I pump half the amount on the other breast. Any solution or it's normal to have so much difference of output?
Hi Girls,
Sorry this is gna be a long post. I'm currently doing confinement at my mum's. As she is inexperienced with baby care and works part time still, she is unable to render much help, making hubby and i on brink of exhaustion. We hired a CL who eased our burden but my mum felt threatened and jealous of her presence and made things difficult for nanny and giving me alot of mental stress each day. I cried almost ever other day and fear that i will develop depression.
Finally, hubby and i decided to move back to our own house this weekend. My mum took it badly and tried to dissuade us for fear of tongues wagging that her daughter moves out before one month. I am saddened that she does not consider me nor baby at all bt her own ego...
Same here. Leftie has lesser output. It is normal. Mine has no preference as long as it's milk! HahaMine also same.. my left one produces so much lesser than right one. That doesnt mean i produce alot to begin with.. sob.. still working hard.. so far only produce 40ml both sides. Must keep persistence! LO somehow prefers bm over formula.. she drinks bm faster.. anyone knows why?
@Twirlycandy , u r not alone. Me at the first place asking my mum to stay to help me taking care of me and baby. Although I know I could not expected her to do much. But at least I could still have a little bit help from her. In the end, my mum did not even cook for me or wash dishes. I even need to do house chores, cooking for her and buy groceries. She only helped me to bath my baby. Other than that she only nagged me this and that. Last minute I ordered confinement food once a day for my own good. Then she talked that I am wasting money ordering that coz it is not cheap. But I was thinking if I do not ordered then I will suffer.
I also have problem with bf, coz my mum could not hear bb cry. Everytime bb cry she come to my room and said bb hungry le, need to feed him. She said my milk supply is not enough give him fm. I really want to try to tbf but she did not support me. Sometime my mum give him fm when I am away just for a while for groceries. I oso bo bian.
Hubby oso buay tahan with her. Coz she did not help me much and she talked too much. She always said that she has brought so many children oredy bla bla bla which is true. But how come I have enuf milk if I do not even have time to eat for my self?
Now I just get used to it since I still need her though not too much help. I still remember how I suffer from baby blues the first week when I discharged from hospital. I even regretting myself getting pregnant and having this baby. I was really tired to do all the stuff and taking care my baby plus hearing those negative words from my mum.
I just try to think positively at least my mum still helping me to bath my bb. Thats all.
You just take care yourselves, no need to think much abt ur mum. Sometime I oso feel v bad, locked myself at my room do not want to see my mum nagged here and that. I know she is not happy. But I oso still need my sanity. Lols
Just seen the gynae today for last appt. no signs of labour yet so he has arranged for me to be induced or have elective c sect on next Thursday if still no news from today till then. Baby is 3.5kg today. He is very neutral about it - says it's borderline weight as may be slightly lighter or heavier at birth, so I should think thru if I want to induce and risk emer c sect or just go for c sect. This is such a tough decision!
@positivelife, if ur hubby is hands on type, I think you can just do it u and hubby alone. Normally the more people involved the more conflicts and clash happened.Jiayou. We all suffer the same. Totally understand your feeling. My mum nagged me over phone non stop when she know I preg to ensure I must hire a CL.
I know she just want to ensure that she no need help if she come stay with me during confinement. Coz she dint help much for my Bro's babies also.
I dun like to have a CL coz I know they will practise their old stupid belief like cannot bath must eat this and that, cannot do this and that. I prepare to bath after discharged.
Now waiting for c section scheduled on 31 may as advised by doc. He said bb too big and not down yet.
What I worry the most is the CL and mum will stay with me. Freedom sure gone and sure kena nagged. I feel i no need them. I can do everything myself. Truly dun hope for their helps. Haven't Inc mil into the picture. Vomit blood soon.
What can we do to prevent all these nonsense?
Mine also same.. my left one produces so much lesser than right one. That doesnt mean i produce alot to begin with.. sob.. still working hard.. so far only produce 40ml both sides. Must keep persistence! LO somehow prefers bm over
@positivelife, if ur hubby is hands on type, I think you can just do it u and hubby alone. Normally the more people involved the more conflicts and clash happened.
My mum and my hubby have conflicts. Hubby said she is not helping us and my mum said my hubby is too demandable. Lols. Me in the middle oredy curly hair with taking care of my baby.
Hello happycsk. My doc told me c section is good for bb coz she dun need to go through the stress of passing thru birth canal.
As for cost, c sec can claim more fr medisave so quite the same as natural in the end.
I heard emergency c sec cost much more.
Jiayou. We all suffer the same. Totally understand your feeling. My mum nagged me over phone non stop when she know I preg to ensure I must hire a CL.
I know she just want to ensure that she no need help if she come stay with me during confinement. Coz she dint help much for my Bro's babies also.
I dun like to have a CL coz I know they will practise their old stupid belief like cannot bath must eat this and that, cannot do this and that. I prepare to bath after discharged.
Now waiting for c section scheduled on 31 may as advised by doc. He said bb too big and not down yet.
What I worry the most is the CL and mum will stay with me. Freedom sure gone and sure kena nagged. I feel i no need them. I can do everything myself. Truly dun hope for their helps. Haven't Inc mil into the picture. Vomit blood soon.
What can we do to prevent all these nonsense?
Hello!Btw for those who are using freestyle.. what speed setting u all normally use?
Well, at least that shut ur mum up. For my mum, she cannot wait for us to sack the nanny so she can reclaim the throne as the mistress of the house. But the ironic part is she is not hands on at all with baby thats why we hired a cl very last min after i discharged. She monitors and spies on nanny everyday and bypasses hubby and i to give her instructions. She even referred nanny as a 'gong1 ren2' which utterly disgusts me. HahaMy mum was here recently and I have my CL with me. My mum drove me up the wall until I beh tahan and told her if you find any fault with her again I will sack her now and you take over. That shut her up. Haha...cos she knows it's not easy taking care of bb, mother, cooking etc. And waking up every 2-3 hours for night feed. Old people won't be able to do that, it's v taxing on them.
Btw for those who are using freestyle.. what speed setting u all normally use?
Btw for those who are using freestyle.. what speed setting u all normally use?
I'm not too sure although my gynae told me before antibodies would be passed to the little one. But i think certain medicine u take for fever may have an impact on breastfeeding. In that case, u should consult a doctor first. Do u have expressed milk? Perhaps feed baby w expressed milk meantime? Your situation sounds like a case of mastitis...If breast engorgement with fever, is it ok to give the milk to baby?
I'm not too sure although my gynae told me before antibodies would be passed to the little one. But i think certain medicine u take for fever may have an impact on breastfeeding. In that case, u should consult a doctor first. Do u have expressed milk? Perhaps feed baby w expressed milk meantime? Your situation sounds like a case of mastitis...
If breast engorgement with fever, is it ok to give the milk to baby?
My gal now 4 weeks 2 days. Nowsaday she did not slept well in the morning and afternoon. And keep crying to ask us carry till sleep. Once she sleep, we putting her at the bb cot, she will definetely wake up and cry again. Morever, she always throw out the milk after she finish drinking and wet her shirt or pyjamas.. and end up change cloth... pls advise what can i do to let her sleep well and not throwing out the milk so frequently.. thls
My boi 'stores' milk in his mouth. Sometimes after burping, 10mins later he will spit out milk too... I duno how to prevent bb from throwing out milk too..... Sigh~
Worse is wen kie bb down, suddenly will choke on his own saliver for no apparent reason.. So scary wen his face turn slight purple
I used level 4... When I felt there could be more after 10 minutes, I increase to level 5Btw for those who are using freestyle.. what speed setting u all normally use?
Hey Girl, i turned to PEM confinement nanny agency cos very last min couldnt get any cl already. Recommended by my colleague. Cl came within 2 days and so far so good. $2550 for 28 days excluding welcoming and departure angbaos (up to ur discretion to give any amount)... Perhaps u could try calling them..Mummies, does anyone have cl to recommend pls?
Thanks @4gals v informative.My phase is at Wk 3 now and I feeling the sign of what is expected for expected breast changes.
Hey Girl, i turned to PEM confinement nanny agency cos very last min couldnt get any cl already. Recommended by my colleague. Cl came within 2 days and so far so good. $2550 for 28 days excluding welcoming and departure angbaos (up to ur discretion to give any amount)... Perhaps u could try calling them..
Hi hi thanks so much! Will call them soon! Oh I didn't know got welcoming and pow one ah!!Hey Girl, i turned to PEM confinement nanny agency cos very last min couldnt get any cl already. Recommended by my colleague. Cl came within 2 days and so far so good. $2550 for 28 days excluding welcoming and departure angbaos (up to ur discretion to give any amount)... Perhaps u could try calling them..
I pump during day 3 but I was so hesitant to pump cos my cousin told me it will caused further engorgement so I was so afraid!The 1st pump for me is when suddenly feel hard, or a leak.. (Mine came in ard day 4-5)
But by now can try pump out colostrum also, but might jus be quite lil.. 5-10ml? No harm pumping after latching, can boost ur supply.
Will call them tomorrow!I also heard PEM CL not bad...
I woke it with bad news today. I was supposed to be discharged today when PD came in and informed me that my LO has G6PD. I have a family history of it, but still, the news hit me hard. As a result, my LO has Jaundice and has to stay in Hospital for another 2 more days. And so, I decided to extend one more night, after much consideration.
Also, I started expressing my milk today (3rd Day). I am still having colostrum, still waiting for the full supply of milk. Last night BF LO was a tough one. He keeps crying alot, so we decided to top up with Formula Milk today after each feeding and thankfully it worked.
Tomorrow, I will be separately from my LO for a night as he needs to continue to be in hospital. Just abit troubled on what to do with the feeding cos I'll be at home whereas LO will be in the hospital. =(
Hi mommies, currently at hospital now and waiting for full dilation. Thk goodness epidural kicked in already, the contractions were coming hard and fast. I was 3cm dilated when I reached, and already quite painful. Finally my turn after being overdue for 4 days! Here's hoping for a fast and smooth delivery, wish me luck
Hi mommies, currently at hospital now and waiting for full dilation. Thk goodness epidural kicked in already, the contractions were coming hard and fast. I was 3cm dilated when I reached, and already quite painful. Finally my turn after being overdue for 4 days! Here's hoping for a fast and smooth delivery, wish me luck
Wow! Good luck dear!! Wishing u a fast and smooth delivery! Kudos for holding out on being overdue!
I'm still waiting for my turn - I'm up at this hour coz of heartburn haha.
Hi mommies, currently at hospital now and waiting for full dilation. Thk goodness epidural kicked in already, the contractions were coming hard and fast. I was 3cm dilated when I reached, and already quite painful. Finally my turn after being overdue for 4 days! Here's hoping for a fast and smooth delivery, wish me luck
U can pump n get hubby bring over for nurses to spoon, cup, or syringe feed him. Or u can pop by to latch bb few times if ur convenient? But like u say still have to top up some fm if he still hungry. And also doc will recommend bb to take fm for few days since his down with jaundice...my LO too.. But after 4 days of fm, i manage to give total bm. Jiayou. Dont worry.. Hope all goes well for bb and u too!