that arrived, will result in me crying.
And not forgetting how expensive it can be. Thus, after that I decided to stop my conceive well and just continue taking folic acid, it should be around my last cycle that I stopped CW. I started recalling what is it that I did differently before my cycle became longer. I remembered that I used to take calcium pills and fish body oil soft capsules. Since I still have some fish body oil left, I started taking again in the hope to shorten my cycle. I also thought, maybe I should start taking vitamin C.
So I was only taking folic acid, fish body oil and vitamin C before I strike. Previously when I started ttc-ing, I stopped fish oil because I thought I read that it is not very good. I really don’t know if fish oil makes any difference, this is just my experience. And now I think about it, is that a difference between fish oil and fish body oil? I think this one really need to research first before taking. I was really just anyhow hum-tam by then.
I BBT almost daily for almost 6 months. And I used OPK this cycle. But because my cycle is long and unpredictable, it is really very uncertain. I do have EWCM (I try to drink a lot of water in office) but it can come for like 10-12 days.. thus imagine how long I have to wait before I O. For this cycle, say I O on Day O. I BD on Day O night but I also BD on Day -2 and Day -3. I got positive on OPK on Day -1 and since I already BD on -2 and -3, I skipped BD on -1 and did it on Day 0 night. I tried to prop up myself with a pillow.
Some cycles, my BBT spiked a lot immediately after I O and I thought I got chance but it always end in disappointment. But this cycle, my after O BBT only climbed abit but it just go by bit by bit everyday in steady manner. I have a dip on DPO 5. And I remember having cramps and aches on DPO 4-5. It was like AF, quite painful. That time I feel something is a bit not right. But I have had cycles where I had this pain, that pain and nothing happened so I never go and think about it. After that aches/cramps, it became fine again. Sometimes I feel some pulls, some itchiness inside my belly. But I had it before also in other cycles so I refused to think anything of it.
On DPO 11, I went for desserts and even though I was feeling v hot from all the walking, I decided to take red bean soup (with 3 lotus seeds) just to give myself that final push all the way. Usually I only drink the soup but this time, I made myself finished all the beans. When I ate lotus seeds, I thought to myself, please help me.
I started growing suspicious because I started peeing a lot somewhere during my luteal phase. I tend to go toilet often also but somehow it just feel differently this time. I started to have wet discharge too as I near my supposedly AF date. But I try to ignore it because both pregnant and non-pregnant women have reported increased discharge too.
My BBT started falling on DPO 12 and 13 and I thought confirmed no hope. I was feeling abit cold on DPO 13 so I drank red date longan tea at night, before I sleep. (Till now, I still feel that glass of red date longan drink helped me) On DPO 14, I woke up sweaty and my BBT rose up again. I found it suspicious. I went to work and I started to have cramps and aches, just like AF. I was thinking, this time really cham liao. Because this is what usually happened to me before AF appears. The cramps was starting to get abit intense, I was very sad and I prayed. I am a Buddhist (but whichever religion, let us all be neutral and just pray accordingly) and I held my praying beads to my stomach, I prayed that I will be fine. I think a miracle really happened to me because the cramps and aches stopped. So please please continue believing and praying.
By DPO 15, still no AF and that is when I tested and got my positive.
Besides the supplements, I also took more garlic in my food. Like I used garlic to grill with my salmon, cod fish and cook into my veggie. That is about all I can think of, with regards to my experience.
Sorry for the super long post. I just want to share with your and hope maybe something will work for you too or just to provide some encouragement and to let you know that non-textbook people also can see light some day. Jia you ladies!
