Annedrew, I'm actually in same situation as you now.. hubby has quit his job since last year and is working freelance, ie. no fixed income, and always claims he has no $$.
so now, the situation is..
Car - He borrowed $ from his parents to pay the full amount to the car dealer, but I am not sure the rate of repayment he gives his parents, I also dun dare to ask them..
House - We stay with my in-laws, so no issue.
Money for in-laws - Because we stay with them, every month I give him $700 to give his parents. My mum-in-law also helps to look after my gal. I am also not sure how much of this amount he passes on to his parents.. also dun dare ask them.
Joint account - I asked him to contribute 10% of whatever income he gets from his freelance jobs to the joint account, but he always "forgets" to do so and will yell at me when I ask repeatedly. So basically joint account is all my $$, about 20% of my current salary goes there. Funnily enough he seems to think joint account is a bottomless pit and always says to take $ from there to pay for stuff like gynae visits, hospital bill for delivery. So basically all these are paid by me.
Baby items - Necessities (milk powder, diapers, wipes), depends on who goes to supermarket. Who goes, will pay. But its usually me who goes anyway, about 70% of the time. If we go together, he pays. For things like clothes and toys, always I pay - because its always me who cannot resist buying her new things haha.
Allowance - Nope, no allowance or angpow ever since marriage. If I want to buy anything, I pay for it myself.. even my birthday present or Christmas present - he will always tell me to pay first and he'll pay me back, but as above will always "forget" to do so, and again yell if I remind him for the $ too many times. To be fair he also pays for anything that he himself wants to buy and won't ask $ from me.
Outings - He pays. Nowadays outings very rare, less than once a month? Hard to find time to go out since #1 is born, and since he always complain no $$ we will end up eating pretty inexpensive food anyway. There's hardly anything we do on outings except go for meals.. he rejects whenever I suggest bringing #1 out for things like parks, zoo, shows etc saying its a waste of money n she is too young to go for such things.
Maid levy - I pay, since maid is employed in my name.. Need to have maid as my #2 is on the way already.
Since I am also the cannot-stand-unpaid-bills kind, I figure most of the stuff is paid by me. I've no supp cards to him (phew) and he has no supp cards to me either.