Ladies: i guess its fortunate that there is a choice. You can choose between your own mother and MIL. For me, as my mother passed away already, thus i only have my MIL to help me, in a way i also learn to appreciate her at times. At the beginning was really bad, i totally do not like the way she handles my baby, slowly i have learned to let go, ultimately, she is still a doting grandmother towards my baby, thus i believe she will try her best to take good care of him.
How to learn to let go? You will learn to let go when you do not have a choice....