Recent content by insecure_me

Haven't login for a while. Thanks everyone for your inputs. Unfortunately things didn't work out for us then as expected. @evolutionmr I think you need to understand that there were things he did to make me feel insecure too. The emotions don't just come up from nowhere. But anyway will keep...

Thanks everyone for the sound advices. It's really heartwarming to see ppl offering help and a listening ear. From my failed marriage, I suffered depression and fear of abandonment. I have no one to turn to as I didn't tell my friends of this relationship as it's still at an early stage...

Everyone says the same thing. It's too short. But he said he connected with me really well and he knows for sure I won't wait for him for a year and he didn't want to miss. There is never a right timing to fall in love. He said he had moved on but of course there will be periods of waves of...

Wow very profound perspective. Actually, his devotion for his late wife was one of the reasons why I was drawn to him. But bear in mind that he can be a great guy but doesn't mean he loves me. He could just use me as a life bouy. Question now is how long can I take it? If I go thru thick and...

Thanks. I only haven't spoke to him for 2 days and I'm already going crazy. I know it's good to take a step back and think things thru. But from his last msg to me, it does seem like he has already given up. I didn't respond and not sure how soon I should to get a closure.

I have already let go. He hasn't. That's why he thinks I should always be the one supporting him. Even when he emo, I cannot emo. I'm taking a step back now and see where things go. But right now, we're giving each other the cold shoulder and it's not feeling great.

Whenever I try to broach this, he will shut me down and say that I overreact. It's like I'm not the understanding one when he is trying so hard to be a happy person for me. I'm confused now cause shouldn't he be happy just being with me and seeing me happy? Also, everytime I want to share my...

Hi Drain, Thanks for responding. I understand perfectly that he still loves his wife and it will carry on till he die. But if you want to move onto a new relationship, I think it's important to not constantly display dispondency and moodiness. You make your partner feel like being with her...

Hi everyone. After divorced for more than a year, I thought I finally found someone I can spend my life with. At first I thought it was great to date a widower as he loves her. There will be moments when he will feel down and I told myself to always be understanding even though it affects the...

Hi All, I need advise. My hub has issued a summon to me for sole care & control for my 2 children. As both of them have been under the care of my MIL most of the time after childcare, is it really possible that he can get care & control just because of that? My kids are 9 and 11 now.

Hihi, Can I ask why did your hub eventually give up on the care and control? Did he issue a summon to you?

Hi janey09, I have same issue. I caught him and his colleague. I thought he will agree to most of my terms but yet he went to change to a better lawyer and want to counter-claim on my divorce! And the terms became even less favourable than before! I'm thinking why is he not scared that I will...

Hi, thanks for responding. In this case, I’m very reasonable already. He is asking for more access only more to please his mom. His kids are in upper primary and I told him it’s very disruptive as no one is there to coach them studies during weekdays but he insist he has the rights. This only...

Hi, I’m currently facing similar issues. I have filed for divorce basis adultery but now my hub is threatening to contest because I refused to give him reasonable access to the kids. Actually I already allowed two times a week but he wants more. I read that adultery doesn’t necessary let us...

Hi lacylace I have all the woman’s information but he doesn’t seem to be scared of it at all. Some advised me now to tell the woman’s husband as he is innocent. Which I find is true. But the shameless woman is not keeping a distance even now that me and my hub are in the midst of divorce. I...