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i totally understd how u feel..i tink i'm more relaxed becz A is my #2..aiyo, u shld see how i was when i only had #1..plus pressure fr MIL to do tis n tat..i almost went nuts..of cz over e yrs, i learn a lot more..n a key lesson is to relax n not b overly regimented..last time, i was v v hung up over my so-called 'routine'..my whole life revolved ard e both of them..i always ensure that they hv enuff sleep n rest before they can go somewhere/ do somethg..but i learnt tat as they get bigger, it's ok to lose that little sleep now n then (it also means they'll turn in earlier in e nites) or indulge in some ice cream/ marshmallows.. dun go down too hard on urself, honestly. if u get all moody, u will inevitably affect su n we all know we need alot of patience dealg wif kids!
3 words..Take It Easy ..n u are e best person to care for her..dun shortchange urself on tis.
oh back to e toilet traing bit, just to share..when my boy turned 2, my MIL said he shld b toilet-trained etc..but he simply wasnt ready..so we spent more time clearing up e mess instead of taking him to e toilet..n MIL commented tat he was takg too long in learning etc etc ..n she said something like, "if u pee in ur shorts, ur kuku will drop!" can u imagine his fear??? i swear he turned pale after..n no, tat threat din help one bit, in fact, he got soooo traumatised, he started holding his pee (my poor boy). of cz i was v affected n i got my hb to speak to her abt it..in e end, she said that's 'the old style' of teaching la...(duh)..anyway, when he started sch, e teachers told me not to wear his diapers becz they will slowly train him (how nice!) n lo n behold, he was toilet-trained just like tat..
so moms, dun b too hard on our little tots.