i tried just having a maid and my parents. I fell sick 2 times that month. No rest at all during confinement coz the maid needed supervision and i couldn't trust her to handle the baby. On hindsight, a confinement nanny would have solved my problems instead of maid.
i'll share something my cousin taught me years ago:
give a present to the older child from the younger child. i bought a present that my girl wanted very much when i presented it to her at home, I told her that her baby brother got it for her. She was very happy.
my girl went shichida, my boy went LNT...haven't gone to try My Little Genius when it converted...but i heard from my friend its much better. Anyone been to their open house?