(2015/08) Aug 2015 Mummies
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My gf has a live in maid and there's no one at home daytime - her child goes to full day childcare. She's very happy with this arrangement apparently. Say if both parents can't pick up the child by 7, then the maid can do that, especially for those without assistance from grandparents.
Engaging a part time helper will yield cost savings. Right now, I'm using that.
Brown spotting means the bleeding probably started a while back, as brown means old blood. Perhaps there's no more bleeding inside now, perhaps there still will be. Bleeding may cause infection etc. So I guess if you feel you can wait, you may observe and see if the brown spotting starts to get lesser within the day. If u are feeling unease, I would recommend to consult your gynea to get a piece of mind.
If spotting is red, it's best to see gynea asap as different person's body may react differently.
Some of my friends will get spotting throughout their pregnancy and usually triggered by something. This gf of mine, if she was to carry anythg slightly heavier, she will get spotting, even a laptop.
Nonetheless, I feel it's safer to consult gynea to ensure the safety of our little ones, it's better to err on the side of caution.
Just to share another example. When a pregger has already reached full term, and experienced spotting (be it red or brown), even though dilation hasn't started/ waterbag hasn't burst/ no contraction yet, some gynea will choose to induce birth. As they fear spotting could be a sign of infection and since full term already, might as well reduce the risk and induce birth.
It's hard for us to speculate why there's spotting. But we can get a peace of mind with gynea's assurance. Just my 2 cents
My pt cleaner has been with us for many years, on and off. committed but getting more n more slack these days. It's very hard to find consistently good ones
I'm planning to tahan and stick to her until full time maid comes in.Yea. People are too bored.. My mil is a major gossip monger aand complains about everything. My husband says his mom needs hobbies that does not include shopping, mahjong and gossip. Lol. I don't outwardly agree with him cos I don't want to encourage his fury at his mom but I don't disagree either!
Has your ms stopped? I've stopped vomiting but food aversions is ridiculous. Food court smell turn me off big time.
sane
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My gynae did the scan for me at 12 weeks and told me that there's bleeding around the womb. Asked me only to go back to him only when it's red with clots.
Soon enough, on the 13th weeks, there's brown discharge for 1 day. I just leave it.
Keke okok I let her know.
sane
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@Piggling, how not to be moody when there's fatigue and ms.
I hope to regain my energy soon. Try to take food in smaller intake, won't feel so bloated.
Just switch off and filter out everything that she say. Sometimes my mum did that and keep repeat, think being a housewife is too free.
Me too... when i walked through Chinatown especially the China food lane. I seriously felt like wan to vomit. That feel is horrible.
I hope to regain my energy soon. Try to take food in smaller intake, won't feel so bloated.
Just switch off and filter out everything that she say. Sometimes my mum did that and keep repeat, think being a housewife is too free.
Me too... when i walked through Chinatown especially the China food lane. I seriously felt like wan to vomit. That feel is horrible.
startermum
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True good help is hard to come by nowadays. Live ins may have problems too. Any comments on how to pick a good live in maid? I guess sometimes it's blind luck...hard to tell from profile or biodata.My pt cleaner has been with us for many years, on and off. committed but getting more n more slack these days. It's very hard to find consistently good ones
I think maids are really a matter of luck. From biodata you can only filter out those who change employer very frequently. My first maid changed 7 employers within like 2 years but agency din show it to me during selection. If you looking for experienced ones you can insist to look at their past records. It is your right.
The rest depends really on luck. Some say find older better cos more mature but maybe more stubborn. Some say find single better cos with young kids and hubby a lot of baggage but they also need money more. Mine has 2 kids but still wants to go back cos hubby insist so i will try single next time.
When during interview ask whether got food allergies. My first had allergies to prawns so it was such a hassle and she kept falling sick which is not good since got baby at home.
The phone and off day issue you also need to consider. Must be agreed upfront.
Hope you find a suitable one.
My sis recently gave birth to no.2 and my parents were deployed to help, kinda on standby basis. As my folks are used to their carefree lifestyle, hence now living like semi caged birds, definitely has cramped their style, especially my dad's. He has been quite moody recently because of boredom mostly we feel. I really hope my sis can find a good childcare solution soon before my dad goes ballistic. Conclusion, boredom is bad bad bad...
I don't puke now, don't feel as lousy as before but still not very good appetite. I don't dare to step foot into food places too...the puking feeling will come very soon.
It's good you have stopped to puke, that's so awful esp the build up to it
heee looks scary....The one at orchard rd that I used, has these apparatus too. They are good support I reckon. It's nice to stretch the back and spine...goes a long way. You know how we thought it's normal to feel these aches and pains (will get more pronounced as our tummy gets bigger). Prenatal yoga will help to alleviate these and provide longer term benefits as a result.
But honestly I do feel a good jamu massage plus plenty of lying in bed during confinement is extremely important too. It's quite unbelievable how much strains our bodies get put through during this period. Hence a bit of pampering indeed isn't a luxury at all, if we look at the longer term health benefits that come outta it.
Healthy mummy = happier mummy = happy motherhood journey
1 thing I've learn is that, we need to look after ourselves well before we can look after others. When my baby is sick, I can nurse her back to health. When I'm sick, the whole world seems to have collapsed especially the initial months. So it's good to stay healthy and strong
gosh I'm seriously procrastinating thinking abt maid...
Thanks for the advice. I'm clueless when it comes to maid. I can only pray for the best.
btw for prenatal yoga. not all will have to go through tough-looking positions. usually only the more seasoned ones will go all the way...
usually the instructors will tailor to students needs. as some may have low lying placenta or tailbone problem etc.
good instructors will go through with individuals to understand the status of their pregnancy. then when it comes to doing certain exercises, will modify accordingly.
usually the instructors will tailor to students needs. as some may have low lying placenta or tailbone problem etc.
good instructors will go through with individuals to understand the status of their pregnancy. then when it comes to doing certain exercises, will modify accordingly.
sane
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heee looks scary....The one at orchard rd that I used, has these apparatus too. They are good support I reckon. It's nice to stretch the back and spine...goes a long way. You know how we thought it's normal to feel these aches and pains (will get more pronounced as our tummy gets bigger). Prenatal yoga will help to alleviate these and provide longer term benefits as a result.
But honestly I do feel a good jamu massage plus plenty of lying in bed during confinement is extremely important too. It's quite unbelievable how much strains our bodies get put through during this period. Hence a bit of pampering indeed isn't a luxury at all, if we look at the longer term health benefits that come outta it.
Healthy mummy = happier mummy = happy motherhood journey
1 thing I've learn is that, we need to look after ourselves well before we can look after others. When my baby is sick, I can nurse her back to health. When I'm sick, the whole world seems to have collapsed especially the initial months. So it's good to stay healthy and strong
I think i will choose swim and pre natal massage instead
When I do the headstand, always fall and bang on the floor, quite clumsy.
I will opt for jamu massage too, lost quite abit of weight + bf.
I think with bf, will be quite hard to rest. Bb need to be latched and we need to pump frequently.
Hopefully with experience, this time will be be smoother than the previous one.
Piggling
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Yah lo, v hard not to be moody at times...
I seem to be able to swallow food better liao... I am surprised, like the after-taste seems to be much much better but some smells will still turn me off and vomiting still can happen. But at least can eat somethings.
Piggling
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heee looks scary....The one at orchard rd that I used, has these apparatus too. They are good support I reckon. It's nice to stretch the back and spine...goes a long way. You know how we thought it's normal to feel these aches and pains (will get more pronounced as our tummy gets bigger). Prenatal yoga will help to alleviate these and provide longer term benefits as a result.
But honestly I do feel a good jamu massage plus plenty of lying in bed during confinement is extremely important too. It's quite unbelievable how much strains our bodies get put through during this period. Hence a bit of pampering indeed isn't a luxury at all, if we look at the longer term health benefits that come outta it.
Healthy mummy = happier mummy = happy motherhood journey
1 thing I've learn is that, we need to look after ourselves well before we can look after others. When my baby is sick, I can nurse her back to health. When I'm sick, the whole world seems to have collapsed especially the initial months. So it's good to stay healthy and strong
The poses in sane's photo look quite tough to achieve but must be shiok to stretch the back, but I think I don't dare to do until so scary. lol.
So your think jamu massage is good? Any idea how many sessions we should sign up for? I see other threads, many recommendations, don't know which one to go to.
I absolutely agree with you that we really need to take care of ourselves first then can take care of others. If we are the mummies are weak then how to care for our babies in the long run when they need night feeds or fall sick.
Piggling
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Haiz.. Just want to rant...
Actually I lost weight, but I got tummy. So today a colleague (A) who knows about me being preggie, told me that another colleague (B) approached her and asked her about me because B feels that I put on weight liao (or maybe she use the word fat). I feel v upset leh, I know it is normal la, but I don't feel I put on that much weight (except tummy) then I just don't understand why some women can talk until so tactless. Maybe because this kaypoh colleague has never been pregnant before so just anyhow shoot off her mouth. I think maybe is my hormones, so I feel kind of sad.
Somemore is like have been battling with MS and have lost abit of weight so it was really a torture and struggle lately then hear people said like that, just feel very sensitive about it.
Actually I lost weight, but I got tummy. So today a colleague (A) who knows about me being preggie, told me that another colleague (B) approached her and asked her about me because B feels that I put on weight liao (or maybe she use the word fat). I feel v upset leh, I know it is normal la, but I don't feel I put on that much weight (except tummy) then I just don't understand why some women can talk until so tactless. Maybe because this kaypoh colleague has never been pregnant before so just anyhow shoot off her mouth. I think maybe is my hormones, so I feel kind of sad.
Somemore is like have been battling with MS and have lost abit of weight so it was really a torture and struggle lately then hear people said like that, just feel very sensitive about it.
fairytale1982
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Sometimes we feel we look the same..
But others may spot the difference in us..
Like my hubby can see the difference in my face.. He say my face like more chubby.. I look in the mirror & keep saying 'sure anot, where got???!!' ..
Then he say 'okok very slim not chubby' .. Haha..
Maybe she did not use the word 'fat' .. U think too much lah..
She pregnant or never pregnant before, she still will speculate one
But others may spot the difference in us..
Like my hubby can see the difference in my face.. He say my face like more chubby.. I look in the mirror & keep saying 'sure anot, where got???!!' ..
Then he say 'okok very slim not chubby' .. Haha..
Maybe she did not use the word 'fat' .. U think too much lah..
She pregnant or never pregnant before, she still will speculate one
Haiz.. Just want to rant...
Actually I lost weight, but I got tummy. So today a colleague (A) who knows about me being preggie, told me that another colleague (B) approached her and asked her about me because B feels that I put on weight liao (or maybe she use the word fat). I feel v upset leh, I know it is normal la, but I don't feel I put on that much weight (except tummy) then I just don't understand why some women can talk until so tactless. Maybe because this kaypoh colleague has never been pregnant before so just anyhow shoot off her mouth. I think maybe is my hormones, so I feel kind of sad.
Somemore is like have been battling with MS and have lost abit of weight so it was really a torture and struggle lately then hear people said like that, just feel very sensitive about it.
fairytale1982
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Tmr i gg for genetic scan by Dr Ananda..
My gynae clinic had faxed over my harmony test result to dr ananada.
Thou my harmony results is normal, i still feel cos i duno wat to expect from the detailed scan..
My gynae clinic had faxed over my harmony test result to dr ananada.
Thou my harmony results is normal, i still feel
cos i duno wat to expect from the detailed scan..
Piggling
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Even if can spot the difference, can be more tactful.
When my colleague conveyed the message, she used the word 'fat'. Just that I trying to think for her that maybe she did not really mean fat. But nvm.
Anyway, none of her business to speculate. Not as if she will contribute to my baby's living expense.
FeatherDuster
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Haiz.. Just want to rant...
Actually I lost weight, but I got tummy. So today a colleague (A) who knows about me being preggie, told me that another colleague (B) approached her and asked her about me because B feels that I put on weight liao (or maybe she use the word fat). I feel v upset leh, I know it is normal la, but I don't feel I put on that much weight (except tummy) then I just don't understand why some women can talk until so tactless. Maybe because this kaypoh colleague has never been pregnant before so just anyhow shoot off her mouth. I think maybe is my hormones, so I feel kind of sad.
Somemore is like have been battling with MS and have lost abit of weight so it was really a torture and struggle lately then hear people said like that, just feel very sensitive about it.
There are really such people - they somehow forget that the company is paying them to do a job instead of scrutinizing every one's body and pounce to gossip once they detect an additional inch somewhere.
there is a word for them - LOSERS.
just rem that you are gonna be a mummy soon and you will have the most precious gift in the world while that person, mother or not a mother, is still going to be a loser who obsess over others
!
Piggling
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There are really such people - they somehow forget that the company is paying them to do a job instead of scrutinizing every one's body and pounce to gossip once they detect an additional inch somewhere.
there is a word for them - LOSERS.
just rem that you are gonna be a mummy soon and you will have the most precious gift in the world while that person, mother or not a mother, is still going to be a loser who obsess over others
Yah, there are always people who will say, ahh you too fat, or ahh you too thin, must eat more. Really don't need that kind of scrutiny now.
Thanks for consoling me.
eileen1983
Member
Must have the result than can go the the scan? Are u doing the NT scan.. went to his site. Not sure wat is the difference between NT scan and genetic scan? Both to be done between 13 to 14 week?Tmr i gg for genetic scan by Dr Ananda..
My gynae clinic had faxed over my harmony test result to dr ananada.
Thou my harmony results is normal, i still feel
FeatherDuster
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Yah, there are always people who will say, ahh you too fat, or ahh you too thin, must eat more. Really don't need that kind of scrutiny now.
Thanks for consoling me.
exactly everything also can say.
in fact i was glad to have left my first company where i stayed for 5 years. I loved the ppl there, they were like family, but in a way TOO MUCH like a family. I got married towards the end and for the year leading after that, they were constantly on "baby watch" when I wasnt even ready to have kids.
So yea i put on a lil of weight, all the aunties and machiks start asking "baby? dont have?".. there are like >50 of them.
Not planning to concieve will also feel infertile lo wa piang
Tmr i gg for genetic scan by Dr Ananda..
My gynae clinic had faxed over my harmony test result to dr ananada.
Thou my harmony results is normal, i still feel
Is the genetic scan the same as oscars? Tot harmony test would be good enough? I was thinking if I need to do oscars too since my harmony test results is normal.
sane
Active Member
Haiz.. Just want to rant...
Actually I lost weight, but I got tummy. So today a colleague (A) who knows about me being preggie, told me that another colleague (B) approached her and asked her about me because B feels that I put on weight liao (or maybe she use the word fat). I feel v upset leh, I know it is normal la, but I don't feel I put on that much weight (except tummy) then I just don't understand why some women can talk until so tactless. Maybe because this kaypoh colleague has never been pregnant before so just anyhow shoot off her mouth. I think maybe is my hormones, so I feel kind of sad.
Somemore is like have been battling with MS and have lost abit of weight so it was really a torture and struggle lately then hear people said like that, just feel very sensitive about it.
Maybe u feel moody, tats y got annoyed when u hear all these. I can't get rid of the very sian feel. My frd has been asking me to go kopi now but I rather go my mum's house or home to play with my pets.
My friend also say I put on weight, butt sagged and I can feel I am expanding everywhere but never mind la ... bb comes first.
We can always lose weight after birth, I don't mind to put on weight now.
fairytale1982
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Harmony test result is 98% accurate compared to oscars results which is 90% ..
So mtb only do harmony test if oscars results is not favourable. Not the other way round.
I wanna do genentic scan cos cos dr ananada uses a more 'powerful' scan machine to see deep into bb organs like heart, limbs etc...
Harmony test does not tel u if bb missing a kidney or whatever..
So mtb only do harmony test if oscars results is not favourable. Not the other way round.
I wanna do genentic scan cos cos dr ananada uses a more 'powerful' scan machine to see deep into bb organs like heart, limbs etc...
Harmony test does not tel u if bb missing a kidney or whatever..
fairytale1982
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Nurse tel me if have harmony test result would be better.. So maybe dr ananda can refer lah..
She say no have also is okay, but she say since i alrdy done it, might as well just bring it along..
But my gynae appt is late feb, so tat means i have to make a trip to go down to take the report & then go dr ananada clinic, which i was abit 'lazy' ..
Luckily dr ananada's nurse say she can call my gynae & ask them fax over. I called today & ya, tey alrdy hv my report from my gynae..
She say no have also is okay, but she say since i alrdy done it, might as well just bring it along..
But my gynae appt is late feb, so tat means i have to make a trip to go down to take the report & then go dr ananada clinic, which i was abit 'lazy' ..
Luckily dr ananada's nurse say she can call my gynae & ask them fax over. I called today & ya, tey alrdy hv my report from my gynae..
FeatherDuster
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Me me! I'm staying in Bukit Batok.
yeah..! v hard to keep track maybe let me just track us "westies"
Featherduster - Bukit Panjang and Hillview
Fairytale1982 - Hill view
Serene_11 - Bukit Batok
fairytale1982
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I not sure if dr ananda would be doing the Nt scan on me or there will be other types of scan available.
I believe whatever scan he is doing, should be able to tel me more info about the bb organs.
I in my 14weeks alrdy, so i believe the scan can provide more info abt the bb..
Maybe tmr evening when i come back i will update è procedure
I believe whatever scan he is doing, should be able to tel me more info about the bb organs.
I in my 14weeks alrdy, so i believe the scan can provide more info abt the bb..
Maybe tmr evening when i come back i will update è procedure
eileen1983
Member
Ok.. Thanks to update.. so when do u call to make appointment? I heard he is quite fully booked..
wshes_come_true
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My hubby keep saying preg have valid reason to put on wt. u r preg, so normal for tummy to reveal. These ppl really got nothing to do... she should envy / jealous u tat u r preg. I also put on a lot of wt. Before ppl say i fat, i self admit. Haha! Fat fat lo.. my hubby still love me n i have a happy family.Haiz.. Just want to rant...
Actually I lost weight, but I got tummy. So today a colleague (A) who knows about me being preggie, told me that another colleague (B) approached her and asked her about me because B feels that I put on weight liao (or maybe she use the word fat). I feel v upset leh, I know it is normal la, but I don't feel I put on that much weight (except tummy) then I just don't understand why some women can talk until so tactless. Maybe because this kaypoh colleague has never been pregnant before so just anyhow shoot off her mouth. I think maybe is my hormones, so I feel kind of sad.
Somemore is like have been battling with MS and have lost abit of weight so it was really a torture and struggle lately then hear people said like that, just feel very sensitive about it.
Piggling
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Yah, though they may think that they mean well but saying is easy, receiving end tends to feel stressed. So many people asking, really can be v stressed. I experienced that when I first got married too.
Maybe u feel moody, tats y got annoyed when u hear all these. I can't get rid of the very sian feel. My frd has been asking me to go kopi now but I rather go my mum's house or home to play with my pets.
My friend also say I put on weight, butt sagged and I can feel I am expanding everywhere but never mind la ... bb comes first.
We can always lose weight after birth, I don't mind to put on weight now.
You are right! Baby is no.1! Maybe like too sudden to hear of this and v straightforward so like caught by shock.
You still feel v sian? Then just do whatever makes you feel better. If going to your mum's hse or play with pets let you relax better then go ahead.
Piggling
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Haha, good one! You are right! We cant help it if we put on weight, we are carrying a life afterall.
My husband said, just tell people i 发福。He said also is 福 mah! Lol!
Thanks ladies for all the consolation. Recollect my feelongs and feel better le.
fairytale1982
Active Member
I call last week maybe on wed or thursday..
1 week before lor..
Nurse will ask u when is your lmp so she will roughly know when to schedule u..
Cos too early organs not fully formed.
So keep a look out for my updates tmr
1 week before lor..
Nurse will ask u when is your lmp so she will roughly know when to schedule u..
Cos too early organs not fully formed.
So keep a look out for my updates tmr
wshes_come_true
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My hubby relative also said i fat. One auntie worse. Said even before i have my child i am already fat. How direct these aunties are... her 3 daughters all slim slim even after childbirth. But i can see they got tummy too.Haha, good one! You are right! We cant help it if we put on weight, we are carrying a life afterall.
My husband said, just tell people i 发福。He said also is 福 mah! Lol!
Thanks ladies for all the consolation. Recollect my feelongs and feel better le.
whatever... they wan to bad mouth ppl they will have karma... juz ignore them.
Piggling
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Wah lao! Why the auntie talk like that? My mil also tell me, it is normal to have tummy after giving birth. Some people slim down easily so go round saying people. No good. Yah, really will have karma 1.
I take it lightly if ppl want to say. After my first one my tummy very big when i went back to work. A few ask if i have second one haha. But i know they dun mean harm so i just take it lightly and laugh...
Interested but my foundation is not good. I will ask my gynae next week when i see him. But i can only do weekends...
Tmr i gg for genetic scan by Dr Ananda..
My gynae clinic had faxed over my harmony test result to dr ananada.
Thou my harmony results is normal, i still feel
All the best. You have been looking forward to this, I'm sure you'll ace it
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Haiz.. Just want to rant...
Actually I lost weight, but I got tummy. So today a colleague (A) who knows about me being preggie, told me that another colleague (B) approached her and asked her about me because B feels that I put on weight liao (or maybe she use the word fat). I feel v upset leh, I know it is normal la, but I don't feel I put on that much weight (except tummy) then I just don't understand why some women can talk until so tactless. Maybe because this kaypoh colleague has never been pregnant before so just anyhow shoot off her mouth. I think maybe is my hormones, so I feel kind of sad.
Somemore is like have been battling with MS and have lost abit of weight so it was really a torture and struggle lately then hear people said like that, just feel very sensitive about it.
Hugz... some people really 'shake head'
But I do agree that this preggy hormones doesn't help. When I watch sad scenes on tv, tears will roll down very easily, never been like this before my first preggy. I think I never really fully recover from this and now with preggy no.2, the tears are getting worse again lol...
listen to some nice music...watch a funny movie etc and try to ignore these comments
wshes_come_true
Active Member
Aunties mah. Like to kaypo n talk nonsense.
initially was mad at them. After tat i hack care. i think the tummy v difficult to go away.. maybe massage n wrap might help.
Kiddy_westside
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I'm staying in Clementi...
Next week going for Oscar test... Hope all will be well
Sigh some aunties are really just too damn bored and bitter. Must be insecure about something that they must try and make others feel bad in order for themselves to feel good. Pathetic. Yes just ignore their rude asses!
Weight gain is normal. We need to gain a healthy amount of weight to provide for our babies. Breastfeeding, good balanced diet and exercise helps with weight loss for sure but there will be changes in our body that will be there no matter what - stretch marks, scars, loose skin.. Those are our motherhood "badges" and "battlescars"! Each mark tells a story of the baby we carried. We should wear them proudly. Cheer up mommies!
Oh... It's actually a weekday class!
anyway, this is a new class in her schedule so she's she's able to do weekend, i'll definitely let you know.