Wander how many ppl quietly resort to other solution when their spouse refuse intimacy. I am on the verge of depression. 19 years in a marriage and my wife only consummate with me twice resulting in 2 daughters. For past 18 years we have been sleeping in separate rooms. I am seriously considering to leave her when my youngest daughter is old enough to take the impact. Currently they are 18 and 15 years old.
possible cause,
1) she only make use of me to give her a comfortable life but will never give anything in return, she has never fulfill her duty to do housework or duty to the children. I have her a maid for 14 years and when I stop 5 years ago, she never help to do any housework, she has never love me since day 1
2) she has lesbian tendency, when she talk to other ladies, her body language give all the signs
I get so lonely sometime that I begin to make platonic lady friend but she exaggerate the situation by telling the children I have affairs.
Now she, me and my 2 daughter lived in a very toxic setting, where we treat each other's as flatmate with no emotion. I told my children to move out when they are ready since her mother is not a good person. I am prepared to leave her for destroying my relationship with my children.
possible cause,
1) she only make use of me to give her a comfortable life but will never give anything in return, she has never fulfill her duty to do housework or duty to the children. I have her a maid for 14 years and when I stop 5 years ago, she never help to do any housework, she has never love me since day 1
2) she has lesbian tendency, when she talk to other ladies, her body language give all the signs
I get so lonely sometime that I begin to make platonic lady friend but she exaggerate the situation by telling the children I have affairs.
Now she, me and my 2 daughter lived in a very toxic setting, where we treat each other's as flatmate with no emotion. I told my children to move out when they are ready since her mother is not a good person. I am prepared to leave her for destroying my relationship with my children.
have you talked to your wife ? or visit a counsellor? twice in 19 years is really shocking to me. But then again if its been 19 years then i'm pretty sure you know what the underlying problem is...
"old enough to take the impact".. i get what you mean but even in their 20s, children can be affected by divorce. i hope you can get through this
Have tried various way to create the mood including singing, candle light dinner, buying gift, but it's always at the critical moment she will bring out her complains about me then using that as an excuse to blow off all the effort. I think my sacrifice has reach the tipping point threshold where I am totally numb to all emotional needs. There was a period of time 4 years ago where I find myself crying for 6 months when I'm alone driving or in the bath. I have reach the point where I feel my wife betray our marriage vow, poison my children mind to hate me and make me their perpetual in-house maid. I warn my children that once they clear 18 years old, I will initiate separation because I do not want to affect their studies, I am not sure if Singapore law provide protection for ppl like me. Will the judge believe my story ? When my kids still respect me I can endure any hardship but now they start to side their mom and abuse me. Accusing me of adultery with no real evidence. That really is a wake up call for me that I cannot trust anyone not even my own kids. I may just pack my bags and ride into the sunset in another country. Now I warn my children don't marry unless you know how to love a person.
Pls always consider yr kids. Try 2 understd wat she wan. Put yrself in her position, tink mre ask yr frens 4 advice. As always remember, you bth come 2gether 4 a reason. Y u bth decided 2 b 2gether is oso a reason. Den y tinkin of divorce nw?
my husband is a conservative guy no sex before marriage, after marriage he don't enjoy sex as he experience pain when his foreskin being retracted.
My husband says he's too tired/stress from work. Sex for us has been going downhill since we decided to go for ivf treatment about 3 years back. It did result in a baby boy for us, but ever since then, 0 sex. I just went for my 2nd ivf since I still have some frozen embryos left and didn't want to waste them. However, I can't help feeling that this whole process seems like shopping for a baby as we didn't even actively try for one. I can't help feeling sad and frustrated as it seems that my husband is no longer interested in me except for the occasional touch and hug.
It's mostly caused by unreasonable bosses who give unreasonable deadlines, and my husband is a perfectionist, who also has too much pride. He's thinking of leaving but have to wait since he's still bonded.Try understd wat happened in his work. Try understd his workin patterns & flow.
I'm shocked......I can't imaging a marriage without sex! Of course our desires of making love will decrease over a long period of time getting together. My hubby loves sex....so even he's tired and busy, he still find time to have sex with me....Anyone experience the same, I have been married for 10yrs and sex was less than 10.
Anyone experience the same, I have been married for 10yrs and sex was less than 10.
Anyone experience the same, I have been married for 10yrs and sex was less than 10.
Me & hub hardly too and surprise hardly do also kenna 2 kids...By the way I try to keep myself Super slim even after pregnancy, I'm still s size. And my boobs doubled. Haha make sure I'm as attractive as all the other girls out there so he will use his sperms only on me
Me & hub hardly too and surprise hardly do also kenna 2 kids...
I just realise after the birth of 2nd child totally no until 1time during cny but he didnt cum.
I dont find a problem thinking dont want a 3rd child.
I realise we already drift apart & recently big quarrel
I do initiate & tried abt few days do 1 for few weeks but he hasnt cum! I dont know if this is ok but i start to worry now if this healthy to our r.s
He dont like me touch his ....i wore sexy lingerie last sat too...same we hv sex but he unable to cum after a while then he claim he is tired.Guys work and need sex, it's their bio makeup leh. I think we have to try our best to fulfil our Husband needs, or later he find another woman outside, it's abit too late.
Can help him by usin hand also. I try to invest in sexy lingerie too haha to surprise him haha
He dont like me touch his ....i wore sexy lingerie last sat too...same we hv sex but he unable to cum after a while then he claim he is tired.
He claim could be old & we try every few days for few weeks.
I admit we hv not hv sex for 1.5yr during my pregnancy & after birth only 1 time cny then after that no more until end may.
I m the only 1 intiate so far
I start feeling the crisis he may feel maybe other woman can give him the feel or he already got some1 that why he can hv sex but unable to cum