Recent content by Jay129

My parents know abt this and they have been pressurising me to take the kid and move back to their house. PIL also asking me to take the kid and stay with them... At least both side parents seem quite supportive of our welfare.

Thank u for clarifying further. My case is not considered abuse right? Thought that means someone gets hurt already. Anyway I swallowed my pride and said sorry to him for taking his beer. He said that he was not angry abt the beer (??) but more angry that I locked myself in w baby, saying that...

PIL cannot do much cos he doesn't talk to them (he bears grudge against them). None of his relatives or siblings can talk to him too cos he is even more hostile to them. Guess mb i have to ask a friend.

My hubby also same. Needs lots of me time and time with friends. When kid hospitalised he still go happy hour with friends the whole night. I have tolerated it, I guess u will get used to it after a while. It feels sucky but frankly men are just wired differently from women. The other option is...

True, sounds like gd advice. Mb i can ask a friend to speak to him.

Thank u for sharing. actually i have prepared emergency bag in case at any time when things are bad, I need to leave with baby. Do u think that is extreme? My PIL said I can go over to their house if I need to because they are also worried for the baby, and they themselves told me they know his...

Thank u so much. We have been married for 3 years. Before this, he did drink, but only socially. It is only the past yr he has been drinking alone. I could not drink with him as I was pregnant and now breastfeeding. I am trying my best to think what is the root of the problem that leads to...

Ok thanks I will try a social worker with the next outburst (which I hope doesn't happen). Will try to explain to him on my own first, and ask if he wants to change. Let him try awhile if he wants to change. If he doesn't want to change, do u think counseling will not be effective then?

Does it help? What happens later, u go back on ur own or hubby bring u back.

Thanks all for the reply. It is true his behaviour may not all stem from alcohol because today he got into one of his anger things again and threw away some of my stuff (including work documents which are irreplacable). I will just let him know when he is calmer what i feel is the problem. And...

Thank u. It is just I am not sure whether my Judgement of things is correct too.he tends to put blame on me for stuff. And when he throws tantrums he never says sorry for it.

I don't know if my hubby is considered alcoholic. He has been taking a bottle of beer every night. It was going on for almost a year, I just let it be because I think that it is normal for guys to relax with a beer. However he seemed to be having insomnia recently and I told him it could be due...