hi, please calm down. you could be right that perhaps the child should be taken care of by the father in exceptional circumstances. however, i think we cannot deny that the child has a very close bond with the mother at a very young age. this is not about rules or tradition, but just a very natural instinct - look around at young kids, they cling onto their mothers, not their fathers. it is not that the court is blindly clinging onto to old traditions, in fact, there are medical and scientific proof of the mother-child bond! especially if the father is not going to be around most of the time (i.e flying around) then, it will make sense for the care and control to go to the mother.
i think it is not fair to say that the law is blindly protecting women. contrary, if the father committed adultery and the kids are actually old enough, and the court thinks it would be better for the kids' care and control to be with the father, then the court will award that. again, the court is not interested in finding out whose fault it is that that the marriage broke down, the interest of the child comes first. the fact that who commits adultery first is just irrelevant.
there is a section in the penal code that actually (not sure if it is still htere) that states that seducing another man's wife is a crime, but seriously, everyone here knows that matters of the heart is too hard to legislate. if you want the courts to step in when people have an affair, it would take years and no one can still say who is right or wrong - people have affair when they feel lonely, whose fault? let's not be a judge when it comes to these things. there are still countries that legislate this - think arabic countries.
sure, you are angry, but being illogical is not going to win you any points with the judge. presenting yourself as a logical, practical, forgiving person who is interested in giving the best for your child will. Trying to find fault and paint your ex-wife in such a negative light would not paint you as the best father.
i don't mean to be offensive, i just hope that you understand that the interest of the child comes first, and if you are really keen on having more time to spend with your kid, then you should show the world how good a father you are, and can be. and not how bad your wife is. that way, you have more chance of winning a law suit. instead, you should do more for your kid, and spend more time with your kid and be the best role model and father for your kid. in a few years time, if your ex wife remarries, you can probably go back to court, and show them proof that you are now really the best caregiver for your child. that, to me, is the best foot forward
