butter8
ur boy is quite old liao, i'm sure easier to handle now that he listens to your instructions? take mine, or even lilprecious's boy, it would be harder coz lilprecious's jav cannot communicate for now, and my son is still too young (sometimes) to understand my "reasonings"...
sometimes i napped in the afternoon, my maid cannot go in to clean too....but that said, dun need to clean the room everyday right...
to me, my #2 is a bb so just fufill her needs - feeding. the rest of the time available i devote to my #1....they can understand things now and if dont give them enough attention, it will impact them...
the cc teachers got feedback b4 that my #1 was moody in school, due to the new addition to the family. i couldnt spot it but if no one told me, i prolly wont even know...so, yes, it does affect your #1 in some ways
think of what your maid can skip in terms of chores and delegate her more bb chores so that u can have more time for you #1?
sometimes, i ask my maid to stop her housework, just purely look after bb while i bring my #1 to somewhere - even 1 hr quality time spent with him makes a huge difference...
sometimes i just bring him go downstairs playground for 15mins (i can take a breather frm bb too)
sometimes i need to buy a loaf of bread and i take the opportunity to bring him down and walk a bit, sweat a bit, tired abit, easier for him to sleep at night
i involve my son in preparation of our dinner so his egg for his daily dinner is cooked by himself. he scoops his own rice, selects n take his own vege etc
he also help to cut meat or vege etc, i let him handle the knife/scissors
then at night, he makes his own cup of milo, or wash his fruits...bo liao but to him, its fun leh
just find all sorts of nonsense to occupy him lor, i sometimes find my #1 very ke lian coz i neglect him somewhat
jia you!
h ok lo, tmr... 
