butterwaffles
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joelle, i'm 2 weeks behind you...i could feel the baby move when i was 14 weeks but for the past few days, no movement at all. Do you mind if i ask if this one is planned? I did plan for #2 but only when my boy turns 4 years old as i feel it will easier to handle by then because if age gap is less than 4 years old, i know i wont be able to cope. My boy was in infantcare since last year but last week, he 'graduated' to childcare, toddlers' class already. When im on MC, i still send him to the centre so that i can rest. I've gotten your PM, thank you for the contact! Am wondering what your plans are as well, how to cope when your #2 arrives...
CC, thank you...i cant wait to do the amnio. Its like Come On, get it done and over with so we can all move on...i am lucky to have an extremely understanding boss who tells me to only return to work when my condition stabilises. I'm fine now, just working on regaining my strength...
queque, you've definitely had hyperemesis for your #1. My husband asked if i wish to terminate to end it all, as he is sick and tired of having to deal with my drama yet again. He got pissed when i couldn't get out of his car on my own to fetch our boy. To him and my parents, its all in my head, that im causing this myself, to gain attention and so that i can push the responsbility of caring for my boy to others. But i didn't argue or say anything because i didn't have the strength to. My husband still did what he had to, however reluctant & resentful he might be. So i let it go. Right before i was admitted the 2nd time, i was convulsing in nausea in the wee hours (he was working) and i called him because i knew i needed help, needed to go on drip and i couldn't make it to TMC on my own. He told me if its necessary since i was just discharged and couldnt i just take the meds. I ended up vomitting bile every hour until 9am. When i finally got to see my gynae, i wanted to cry. The miracle drug combi im now on is Zofran & Promethazine. Both do not work on their own, must take together. It took him a couple of weeks to figure out what works on me as not every medication works on the mummies, every mummy is different and respond differently to different treatments. But Zofran is very expensive. A 2 weeks' supply cost me $850 thereabouts and this is if i take this twice a day, not thrice. But it is much cheaper than being warded. I'm not sure if my husband will be more appreciative of me. What he is sure is if this time the baby makes it, i must tie my tubes to ensure i do not get pregnant again. If you are considering #2, i strongly suggest you ask your gynae about Zofran. Vit B6 is useless. On hindsight, if i had started Zofran earlier, i might not have incurred such high medical costs. Both my gynae and myself were waiting to see if the MS would subside but it just got worse. We both thought i should be able to handle it as i did have bad MS with my #1 as well. I thought as long as i don't get dehydrated, things would be fine but i was wrong. I reall think more should be done to educate mummies on hyperemesis. More can be done to help the mummies, we don't have to suffer in silence and in the hope that it will subside, we deserve the right & adequate medical care...I'm now residing at Sengkang [IMG=http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/clipart/happy.gif] Quite near to Tamp ya...Love the pediped shoes thou too big for my boy now, but i kiasu buy first. My cousin (Ivy, your sec schoolmate), is now also a SAHM at bedok. You mummies should meet up sometime but beware, my nephew is extremely hyper...[IMG=http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/clipart/happy.gif]
xihui, do you plan to have #2? It is most likely you will suffer the same fate when you are preg with #2 and from most of the hyperemesis sufferers i've read about online, it gets progressively worse with subsequent pregnancies. Must be mentally prepared! I had no MS at all until i reach 6.5 weeks for this one and i was thinking heng sia, god is great. But cannot escape i think...cos the body is the same. Thank goodness for this forum....it is difficult to confide in friends (thou i have a couple really close ones, those who will die for me that kind) but they have their own lives and as much as they try, they do not face the kind of issues i'm having now, so i'm very grateful to be able to complain here. Your gal is such an intelligent girl and i really peifu you for being a SAHM. I love the stuff you prepare for your gal's meals. So wholesome...im surprised at some of the stuff your gal takes. Even thou my boy eats at the centre, he is extremely picky.
jenny, thank you! Really trying to jiayou. Being able to let out my feelings here, makes it easier. All the positivity is really rubbing off me here...
CC, thank you...i cant wait to do the amnio. Its like Come On, get it done and over with so we can all move on...i am lucky to have an extremely understanding boss who tells me to only return to work when my condition stabilises. I'm fine now, just working on regaining my strength...
queque, you've definitely had hyperemesis for your #1. My husband asked if i wish to terminate to end it all, as he is sick and tired of having to deal with my drama yet again. He got pissed when i couldn't get out of his car on my own to fetch our boy. To him and my parents, its all in my head, that im causing this myself, to gain attention and so that i can push the responsbility of caring for my boy to others. But i didn't argue or say anything because i didn't have the strength to. My husband still did what he had to, however reluctant & resentful he might be. So i let it go. Right before i was admitted the 2nd time, i was convulsing in nausea in the wee hours (he was working) and i called him because i knew i needed help, needed to go on drip and i couldn't make it to TMC on my own. He told me if its necessary since i was just discharged and couldnt i just take the meds. I ended up vomitting bile every hour until 9am. When i finally got to see my gynae, i wanted to cry. The miracle drug combi im now on is Zofran & Promethazine. Both do not work on their own, must take together. It took him a couple of weeks to figure out what works on me as not every medication works on the mummies, every mummy is different and respond differently to different treatments. But Zofran is very expensive. A 2 weeks' supply cost me $850 thereabouts and this is if i take this twice a day, not thrice. But it is much cheaper than being warded. I'm not sure if my husband will be more appreciative of me. What he is sure is if this time the baby makes it, i must tie my tubes to ensure i do not get pregnant again. If you are considering #2, i strongly suggest you ask your gynae about Zofran. Vit B6 is useless. On hindsight, if i had started Zofran earlier, i might not have incurred such high medical costs. Both my gynae and myself were waiting to see if the MS would subside but it just got worse. We both thought i should be able to handle it as i did have bad MS with my #1 as well. I thought as long as i don't get dehydrated, things would be fine but i was wrong. I reall think more should be done to educate mummies on hyperemesis. More can be done to help the mummies, we don't have to suffer in silence and in the hope that it will subside, we deserve the right & adequate medical care...I'm now residing at Sengkang [IMG=http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/clipart/happy.gif] Quite near to Tamp ya...Love the pediped shoes thou too big for my boy now, but i kiasu buy first. My cousin (Ivy, your sec schoolmate), is now also a SAHM at bedok. You mummies should meet up sometime but beware, my nephew is extremely hyper...[IMG=http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/clipart/happy.gif]
xihui, do you plan to have #2? It is most likely you will suffer the same fate when you are preg with #2 and from most of the hyperemesis sufferers i've read about online, it gets progressively worse with subsequent pregnancies. Must be mentally prepared! I had no MS at all until i reach 6.5 weeks for this one and i was thinking heng sia, god is great. But cannot escape i think...cos the body is the same. Thank goodness for this forum....it is difficult to confide in friends (thou i have a couple really close ones, those who will die for me that kind) but they have their own lives and as much as they try, they do not face the kind of issues i'm having now, so i'm very grateful to be able to complain here. Your gal is such an intelligent girl and i really peifu you for being a SAHM. I love the stuff you prepare for your gal's meals. So wholesome...im surprised at some of the stuff your gal takes. Even thou my boy eats at the centre, he is extremely picky.
jenny, thank you! Really trying to jiayou. Being able to let out my feelings here, makes it easier. All the positivity is really rubbing off me here...
weekends were very precious as those were the only times i can be a 'real' mum but now i think back, it was because i was very possessive over him and my MIL's 'aiyah u duno how to take care of him one lar' attitude didnt help. Its great having someone to rely on. Now even if i want to have him sleep overnight both sides also siam far far....btw, i received the new handbook from Cambridge and the fees now is $700 from $550. Jude has been there for only a week or so but i personally feel $700 is too expensive considering the size and condition of the space compared to other branches. I think if u r willing to pay $700, there are other choices, just a matter of vacancies. Now im hoping the PCF will contact me soon. Im not willing to pay $700....
