Hi ladies, I hope all do not mind me sharing my experiences. I was controlling my worries and kept babies
+mine safe in my prayers. Every mom here may have experienced it differently or are currently experiencing the same. It may happen now, later or never. This forum is to give support, offer mothers information so they can make informed decisions surrounding the birth of her baby, to strengthen and build mothers' confidence in their choices and in their ability to birth their children gently. Hopefully we benefit from each other.
10 weeks - On my first visit in KKH, I opted out the
DS scan during the counselling session. Reason being, I find that it was unnecessary to spend too much $$. I am that kind of person who followed the old days where there are no such procedures. After doing some medical reading and listening from moms who had experienced it, this method was not 100% accurate. There are cases where everything was negative of DS but babies born with DS. Likewise some who had positive DS results, babies was born normal - Miracle of God. Finally, hubby and I leave it in God's hands instead of depending on the results because either negative or positive of DS won't lessen my worries.
12 weeks - Surprise, they marked me as absent on my 10 weeks visit and reports went missing. So from now on, I have decided to ask for a copied of my reports during each visit. It was a painful scanning and I could not received any answers from the female sonographer. Only to refer to the doctor as per her. My babies were seen with only
1 placenta and they are in 2 separated sacs. Everything went well with my babies - growth equally, hearts beats well. Hubby and I took blood test to see if there is any positive of diabetes and etc.
20 weeks - Our
detailed scanning day! (Super excited to know babies genders) I told hubby to record during scanning - by right hospital in Singapore does not allow any recording but we managed to, hehe. Overall, 2 female sonographers and 1 male doctor attended to me (I am a subsidies patient so I am aware that the medical officers will change during each visit)
This is where it all began -
First sonographer was accompanied by a senior or trainee. During the scanning, they confirmed
2 placentas and 2 sacs - Fraternal Twins. Both commented that they are all well included precious hearts beats are well, organs are developing well and "
so far so good". Just that, babies are very active and not staying still to measure their nose nasal bone. She advised me to have a walk and will be expecting another sonographer to scan again. Otherwise, they have to schedule me another day if it is still unsuccessful. I was so happy on how well babies have grown till I met this really unfriendly grumpy Aunty (
second sonographer). She told me that babies are still not in the right position. Twin B was moving actively - always looking away. Suddenly a male
Doctor came in from nowhere and wrote that babies heart beats was not seen clearly. In closed doors, Doctor said that there are high chances of down syndrome because of
absent nose nasal for Twin A. In fact the sonographers told me that they could NOT get a good view because they are not in the right position. We had nearly 3 hours of ultrasound and I am sure my precious incl. me are too tired having to lie on my back + all those pressure on my tummy. That Doctor was not being tactful; instead he was like selling/promoting the
Amnio test. I firmly said "
no" to Amnio test and he kept "
promoting" till I told him to stop explaining since I have heard it from another doctor during my 1st visit. He has the guts to ask me this, "
Do you know how Down syndrome babies look like?” I answered, "
Yes very much". He suggested me to terminate my precious if DS is positive and repeatedly tell me about miscarriage cases if I do not go for the test (He thinks he can cheat my feelings when the fact I know that those test could even cause miscarriage too). I cut him off by asking him for my blood test result and why was I told that babies were well during my 12 weeks scan if they have DS. His answer was my blood test are all well and told me that during 12 weeks, doctor are not able to see any DS during scan till baby are grown bigger. I still firmly said "
no" to those procedures because what had happened on that day was not logic enough. I felt something fishy - sonographers said babies is not in the right position and doctor was not even in the room during my scanning. He can raise his voice at me as much as he wants but I still keep my smile on. Even hubby heard that this grumpy Aunty said my
baby is weird.
She was weird to me!
So this is what I did when I reached home, I Google on image of DS baby's scanning and YouTube on how I can identify nose nasal bone during scanning. I felt relieved that hubby video of our precious and I was so glad that their nose nasal bone can be seen. I wasn't so worried about my babies after educating myself. I was more worried of the care provider that I am with. With the advise of Nurse Manager, Doula and Friends, I have finally decided to seek 2nd opinion in NUH.
25 weeks – My first visit in NUH, gave my hard copies of medical reports to NUH excluding the last visit report from KKH. This time round, I prepared a
birth plan for natural and cesarean birth and stated all sort of unnecessary procedures that could be avoided during labor. This able me to find a
pro natural doctor in NUH. Met with Dr. Clara who gave me specified details on what to expect during my pregnancy. Even accommodate to my needs on finding the right doctor for my natural birth plan. Finally she was the first doctor who told me that I can still go
natural as long as first baby is head down and second baby is still fine in any position. She had arranged my next visit to see a doctor who handles most of the twins’ pregnancy and if I am still not comfortable with her, she will arrange my future visit with a different doctor that I have listed - was recommended by Friends and Doula. All of them are under subsidy. That financially helped me a lot.
During my detailed scanning with NUH, Dr. Dawn was super detailed. She even explained to me and hubby of the colour that indicate on the screen. We had good laugh in the room and advise me to talk to babies instead of walking so that we can end the scanning soonest. Babies were still so active but with all the babies talking, babies behave and stay still. Dr. Dawn will say "
good babies" and will tell me what's next that she needs for my report.
All parameters are within range for dates. No obvious structural abnormalities seen. She was being honest on how difficult twins pregnancy during scanning can be since babies are all cramp up in 1 mother’s tummy. She then had shown us how true it was with the hands and legs here and there, Hehe. I was so thankful when she explained about the limitations of Ultrasound scanning.
Even in the best of hands, a small % of fetal anomalies, in particular certain heart defects, can remain undetectable. For all the knowledge reading that I filled in during my pregnancy was finally heard by an experience doctor. Detailed scanning went well and no signs of DS.
I be at my utmost positive for now onwards. Tell myself that it is better to know what to expect during pregnancy and labor before having my happiness taken away. Gaining this experience makes me fearless and push me more to good reading. Always keep my precious and myself in my prayers.