Hi all!
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@hopeful_mum, it's been awhile since we last catch up! I bet you must be enjoying motherhood very well now!
I just went for my appointment on Monday to see Prof. Mahesh and Dr. Sheila. Prior to that, my husband and I did a few tests and that included a sperm fragmentation of my husband. From the result of that test, it seems the cause of my miscarriages were all because of the poor quality of the sperm fragmentation. Prof. Mahesh suggested my husband to do a urologist test and thereafter to re-do the sperm fragmentation test. I was also prescribed med to improve my thyriod level and another one that gotta do with compability of blood kinda thingy, sorry can't remember the exact medical term!
My next appointment to see Prof. Mahesh again would be 4 months later in June, as my husband just quit smoking for 3 months and they advised it takes about 6 months for the toxins to be expelled from the body.
@hopeful_mum, would you mind to share why you didn't wanna see Prof. Mahesh? To be honest, during my first visit while deciding if I should do full or half test, he wasn't very helpful nor kind in helping me to decide. I went alone for that appointment and thus would love to hear some opinion. Anyway I decided to do the full test.
During this interim period of 4 months, we were advised that we can still try for a baby, as Dr. Sheila said there were patients similar to our case, succeeded. Hmmm... But in my opinion, I'm terrified to go through another MC.
By the way, those who are seeing Prof. Mahesh, are you all private or subsidy patients? Is it at NUH or at his private clinic?
Okay hardcore supporters of Prof Mahesh, please don't whacked me. This is speaking from my personal experience. This is going to be a LONG post. Initially I was very happy and eager to see him as I believed that he is very experience and read a lot of good reviews about him. So every mth im always looking forward since the clinic is only open once monthly. During the earlier trimesters, things were well, as bb is stable and growing.
At week 28, I went to labour ward, as I have some weird discharge and pain near the vaginal area. Being high risked, I called NUH and dr anita sent me there. It turns out to be some bacterial infection which was really common (I ganna the same bact infection 3 times in my last trim. Some ppl gets it throughout their pregnancies). I was having some mild contractions when I went in thus recorded.
At week 30/31(shd be this week cant recall the exact week), the clinic was opened again) they were extremely busy. so dr shelia and prof Mahesh separated to see me. I saw dr shelia as she needs to review my protein s deficiency results, and I saw Dr anita instead of prof Mahesh. I saw Dr anita, and she told me everything is looking good, bb is small but still growing. so not much of a concern yet, wait til week 32 scan to evaluate. So after that I met dr shelia, she increased my protein s dosage since levels were going down. BUt she also read that report, that I had mild contractions and bb is small. abt 15centile. she was very concern and rushed to prof Mahesh. I asked Dr shelia, if my small bb was possibly affected by the steroids I took (coz anita explained the risks to me in my early trim), dr shelia was offended. I just wanted to know what may be the cause.
So then at abt 5.40pm I was asked to do CTG to check if I have contractions. So don't have and prof Mahesh came to see me. As a professional, he told me worst case scenario - ie I may have a Stillbirth. he didn't explain why , he didn't even explain my baby was IUGR. he only said, I wont go past 37 weeks, must be c-sect, and wont have a bb more than 2kg. I have to go to labourward immediately if I felt any discomfort. HE was very confident, and even said the possibility of reaching 37 weeks is close to ZERO. as a woman who had so many mcs, I was devastated, I even went to seek 2nd opinion. And I was so more than willing to pay him to see him weekly as a pte patient to monitor the situation. Then I found out (yes I also did a self conclusion) that he operates mon pte clinic. So he didn't have enough time to tell me and clarify whats happening to my situation. He didn't tell me when I shd deliver, what I should do. He didn't advise me anything, I was the one who told him I had another scan at 32 weeks. He just said okay. His bedside manners was quite bad, he could have told me dr anita will update me what to do after the scan.
so anyhow if I cant make it past 37 weeks means I wont see him during the next visit when the clinic opens again. But I managed to see him at 36 weeks. Bb was already 2kg, and at that visit, he seemed to have forgotten what he told me. He told me I can probably give birth at 40 weeks, but due to my protein s condition better induced by 39 weeks. bb is doing great. I wanted to deliver naturally, he said I cant, I have to go for csect due to my fibroid surgery I had a few years back. I told him dr anita saw my medical report and advised that the risk is low and I can deliver naturally. He just cut me off and say no, u shd go for csect. I asked if he wanna see my report. He says not needed. Its not advisable at all. How can a dr not see my past medical history and just give medical opinions.
Meanwhile, I have been doing scans weekly to monitor bb growth and see dr anita frequently. Her answers nvr changed and always tell and explain carefully of the risks I faced, what are the the options etc.
so I have proved Mahesh wrong,i had a natural delivery at 37 weeks (not induced, but bb just cant wait to say hi to me), bb was small but over 2. So yes, I converted to pte patient and dr anita delivered my baby. on my 37 week checked, dr anita said I wont go past 38weeks,bczo cervicx is dilated at 3cm and full effaced. True enough I delivered at 37+2. I was supposed to be induced at 38 weeks to reduce my risk, as my protein S is dropping very quickly.
okay thanks for bearing with me. My conclusion, if u see him as a pte patient he will be more attentive. As a sub patient, if he doesn't read the past records, he will not give you very accurate advise. dr anita told me not to convert until the day im admitted for delivery. so im very grateful to have seen anita, so that I get a more positive outlook and worry less after the scare prof Mahesh gave me.